Anyone want to do it all over again right away?

Jaeda - posted on 09/21/2010

my little boy is 9 months...and i'm 2 months pregnant with our next one!! we wanted our kids close together in age :)

Alexandra - posted on 09/21/2010

I am 26 years old and I have a nearly 4 year old girl and a 2 year boy tomorrow. I love my kids. It was hard having a toddler when my son was born it was hard juggling both. and having a c section But know there great they have growen up together and they play most of the time as great friends. It makes my heart skip a beat, As i never had a relationship with my brother. My husband is one of 4 brothers and there close and he wanted that for his kids.. I said to him I would love to have another when there in school but well come to that.

Nicola - posted on 09/21/2010

i think a 2-3 yr gap is great, it gives you enough time to spend with your first and give them all the attention needed in those very important years, otherwise they are forced to grow up too quickly!

Jessica - posted on 09/20/2010

i think about this all the time. I hadnt planned out my first pregnancy so upon delivering my son I was deciding when I'd like to try for another one. But here it is and my son will 5 in the end of October and I still havent had any others. SO I am trying to be optimisitic that things work out the way they are already planned . So Good Luck and I know things will do what they are meant to do...

Donna - posted on 09/20/2010

yeah yur crazy lol. my daughters about to turn a yr old and its gone so quick. it makes me want another one to an extent. when i had my twins it was terrible, my breasts leaked from the 5th month till they were born. they cried alot. they smelled like fformula half the time bc their swallow reflex wasnt great and they were premies. but this one waa full term and the bond is so different not that i dont love her sisters too

Ashley - posted on 09/20/2010

Nope, your not goin going out of your mind, I want another one now! lol
My son is 7 months old and I have an itch to start again! We want our kids 3 years apart...but it just seems sooo far away from now!

Yurena - posted on 09/20/2010

Enjoy your baby, it is very tiring to have two little babies at the same time during different phases. Mine are 17 months apart, planned, and only now I'm starting to enjoy them. You can't leave them alone for two minutes, don't get to do anything plus when they are ill they both want you and you only have one pair of arms! They love each other but I noticed that my first born felt, and rightly so, abandoned for a good few months. I would recommend you do not start till you stop breastfeding, if you are doing, your body needs to recover a bit. I had low iron and my hair fell in chunks. Don't feel physically recovered yet, though my second is 14 months now. If you decide to go for it just be really sure since you are going to be very tired for a long time. All the best, x.

Chasity - posted on 09/19/2010

I felt the same way, but waited and glad that I did because it really does take away from time that you spend with your other child and that's something they need. My second little man came when my son was 2 yrs and a day away from being 2 and 1 month. I didn't know how he would react but he came in the room and was inquisitive and it was just so sweet. I had to watch him around him though because he wanted to get a little too rough when we got home. But now that the baby is almost 15 months and he is 3 they already play so good together!

Theresa - posted on 09/19/2010

I had my first daughter when I was 29 and at the same time my aunty was having her 4th and she was 37. These days it seems like its never to late lol.

Joanna - posted on 09/19/2010

Your definitely not out of your mind! I wish I could have another one, but my fiance and I have been trying for 2 years with no luck. My daughter is currently 5 and a half and I'm worried that I'm starting to be a little to late. I'm only 25... but still. lol

Andrea - posted on 09/19/2010

My DS and DD are spaced 27 months apart. For our family, the age difference is PERFECT!! And after i had my son, my mom asked me "would you do it again?" i said "let the doctor finish my stitches, and yes. I'll do it all over again!" lol. After my daughter (i had DD with NO pain meds) they asked the same question. I said yep!! Only reason that I'm NOT, is because of the economy..

Theresa - posted on 09/18/2010

My 2 year old loves to cuddle our bub which can be a bit full-on but I'm glad she's not the jealous type : ) I'm also dreading when our bub starts crawling haha. They can both get into stuff then lol

Laura Zoey - posted on 09/18/2010

Oh boy, don't scare me! I'm due in may, Eric will be two in April! I hope it gets better after the newborn stage. But I'm planning on just wearing the baby in a mob wrap like all day and just breastfeeding in the sling so I have two hands for Eric. I'm most scared when I have two movers, a walker and a crawler. That scares me!

Theresa - posted on 09/18/2010

I just re-read my post and I don't hate having the girls, I just find it really hard at times having one gooing through the terrible 2's while having a new baby. I love my kids and wouldn't change them, but I will re-think the age gap...

Theresa - posted on 09/18/2010

I have 2 girls and they are 2 years and 6 days apart and I hate it! Having a 2 year old with a newborn is so hard! My oldest is VERY active and being a typical 2 year old can be very naughty at times. I think if we were to have another baby I would wait longer, maybe 3 years. I love my 2 girls to death and I'm so lucky that our 2nd daughter is a marvellous baby. It helps when I have to deal with the horror head lol. This is just my experience though : )

Jacki - posted on 09/17/2010

im 22 my daughter is going on 2 nxt mth i do want to have anther baby and i would like to have one around the gae of my daughter being 4 or 5 but i need to get my own place with the hubbs and get a good paying job first then i thinkwe canhave a second baby

Stephanie - posted on 09/17/2010

My boys are 1 yr, 1 mo, 1 wk, and 1 day apart. I love it!!! We weren't trying but we weren't not trying either to conceive our second.

Stacey - posted on 09/17/2010

My husband and I had planned to have our first two 1year apart. my first pregnancy ended in m/c. i was pregnant again 3months later with Twins. 2days after their first birthday i had my 3rd daughter. The twins are now 3, my other wee girl 2 an i have a 10week old boy. it's not what we planned and it's challenging but its fantastic and we couldnt be happier. i had four children under 3years for 2weeks. all four birthdays are within 4weeks of each other, makes for a busy time of the year.

Debra - posted on 09/17/2010

I don't think you're crazy at all. With our first, it took us 16 months to conceive. I was told I'd miscarry at 11 weeks with her, went through 43 hours of labor followed by an emegancy c-section with her. We were told when we asked about having a second that we would need to try for 6 months on our own before going on fert meds like we had to with the first. We started trying when our daughter was 11 months. We figured that if we tried 6 months on our own, went to fert meds and took 1-3 months on that, they'd be almost too far apart - 2.5years to be exact. Well to our astonishment, we conceived the first month we started trying for our 2nd!!!!! It took 3 home tests and the official dr. office test for me to beleive it!! In April we welcomed a little boy into our family. My kids are 20 months apart and although I'm an extremely busy mommy, I wouldn't have it any other way!! I had my reservations about how dd would accept the change, but she handled it better than I could've ever imagined!!. I've already thought about another. My husband only wants the 2 kids. I on the other hand, love my kids dearly, I find them to be a complete joy even when I am at my wits end. I think they are such good children and that we're beyond blessed to have them. I am from a famly of 6 and when I get together with my dad's side of the famliy, there are almost 60 of us. I love having such a big family and I would love to have at least 1 or 2 more kids. Ideally, I would like the next one, if I can convince hubby, to be about 20 months to at most 30 months apart from our son. My husband and his only sibling are just over 2 years apart. My older sister and I are 13 months apart, my next sibling is exactly 2 years younger than me and then my youngest sibling is 5 years younger (he was my parents final and successful attempt at a boy). We both are very close with our siblings & I hope my kids will be the same.

DeAnna - posted on 09/17/2010

My son just turned two and I'm still not sure if i'm ready to have another baby yet. Some days are good and some days are bad. He has started the terrible two's so it's hard to imagine having another baby while my son it throwing fits and being naughty. Plus my pregnancy was kinda difficult too and I want to make sure my son will get all the love and attention he needs before another baby comes along. I had so much damage from the delivery that it took me over a year to completely heal up enough to even want to think about another pregnancy! I'm an only child so I have no problem only having one child but my husband has siblings and he strongly feels we should have more kids. It's a hard choice to make!!

Ruth - posted on 09/17/2010

I had to have an emergency C-section and bled heavily so the consultant advised that we wait at least 2 years till we tried again. This was perfect for me as my DH had been hinting he would've liked to start trying when DD was 9 months! I wanted to wait, give her that age gap I never had between my younger brother & I as there is an 18 month gap between us! I never liked sharing my toys with him (I am a tomboy who loved Thomas the Tank amongst other 'boys' toys :P).

Amelia - posted on 09/17/2010

hey im 22 and was told id never have children due to pcos 3 months b4 falling preg with my first at 21, when he was 6 months old my partner n i planned to have another and got preg first go we not have another baby boy his 15 weeks old now and i would never take back what we planned but its very hard my partner works on the oil rigs so goes away every 4 weeks for 4 weeks, though they are both sleeping through now and they are both very happy due to good routine which is the only way i could have handle things plus plenty of family support from my parents.

Sara - posted on 09/17/2010

no ur not out of ur mind i was 24 when i had my lil girl and i really cant wait to have more we would like 4 but the only hing stopping us at the min is we need to get a house with more room

Jaime - posted on 09/16/2010

My son is almost 12 weeks and i never got to know what a new born really looked like or how it felt like holding a new baby b/c my son was 10lbs 4oz and now at 12 weeks he looks like a 6month old. I want to have another one soon but im not sure if i want one this soon..but i would give anything to have a baby that didnt look like a todler when i had him..lol

Tara - posted on 09/16/2010

I am 21 years old as well..my son is now 7 months old and I do think about having another..I like to hear of mothers who had a bad experience with labor still want more, than shows how strong you are. My labor went really well, thank God. I laid only 8 hours total in labor. Here is my opinion on why I am waiting for a while after the 1st...for one, I want to pay all of my attention to my son at this critical age of development and learning. I can't do that if I have another, also I want to not haft to share any love, and be able to focus it all on him while he is little. So, I think I am going to wait till he is school age to have another. But, on the other hand, some say having them close together is better...but thats your decision. Right now I think that you are just missing being pregnant and all...cause I did really bad and still do :) Good luck with everything tho!

Jess - posted on 09/16/2010

remember that is easier to get pregnant right after having a baby...my kids are 7, 22 months, and 6 months...i think 2 to 3 years is good spacing....but i hated being pregnant every time...i was so miserable. I would wait and let your body adjust before gettin pregnant again

Nicole - posted on 09/16/2010

I personally didn't want two children in diapers - it's expensive and a lot more work. There are pros and cons to having kids close together, both for you and for the kids. It's recomended by most doctors to give your body at least 2 years between pregnancies to let your body fully recover. So definately get the ok from your doctor first, especially since you had some issues with your first pregnancy. I can understand the want or need to have kids close together - some do it for the closeness in age, some do it because they started their family later in life, etc. My girls are 4 1/2 y/o and 7 months old. This has worked out well becuase my oldest can entertain herself when I need to direct my attention to the baby. I've had friends with kids close in age and I don't know how they do it - especially during the toddler years! Plus, remember that your hormones are still all over the place and will be for a few more months. Once that passes and you really get into being a mom, you may change your mind :)

Jennifer - posted on 09/16/2010

My son's birthday was Jan 21 2010 and I found out I am pregnant again in April of 2010. I was only not pregnant for 10 weeks lol. My kids are going to be exactly one year apart

Amber - posted on 09/16/2010

i waited 4 years between my two and im happy that i did my oldest is lot of help with my baby, some are ready right away and some arent

Allison - posted on 09/16/2010

I felt the same way when my baby boy was that age. Right now as he is 5 months old, however, I have changed my mind. And not because things have been horrible with the baby. For some reason I just realized I'm not ready for another one right now. I'm not sure if it was hormones or just being so fresh from having a baby. But now I know I'm not quite ready. But I most certainly had those thoughts when he was 8 weeks old! No doubt about it. But the thing that's nice about being a mom is that you always know when you're supposed to be doing something and if it's the right thing. I love that. How else would we even be able to raise our children? We just go with our own feelings and things work out. I think it's wonderful that after such a struggle with getting the baby here that you're wanting to try again. If it's something you guys both want then I say go for it! That is so exciting! Good for you.

Carrie - posted on 09/16/2010

My daughter is 4 and my son is 2. I would advise to shoot for maybe 3 years in difference. It's kinda hard to have a newborn while you still have a toddler who still needs a lot of attention. It is your decision but I think you should enjoy your baby and let nature run it's course.

Sheena - posted on 09/15/2010

My little man is 14 weeks old and we are already trying again. I love having them close in age and yes its hard work and never a dull moment but in the end I wouldn't trade any of it. Yes I did have a very difficult pregnancy with this one but like I said its all worth it when you look down at your baby and see his/her smile. :-)

Amanda - posted on 09/15/2010

i cant wait to have another 1!!!! my son is 3 and starting school monday.....i wanna lil girl nos sooo bad.....i thinkin bout adoptin.....i love kids :)

Ashley - posted on 09/15/2010

I was just like you!! I have a 5 yr old and and after a mis carriage i just couldn't get pregnant again until last yr and now i have a 4month old and i couldn't be happier, but i do wish that they were a lot closer in age!! So sometimes it takes a while and sometmes it doens't, you just have to be willing to deal with it if you do get preganat fast! but i would say dont wait too long!!

Sophie - posted on 09/15/2010

my son is 11 monhs old and i dont want any more children just yet its too soon for me i want to enjoy the child i have a bit more first

Heather - posted on 09/15/2010

My SIL got pregnant w/ #2 when her 1st was only 3 months old and she couldn't nurse any more b/c she dried up. She had the hardest time when the 2nd was born. The 2nd and 3rd are about 19 months apart. Her 3rd pregnancy was really hard. She just had her 4th who is 2 yrs younger than the 3rd and she says her pregnancy is easier b/c of the spacing and less kids in diapers is nice too. She wanted her kids close together but is now saying 2 yrs is good for her. There are definite risks with having kids spaced really close together. That doesn't mean that all women will have hard pregnancies if spaced closely but it is a risk for a reason. Close spacing is not for me (lots of reasons) but it works for some. Do some research, talk to your OB and people who have done it so you are aware of the pros and cons.

Krista - posted on 09/15/2010

I totally agree with you. Once I came home from the hospital after having my little guy, I totally wanted to do it again. I missed being pregnant and labor (believe it or not) was fun and exciting for me!! And I was in labor for 3 days, got a fever throughout it, had to be on antibiotics and ended it all in a c-section lol. I can't wait to have more babies though!! Being a mom has just been the best.

India - posted on 09/15/2010

i agree! i have baby fever like crazy! i am the oldest of 7 kids and after that i have a brother that just turned 19. i was an only child for 3 years until he came along. i wanted my kids to be close in age but i just got the implenon put it so i have to wait another 3 years. which is good for so many reasons than one! LOL! even though my heart is ready financially im not so not gonna take any chances as of now, but i do want another one BAD!

Liz - posted on 09/15/2010

I have a set of b/g twins who are two years old, and we surprisingly got pregnant while I was on the pill. My twins and my youngest son are 25 months apart. Their birthday is June 8th, and his birthday is July 12th. I had originally hoped to have my kids two to three years apart ( even though this one was a complete surprise), but after going through the pregnancy with two toddlers, and having three kids in diapers we are going to wait to try and conceive until after our youngest turns three. I'm hoping to have the next child before he turns four. It was a rough pregnancy since I am a stay at home mom I was absolutely exhausted by the time my husband got home from work. So hopefully it will be a bit easier next time around when my kids will be out of diapers and in school. My twins will be starting kindergarten by then, and my youngest in preschool.

Mandy - posted on 09/15/2010

That really is a common feeling you have. You aren't out of your mind. My advise is to enjoy the baby you have right now. They grow so fast and when you're pregnant you can't devote 100% to your child. Mine will be 3 years apart and I feel like I've really been able to enjoy watching my daughter grow and learn and we've bonded really well. Don't know if I'd have been able to do that if I had a newborn to care for as well. She's independent enough now I think we can handle it. Good luck!!

Jessy - posted on 09/15/2010

I'd say give it time...diapers...diapers....

Sharne - posted on 09/15/2010

lol I was ready to start again before I had even given birth. I just love every part of it! unfortunatly this time around it is taking quite a while for us to conceive but thats just the way things happen. If you talk to your GP I think there are some risks involved in getting pregnant again so soon. Good luck with what ever you choose

Tia - posted on 09/15/2010

I think there is just something that makes you realize you would endure the sickness and pain and long nights just to hold another mini you...It is such a wonderful feeling!

Kira - posted on 09/14/2010

I wanted to go again right after I'd given birth to my first child (a boy). But husband said lets just see how we go with the 1st one. We made the decision to wait until he was 9 months old seens as though I carried him for 9 months, to restore nutrition levels or until he was walking. Anyways he started walking at 9 months old to the day so we started trying and fell pregnant right away. I now have 2 boys 4 days short of 18 months apart. My greatest joy is watching them being boys together playing and interacting. They're completely different to each other and have completely different personalities! Love them so much

Melanie - posted on 09/14/2010

I have a 6 yr old and thought sure i could handle another oner now. Had my next child and thought why did i waite so long but then found out I was preggers again when my daughter was just 10mnths old. Let me tell you, its the hardest thing ever. Only having 20 mnths bwt them is so tiring and stressful. You need to have a great support team behind you cause if ur like me, everyday will be hell

Tia - posted on 09/14/2010

I am ready and I have a 2 year old and 7 month old,,,

Laura Zoey - posted on 09/14/2010

Just what my obgyn told me!

Shannon - posted on 09/14/2010

"That said, if you conceive before your child is 1 it puts you in a high risk pregnancy as it's not enough time for your body to heal before being pregnant again."
not true. my daughter was only 6, almost 7 months when i conceived my son, and im having a low-risk pregnancy, almost identical to my previous. dont scare people by stating things that are obviously not true. not trying to be mean, just trying to straighten things out. :)

Laura Zoey - posted on 09/14/2010

Medically speaking the healthiest recommendation is to wait to conceive until your child turns 2. That is to ensure each child gets a minimum of 2 years of breastfeeding. And to make sure your stomach muscles etc are back to full strength.



That said, if you conceive before your child is 1 it puts you in a high risk pregnancy as it's not enough time for your body to heal before being pregnant again.



Now personally, I wanted my kids exactly 2 years apart. So we started trying when Eric was 13months. We conceived when he was 16months so they will be just about a month over two years apart. I understand the medical risks of prematurely weaning him before 2 years so I am breastfeeding him through my pregnancy. I plan on him still nursing even after the baby is nor, because the longer he breastfeeds, the better protected he is from many diseases, conditions, cancers, etc.



But when I was in the hospital after I gave birth to Eric, I remember telling my husband "I want to do that again!" I never stopped wanting another, but until Eric was 1 I knew it would be unhealthy for both of us to conceive then.



So I'd recommend two years in between births at a minimum, and two years before conceiving the ideal time.

Shayna - posted on 09/13/2010

My son is currently 16 months and we just had a new baby girl added to our family at the end of August. They were both c-sections. We decided to have our last child in late October and stopped birth control and to our surprise were pregnant by the end of December. So far having both children to care for has been ok, but that's because my mom is here helping me due to my husband being deployed. Once she leaves it's going to be a little different story. It's going to be a different job but definitely worth it. Good luck on whatever choice you choose.