Are You still with the babydaddy?/ The reason i ask?

Jessica - posted on 11/19/2009

i been with my babys father for four years and once i got pregnant everything went down hill. i been through more stuff then u could imagine. It's horrible but he did some messed up things and isnt allowed near me or my daughter, he dont pay child support or do anything for her, she is 15 months old and she dont know who he is and he hasnt done one thing for her soo far and doubt he will in the future. yes im young and im not with my babys father but it made me stronger then ever. I've been with my boyfriend now for the last 10 months and he does everything for her and she loves him. she dont know her dad but in her eyes my boyfriend is her day he been there thru everything and does all that he can for her. He sees her as his own, so being without a babys father isn't bad in my case it was the best decision ever.

Jessica - posted on 11/19/2009

i been with my babys father for four years and once i got pregnant everything went down hill. i been through more stuff then u could imagine. It's horrible but he did some messed up things and isnt allowed near me or my daughter, he dont pay child support or do anything for her, she is 15 months old and she dont know who he is and he hasnt done one thing for her soo far and doubt he will in the future. yes im young and im not with my babys father but it made me stronger then ever. I've been with my boyfriend now for the last 10 months and he does everything for her and she loves him. she dont know her dad but in her eyes my boyfriend is her day he been there thru everything and does all that he can for her. He sees her as his own, so being without a babys father isn't bad in my case it was the best decision ever.

Jennifer - posted on 11/19/2009

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for almost 8 years. We have a really good relationship...we have our little fights every now and then, but nothing major. I think I got lucky in that my husband has always been there for me, he has changed diapers, given baths, anything that I do, he does too. And he works a full time job.

Chrissy - posted on 11/19/2009

I have been married twice both at a very young age and have children from both marriages. I maintain a friendship with the second ex-husband and try with the first. His (first ex-husband) current wife doesn't believe people can be friends after getting divorced. Yet with my second divorce my children took things very easily because we still have birthdays together talk when exchanging the children, and talk during the weeks he doesn't have them so everyone is up to date on what is going.

Kristen - posted on 11/19/2009

I've been with my kids father for almost 14 years, since we were both 15. We have 4 beautiful children together, 1 girl & 3 boys (

Bridget - posted on 11/19/2009

My daughter's father and I split when she was 2 years old. He was/is a low life piece of crap and hasn't wanted anything to do with her since. So needless to say we hate each other. I got married in July to a wonderful man, and we are expecting a child in June together. He has stepped up and been the father that she never had.

Ashley - posted on 11/19/2009

i just turned 22. i got married in aug of 06. we have our ups and downs like every other relationships but we try to over come them.

Mary - posted on 11/19/2009

I am not with my child's father and I have gotten married to someone else who has a child as well. Our kids get along so well with each other you'd think that they weren't step-siblings. In my situation, we were just together for a few years, we don't have the best relationship with each other now but it's not as bad as it could be. We can hold short conversations with each other but that's about it. On the other hand, my husband's ex and I are like best friends, its crazy.

Gennifer - posted on 11/19/2009

We are married. We got married in June 2000 (I was 18, he was 20). We had our son in Oct 2000 and our daughter in March 2003. We are still going strong (with some bumps along the way).

Shawna - posted on 11/19/2009

I had my 2 kids with the same man... i have been with him for 9 years now. We have a good relationship. Sometimes... well lately i feel like slapping him sometimes lol... it's just that i am going threw a difficult time with depression and one of my son's has autism but other than the lack of support all is good.



I am 26... That's considered young right...? :p

Kelly - posted on 11/19/2009

Married for 4 years, we love each other =]

Kelly - posted on 11/19/2009

Married for 4 years, we love each other =]

Desiree - posted on 11/19/2009

Yes, I am still with my baby's daddy. My husband and I got pregnant 2 weeks after our wedding and we are still married (barely haha). Things have been really rough, but we are getting stronger everyday...

Rebecca - posted on 11/19/2009

I've been married to my husband for almost 2 years and I don't know what I'd do without him. Sometimes I get extremely angry at him and wish I could kick his butt, but I wouldn't trade him for anyone else in the world. He is also the father of my child that is coming on Saturday.

Kimberely - posted on 11/19/2009

over 2 years and our relationship was rocky when we got pregnant and now it is wonderful. I think having our little girl brought us closer. We're getting married in the summer =)

TAMECIA - posted on 11/19/2009

WELL WIT MY FIRST BABY DAD WE CANT STAND EACH OTHER. BUT I DONT KEEP HIM AWAY FROM HIS DAD. MY SECOND ONE WE ARE TOGETHER NOW N PLAIN TO GET MARRIED LATER. IF THAT PERSON LOVES YOU N YOU LOVE HIM IT SHOULD WORK OUT FOR THE BOTH OF YOU. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILD(REN) OK...

Stacie - posted on 11/19/2009

i have been with my partner three years in may we have a 22month old and one on the way and he is a step dad to my 7 year old and im step mum to his 6 and a half year old.

we are getting married on the 11/11/11 at 11am and now it great that our one on the way going to be there now just makes the day even more special but we are now only having a very small wedding with close friends and family but that fine with me as ill have all four the kids there and my loved ones its going to be the fourth biggist day of my life

Nicole - posted on 11/19/2009

I am on husband number two, my three kids are from my previous marriage. my husband and I are now expecting OUR first together. I have a great relationship with my ex. He respects my husband and the fact that he is raising our kids. He is there financially when ever we need anything. His girlfriend and I get along, in fact she has a baby boy, almost one and she has offered my maternaty clothes and baby stuff. I think getting along is best for my kids, what happened in the past is in the past and I am so happy to have the husband I do now.

Ieesha - posted on 11/19/2009

I married my Father of my child and we are happy as a family he has always been there for us and support us in every way he can. I found a strong man the true meaning of a man and I am thankful I get to spend every day with him

Melissa - posted on 11/19/2009

Not married, but very much in love and very much committed to staying together, not for the kids, but because we love each other. We have a great relationship and didn't want to ruin it with the pressure of marriage or the expectations that come with it.

Claire - posted on 11/19/2009

i have been with my childrens dad since i was 16 and i am now 21 we are not married but we are sure happy

Dorothy - posted on 11/19/2009

well after 19months we decided to try work thing out!!! we have our ups and downs but if God is willing,he will not only be the father of my child he will b my husband!!

Nia - posted on 11/19/2009

My first born is nine, her father bailed. When she was about 3 or 4 I met someone who I grew to love. He spent time with me and my daughter and they were both fond of each other. We ended up moving in together a little over a year later. We been living together going on five years. We have a 1yr old and 2yr old. Our relationship is normal not perfect. We talked about marriage before but thats all it was,talk. However I'm fine with the way things are. "if it ain't broke don't try and fix it"...lol

~Good Day~

Nokukhanya "Khanyo" - posted on 11/19/2009

I stl call him cs z much z hez ths animal, hez stl her fathr n I wnt thm 2 hav a relationshp bt he told me all he z prepared 2 do z give me money 4 her whn he gets paid, end of story. I hate hm cs nw Im just a statistic, a young woman who had sex without a condom thn fell pregnant n ws dumped by the bby daddy. Its sad n stl hurts cs we planned the bby n nw its my thng.

Martha - posted on 11/19/2009

Quoting Nikkita:

I met my baby's father in February. We'd been talking/dating for three months before the first time we had sex. (yes, I know it was a short time...) That was when I got pregnant. I'm one of those VERY regular girls & I knew that I was pregnant even before I missed my period. It's every 28 days, but at day 27 when I was not cramping, I knew I was pregnant. I took a test that day, and it was confirmed. I told him later on that day, and he pretty much FREAKED OUT! I talked to him that day & the day after it...this was right at the beginning of June. I haven't really heard from him since. He'd call me every now and then in the middle of the night, but he wouldn't really talk about much. Then, about a month ago he told me that he doesn't think she's his and when she's born he wants to get her tested. I'm fine with that 1,000%, as long as he wastes his own money on it. I definately don't want to be with him anymore. I just want him to provide for his daughter. He doesn't need to be a part of my life. So, I'm VERY single & will be until I finId somebody who will work for me and my daughter.

I am sooo there with you. Everything has happened to you has happened to me also. My childs father and I were together for 5 months he cheated on me though and I found out about it and we had a huge arguement. Next thing  I know is he leaves and wishes my child a healthy life. Some nerve. I have accepted that I have caused 50% of the crazyness by getting into the situation but I did'nt get prego by myslelf either.  I know he will throw that she ain't mine thing too. So I totally feel you and I won't date either for a long time. I'm due Jan 17th. 

Leeinda - posted on 11/19/2009

I have 2 babies and one on the way. I got pregnant with my first daughter when I was 15, and surprisingly we just celebrated our 7th wedding anniv in June and in September we had been together 8 years. It's rough sometimes. Well a lot of times. There are times I would rather hit him than look at him,lol and he has times where walking off from and argument with me is the best option.--you have to take the good with the bad, and appreciate when times are good. I can't imagine mine or my childrens lives without him.

Crystal - posted on 11/19/2009

That's GREAT good luck on everything .

Fern - posted on 11/19/2009

Me and my partner are engaged, we were together about a 1 and a half before we felt it was right to try for a baby. When i was 3 months pregnant he proposed. I would like to get married but at the moment have no time or money. But we are all very happy with each other and very much in love

Megan - posted on 11/19/2009

I am still with my daughter's father, we are not married, but we also aren't worried about that either. We are happy together and what we are doing works for our situation. Don't get me wrong, there are days where I don't like him but the days that I do make up the difference.

Crystal - posted on 11/19/2009

well no im not with kids daddy i have four(4) kids and 1 we don't talk @ all the others 2 we only talk when is has sumthg 2 do with the kids but it's not a good relationship @ all it's just about the kids. And no not married never been married! :-)

Caitlin - posted on 11/19/2009

My son's father and I had only been together four months when I got pregnant (we were using birth control, but you know how THAT goes). We both wanted the baby and tried to stick it out, but in the end we realized that even though we were great parents, we were incompatible as a couple. My son's father became very jealous and possessive after I gave birth (hiding my car keys, hacking into my email, calling numbers he didn't recognize on my phone, accusing me of cheating), and our living condition became intolerable for me. We broke up when Quinn was 5 months old and have continued to co-parent, sharing custody roughly 70/30.



The truth of the matter is that his father and I are better role models apart than we are together. Quinn sees us getting along and being supportive and pleasant to each other now. If we had stayed together he would have witnessed more fighting, accusation, animosity, etc. It's really important to me that Quinn be provided not only a good view of his father and I, but also that he see what a real, loving partnership looks like. He simply was not going to get that if his father and I had stayed together.

Marion - posted on 11/19/2009

I'm still with my BD, we're not married, just together and our relationship is great

Brittany - posted on 11/19/2009

THAT IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE. I AM STILL HAPPILY WITH MY BABYDADDY. HE IS AN AMAZING FATHER AND MATE. HE IS SUPPORTING OUR FAMILY FULLY UNTIL I FINISH LAW SCHOOL.

Nicole - posted on 11/19/2009

I've been with my child's father for almost 3 years. We're not married yet, but we are engaged. This crappy economy is keeping us from getting married. I think we do have a good relationship, and he's a wonderful father...I do agree with you when you say that it seems as if most younger people are single parents...and whats worse is that some of them don't even seem to care that they're single mothers...not that they should be out finding a new dad for their child, but you'd think that they would try and work it out for the child.

Nicole - posted on 11/19/2009

I've been with my child's father for almost 3 years. We're not married yet, but we are engaged. This crappy economy is keeping us from getting married. I think we do have a good relationship, and he's a wonderful father...I do agree with you when you say that it seems as if most younger people are single parents...and whats worse is that some of them don't even seem to care that they're single mothers...not that they should be out finding a new dad for their child, but you'd think that they would try and work it out for the child.

Tiffany - posted on 11/19/2009

Seperated...but still manage a good friendship...and i greatly encourage visitations with the dad and his half sister...We even celebrate holiday events with each other families..I think its much more healthy for the children

Merci - posted on 11/19/2009

I'm still w/ my kids father &we love each other

Shirda - posted on 11/19/2009

Quoting Chilquitta:

Are You still with the babydaddy?

Today i have notice that most young mom are not with their child father. I want to know if that is true for most young mom. Are you married, or just been together? Do yall have a good relationship or do you hate each other?

Well Im 22yrs old i have two children with my babydaddy which now is my husband we just recently gotten married in july we've been together for 7years leading up to of marriage. We have a pretty good relationship as anyone else we have our ups and downs but that is ok cuz were there together.

Karen - posted on 11/19/2009

I was 18 when I had my daughter. and her father and I are not together. we split up when she was 6 months old, And my daughter will be 9 in a couple weeks. However I met my husband when she was a yr old. my husband and I have a 5 yr old son. I Couldn't be happier,

Amanda - posted on 11/19/2009

hi im amanda im 23 and i have 3 boys. they are 4(5 next mnth) 3 and 2. my oldest father left when i was 8 mnths pregnant and it was for the best he was older then i was and not rdy to settle down for a family. my two younger ones have the same father but we are not together either. we had different veiws on raising children and totally differnt life styles. he sees them all the time. my oldest well he is one of those dead beats and has no contact or any attempts at contact since my son was about 2 weeks old. and yes being a single of 3 is very hard even being a single mom of 1 is job all in its self

Nokukhanya "Khanyo" - posted on 11/19/2009

We were gn get married n al thn he startd cheating, beating me up thn finally told me he dzn have feelnz 4 me nemore

Theresa - posted on 11/19/2009

chilquitta,

im 23 almost 24 years old. when my husband i met we dated for a month then got engaged and at 9months into our relationship we got married. this april will be 4 years. our daughter is 16m and i love my hubby to death. although let me tell you there are days where i want to smash him but that is everyone. you just take 5 brush it off say what you need to and go on. a relationship is all in what you put in it. hope this helps answer your question. have a good day.

Theresa - posted on 11/19/2009

chilquitta,

im 23 almost 24 years old. when my husband i met we dated for a month then got engaged and at 9months into our relationship we got married. this april will be 4 years. our daughter is 16m and i love my hubby to death. although let me tell you there are days where i want to smash him but that is everyone. you just take 5 brush it off say what you need to and go on. a relationship is all in what you put in it. hope this helps answer your question. have a good day.

Tuesdae - posted on 11/19/2009

hmmmm i guess u could say most young mother's are not with their child's father,however there is always a good reason,Me and My Son father are not together anymore but were still friends or try to be anyway...i dont hate him but i dont like the games he play or the drama he brings so me & my son just stay to ourselves by ourselves

Tuesdae - posted on 11/19/2009

hmmmm i guess u could say most young mother's are not with their child's father,however there is always a good reason,Me and My Son father are not together anymore but were still friends or try to be anyway...i dont hate him but i dont like the games he play or the drama he brings so me & my son just stay to ourselves by ourselves

Patricia - posted on 11/19/2009

i am not with my childrens father but that is because there was abuse, drug use and he didnt give a dam i did most of the things with the girls and now that he has a new partner with 3 kids he cares, i know have problems with his new gf interfering even though we have paper work that only me and him are to deal with issues reagarding the 2 girls.

Emma - posted on 11/19/2009

i have been with girls daddy for about 6 years, we have our ups and down but our relationship is stronger than ever and i believe having kids made it stronger...we are actually getting married next wednesday!!! x

Emma - posted on 11/19/2009

i have been with girls daddy for about 6 years, we have our ups and down but our relationship is stronger than ever and i believe having kids made it stronger...we are actually getting married next wednesday!!! x

Christine - posted on 11/19/2009

i have been with mine for 5 years and we have a 3 year old... still madly in love and happy...

Sam - posted on 11/19/2009

Im 20 and have a 3wk old baby girl. Im still with her father loving him more and more everyday. we were planning on gettin engaged at the end of this yr but might post pone it and concerntrate on Lilly. But will be planning a wedding b4 this time next yr