Any one have any ideas on how to get a 5 year old boy from throwing temper tantrums b/c he doesn't get his way? I hate to spank, but time outs, taking away game time & movie times are not working. Even though we say no, he throws a huge fit!

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Kate CP - posted on 02/16/2009

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I would calmly say "If Momma or Daddy say no, the answer is no. You don't have to like my answer, you don't have to agree with it. But you do have to listen to it. If you want to scream and stomp your feet you will do it in your room."

Another thing that works is ear plugs. Make a big show of putting them in and explain "I don't like hearing you scream. So when you scream, I'm going to put ear plugs in so I can't hear it. When you want to talk like a big boy, I will take them out and we can talk." I did this twice with my daughter and now if I reach for the ear plugs she immediately stops screaming and says "No, Mommy. I want to talk to you" and we talk calmly. Works great. :)

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use the naughty step. Bottom step of your staris, or in the hall way (if you have no stairs!) as soon as he starts, put him on it or tell him to go away until he stops crying. I do that to my two year old and it works.

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Leonie - posted on 02/16/2009

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Quoting Dawn:

Any one have any ideas on how to get a 5 year old boy from throwing temper tantrums b/c he doesn't get his way? I hate to spank, but time outs, taking away game time & movie times are not working. Even though we say no, he throws a huge fit!



Hi, im going through temper tantrums with my 2 year old daughter, she had quite a bad start in life she was 17 weeks early so im still getting alot of outside help to progress her development and we have put i a behaviour stratagy of ignoring the bad, no eye contact no talking or shouting as it make it worse just pretend its not happening and when the tantrum has stopped go over board on attention, cuddles. advise to me was to stick to one punishment not to keep changing it as the child is testing u to see what u are going to do next, i have been using this way for a week now and i have seen a slight difference in my daughter but it does take time, just stick to it, i know is easyier said than done especially when your out and about. its worth a go. good luck

Shannon - posted on 02/16/2009

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I do the corner thing (time out) but don't back down keep putting him back setting a timer may help but be firm and don't back down It may take awhile for him to just do it but it should work

Danielle - posted on 02/16/2009

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just simply dont give them attention...its like when their babys and you have to make them cry to sleep it hurts u more than it hurts them..plus its giving them the attention their looking for just not in a positve way whoch makes them act out more..( i ahve no kids but ive had experience..)

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I have tried sending him to his room (it’s a small 2 story house) and tried talking to him (which just seems to make it worse b/c he seems to get embarrassed by it and runs away) but I have not tried the ear plugs or the stairs.



 



MOST of the time it’s around bedtime when we are ALL going to bed. His daddy works nights and money is tight, so he can’t really change shifts at this time. His brother is usually already asleep on his own (he will go to bed around 8pm all on his own). All I can say is thank goodness his brother is a heavy sleeper.



 



We’ve tried to take away his time with spending nights with his grandma on Sat. night. We’ve told him every time he throws a fit, he will not be able to stay the night with his “mamaw” on his weekend. That seemed to help for awhile. We’ve still stuck to that and we NEVER give in to him. We know that if we do, he’ll do it every time he gets a chance to. We do know that his grandma doesn’t give in too….so it’s not like she’s spoiling him. She knows our rules. I just feel like I’m losing it every time he does it b/c there is no reason for it to start and I don’t know why it’s starting. He knows that no means no.



 



I'm really happy for all of your suggestions! Thank you so much!!

Trish - posted on 02/16/2009

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haha my 5yr old girl screams when she doesn't get her own way too. the big 1 is don't give in especially once he starts throwing a fit stand your ground u said no stick to it. when my daughter does it I just take her to her room and say if u wanna behave like a 2yr old then do it in your room away from me, she screams it out up there then eventually calms herself down.

Courtney - posted on 02/16/2009

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Does he get a reaction from you when he throws these tantrums? I'm sure if you ignored his behavior and went along with whats going on for the moment i.e. cooking, cleaning etc. it should cool down within 15 min. When hes done with a tantrum sit down and explain to him about that kind of behavior and that it's not acceptable, acknowledge his feelings and explain to him how he should of handled it....and move along. I'm sure after a few tantrums and you not reacting to them they will go away.... and this is coming from a mother of 5 boys. I would save the naughty step for when they do something wrong i.e. hit their sibling and only after they get a first warning. I hope this helps! Good Luck :)

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we've not tried that one, yet - good idea! We'll see how that one works the next time he throws the fit!

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