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Rebekah - posted on 05/05/2011
1st pregnancy: Told family/close friends at 4 weeks. Work and others at 12 weeks.
2nd pregnancy: Miscarried at 7 weeks and had not told anyone... wished I'd told family before the miscarriage.
3rd pregnancy: Told family/close friends after ultrasound at 9 weeks. Work and other friends at 13 weeks.
4th pregnancy: Told family at 7 weeks, after ultrasound, and everyone else around 12 weeks.
Sindi - posted on 05/06/2011
I announced my last pregnancy as soon as I knew ( 5 weeks). I was so excited. I don't buy into the wait past your 13th week, I've miscarried 5 times, and I would rather enjoy the time I am then waiting for the "safe" period to come, and then tell.
Chrissie - posted on 05/07/2011
Depends on your personal preference.. I'm guilty of announcing right away.. A couple friends of mine learned the hard way that it's not such a good idea.. =[
I kinda had to say something because I was so sick and everyone would have figured it out anyways. I went from being a soscial butterfly and super busy bee to not leaving my house, loosing weight and throwing up.. They would have thought pregnancy or drugs.. Better to confirm it was pregnancy for me
Vicki - posted on 05/06/2011
my close family were told the day after i found out, which was when i was coming up to 4 weeks. However my cousin got wind at 10 weeks and plastered it all over Facebook for me just because she wanted 2 be the 1 to spill the beans. Needles to say I wasn't best pleased!!!
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AMANDA - posted on 02/29/2012
atleast after the 12 week or first trimester when the risk of miscarriage is lower.. i announced my first pregnancy at 6 weeks along and at 11 weeks i miscarried it.. was soo hard to have to tell people about such a personal loss.. my second pregnancy was twins and i didnt say anything till i was at 13 weeks along and my 3rd pregnancy i didnt have a chance to tell anyone before i miscarried it.. so its kinda a personal decision.. whats right for one person may not be for another one
Tara - posted on 05/07/2011
I think that is completely up to the person. There really isn't a right or wrong time to do it. A lot of people wait until they reach the 12 week mark (when risk of miscarriage decreases), but that doesn't mean you HAVE to wait. We are currently 29 weeks (today) pregnant with our 3rd and we told everyone around 6-7 weeks (when we had our first appt.). That may seem early to most, but we have gone through 2 miscarriages (one before our first child..almost 9 years ago now...and then one a couple months before we got pregnant with this baby) and having that extra support during those hard times, was extremely helpful. Anyway, it is completely up to the individual :)
Melly - posted on 05/06/2011
It's really a personal choice, about what you are or arent comfortable with.
With my first born, no one knew until I was 22 weeks pregnant, and that included me, he was a big surprise, and think it happened that way so i wouldnt make myself sick with worry that i would miscarry (he could have let me know a little sooner he was there though LOL).
This current pregnancy, my mum knew at 6 weeks, I didnt even have to tell her, she just knew, and I couldnt deny it. We told my brothers, and hubby's sisters at 8 weeks. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks, but hubby let slip to one sister, and we couldnt not tell the rest, and then they went and put it on FB, so I had to quickly ring a few people before they saw it on there, because they would have been very upset to see it on FB before being told. I was so worried and stressed from then until I had the 12 week scan to make sure everything was ok, have had miscarriages in the past and I was worried that would happen again. But everyone knows now, and im nearly 14 weeks.
Natalie - posted on 05/06/2011
I announced as soon as we found out the first time I got pregnant and then had a miscarrage so the second time when we were pregnant with our little man we waiting until we were 16 weeks along to announce on facebook, that away we knew we were pretty much safe.
Elfrieda - posted on 05/05/2011
It depends on you and your husband's personalities. I had friends who announced that they were pregnant the moment that they found out. Then they had a miscarriage, and had to tell everybody about it, and had to talk about it with lots of people. I felt terrible for them, because for me that would have made a bad situation worse. Way worse.
I was living with my parents and sister (suddenly my empty nesters had their two daughters back plus a soninlaw for 6 months - full house!) and they were concerned that I was so sick, so we told them at about 9 weeks but swore them to secrecy. Then at 13 weeks we told everybody. If we had had a miscarriage, I think I would have told my family and my husband's family and a few friends and they could have supported me at that point, but when you hear someone is pregnant, the instinct is to tell every mutual acquaintance you see, so I didn't trust them to keep it secret.
Ashley - posted on 05/05/2011
With my first pregnancy, I announced to everyone I knew that I was pregnant, but didn't announce it on Facebook. I ended up having a miscarriage at 11 weeks. We were devastated. I don't think that I would have come out of it as quickly or as strong as I did if I hadn't had the support of my family and friends.
With the second pregnancy, I told my family right away and some of my close friends. Everyone else (including Facebook friends) I waited until I had my 3rd ultrasound at 14 weeks to announce. Then, I felt like everything was safe and sound.
I told my mom right away. But she's my support and if I lost another one I'd need her. Honestly people on here know I'm pregnant, yet only my mom and MIL know I'm pregnant out of people close to us. I plan on telling my dad this weekend when I see him, and I'll probably tell my FIL then too. We didn't want to announce it and have everyone excited then miscarry again.
My SIL didn't tell people until she was 3 months along. My eldest sister didn't tell people until after her first apointment at about 8-9 weeks.
I think it comes down to comfort level. I like sharing the news and joy with others so I tell right away. However if you feel more reserved that is fine. Don't let people guilt trip you when they do find out if you wait.
Toni - posted on 05/05/2011
With my first, I told everyone as soon as I took the blood test. With #2, we waited until about 8weeks. And with #3 we told everyone around 12 weeks. I only had a social site with #3 and announced it on there at about 4 months.
Bonnie - posted on 05/04/2011
Some people tell anyone and everyone as soon as they find out. It's best to wait until you reach at least the 3 month mark because usually majority of miscarriages happen before then. I know someone who broadcasted her pregnancy to practically the world when she was 6 weeks along and then two weeks later she had a miscarriage. I think waiting just prevents having to deal with it later on if god forbid some goes wrong.
Emily - posted on 05/04/2011
I've heard from numerous people it's taboo to announce your pregnancy before 8 weeks (doctors back this up with the fact that risk for miscarriage is highest during the first 8 weeks of pregnancy). But I think it depends entirely on the couple having the baby; if they agree they want to announce it early on so it builds excitement for the baby's arrival... then why not! Same for if you want to wait. Just weigh your reasoning and decide. There's no wrong answer :)
September - posted on 05/04/2011
It's really up to you as I'm sure it varies from person to person. Some are so excited to share and some would rather wait till they make it through the 1st trimester. Personally I could not wait and shared the news with our family and close friends right away and then with the rest of the people in our lives once I was about 2.5 months along.
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