AM I Kidding Myself

Marissa - posted on 12/30/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

2 yrs ago my daughter was in PreK. She had a best friend she always talked about and she happened to live down the road so they sat together on the bus. One day my daughter came home with a bloody nose and a torn shirt and told my husband that two boys on the bus were picking on her. I got the appropriate people involved bus driver principal etc and was told it wouldnt happen again. Well it did and i took matters into my own hands. Come to find out one of the boys picking on her was her little friends brother. I had a discussion with his mother and she assured me he did not do it that he pointed all fingers at the other boy :( Well i didnt push the issue just told her it better not happen again this boy is 4 yrs older then my daughter. This woman and I just happened to become friends and our children became very close as we did things together often. Recently she became upset with me and (our daughters I feel because of the tention between us have started picking on eachother). Well she texted me and told me my daughter hit her daughter on the bus one day and i was furious. I grounded my daughter took tv away for a week and made her write an apology letter. I recvd a message from this woman on christmas telling me the BULLYING as she calls it has not stopped and she was calling my daughter inappropriate names which i will not list here. I told her I do not tolerate bullying but i feel that they are being kids my daughter said the other little girl stares at her and sticks her tongue out at her which again i feel is a kid being a kid sometimes you have to pick your battles BUT on the day my daughter hit this girl they were playing around on the bus and she says she got hit too and that neither of them did it on purpose. I reminded this woman that we actually met when i had to address her when her OWN child was really actually bullying my daughter 4 yrs younger and physically hurt her on purpose we even took her to the dr cause we thought her nose was broken, where the boys ripped her shirt she had scratches and her hair was even ripped out, I told her i didnt blow that out of control. This woman would not even allow my daughter to wish her friend a merry christmas she was picking up the phone then hanging up. I understand her being upset but her daughter is doing the same thing and she is out of control calling my 6 yr old names. I told this woman i would make sure of it that my daughter was seated at the front of the bus to assure her there would be no more problems she told me she already addressed it with the bus driver and her daughter sits up front so her story of the continuing bullying is contraditory if they are being seperated how is my daughter still bothering hers? i am in a sense punishing my daughter for something i do not know for sure even happened. I feel i addressed the problem with my daughter and i have not been contacted by the bus driver stating there is any issues so i dont know how much this is just her being mad at me and literally taking it out on the kids. I feel bad at the thought that my own child may be bullying someone but this is her best friend she thinks the world of her I couldnt imagine her hurting her. Am i kidding myself????