Am i doing the right thing at bedtime

Danielle - posted on 10/07/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is nearly 14 months and he still dont settle on his own in his cot, he cries so much and gets himself in a right state and all hot and sweaty. my routine with him is bath at 7pm then at 7:30-8pm he will have 8oz bottle. he has a rocking chair which is the only thing that he will stay still in. he will lay in that until he falls asleep about 8:30-9pm.i then transfer him into his cot.if for any reason he wakes up when i put him down in his cot i do leave him to go to sleep on his own but he hates it, he has a musical toy in his cot that does help but not all the time. i hate leaving him in there screaming but once i start i do carry it out until he gives up which is about 40min-1hour later. it would be nice just to put him in his cot and for him to go to sleep all on his own but i have no luck. the way he falls asleep at mo isnt a big deal just wondering if im doing wrong though. when he has naps during the day if i sit right next to him he will be asleep within 15 minutes if im busy doing jobs then it might take him an hour because im not next to him. any ideas what i should do or just stick to what ive been doing

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Ashley - posted on 10/07/2010




im sorry to say this but there are a few changes you could try to see if it will work but it will get worse before it gets better first i think you could put him down earlier he may be acting up because he is over tierd try to do bath at 7 and in bed by 7 30 also he needs to put him self to sleep i learned this the hard way they only get worse if they dont learn this so put him in his bed awake even if he dosent look tired and leave the room he is going to cry but as long as he has had all his needs met he will be ok and keep the exact same ruteen dont give in or you will have to start all over again. i did this with my son and he now sleeps awsome couldent ask for a better sleeper used to be that he would only sleep on me and would cry if i even tryed to put him down it was horrible i finally relized i was not doing him any favers by letting him do this as he or i was not sleeping we were both cranky anyways good luck

Sarah - posted on 10/07/2010




I'm in the same boat at this very moment. my son is even the same age. i can't stand to let him cry like that though and often he ends up giving himself a bloody nose or a black eye on the edge of his crib. so within the last two days i tried something new. i would lay with him in my bed until he was almost asleep, can't keep his eyes open anymore but not quite out yet. then i move him to his bed and pat his back for a minute or two. it is working so far. he is even sleeping in longer intervals, though he still wakes up at least twice through out the night.
every baby is different but my son was so used to sleeping in my bed with me (single parent) that he had no idea what to do or how to go to sleep on his own. so keeping him as close to what he was used to helps and i plan on gradually lessening the time spent in my bed before the switch. eventually i'm sure he will just plop down in his bed on his own and go right to sleep. my hopes anyway.
i hope this helps. sorry about the length

Melissa - posted on 10/07/2010




I would do the same thing. He's old enough to go to sleep on his own now, I know it's not good to leave a little baby screaming for a long time but i don't think it will hurt your son. He will learn sooner or later. Keep up the good work :) We need a break too sometimes

Curi - posted on 10/07/2010




we found that the longer we are in nat's bedroom screwing around with her the longer it takes her to go to bed. We started just putting her to bed kisses and LEAVE. We were in there playing with her etc. and she would be upset when we left. It used to take us hours and hours to get her to sleep. We would be in her room time after time agian to calm her down. We also noticed the more we go in there to calm her down the longer it takes to get her to sleep. Every once in a while all she wants is a little rocking but for the most part the get in and get out helps us get her to sleep a lot faster. Unless he is really really tired then he is always going to wake up when you put him in a different position somewhere else. We would go in and rock her when she had crying fits and she would calm down and as soon as we would put her in her crib she would start screaming. so we tried the ok it is bedtime thats IT thing and its worked since then. i think she was about your sons age when we started it?? maybe little younger?

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