Anyone depressed over the weight gain?

Whitney - posted on 11/01/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I am 7 weeks postpartum and have 15 lbs left to lose. I lost the first 20 lbs steadily, but have stopped now. I have been feeling very frustrated about not being able to fit in my clothes. I feel fat and ugly. I don't know how to balance work, exercise, baby time, house chores, etc.Anyone have these feelings? How do you deal with it?

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Katie - posted on 09/14/2013

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I felt the same way, I was already heavy when I got pregnant with my son, and swore that I'd lose weight before I had anymore kids.... we found out I was pregnant 6 months later....with twins. Then I was on bed rest for 10 weeks, the last 5 in the hospital literally confined to bed and nothing else. I was huge. (but my babies were healthy, so I try not to gripe too much) Over the next couple years I lost 60 pounds fairly gradually. This past spring I was at my lowest and then stopped losing.... and started gaining. I decided it was time to really focus on setting a good example for my kids, and developing a healthy lifestyle that I would be proud if they emulate. I found an at home workout program (so I don't have to drag kids to the gym) that promises great results in 25 minutes a day, 5 days a week, I figured that I could find 25 minutes somewhere in my day. I actually finished the 10 week program today and lost 20 pounds and a TON of inches off my measurements (waist, hips, thighs, etc...) I also joined (and have since started my own) group to keep motivated and accountable. This was the game changer. When a kid was up all night and I was tired, I had someone who was in the same boat, and we could agree to take a nap and then work out, or the other way around.... It gave me the extra push to really work to fit fitness and healthy eating into my schedule. I'm starting the program over again on Monday, and am super excited about it.

Mindy - posted on 11/09/2011

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Trista, I understand that one I actually told the nurses I didn't want to know how heavy I was at the end of my second pregnancy. Just by drinking the right amount of water a day is a start. I've also heard that if you focus on building muscle it will help you lose weight even when you are sitting down! I'm going to start weight lifting in my workouts. Also I started parking away from the doors when I go grocery shopping. just try little things at a time and you will see some difference :)

Trista - posted on 11/08/2011

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hey your all doing better then me i gained 70 with my first pregancy lost 30 got back up to 200lbs and ive lost about 30 of it again and my 2nd is 2 1/2 i try not to even think about it!

Mindy - posted on 11/07/2011

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i've been doing jump rope(I've gotten up to about 200 a day) and jumping jacks(also 200 a day)push-ups, and sit ups, started drinking more water and cut out candy and soda. I've been doing this for a week now and can already tell a difference! Also grapefruit is really good to eat it actually helps burn calories. Even if you do a little bit a day will make you feel better. I love taking walks with my kids it makes me feel like i've done something and the fresh air is always nice since i'm a stay at home mom. Good for the kids too.

Laura - posted on 11/07/2011

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You are doing great, and 7 weeks postpartum is nothing! You should worry about your baby and enjoying every moment you can. My daughter is 19mo. and I just now lost the last of the baby weight.. I did it through MyFitnessPal smart phone app, yoga, and going for walks (my daughter loves the stroller). It will come off, but I totally understand about being depressed. At 5'1'', I weight 110 when I became pregnant, and at full term I was 174!!! I think that hormones have a TON to do with the weight loss and gain, so give your body a chance to let your hormones get back to normal. I wish I would have listened to the advice to just enjoy that time when they are little, and not have been so depressed over my weight. Good luck!!

Tracy - posted on 11/07/2011

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2 years ago,I had twins. I have had other children and yes,it frustrated me to be in maternity clothes after having my children.But when I had my twins I didn't care what I wore until they got bigger. I had to work my weight off because it did not come off right away. Get the baby on a schedule. Once you get the hang of the schedule,incorporate other things. You are only 7 weeks postpartum.If you push yourself too hard, you will get exhausted and even more frustrated. Look,you have a lot on your plate. Take it slow.Wear your maternity clothes. If you have any of the cute ones,wear those until you feel like you can go farther. And if you are involved in a MOPS group,ask the ladies if they have any tips.Relax. If you lost 20 pounds and only have 15 to lose,you are doing well. I was a cow by the end of my pregnancy. And chores is exercise! I have had to learn to relax. Life gets hectic!

Rosanna - posted on 11/07/2011

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well i am one of many that just cant lose that last amount i hate it some days but other days i feel good that i have some figure it affected me with my partner and everything not wanting to take my clothing off in front of him etc i get really down about it but i use that to go for a walk i have thought its fluid retention and or just things are not flowing through me fast enough i have 1 symbio yogurt a day in the morning and go for a small walk and have found this to work in keeping me down but im not no supermodle and to be truthful i dont really like the hole bones thing anyway (changing your out look and thoughts on what is nice and whats nt helps to :) i hope you find your balance :) you are doing great already im 6 years on and still trying

Kaitlin - posted on 11/07/2011

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It is frustrating, it is! But you really have to tell yourself (in the mirror, multiple times a day if you have to) it took 9 months to gain, give it at least 9 to take it off. Also, for a lot of people who have big babies, hips actually widen and won't go back to shape. so you could be the same weight but not fit into your clothes from pre baby. Give yourself some slack, and don't worry about exercising as much as eating lots of healthy fats and veggies to care for your baby. If it's really really an issue, don't be afraid to ask for help. There are lots of ways to battle post partum depression, you should really talk to your doc about it.

Alicia - posted on 11/06/2011

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i joined weight watchers! im almost done with my 5th week and have lost 13 lbs, i can eat almost whatever i want, (in moderation of course) and thats without exercise. :)

Christina - posted on 11/06/2011

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hey your doing better then me! my little one is 4 months old and i still have 30 lbs to go (i gained 80 lbs when pregnant) so dont worry. it took 9 months to get there, give yourself 9 months to get back.

Charity - posted on 11/06/2011

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You have lost 20 lbs in 7 weeks! That's great. That's an average of 3 lbs a week, which is right on target. At home weight lose should be between 2-3 lbs a week. You've hit a plateau which is normal after losing 20+ lbs. You need to just change up whatever it is you're doing. It took me 2 years after having my youngest before I even started to lose weight. I lost 30 lbs & hit a plateau. I still had another 20 lbs to lose. I'm currently down 35 lbs, with 15 more to go! I have mixed up what I was doing, adding biking, Zumba DVD, & other DVD's to my routine as well as cutting carbs (Not eliminating, because if you stop your carb intake & ever start to eat carbs again you will gain the weight right back) & eating more fruits & veggies! Just remind yourself when you get down about your weight lose; You've already lost 20 lbs, which is amazing! Also, You didn't gain the weight in one day; you're not going to lose it all in one day! It's one day at a time!! Try & stay positive & don't stress too much! You are definitely not alone in the struggle to lose baby weight!!

Caranna - posted on 11/04/2011

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I find it VERY depressing and am really struggling with it right now. For me loosing the weight got harder after each child. After my first the pounds seemed to melt away pretty fast, but my 4th is now a year old and I'm about 30 lbs away from my goal. The more time that passes without any progress the more discouraged I get. It's a struggle, but it looks like this community has lots of support for the both of us! Hang in there!

Amanda - posted on 11/04/2011

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I would say you are doing fantastic!! But its very hard to find that balance, I was the same way with my first. I had to go back to work two weeks after I gave birth so I didn't have much time to adapt. Do you have a support system? Someone that could help with chores and such. Plus there are some great baby and me exercises that gets in your exercising and baby bonding time.

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Try not to feel bad about the weight, your children will love you no matter your size and the more you stay positive you are setting a good example then if you talk too much about being unhappy with your weight they will follow your lead. Plus only 7 weeks you have plenty of time to tone up and lose some pounds/kg's Run around the park with your child, go for walks with them, eat healthy no diets just healthy eating and the weight will slowly leave. A few exercises before bed or while watching tv etc force yourself even when your tired and it will soon become habit. Look up exercises you can do with your baby (playing with them as part of exercise lifting them with your legs etc) Good luck

Anne - posted on 11/03/2011

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I know the feeling. Someone put me onto www.flylady.net for help getting organised & if works. As for the weight, my friend had lost over 16 kg by going low carb & lots of fruit & veg. This was triggered by health issues & the weight loss was a bonus. She says she eats what she wants as long as it doesn't come out of a packet.

Leslie - posted on 11/02/2011

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I lost all my weight in seven months after I had her back in nov 2010. I had gain 60lbs. I lost 25 giving birth. I was dietabtic during pregnany so I stay on the diet. that how i lost the weight. breakfast is 3 sausages or 3 eggs, 5 little bacons cause I cut my into four pieces before I cook them, and a bowl of cereal or two packets of oatmeal. that keeps me full till after seven clock at night. I just eat more meat then carbs.

Amy - posted on 11/02/2011

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my daughter is 5 months old and im still holding onto 10 lbs that wont go away but i have been told by my doctor that it can take 3 cycles of menstration before you are even able to lose that weight. something about the hormones and water weight. so dont stress it will go away. i tell myself "im a mom im allowed to look this way." and i use my adorable baby to hide the tummy!

Stephanie - posted on 11/02/2011

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OMG! Well done! I've been going to Unislim for just over a year now and have lost over 3 and a half stone. Still have another 3 stone or more to go and I feel like I will never get there. Don't lose heart. If you feel you're at a stand still, try keeping a food diary for 1 week and see if there's anything you could change. One of my class leader's told me to write down what I was going to eat for the week in advance, snacks included - handy for your shopping list too! Maybe try increasing your water intake? Somebody mentioned about doing exercise in small chunks 10-15 mins at a time - definitely a good idea. Another thing you could try is switching your dinner time i.e. have your dinner in the middle of the day instead of the evening or vice versa a couple of days a week. Equally, restricting carbs to maybe 3 for the day instead of the recommended 5 a few days a week may also give you the kick start you need to get the losses happening again. Good luck and well done on what you have achieved so far... including a new baby!

Shauna - posted on 11/01/2011

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Oh, you are doing well so far! I'm impressed! I gained way too much and lost it way to slow... um, a little over a year later and I have 5 pounds extra still. But a lot of the feelings go away as your hormones balance out, I think. I've been exercising with the Wii Just Dance 2, which is silly but I actually do it, so that's something!

Tinker1987 - posted on 11/01/2011

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I can relate..actually after i had my baby i lost all the weight and more,but since being a SAHM.i put on 15 pounds and they are hanging on for dear life, ive tried different things and i cant seem to lose it. i hate going anywhere. Jeans are my enemy and i get really nervous in public.excercise is important.and makes you feel good, if you can just do it 10 minutes a day 3 times a day or something me i go on the elleptical for 15 minutes a day.try to do it twice but i feel good at least doing the 15,and on the highest resistance i burn like 400 calories in a short time...

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