Catherine - posted on 07/11/2012
sometimes staying with the child until they fall asleep back fires. i did it for a while with my son but then he started not going to sleep when i wanted him to and i would end up falling asleep in his bed with him, and not be able to finish the things around the house i wanted to do before my bed time. Now i tuck him into bed, lie down with him to read a story or 2 then tell him i will sing him 1 (or 2 ) bed-time songs then im going to leave because i have things to do. when he protests (sometimes he doesn't and just excepts that im going and i hug him and kiss him and tell him sweet dreams and hes good to fall asleep on his own), i tell him that if he stays quiet in his bed while i (for example) wash the dishes i will come back and check on him. then i go out of his room, with the baby gate up so he cant wonder out, and by the time im done whatever chore it is, i check on him and he is already asleep. this way he isn't crying for me, i get to do my housework, and i keep my word of checking in on him and he goes to sleep on his own so we are both happy. i hope this works for you :)
Corinna - posted on 07/11/2012
My first daughter had the same problem. My method took a few months but she's been sleeping perfectly on her own for almost a year now and it's a huge relief now that she does. When my daughter was around ten months old, I had specific bedtimes and nap times, and at those times I would bring her to my bed with a bottle. Lay there till she slept then move her into her bed. After a while of her getting used to that, I started putting her in her bed with her bottle and would stay there till she fell asleep. After she was totally comfortable with that, I started leaving the room. If she cried , I would go up every time she cried and tell her "it's okay, moms right down stairs" , pat her back , just comfort her without picking her up then I'd leave. At this time she was already off the bottle and she still got milk in a sippy cup. Week after week, she started crying for me less and less till one day she stopped. It's now rare that she ever calls for me. She loves going to bed, loves being in her bed. I found that to be the best way to do it. I tried cry it out, and am now completely against it.
Dawn - posted on 07/11/2012
Create a bedtime routine. Start with the typical night time rituals (brush teeth, use potty, get into sleep clothes). Then, start the winding down period. Sit in a comfy chair in her room or on her bed (if not in a crib, of course), and then read a bedtime story to her. Once the story is over, in a quiet (inside voice, hush tone) sing her a song (don't worry if you can't carry a tune, she won't notice)...rub her back, arms, legs (give a massage). This routine will help get her relaxed and ready for to close her eyes. Make sure she has her favorite stuffed animal or security blanket, and the night light is on too. Then, after she has nodded off to sleep, step out of the room.
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