am i the only one that feels alone?

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2010

i do feel like that alot...i work and i go to school, but when i'm not at either i'm here with the kids...by myself...doing all of the cleaning, cooking, etc and i feel like i am alone and have no help.

Also Heather, i completely know how you feel about not having a "home"...we live with my in-laws while i'm in school and i just can't feel comfortable here. it sucks!!!

Brenda - posted on 01/21/2010

Amanda l guess at the moment we in the same boat no friends and am far away from family too activities in my area are expensive and honetly between work and just getting home l am exhausted everything just seems too much of an effort latley

Liz - posted on 01/17/2010

A good way to feel better is to search the local paper and look for group activity you may enjoy, sometime coffee houses do poetry nights, or some cities have mom groups you can join. I personally volunteer at my church, It has helped me make a lot of new friends and I enjoy that i'm doing something to help people.

Maatla - posted on 01/15/2010

aah sory darling,i know the feeling too but hey its part of life it cant be all roses,try your best hobbies,they'l motivate n give you something to fill up the emptiness n be open to counselling it can do wonders sometimes,especially if its been goin on for years.

Hayleigh - posted on 01/15/2010

i'm going through the same thing it has been 5 yrs on and off but for me i know its P.N.D and has reaccurd after the birt of each of my children. It can be very hard to deal ith at times....... i found most of the feeling alone was due to no one other than my partner knowing there was something wrong the best thing for you to do is go and speak to your dr or nurse or some one you trust just telling another person face to face how you feel will help and you will also be able to get help in other ways if you need it!! good luck

Shanna - posted on 01/14/2010

I am going through the same thing right now. I think...at least I hope it is a normal stage to go through. I think we tend to give so much of ourselves that we forget to take care of us. I think it will pass over time, but it is a good reminder to stop and take care of yourself.

Shiloe - posted on 01/14/2010

if you aren't single, you could have a parent or sibling watch the kids and go out with you other half or with a sister...my sister, my mom, and I went out once. My sister and I left our kids with their dads...It felt really good to get out for awhile...If it doesn't get better def. talk to your doc...I'm on Celexa and it has helped more than I could have ever imagined...

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2010

what if you dont have any freinds, how do i do a night out?

Samantha - posted on 01/14/2010

We all have times when we feel like we are alone and do not matter to the rest of the world. I know that when I was a stay at home he thing that helped me get through those times was looking into my daughter's eyes and seeing how much she needed me. To her I was her whole world. So while it didn't seem to matter to the rest of the world if I was alive or dead it mattered to one of the most important people in my world.
I know that it can feel lonely; trust me I have been there plenty myself. That just means that it is time for a girls night out. Take some time doing something you did before children and reconnect with yorself. If you loose yourself while trying to be a good mom you will loose what makes you the best mom possible.
I know it is hard to take the time to be "you" but you really should try to do it at least once a week...no kids. We all have been there. Just try to make sure you are taking care of yourself so you can take better care of your kids, or you will go a little crazy...trust me.

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2010

iv been looking for a group of freinds that i can talk to about this stuff, because i have so much stuff that i havent told any one and its eating me alive i hate to hear that outhers are going through it to but at the same time its comforting to no that im not the only one thanks to all of you and im sorry that your going threw it to. please keep talking :)

Brenda - posted on 01/14/2010

heather amanda l feel u gosh am so glad to find out someone out there feels something too not that its great l have moved to a new country about 4 months now have problems with my husd^band l left my kids back in my country and l dont have any friends and l donot feel like this is home and l feel so alone far rom everything l love . l am in a great city but without the finance to enjoy it its just a place so girls yoga is out for me

Heather - posted on 01/14/2010

I know how you are feeling. I feel the same way and at times I start thinking I am depressed. I moved out to a new town about 4 months ago, and I don't know anyone up here. I feel alone, lonely and sad all the time. I also feel like I do not feel like I have a "home". My fiance and I live with his mother and I feel like I live in a house, not a home. My fiance doesnt understand why I feel the way I feel and I dont know what to do about it either.

Shannon - posted on 01/14/2010

Yoga does help A LOT!

Heidi - posted on 01/14/2010

Well I know that working out increases endorphins which will make you feel better. Also remember to take care of your self because if you arent happy chances are that no one else in the house will be that happy. My mom always said that the mother is the heart of the home..Go to the salon, have a girls night be a little selfish sometimes.

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2010

i have realy thaught about that. does it realy work?

Heidi - posted on 01/14/2010

I feel like that sometimes and I think going to the gym helps so much. I take a yoga class and a nice long shower and have some great me time.

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2010

lol,yep i work on n off then im home with a 7,5,3 y/o

Shannon - posted on 01/14/2010

I go through the same thing. I think its just parenthood do you stay home with your kids? I do and I think that contributes to a lot of it because I dont get out much and have toddlers to talk to all day. lol

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2010

thanks,and yes it has been 7 years on and off

Rhiannon - posted on 01/13/2010

Everyone feels this way at some point. But if it persists for longer than a week or two, speak to a dr, nurse or counselor. You may have post natal depression and treatment is essential to help beat it.

THinking of you xxxx