am i considered a teen mom

Ashley - posted on 09/10/2011

To be honest it shouldn't even matter. I was married at 18 had my son a month after I turned 19. I pretty much got married then two-three months later was pregnant. It shouldn't really matter if you are a teen mom or not. Only thing that matters is that you are a great mom. My son started pre-k (he's 3) and I always get these looks from the teacher even from doctors because I am 22. I just don't let it bother me. Having a child is precious and you should look at them and say "so what if I am 19 and pregnant! I am proud to be a mother to this child and I love this child. Shouldn't matter how old I am and it shouldn't be any of your concern". Now I don't condone women to get pregnant at 16 (i don't want people to get the wrong impression) Let me tell you this age shouldn't matter at all. If you can support your child and raise it in a loving home it shouldn't matter if you are 19-20. They say age does matter but I have seen time and time again age doesn't make the parent its the person. I have seen 35 year old brand new parents that where selfish and abusive. Then 25 year old parents the same way. It all depends on maturity and how you raise this family of yours. But that is me :) I get looked down on for having my boys but I love them with everything that is in me and I wouldn't trade them for the world. My husband and I are having our 4th anniversary and been together a total of 6 years. No one knows you personally when they say this so just shake it off.

Jenni - posted on 09/09/2011

You're right at the cut off, huh?
I personally, wouldn't consider you a teen mom. I guess my definition of being a mom is once you give birth you become a mom. That's when all the parenting begins. So i'd probably consider you to be a young mom. Not that labels are important. ;)

Firebird - posted on 09/09/2011

I turned 20 just 3 months after my daughter was born, and I moved out of my parent's house 3 years prior, so I never really considered myself a "teen mom"

Amanda - posted on 09/08/2011

Id say no, consider teen moms those who are 16, 17...still in highschool

Carmina - posted on 09/08/2011

i dont think teen mum, because like eboni said u will be 20 when your babys here, but because your pregnant at 19 people still talk crap, i had my son at 19 so i know what you mean! im now having a daughter in 8 weeks and i will be 21 four weeks after her due date :) good luck to you! forgot to mention i call ourselves Young Mums :)

Eboni - posted on 09/08/2011

Well... in my opinion no you're not a teen mom, you got pregnant when you were a teen, but had in at 20. If you had him at 19 then you would be considered a teen. Sooo to answer your question... No

Kholie - posted on 09/08/2011

awes ty! and wait! YOUR grandmother! awes! LOL.

Rachael - posted on 09/08/2011

if you had the baby at 19 technically you would be a teen mom, and I guess in the same sense this is a teen pregnancy, BUT you shouldn't let that bother you. YOu are FAR from a statistic if this baby is not only wanted but was planned and is able to be cared for and supported by you and your boyfriend. I am older than I look and have a 2 year old and often get dirty looks because people think I was a teen mom. I am in nursing school with 2 girls who had their babies while they were in HS and have CONTINUED to be amazing people. teen, young, average or old isn't the important thing is that you are a MOM no matter what age =)

Kholie - posted on 09/08/2011

ty to all! and i feel that 19 is a good age to start a family! and im not the type of person that would care what others say! but im pregnant and VERY hormonal! as my boyfriend says people need to watch what they say lol

Donna - posted on 09/08/2011

i think they r just trying to make u feel bad lol. i had my twins at 20 but it was 3 months before i turned 21.

Patricia - posted on 09/08/2011

While I don't agree that you are a teen mom because your over 16. I do however agree that your a young mom which is never a bad thing. You said that the father is supportive and will and is taking care of you and the baby. Then it shouldn't matte what any one but you think. I know what its like to not have any family, I am taking care of 2 kids, and I also have a wonderful husband who allows me to stay home with our babies.. So what I"m really trying to say is don't listen to what other people tell you the only thing that matters is you and your family!!

September - posted on 09/08/2011

I would consider you a young Mom.

Kholie - posted on 09/08/2011

LOL! i been on my own, and paying bills since i was 17! my parents disowned me :( but people are WAY to nosey!

Ashley - posted on 09/08/2011

Just remember, youre never really grown until you are on your own. Then no one can say a THING about you and YOUR family. So no, it really isnt any of their business.

Kholie - posted on 09/08/2011

thanks! and thats what i said! i told her "well its none of your business, but this bby is coming into the world with 2 loving parents and a dad who has a GREAT job to support jeremiah and i!" and it was just funny to look on her face and see the expression1

Ashley - posted on 09/08/2011

I had my little girl when I was 19. I really dont think it matters whether you are considered a teen mom or not. You are over 18, so you are an adult. If you are able to provide for your little ones and care for them like a mother should it shouldnt matter how old you are as long as you are a legal adult.