Baby fell off the bed......Am I a horrible mother or has this happened to others before?

Rosa - posted on 05/12/2010 ( 128 moms have responded )

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So yesterday after work me and my bbd went to work on our house which is almost finished and I didn't get home until 9 p.m. so I ate took a shower and took my 8 month old son with me to my room. I tried to put him in his crib since I was so tired I just wanted to sleep but he wouldn't stay so I put out all the pillows as a barrier and put him on the bed with me. I figured he'd play a bit and fall asleep (he usually does this) and I'd put him in the crib. But I feel asleep and I was awakened by a thud...I shot straight up in the bed and discovered him face down on the floor next to it. I almost didn't want to pick him up because I was afraid to look at his face in that split second I imagined I'd pick him up to see a mangled face. But no he had no bumps no nothing....luckily one of the pillows had broken his fall. Now I have my mother and bbd mostly telling me oh you should have know better.....now look my intention wasn't to fall asleep or leave him on the bed alone...hello I know better....it really was an accident.



So am I a horrible mother????......or is it just a thing that happens to everyone?

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Beki - posted on 05/14/2010

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Dunt worry hun, this has happened 2 me b4, just b v.careful next time, I felt awful 2, but bcus ur worried shows ur a gud mum x

Kyisha - posted on 05/14/2010

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My first child fell off the bed often because I had no clue (17 year old mom) now with 7 kids (2 are my brothers and I have custody) I think we just get comfortable with them being still and forget they can move themselves right off where we put them. You are a human and we all do it say I'll just grab the pacifier real quick she'll be fine or I'll go change my shirt it'll only take a second. I think it's better to question your parenting skills than think your the best parent out there. Good luck to you and your baby. Maybe we should all buy our babies helmets lol

Darcy - posted on 05/14/2010

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I would say that you are not horrible mother.The same thing happened to me the only difference is that i was changing my babies diaper and i turned my head for one second and he was on the floor. We are mothers but were not perfect and we make mistakes. You are not a horrible mother, you are a great one because you care.

Nikkole - posted on 05/14/2010

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your not a bad mom it happens to every one. My little girl is 7 month old and a few weeks ago she was taking a nap in the chair so i layed down on the floor with my blaket and pillow just to watch some tv. she woke up and smile at me i turn my head for 2 sec and she fell out of the chair. she didnt cry untill i picked her up. I told my grandma what happen and she told me that her grandma told her that your baby needs to fall on their head 3 times and they will be smart! You go t to love old wise tales lol

Christi - posted on 05/14/2010

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it happens to everyone! the day my son came home from the hospital, my husband had to go back to work, and i was on my own. i am a first time mom and knew nothing about kiddos. he had had problems with reflux and spitting up and choking while he was sleeping, so needless to say i stayed up all night and watched him sleep so he wouldn't choke and die. that and i was so scared of sids since he was a premie. my husband was leaving for work and he had been colicy so i sat on the couch and put him on my shoulder and watched tv. i was so exhausted i fell asleep and was woken up by him screaming like he was in pain. he has just slid down my chest onto the couch, but it had scared him. i was so afraid i had hurt him that i rushed him to the er. now i know a bed is a longer fall, but it happens to all mommie. before anyone jumps your case, they should remember especially your mom, what is liek to have a newborn. you are not a horrible mother, and i am sure you even got dropped once or twice as a child, we all did. but we are normal, just be a lil more cautious is all.

Karissa - posted on 05/14/2010

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It's totally fine. Obviously you didn't want this to happen and you had a moment of misjudgement. I put my 7 month daughter on the couch with her bottle while I brought my friend his phone. The 5 seconds I was away from her she leaned forward and fell of the couch. Normally she sits there nice and happy so I didn't think about it, until she fell on her face on the wood floor. Mistake on my part and I won't be doing it again.
You and you son will by fine. Don't let other people get you down. You are a great mom!! Just as long as you learn your lesson :)

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2010

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well i cant say it happens to everyone but your not a bad mom your human so dont worry just be more careful is all

Hannah - posted on 05/14/2010

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i hope it happens to everyone, cos iv had 3babies and unfortunatly all of them have fallen off my bed once!! not v good tho! lol

Cindy - posted on 05/14/2010

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Well my daughter has never fallen off the bed because i'm always afraid i'ma fall asleep and roll over on her lol! I can say, however, that she's fallen off chairs, our couch, fallen off of her feet lol! No you are not a bad mother, you didn't mean to harm him and you immediately checked up on him. Like many other mothers have told you Im sure, your son will fall a lot, he's a child. As long as you take the best precautions to prevent injuries i.e. the pillows, you will be fine. Of course now you prolly learned that perhaps a nap on a low-lying couch might be a better solution lol! Its a learning experience, none of us were given handbooks hehe. Just remember, proper precautions, neosporin and kisses!

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No you are not a horrible mother. My daughter is 2 years old and I can't count the number of times she has fallen off of something LOL. It's a learning experience..as long as you learn from it you move on. Trust me this won't be the last time:)

Sonia - posted on 05/14/2010

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It's happened to me too. Now he has started to figure out how to get off the furniture slowly and is only nine months old. Daddy and I would hold the back of his clothes while he would slowly slide off the couch and now he does it himself.

Tiffany - posted on 05/14/2010

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i am a mother of 3 and they have all had their falls off the beds, couch, chair.... my oldest went sliding down some stairs 'carpeted' riding on a safety gate tummy and face first. i cot him about 2 steps from the bottom. my husband and i felt horrible for so long. but our son was fine just spooked. it happens to the best of us mothers. and just remember it more then likely has happen to the people that are giving you a hard time too. I normally tell them "yes i know, and it just happens, so don't yell at me about this cause i feel bad enough. thanks!"
and just remember you are a great mom!

Keena - posted on 05/14/2010

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I thought the same thing when my daughter fell out the bed, but it happens and will probably happen again. Dont beat yourself up over it and dont let anyone make you feel horrible!!

Heather Lea - posted on 05/14/2010

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my oldest child learned to climb before walking...she would climb the back of the couch and up onto the bar any chance that i took my eyes off of her for a few seconds....needless to say oh yes she had her falls off of things quite a bit and is just fine :) a smart almost 9 yr old excelling in schoool :)



the baby at oh maybe 6 months got one of those wild looks in her eyes and ya just know she was up to no good...kicked herself out of my grip and went speed crawling right off the end of the bed, back flipped onto the night stand thrashing around like a beached wale and tumbled onto the floor...landing there like how in the heck did i get here? is now 11 months and just fine :)



it's never easy, always a scary thought...but it happens...lol i've done banging my baby's head into the wall carrying her and she fighting with me...kids are resilient





and as for the falling asleep...i'm sure your mom if she remembered, has one of those moments as well....i've fallen asleep on the couch by accident while the baby was playing on the floor, it happnes.

Rebecca - posted on 05/14/2010

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You are not a bad mother! Shame on anyone that tells you you are! Accidents will happen and they will fall A LOT over these next few months. Are you going to get yelled at if he's trying to walk and he falls. It happens. It has not happened to me because I'm anal and always leave my kids on the floor but trust me, my son fell a lot and had bumps on him when he was trying to walk. It's a part of life.
You're doing a great job!!

Jessica - posted on 05/14/2010

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Trust me......it will NOT be the last time! I have a 4 Yr old, and she decided to jump off of a barstool. Unfortunatly she landed flat on her hip, and I had to take her in to make sure she didnt dislocate it. Kids will be kids, and the only thing you can do is remind them to be careful and that it hurts. Just dont visually freak out about it, and they will pick up that things happen and a bump is ok. I tell my daughter all the time to be careful, if she wants to climb trees, and rocks. when she falls off, I tell her she is ok, and she gets back up and tries it again but being more alert to what she is doing..

Stacie - posted on 05/14/2010

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NO!!!!! Not a bad mom. I let that happen to my little sister. There is a 16 year difference. My older sister had that happen with both of her children so many times and laughed about it! My little one went off the couch. I am sure it happened more but I just don't remember. If you were a bad mom, you would not have been scared or worried. U were so you are a good mommy!

Nadia - posted on 05/14/2010

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hiya hun ive been thinking im a bad mum allday , my daughter is 7 and half months old , i put her on the bed same as you with the pillows i went to turn the tv on for her and all i heard was thud and then she looked and screamed , she hasnt got a bump or anything . a kiss and a cuddle and she was fine , that was her 1st fall , luckly our bed is a low one , dont beat yourself up x

Tonya - posted on 05/14/2010

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i dont think so at all..i mean accidents do happen! My daughter has fallen off the couch...

Susan - posted on 05/14/2010

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It happens to the best of us, when your that tired though you should try rocking them to sleep first , That's what usually works for all of mine lol, things happen though when my daughter was 2 we put her in a toddler bed and she fell out one night, I felt horrible.

Mahnoor - posted on 05/14/2010

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do not bother as they will fall often and for ur info babies have sturdy heads and noyhing happens but u do be careful otherwise too

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2010

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My son had 3 nasty spills when he was an infant... first at 3 months when he rolled off the couch before I knew he could roll :P the second off the change table (b/f was cahnging him) and then off my bed while I was physically touching him! He just went. It happens all the time we can only hope that the worst that happens is the baby gets shook up a little ... which in my experience is all that ever happened!

Rosa - posted on 05/14/2010

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THANKS TO ALL OF YOU I AM SOOO GLAD THAT EVERYONE HAS BEEN IN THE MY BABY FELL ON MY WATCH CLUB....

Krystle - posted on 05/14/2010

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Oh my goodness, girl, you are most certainly NOT a bad mother for that. I think most mothers on here would agree that it happens to the best of us. And your mother of all people should be telling you that as well. No offence to her, I don't know her or your baby daddy and I don't mean to talk down about them but they shouldn't be making you feel as bad as you do. Every mom feels horrible when their baby rolls off the couch or the bed, and every mom questions whether or not they're horrible for it and whether or not their baby hates them now. You know as well as anyone else that you love that child and would do anything for him and would never in your right mind put him in harms way. I'm sure you're a wonderful mom, and that will never change. The good thing is that by now your baby has most likely forgotten the whole ordeal and only knows that he still loves you....and trusts you....don't worry! You're just fine and nobody judges you, those who do, just aren't right!

Kathy - posted on 05/14/2010

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nooooo ofcourse your not a bad mother. These things happen, especially to first time mothers? Its a shame that your own mother and bbd never gave you support about this. But dont worry, us mothers here in "circle of mothers" will support you :D

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2010

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This happened to me once when I was babysitting a friend's child (before I became a mother). A friend of mine turned her back for just a second and her daughter rolled off her change table. I think this is a fairly common thing. You're not a bad mother. You're human and you were exhausted! These things just happen. Your baby is fine and I'm sure you learned from the experience so I doubt it'll ever happen again.

Amy - posted on 05/14/2010

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Wow this kinda makes me feel better too. My daughter has fallen off the bed and couch. When she was younger. Shes 13 mths and tries to Jump off the bed and couch all the time lol. Shes a Daredevil.

Valencia - posted on 05/14/2010

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I have 4 kids and they all have fallen off the bed a time or two. It does not make you a bad mother, I'm pretty sure it happens to everyone. Even we as children may have fallen off the bed.

Katie - posted on 05/14/2010

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You're NOT a horrible mother. My daughter has fallen off the couch and tripped on her own feet so many times. Things just happen.

Maybe next time you have him sleep in bed with you you can push your bed all the way to the wall so its like a rail and he can't fall off that side and then he has you as another rail so he can't roll that way. I know what you mean, there have been times where I was just to tired to deal with a crying baby at night so I dragged her in with me. I try not to make it a habit because I never get good sleep when she sleeps with me. She tosses and turns SO much at night!!

Sheena - posted on 05/14/2010

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my daughter was only 2 weeks old when she fell of the bed for the first time she was just lying there and then rolled over and down she went i felt like a horrible mother as well but it happens to everybody i was told and she is a strong heathy 2 year old now ao noting to worrie about

Jenna - posted on 05/14/2010

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Something like that happens to everyone ... you are NOT a horrible mother ... your baby is fine.

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2010

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Not a horrible mother. My 6 month old just fell off the couch the 2 days ago. I was right there and everything. Watched it happen. I managed to soften the fall but he still fell. And you know what he is still the same guy and loves me the same and no damage was done. Dont beet yourself up about it.

Mija - posted on 05/14/2010

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i too have such experiances...2 to 3 times,that time i was so shocked and with god's grace nothing happened..and this make me to give him more attentions all time even sleeping..

Miranda - posted on 05/14/2010

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Definately not a bad mom! I can't remember what age my son fell of the bed, but he was around the 8 month age!! It happens to the majority of us, no matter how hard we try. Dpn't worry, they are surprisingly "durable"! :) This doesn't make you a bad parent ,and if your mother and your childs father is yelling at you, I would ask your mom if she ever accidently did something that she didn't mean to happen with you or your siblings (if you have any?) and your childs father should ask his mom if she ever accidently dropped/let him fall etc....I bet you the answer would be yes! Don't worry about it, just wait until they start walking, it will practically look like they are a walking bruise!! :D

Lin - posted on 05/14/2010

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You know how they make bibs saying "spit happens"? They need to make pants that say "gravity happens" across the butt.

Seriously, though, its a good thing he's learning that falling isn't fun just doing something minor like falling onto a pillow.

KRISTY - posted on 05/13/2010

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i was changing my lil fella and i turned my back for no more then 2 seconds literally and he rolled off his change table these things happens and after the first fall u get (dont laugh) but i call them my baby ninja reflexes lol so dont stress ur not a bad mum these things happen to every one at one time or another and if they say it dosent they are liars

Tyneisha - posted on 05/13/2010

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Please. You're hardly a bad mother. This won't be the last bump he gets. Babies fall. Especially when he starts to walk. He'll definitely take a few more spills. Im always cover and watch my son, but he always fall. He's one and there isn't a day that goes by that he doesn'y bump his head or fall. He's so used to it that he does even react. It can't prevent every accident.

Casey - posted on 05/13/2010

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trust me i understand i have accidently fallen asleep on the couch with my baby playing its easy to do when your exausted after a long days work. but no your not a bad mother i dont no a baby or a mom who hasnt had there baby accidently fall off a bed it happens to every one and every baby. when my daughter fell off our bed she got a huge not on her head so i panicked an called the doctor she even told me that if a baby dont fall off a bed before its a year old its a miricle so dont worry. an the only time you should worry if it happens again is if the not is indented in

Heather - posted on 05/13/2010

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If u are feeling horrible then ur a WONDERFUL mother....only a horrible mother wouldnt feel bad. i managed to make it to 9 months with my daughter before she rolled out of bed at naptime with mommy. since she she has had so many bumbs and bonks....but she is fine after a hug and kiss!

Emma - posted on 05/13/2010

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my 4 mnth old fell off the changin table my stupid fault as she wasnt rollin at the time so tht ill jst gt the sleepsuit frm behind me nxt thng she was on the floor, felt awful she cried, i cried bt she was fine

Megan - posted on 05/13/2010

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My 6 week old daughter fell off the coach last night. She had been there one second and the next I heard a thud. Oh I freaked. I didnt tell anyone especially her father because I dont want to hear the comments.

Ashly - posted on 05/13/2010

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You are not a horrible mother at all! I left my daughter on the middle of our bed ( a matress on the ground) just to walk out to the car to get a bag. I walked back in the house and she was face first on the ground but she had fallen onto a glass bowl that was left on the floor. Talk about feeling like the worst mother on the planet!! Even if they tell you that, try not to let it get to you! Everyone makes mistakes, and i bet that your mother made some too when you were a baby! Don't let someone else make you feel like a bad mother.

Ashley - posted on 05/13/2010

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You are not a bad mother by any means. My little man dove of the bed once and bit his cheek and was bleeding all over. I felt really bad but he was okay. Now everytime he is on the bed he goes straight for the edge and tries to dive off. Same thing with the couch too. He is wild. You can only try to protect your baby from everything but lets face it the only way woudl be to put him in a plastic bubble forever.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/13/2010

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I think it happens to everyone. One Sunday morning I put my 6 month old son in his walker in his room so he could play while I got ready for Church. After about 10 minutes I heard a thunk and then my son screaming! I ran in to see what happened and he had some how jumped out of his walker! Poor boy had a split lip, but over all he was fine. You are not a horrible mom by any means!!

Stephanie - posted on 05/13/2010

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You definitely are not a horrible mother, sweetheart. As many have said, it happens to the best of us. My son is like a monkey and climbs all over everything... I can't tell you how many times he has fallen off my bed.. and he's completely normal. You didn't mean to fall asleep. At least you didn't put him on the bed and leave the room to take a shower! Falling asleep on accident is completely normal... we're only humans!!! :)

Blythe - posted on 05/13/2010

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my son fell when he was a week old off the couch on to our hardwood floor and again when he was 8 weeks he fell onto carpet. he acts normal now but i felt so bad i cried, i still do and my boyfriend, his dad, tells me im a horrible mother for letting it happen he brings it up every now and then and holds it over my head, so im glad to know im not alone!!

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It happens all the time! I can't count the amount of times my kids have fallen these days. They have made me fall out as well. It is absolute exsaustion is why you do it. Kids are so much more robust than what we think. You are not a bad mother and even if people don't admit it... Yes it happens to everyone.

Zante - posted on 05/13/2010

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i completely agree. your not a bad mom your a normal mom and it happens to all moms. my daughter crawled out of her crib and fell the floor at 9months old, at a 2yrs she JUMPED off my couch to see daddy and we had to take her the ER, she was fine (thank goodness) but i felt the same way. the ER doctor said well with how active she is it's surprising this is your first hospital visit of this nature and that i was a completely normal mom who in fact wasn't anything but a good parent. Good luck keep ur head up

Heather - posted on 05/13/2010

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Stuff like this happends you just know better for next time right! Your not a horrible mother!

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