Davine - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )
I have a 10yr old stepdaughter whom I love deeply! I have been with my fiance for over 5yrs now and have known them for even longer. Now let me begin by saying this is not a slam on moms who have split homes...but these are my personal feelings about my situation and am just wondering if anyone else has these sort of issues. I have bent over backwards to pick up Brittney if her mom didnt have the gas money, to watch her if she wanted to go out or needed to work...all things that I absolutely dont mind doing for her, because i love spending time with her. We have her every weekend, holidays, school vacations and the summer. All time that I take care of her as a SAHM. Here we are 5 yrs later and I still am treated like a babysitter. There was a dentist appt last week for her and my daughter, we pay her insurance, and her mother and father work. so naturally i was taking my daughter so i had planned on taking brit as well. When her father called to let her know i was picking her up from school (mind u this was previously discussed a week prior) she said i dont feel comfortable with that, i want u to take off work to take her. She thought that it would look bad if one of her "parents" wasnt there. When I had previously discussed with the secretary. I just dont understand why this woman gets a hair across her butt and thinks that she can treat me like a second class citizen. One minute she wants us all to be a parenting team and the next, my fiance needs to be here, because she doesnt want Brittney to be here with just me. I feel so used and so unappreciated, and my fiance just doesnt realize it. He just tries to keep the peace, which i understand but it is so frustrated after 5yrs of love and energy and favors that I am still a nobody! Anyone else have this kind of a situation?