Are You still with the babydaddy?/ The reason i ask?

Chilquitta - posted on 11/15/2009 ( 469 moms have responded )

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Today i have notice that most young mom are not with their child father. I want to know if that is true for most young mom. Are you married, or just been together? Do yall have a good relationship or do you hate each other?



I ask because i wanted to know if it was important for a child to know her Biological father because my husband want to get custody of my oldest that is not he's. I wanted to see how many mom's are still with thier child real father or how many mom's step father take care of their child. Her dad want to be in her life but can't take care of her, But he get her every want's in a while. My husband is their daily and take care of her in all ways. Her dad don't mind giving him custody because he can't pay his childsupport payments. But my husband don't want her to have nothing to do with her dad wants he get custody.

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Sarah - posted on 11/21/2009

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My husband and I were high school sweethearts and we did have 2 of our kids before we were married but now have 4 kids together and will be married for four years This December. we were together on and off for 3 and half years before we tied the knot. We most definitely have had our ups and downs but today we have a much stronger relationship because of that fact.

Laura - posted on 11/21/2009

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We have been together for 3 years and are v happy. But he does have a child with the ex...it has taken a while but relations between us all have gradually got better.

MJ - posted on 11/21/2009

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No way. He was a terrible boyfriend BUT he's a great father and thats all that matters. We get along a lot better now.

Jackie - posted on 11/21/2009

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I'm still with my boys dad hasn't been easy but it has gotten way better we get along good.

Mrs. - posted on 11/21/2009

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im with my babys fether.been 2 gether 3yrs and married since april. we still have ups and downs but i cant imagine my life without him in it.

NIKITA - posted on 11/21/2009

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3years nd engaged we have our ups nd downs but or relationship is still stronger than ever,we love each other nd get along great with each other. in his eyes im wifey nd in my eyes he's hubby,he's a great father nd to him im da perfect mom nd we wouldnt trade each other for all the money in the world :)

Kate - posted on 11/21/2009

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i've been with the father of my children for 5 and a half yrs and married for 3 and a half we have two children and im only 22 and gd relationship

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I havent been with my sons father since I was about 7 moinths pregnant, we were really young and his parents really made it impossible for him to be there. He is 23 now and now he chooses not to be there so its just me

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I havent been with my sons father since I was about 7 moinths pregnant, we were really young and his parents really made it impossible for him to be there. He is 23 now and now he chooses not to be there so its just me

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I havent been with my sons father since I was about 7 moinths pregnant, we were really young and his parents really made it impossible for him to be there. He is 23 now and now he chooses not to be there so its just me

Katie - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am with my child's father, but in the beginning of my pregnancy we were not because we were not financially stable and did not have a place to live together, but did keep in contact almost everyday. We were not broken up just separated until he found a job. We have been together 4 years this December 22 and do plan on getting married some where in the near future. It is hard because I'm 9 months prego and he is the only one who is holding 2 jobs to support me and our coming baby, but we wouldn't want it any other way.

Nicole - posted on 11/21/2009

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Im still with my daughters father, we aren't legally married but we basically are. We had an awesome love before and now we have a very special bond. I could never see myself being with anyone else.

Bianca - posted on 11/21/2009

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I was very young when I met my child's father and I did't really know him when I found out I was expecting. It turned out he was an abuser, control freak, and was not stable with his money. We been living together for two years and I couldn't take the stress anymore. We are trying to keep it healthy relastionship but it is really hard when your baby daddy is a diffcult person

Jennifer - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am with my kids father.. I have been for almost 10 yrs now, we have 3 kids and we have been married for almost 5yrs!!! Our relationship is great, we are each others best friend!! There are a lot of people out there my age though that are not with there babies dad, but there are also a lot out there that are still together too!!

Abbey - posted on 11/21/2009

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My partner and I have been together for 7 1/2 years now, engaged for almost 4 1/2 of those years. He is the father of both my children, and despite the ups and downs and the downright difficult times, we have worked through it all and I believe we are stronger for it. We work well together, and can't wait to get married as soon as we can sensibly afford to :)

Linnaea - posted on 11/21/2009

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I'm not with my son's father and i'm happy that way. I got tired of being lied to by him and told him off. I can't stand him but he's still madly in love with me. I guess that's just how it goes. I know a lot of young single moms and i've found that they're much happier that way. it all just depends on the person.

Venessa - posted on 11/21/2009

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WELL I AM NO LONGER WITH MY CHILDS FATHER. AND WE HAVENT BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 1/2 YEARS. HE HAS MISSED A LOT OF MY SONS GROWING UP. WE DONT HATE EACH OTHER BUT WE DONT HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP EITHER. HE IS ABOUT TO GET MARRIED AND IM HAPPY FOR HIM. BUT HE'S STILL STUCK IN THE PAST, WANTS TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TO. I BELIEVE HE IS USING THE WOMAN TO MAKE ME JEALOUS SO I'LL GO BACK TO HIM BUT AFTER WHAT I WENT THRU WITH HIM AFTER I GOT PREGNANT HECK TO THE NO I'M NOT GOING BACK I'LL WAIT ON GOD TO SEND ME A REAL MAN THAT WILL APPRECIATE THE GOOD WOMAN THAT I AM.

Shana - posted on 11/21/2009

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no. was married to his father but after years of abuse toward me and then he started on my newborn son i took my son n filed for divorce. best decision i ever made.

Vanessa - posted on 11/21/2009

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I'm 21 and my husband and I will be having our 3 year annivaersary in March. Our second child will be born in February. I love my husband and my girls, wouldn't have it any other way!

Monae - posted on 11/21/2009

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Me and my kids father has been 2gether since I was 13!! WOW!!!{im 29 NOW!!} we have 3 beautiful kids.We r not married YET but 1 day hope to b. Every1 has there good and bad days but I can say 4 us 2 have been REAL RESPECTFUL to each other and he is my BEST Friend 4 this long it makes me SCARED to get married.

Leah - posted on 11/21/2009

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I was for the first two years but we slowly grew apart. We never married, we are friends but its not easy.

Leah - posted on 11/21/2009

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I was for the first two years but we slowly grew apart. We never married, we are friends but its not easy.

Amanda - posted on 11/21/2009

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My sons father and I split when i was 6 months pregnant and ive never seen him since, my son is now almost 3 years old. My best friend took on the daddy role for my son when he was just 4 months old and we've been together ever since, we just had a baby girl in August. I couldnt be happier... :-)

Krystal - posted on 11/21/2009

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personally i think a relationship changes after u have kids, SOMETIMES i think most of the time it does. Am i the only 1 that thinks that?

Shalane - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am 25 with a 10 month old baby girl. We are not together, he is in another relationship. At one time I did think we were going to get married and have more children. Then at 6 months pregnant he did and said some uncalled things. I left, had my daughter on my own, I go to college, work full time, and I dont suggest anyone to have children by themselves. It has been very hard, he just met her in Oct, & I have never received a single penny. His new girlfriend and I cannot get along, she is older but likes to cuss me. Did i mention that she is his best friends wife? I did the right thing by leaving, he is not a man I want to be with! I now have a beautiful 10 month old baby and I would do it all over again for her!! No, I do not have a boyfriend, I am to busy and the time is not right just yet.

Krystal - posted on 11/21/2009

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well i have 2 baby fathers and the 1st 1 it just didnt work out but we cool off and on and my 2nd baby father we still 2gether until we hate each other again

Brittani - posted on 11/21/2009

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Well have are ups & downs but we are tryna work things out.....We have been together almost 5 years he have asked me to marry he many times but I feel as if we still need to work on sumthings before that big step!!! We have a great relationship & no we dnt hate each other!!! Im giving it time cause I LOVE HIM & I KNW HE LOVES ME!!!!

Valarie - posted on 11/21/2009

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we've been together off and on for four years we have two kids, one is a yr the other almost a month we plan to get married in october we have been through a lot but we've made it through

Kimberly - posted on 11/21/2009

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I love that "happily divorced". I am remarried but I am still "happily divorced" from the first low life...thank Gawd we had no children together!!!

Desiree - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am happily divorced from my baby daddy. We have no relationship with each other, we just hand my daughter over to each other for visitation and thats it.

Kimberly - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am married and, although contrary to popular belief, marriages that last for the long haul are work!!! I was only married 3 months when I became (planned) pregnant with my daughter. We have a STRONG Christian foundation for our marriage and I think thats why we're together still because marriage is not always a picnic in the park and a "new marriage" doesn't become easier with a hormonal pregnancy. We both want the same future for ourselves and our daughter and thats important.

Amanda - posted on 11/21/2009

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Yes I am!!!We wasnt married at first when we had our first child we gotten married while I was pregnant with our middle child.At times he gets under my skin...and he can act weird... but overall we have a great relationship

Danielle - posted on 11/21/2009

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Wellllll...I am 24 years old and I have been engaged for almost 2 years now. We have been together for almost 5 years. He is my baby's father, fiancee, but most importantly he is my "Best Friend". Our relationship is amazing. I can talk to him about any and everything. He loves me with all his heart through the good, bad, and through my flaws. I feel that I am lucky to have meet a man like him and to have the honor to bear his child. I know it's crazy to say this but I feel that 75% of women know that their men are no good before they even lay down and have unprotected sex. So I feel that "some" women put theirselves and that predicament. Stay bless!

LaTisha - posted on 11/21/2009

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Well me and my kids dad have been 2getha for 6 yrs and our kds r 3 & 4. We were friends b4 we were lovers and I think that is great. We r young parents but we arent like most couples, he turns me on still as I do him actually I think the kids brung us closer. I had 2 realize that communication is the key 2 making everyone more happy!!!!

Andrea - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am still with my baby's daddy, we have a wonderful relationship.. I think we have faught one time in the three years we have been together.. We are not married but should be...

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depend on y you ask dis question?you should never stay with da child dad cause of da child r u think ure child can b without dere dad dey can see him at weekend etc like my do it easy etc

Corinna - posted on 11/21/2009

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Been with my sons father for 4 years now, we argue just like any other couple but its quickly resolved!

Rebecca - posted on 11/21/2009

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im still with my partner, but we have our good days and bad days.

because he will not help look after our daughter unless i have a go at him

Jill - posted on 11/21/2009

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im a single parent with 2 children. i am not with either of their dads and am happy this way. the kids are not going without anything. i work full time and provide for them both. their dads are not involved.

Jody - posted on 11/20/2009

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i have been with my 4 childrens father for 9 years and married for 7 we definately have our ups and downs but that is a part of any relationship. we have a good relationship and still love each other more than ever. we have been together since high-school, and i was pregnant at 18 but i would not have done i diferently.

Kaitlynn - posted on 11/20/2009

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I'm still with my daugher's father. We've been together 2 years and plan to get married eventually. Whenever he has time between going to tours to Afghanistan for the army I suppose.

Samantha - posted on 11/20/2009

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my name is samantha and me and my baby daddy started off as a happy loveing gf bf but about 6 months into it we started to fight all the time I was kicking him out every 2 months and after 3 weeks of having our child i left him knowing me and our child would be better off i still love him becus hes the father of my child but as my child is 6 months old right now her father is now denying her and making a hole lot of shit up about me I think maybe cus after i left him he tryed for about 4 months to get back together but i moved on and got with someone else and now my 6 month old calls my bf daddy due to the fact as she hasnt seen her father since fathers day...so yes it does really happen we do have babies and then have the baby daddy leave us but we have to think if they can take off and deny or not be in ur childs life then what does that tell u about the guy....HES A DEAD BEAT and ur better off with out him...I know i sure am

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I've been married to my husband for 3 1/2 years and we just had our first baby. He is the most wonderful man I have ever known and we are best friends. There's no one else I would rather spend my life with.

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