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I have never left my daughter (5 months) with a babysitter yet. I have left her with family for short periods of time.
My husband talked me into having a date night yesterday, and I agreed to have his father come to our house to watch our daughter and put her to sleep, while we went out for dinner.
I agreed to have HIS father. About 2 hours before he was going to come he said that his girlfriend was going to come as well. I canceled the dinner, because I am not comfortable with his girlfriend being at my house with my daughter, without me.
My reasons for this is because she is VERY loud, a pot smoker, and my daughter is terrified of her. Everytime she is around my daughter she cried and screams her head off. I did not want to come home to a baby who wouldnt sleep and who was crying.
apparently I made the girlfriend cry because I told my father in law to come alone (he has been asking me for months to babysit...so it wasnt like I was asking him just as a favor to me.)
I was told that I am being unreasonable, and my husband said to me "if my dad wants to babysit his granddaughter, and have his girlfriend there, he has every right to." I personally dont agree with this. I said I have NO problem with HIM coming alone, but his girlfriend is not welcome.
Everytime my father in law and his girlfriend come over, she nags him to leave after 30 mins so they can go home (and she can smoke a joint)
I do not trust her around my child (she has 2 kids, one is a drug addict and the other is just mentally unstable)
AM i wrong for telling my father in law that if he wants to babysit she cant come?