am i stupid i hate my body i use to be tiny now i think im a whale =/

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Brittany - posted on 07/07/2010

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Real moms have these problems! We aren't hollywood, we can't pay thousands of dollars to have our bodies look perfect just weeks after having a child. I lost my baby weight after all three of my kids, but I'm still not the size I should be or was before. I have finally stopped with my negative thoughts and come to realize I do have three children and no I may not be able to be the perfect size anymore, I'm still sexy!!!! And so are YOU!!!!

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Laura - posted on 07/08/2010

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I can relate too. Before i had my first son i wasnt skinny but i was healthy with the right amount of curves... Then i gained 55lbs while i was prego with him and could not lose the weight after.... around a 1yr later i FINALLY started to lose some of the wieght. Then I found out i was prego again :( I did not understand why i wasnt gaining a while ton of weight back but i looked huge!! Then i found out, on april foold day, that i was having twins.... after i found out the weight really started to come back but i wasnt eating.... i ended up having a C-section with them... It is a year later and i have only lost 10lbs. I work out and eat healthier than i ever have but i look like i have a kangroo pouch. I really hate looking this way but i know i will eventually loose the weight and be my curvey self again.... I bought a workout system called Zumba and it is starting to really work. Best of luck!

Shaneatra - posted on 07/08/2010

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Being a mother is an amazing gift and our body changes as well,you gotta luv urself for you.

Stevie - posted on 07/08/2010

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UH YEAH!!!! lol i have never been all that skinny until i was 16 i started to get skinny and when i finally got down to the perfect weight and size i LOVED i got pregnant and then i got pregnant again and now im pregnant again now between my first two i have 5-6 months and between this one well really i got pregnant when my youngest was like 11 months but i lost it and then got pregnant again shortly after his birthday he was like 14 months old then but yeah i totally know how you feel

Renae - posted on 07/08/2010

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You are not stupid... it's totally normal to feel this way after having a baby. I too Hate the way my body looks right now. While I was pregnant I told myself, my boyfriend, and my mom that I would embrace my body after the baby was born... well I haven't lived up to that promise. I think about it everyday, and even though my son is only 5 weeks I want the weight be just shed as fast as it came on. Be patient, it will come off. I find walking with the baby and making good food choices to be helpful. Please don't think your stupid. Good Luck and Take Care.

Crystal - posted on 07/08/2010

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not stupid and you are beautiful.dont be discouraged by "the idea" weight everyone projects. All we women are beautiful no matter what. But i tell u what im 20lbs larger than i used to be and im ok with it but working on getting to where i wana be slowls because in the end the most important fact is how you care for your lil angel. My advice walk everyday and that will get u in the direction u need to be mentally and physically. Keep up the good work!

Penny - posted on 07/08/2010

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grly i hear ya, during my pregnancy of my first i was 150, and i was happy withthe way i look, the curves and all, with my first though i had gain like75 lbs, i was like are you kidding me! after i had him, david, i went for walks, didnt eat the foods i wanted but it didnt seem to work and then less then 18 months i found out i was pregnant again...during the second pregnancy i only gain twenty pounds putting me at 240....my kids are 5 and 6 now and still have a hard time trying to lose the weight...but this summer i am on a mission! Today is week 2 and day 3 on my new diet and exercise plan. my boyfriend said he can see the difference but i can't but i am waiting to weigh myself til the end of the one month diet then i will extend it for another month and then extend it again...i already feel more hook on it!

Good luck at your goal i really do hope you can accomplish it! i will be praying for you and me!

Katie - posted on 07/08/2010

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I'm right there with you. I hate to admit it but I gained 80 lbs when I was pregnant. I'm one of those people that gain if they even look at food and being in bed for so long (I was really really sick a big part of my pregnancy) was not kind to me at all. My son is 7 1/2 months and I'm still 60 lbs above where I want to be. My scale isn't moving either. I do yoga and strength training almost every day and eat right but it's just not coming off. Hopefully it will start coming off soon. I'd love to be comfortable in my own skin next summer! Good luck!

Natalie - posted on 07/08/2010

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Yep! I was tiny before I had kids. After my first I gained 60 pounds. It came off after my second. Then I had my daughter who is now 4 and I finally am getting comfortable with my weight. It is slowly coming off. Although I have went back and forth with my weight when I was having relationship issues. It will come off just work at it.

Jackie - posted on 07/08/2010

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I know exactly what you mean... I was 105 lbs before I had my son... now I am 160!! I'm only 5'1 so I look like a WHALE. I had my son 3 years ago and I have gained 40 pounds just in the last year!!! I've tried changing my diet to eat more healthy, and I started excercising and I just can't lose the weight! One of my doctors suggested getting my thyroid to look at because it can cause weight problems, but idk, for the time being I just feel so fat! I even spent most of my tax money this year on new clothes and I gained another 15 pounds and can't wear the clothes anymore :( I'm right there with ya girls!

Carrie - posted on 07/08/2010

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Girls I know the feeling all to well my daughter is turning 9 next week so I'm really feeling the pressure of i never lost my baby weight. Pre-pregnancy i weighed in a 102 lbs. I am now 140, (which is better than the 205 a couple of years ago but still) Its a long hard road sometimes to lose it. But in all honesty, I picked up my husband at that weight so its not all bad..

Eva - posted on 07/08/2010

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i can. 118 at 5'7", and now i cant see to lose the wreight. i'm 125 now and look huge! i work out but it just doesnt get rid of that roll i developed. no matter how much my boyfriend tells me i am beautiful it doesnt matter becuase in my head he doesnt want me anymore.

Veronique - posted on 07/08/2010

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Yeah i can relate! I was 105lbs when i got pregnant with my first. When i gave birth i was 130lbs so i knew i had to lose the extra lbs so i started to exercise every day......But oups i found out i was preggo with my second and i had only went down to 125lbs so now i`ve had my 2 kids and i'm 140lbs.........But i,m back on a diet and exercise plan so i hope i lose it before i get preggo again!

Casey - posted on 07/08/2010

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we all gained weight t o bring our kids into this world.that is what matters most .If we did't do that he or she would not be here .that matters more to me then weight gain.i gained 52 pounds and it went away and came back with out having another child and that is life it is ok .your body changer for the better or worse but it is ok.

Emily - posted on 07/08/2010

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I know the feeling, I hate the way I feel since being pregnant/giving birth. I used to be so fit and now well I definitely look different than before. My hubby tells me I look good, but I don't feel like it. I look at myself and it makes me sick :(

Carrie - posted on 07/08/2010

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I know exactly what you mean! When I got prego with my first I was underweight and gained 80 lbs through the pregnancy! It took me 2 years to lose it all but I did make it back down to a size 5 and then I got prego again! With my 2nd child I lost it fast (I was all baby with him). Then just when I thought I was done having kids I got pregnant again 4 years after my 2nd child! Things were stressfull during this prenancy and I put on a lot of weight! My husband deployed when our daughter was 2 weeks old so that probably helped me lose the weight. I was almost back down to my pre prego weight when he came home and got prego again! So now 15 months after my 4th child and I am still trying to lose the weight from not just one pregnany but 2 pregnancies! It is hard but I do see that I am losing weight. I don't keep a scale in my house because then I know that I would weigh myself daily and your weight won't change from day to day unless you are losing weight the unhealthy way! Don't worry you will lose it it just takes some time! The key is to get to a point to where you feel good about yourself and then work from there! A little bit of curves is a good thing! I will never get back down to my size 3 (pre prego size from my first child) because my hips have ballooned but I do know that I can get down to atleast a 7 as long as I lose my belly weight and the flab from my legs! Good luck losing the weight and always remember it just takes some time!

Roxanne - posted on 07/08/2010

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I was on a wiegh loss plan that cost a small fortune but actually worked! I lost 10 kg 2 months before my wedding thanx to dedication, low calorie diet and 1.5 hours of gym, 6 days a week. Than we found out i was pregnant 1 month before my wedding. It was all down hill from there. MMy daughter is now 6 months old. i am tired all the time so dont even make an effort to gym. I picked up 30kg when i was pregnant./ i am now struggling to lose 17kg more to get to prebaby weight. /But even though i may lose the weight i am not too sure about the excess skin? Will that little pouch that was a tummy ever go to just being a tummy?

Kristine - posted on 07/07/2010

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i know exactly how you feel before i had my daughter i was a size 3, im now an 8/10 depending on the day.

Rachel - posted on 07/07/2010

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oh my gosh all I ever think about is how fat I am. I was 120 lbs when I got pregnant and my little girl is 6 months old now and I still weigh 150. Im 5'2 so being short doesnt help. I cant fit into any of my clothes they are all 4-6s and now I wear a 10. I can't afford new clothes but my baby will barely let me work out! and I developed a sweet tooth when I was pregnant! My baby is my world and I know she is the best thing that ever happened to me but I do miss my old figure!

Carina - posted on 07/07/2010

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i know how you feel but the thing with me is that i have always been a bigger girl and now that i am pregnant with my third i have hit a number that i never wanted to ever see in my life. before i got pregnant i was 205 and you know it didn't look half bad, i was proportioned nicely but i was ashamed of how i looked, but now that i am pregnant with my third and now about 100lbs more i am mortified of my body and wish that i took more pride in my body before. i know it will come off and i know that it will take awhile. but you know what just remember your body looks like that becuase you wanted to bring another person into this world. give it a bit and it will start to come off. i guess with me i would of probably lost weight in between kids if i wouldn't of waited between pregnancies but i didn't. so just take pride in your body that you have now and soon enough you will realize that you will be losing weight before you know it.

Lisa - posted on 07/07/2010

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i can relate iwas 98.2 pounds when i got pregnant and size 3 ia5"1.5 inches i gained 40 pounds and only lost 20 of it so far. i completely understand.

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

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I can SO relate 2 this, Unfortunatally I have it WAY worse. I weighed in @ 165lbs, nice and curvy, (what the boys called PHAT). When I got prognate I BLEW up to 297lbs!!!!!! I was told that I could eat whatever I wanted as long as I breastfed when I gave birth. (Biggest lie ever!!!). Needless 2 say that everytime I would lose 40 or 50lbs, I would end up prego again. I have had 3 babies, and still haven't lost the weight. I have tried 2 lose it, and I am still trying, But Idk what I'm doing wrong??? I started losing it last year and then ended up injuring my back, It seems like every single attempt to lose the weight is counter acted by some kind of life problems. I have gotten to the place in my life that I have swarn off men, and dating of any kind until I acheive my goals of obtaining a better life 4 me and my babies. I still haven't quit, And it's been 11yrs since I had my 1st baby.



So I send the best of luck and my wishes ur way. You Go Girl, U CAN DO IT!!!

Téa - posted on 07/07/2010

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you're not stupid! it's normal to feel like that. having a baby takes a toll on your body. it will make you feel better if you work out a few times a week and if you eat healthy. not only will it help your body but it will help you feel better about yourself.

Alesha - posted on 07/07/2010

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i have the exact same problem except opposite. i used to be average or a little under and once i got pregnant i started getting smaller everywhere except my stomach, then i had my daughter and my stomach went down the day after i had her and 9 months later im still super skinny and i dont like it...i always say i wish i woulda got curvier, not lost the little bit of curves i had...so for you, i think your lucky cuz if you dont like the way you look you can atleast change it in a healthy way, id have to get real unhealthy to get where i wanna be.

Sarh - posted on 07/07/2010

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I completely relate! Before I got pregnant w/my daughter (my 1st) I was 135lbs and 5'7", when I went into labor I weighed about 210lbs! After wards I went on the depo short right away (I was only 16) and 4 yrs later I stayed at 175lbs. I felt huge and disgusting! You just need a great guy that tell you the truth and hopefully that is that you look amazing!! Now, I just had my son and when I went into labor with him I was about 225lbs. (I was 175 when I got pregnant w/him). I went to my OB 2wks after due to some problems I was having and I felt so good, though I looked good and I thought that I was thin, well I was 213lbs! I was like are you shitting me? My son was 8lbs and 12.5oz so the only weight I lost was his weight, the water, and the after birth. Now, I feel like I'm huge again. You just need a great support system!! My fiance is pretty good at it! :)

Amanda - posted on 07/07/2010

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yeah thats how i feel to! i gain 67 lbs with my baby.i was 207 and im weightin 160 now. i never been this big and i hate goin to shop for clothes cuz i never can find nothin... my hips and stomach got so big. i really hope i can lose this. ppl say it will take a year to get back to ur shape. thats a long time!!!!
if u find any way to lose it please tell me!!!:)

Tiffany - posted on 07/07/2010

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Hey girl dont feel bad!! I was 100 pounds when I got pregnant with my 1st child I was under wieght but could eat and eat and not gain any weight!! But I also was very pick well when I got pregnant that all changed along with my taste buds!! I gained 73 pounds when I was pregnant, and everyone said u will loose ur butt and ur boobs after u have ur baby well, That didnt happen I used to have nothing at all now I have a full D, and but the weight also didt go anywhere!!! Lol!! I weight 150 now, ugh believe I know exactly how u feel!! Im still working on getting this weight off and my daughter will be 3 in a few weeks, but good luck!!!

Sara - posted on 07/07/2010

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No one in this wide world is perfect. When I was a young girl...I am talking like grade school....I had the developed body of a woman in her 20's. I have always been more voluptuous than most women, and I hated it for a very long time. I have struggled with my weight all of my life, and hitting puberty at 6 did not help. As I have gotten older, I have learned that if I don't like something about me, change it, and if it can't be changed, then learn to love it. I was a very insecure girl, no matter what people were telling me. I always had guys wanting me though...guess they thought fat girls were easy. But then I honestly just decided to love me, and not worry about the world for a bit. In August of 2006, I was going through classes to get ready to have Gastric Bypass surgery. In early November 2006, I found out I was pregnant. I feel that was a sign from somewhere that I wasn't meant to be petite, and if I am ever supposed to lose more than 50 lbs, I need to find another way to do it. Since my son has been born, he is now 3, and I am expecting a little girl in 1 week, I have pretty much just done what I can to make me happy, but be healthy at the same time. I haven't gained any weight the entire pregnancy, but my baby is huge, but I am happy with me. I am the only one who can change me, and honestly, it doesn't happen over night, so just take it one day at a time.

Stephanie - posted on 07/07/2010

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omg same here, before i got pregnant i weighed 115, and now im 145 =( wish i can go back to my old body again.

Kelly - posted on 07/07/2010

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no youre not stupid as that is how i felt after i had my son even though i was back in size 8 jeans

Melly - posted on 07/07/2010

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I'm actually back to my pre pregnancy weight and its depressing. My whole life I have been fat, which has always bothered me. I eat healthy, excercise, have tried so many diets, but have never been able to budge the weight. Then when i got pregnant I felt and looked fantastic, I actually lost 40 pounds during my pregnancy. My son is now 5 months old, and that 40 pounds has come back on. Atleast when my BF says he loves the way I look I know he isnt lying, because im how I was when he first met me. All you other women should also listen to what your partners say, because really if THEY are bothered by your looks then thats depressing in itself, dont you want your man to love you for who you are, and not what you look like... Beauty fades, if your love is based on beauty alone then it will fade aswell.

Hannah - posted on 07/07/2010

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HOWEVER! Im breastfeeding and having gallbladder issues, I lost weight too fast and now Im going to have my gallbladder removed because of it.. and when you have gallbladder issues you are on a strict nonfat/lowfat diet.. (not fun) and you lose even more.. a blessing and a curse

Hannah - posted on 07/07/2010

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you will never feel the same about your body. I was 128 pre pregnancy.. not, 7 weeks postpartum im 116 and I still feel like a whale. Women are too hard on themselves.

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2010

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I know how you feel, but just think it's necessary to have your baby. The end result will be amazing and def worth it!!!!

Monique - posted on 07/07/2010

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first of all i think most moms goes through this there the few who drop the weight as soon as the baby is born then there is the rest of us i gained 55 lbs with my daughter i was 140 pre pregnancy and 195 when i delivered, i had gotten down to 155 when i got pregnant again and with my son i only gained 30 lbs but it stuck around my son is almost two i have worked my way down to 160 and i am still fighting the last 20 lbs.

Veronica - posted on 07/07/2010

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When you breastfeed, you burn 600 calories a day - that equals to 2 hours of aerobic exercise in itself. You NEED to eat at least 1800 calories a day. Work up to 30 min. of exercise a day, 3 to 5 times a week, add strength training and flexibility in there as well (but keep strength training every other day as well - maybe do one day of work out, next day strength - alternate).
Read your labels -- anything with high fructose corn syrup, corn syrup, trans fats, etc. DONT EAT/DRINK! Your body immediatly stores it as fat! Get plenty of vegetables and fiber into your diet -- and a few servings of fruit a day. Watch your fat/sugar intake.
Im in business, and am working with our weight management program as we speak - as you seen in an earlier post of mine, im already losing. Im only 3 months out from having a baby myself -- it is possible to lose weight, you have to do it right -- and you have to really watch it too - unless you arent breastfeeding, you could lose your milk supply -- I have free additional information if anyone has questions, Id love to help.

Kayla - posted on 07/07/2010

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i feel you girl! i hate my body now, and im having such a hard time working it off.

SheNesia - posted on 07/06/2010

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No you are not stupid you just had a baby! But remember if you continue to stay in exercise eat healthy you will shed the weight.

Asia - posted on 07/06/2010

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I relate so much before i had my fist child i was 115 and loved it, but now its like i cant even drop this weight off. it gets very furstrating at times but just have to stay focused

Amber - posted on 07/06/2010

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Your not stupid at all. I had my son a yr ago & I had gained 40 pounds on top of another 10 pounds I gained before I found out I was pregnant. So I had 50 pounds to lose! I was told people who had a c-section it was harder to lose the weight around the mid section. So for awhile I figured ok in time I will be back to how small I was before. Now i've lost about 40 pounds since my son was born but i'm still having a problem losing the last 10. I hate how my body looks. && I really hate how my stomach is right now. I get so jealous when I see women who just have a baby && you can't even tell. But i'm hoping if I work really hard at getting this last 10 pounds off it will pay off. One thing is for sure.... no more babies for me! I love my son to death and all but the after body results from pregnancy is just too depressing.

Maggie - posted on 07/06/2010

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you aren't stupid. i have two children, one i just had three months ago and i HATE how i look. my jeans don't fit, my stomach indents when i wear my pants or shorts and i feel aweful about myself. its a body image thing that i know i can change but i have to put in the work to do it. not only working out and eating better, but also working on how i feel about myself. we all go through it, and we will all get through it. just talk about it and remind yourself that you are not a whale you are a great mom and your kids love you no matter what you look like... husband/partner no doubt it.
easier said then done i know.

Heather - posted on 07/06/2010

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i was like that to after i had my son coz i went from 110 to almost 200pds but it took time to get what i wanted back.there were days that i didnt want to look in the mirror

Holly - posted on 07/06/2010

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i think the best thing to do is eat right and drink right! junk and sofe drinks should be limited as treats once in awhile! thats what my friend always tells me lol...

Holly - posted on 07/06/2010

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that is true.. i have an aunt that has weight problem and she tried everything.. not much has changed!

Cecile - posted on 07/06/2010

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Sometimes it is not about doing all the exercise until your blue in the face. With me my body just wouldn't loose any of the weight, not matter what I did. It is how your body copes with the MASSIVE change its been through. Just take it easy on yourself is the best option.

Holly - posted on 07/06/2010

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no, its normal.. but you shouldn't think your stupid and your not a whale you have baby fat from your baby! you have any time of the day you want to choose to lose it! its when you feel like it and how you do it.. that's what makes us humans so unique and different! start now or later and feel better in a few weeks :)

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Courtney - posted on 07/06/2010

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Oh so know how u feel when b 4 I had my first child I was a size 3 and went back down to that size after my first and second NOW after my third child i'm 165lbs and am a size13 WOW... I can't get it off thought I've had my thyriod checked and everything I don't know how to lose it?????

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