Any young Mom's only want 1 kid?

Katie - posted on 03/05/2009

i am 23 and have a 3 year old. i always thought that i would want 2-3 kids, untill i had mason.  after i had mason i suffered from severe post partum depression that has now led to an ongoing depression issue. so this is one of the main reasons i dont want more kids. i dont feel like it would b fair to me, my husband, or my son for me to have another child. just having him was almost more than i could handle. and adding more to my load just seems ludacris. i understand the family thing... my MIL is always saying that i need to have another so she can have a grand daughter, but i know that is not a good idea. i grew up in a big family and i dont want my son to feel like he has to fight/act out for attention like i did.  just stand your ground and dont let anyone pressure you or make you feel bad. its your body and life.

Natisha - posted on 03/04/2009

I am not going to have any other children either until I can afford to adopt and by that time my 4 yr odl will be over 10 yrs old. I want to adopt a baby girl but it is expensive and I am a single mom. I can only keep up with one child at a time! :)  Stick to your beliefs and know that it's perfectly fine to not want anymore kids. I have decided to NEVER birth another child again but I am not opposed to adoption. So I feel almost the same as you. :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2009

Thanks so much! I feel better already. My husband really wants one more but I am done. I love my little girl so much and I just want to focus all of my love and attention on her. And I agree, the way they turn out depends on how you raise them. I know many sweet selfless only children, and quite a few kids that have siblings and are totally self centered. It just depends on personality and values.

Andrea - posted on 03/04/2009

yeah my son is 2 and me and his father don't want anymore and our family keeps bothering us about it i have the iud so a low chance it would ever happen. it's your decision if u only want 1 baby then just have the one. my son isn't the only child though as his dad already has 2 teenagers but they live in another state.

Stephanie - posted on 03/04/2009

My husband is an only child. and he has this i get what i want when i want it attitude. I would love to slap it out of him. however I have lots of brothers and sisters. And we are having our third baby in august. Don't let family push you in to doing something you don't want. Stay on birth control that way if you do change your mind and want one more when your daughter  is three or four you can. she is not even a year yet. Ask them if they are going to help you out when you need it. that should shut them up. Good luck

Lacy - posted on 03/04/2009

Girl, don't feel bad about that!  I have an 18 month old son, and he is my world and I love him more than anything, but I do not want another one!  I want to be able to give him everything he needs/wants.  Siblings are over rated!!  LOL No, but seriously, you do have to watch how you raise an only child so they don't grow up selfish, but I think realizing what is best for you and YOUR family and sticking to that is best.  Much better than having a) kids you cant afford or b) having more than you can handle and wind up taking a swan dive off of a large mountain!  lol 

I will say this, though...... you MAY change your mind, and thats ok too!  That is our perogative as a woman!

Amber - posted on 03/04/2009

I am 27 years old and I have a wonderful 5 year old daughter.  When I married my husband we agreed to only have one child.  When people ask if we are going to have more children we tell them that our daughter completes our family.  I don't feel bad that she won't have any siblings because I know that in this decision that we have made we are doing what's best for our child.

Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2009

I also only have one.  I had planned for 4 and my husband only had wanted 1 but after my pregnancy complications and being exhausted all the time I realised one was more than enough.  I had my tubes tied when she was two.  Yes, once in a while I think about holding a baby again but it passes and I have friends who have babies that I can hold and my daughter can play with.  I know I won't be changing my mind.

Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2009

I also only have one.  I had planned for 4 and my husband only had wanted 1 but after my pregnancy complications and being exhausted all the time I realised one was more than enough.  I had my tubes tied when she was two.  Yes, once in a while I think about holding a baby again but it passes and I have friends who have babies that I can hold and my daughter can play with.  I know I won't be changing my mind.