bf wants a keg at our daughter's 1st bday,

Jessi - posted on 07/15/2010

i would have alcohol available but not a keg. i'm from wi...need i say more! i have 2 concerns with a keg vs bottles/cans: 1. kegs are easily accessable for small children and 2. bottles stay cooler longer!

Stina - posted on 07/15/2010

I went to a 1st b-day once where there was wine, beer etc available for the adults. It was a BIG party with mostly adults and my children were about the only children in attendance. For a group of 70, if you intend to have any alcohol served, a keg isn't a bad idea and it's really about personal preference.

Katy - posted on 07/15/2010

I honestly don't think that is the best idea. It is your daughter's bday, I think it should be all about the kids having fun. It sounds like you could possibly go out and enjoy a drink or two some other time.

CLARISSA - posted on 07/15/2010

I agree with the other posters that say that the party is for you daughter and not your boyfriend. If they have to have drinks to feel like they are having a good time, then why come. It's a child's party, it's for the children to have fun, not the adults.

I know a lot of people who have a birthday parties for their kids and then turn them into an adult party. I would have the party for my daughter and if they wanted to party after, they would be responsible for supplying whatever they wanted to have fun, not me.

Brieanna - posted on 07/15/2010

the party is for your daughter NOT your bf if he wants a keg tell him that he can get one for his birthday your daughters birthday should be alcohol free its a kids party and should be about the kids not the adults.

Shayna - posted on 07/15/2010

Its about the kids, not the parents or other grown people. Spend the money on more presents, or stuff for the other kids to do.

Savannah - posted on 07/15/2010

tell your bf that in 20 years you can have a keg at your daughter's birthday.

Meagan - posted on 07/15/2010

your new famous word should be BYOB (bring your own boose!) i think if your doing the whole moon bounce, cake, food yada yada just have ppl bring there own alcohol keg beer isnt very good anyways barf.

Kristen - posted on 07/15/2010

tell ur bf the party is for her, not about the parents having fun, a kids 1st bday is very big! and i think there should be NO BEER and the party should be focused on the child

Shelly - posted on 07/15/2010

I had a pretty big party for my daughters 1st and 2nd birthday. Even though it was also a cook out i didnt think supplying drinks at her party was a good idea. One because it is expensive and we already paid so much for everything else and two because when it comes down to it;its suppose to be a childs party not an adult party.

Jillian - posted on 07/15/2010

I don't think its a bad Idea for the adults to have later. Sit back and unwind after the party, but I wouldn't have it out during the party. I got a 5 year old and I myself don't drink very often and it's only when the kids are in bed or with a sitter.. But after a birthday party with all them kids, hers only having about 20-30, I like nothing more then a nice drink.. :)

Katrina - posted on 07/15/2010

Guys are such nincompoops. They dont think about things that make sense. A keg and a child's bday party? Not the brightest idea. The party isnt for the adults in the first place. And if you have to have alcohol to have a good time should you really be at a kid's bday party?

Lauren - posted on 07/15/2010

Absolutely not! A child's birthday party is for the CHILD not the adults!! And children cannot drink beer so why have a keg! Provide bottles or whatever for the adults, cause they should have a good time too, but this isn't a kegger, it's a 1st birthday party!!

Crista - posted on 07/15/2010

Honestly its not an adult party! Its a little girls 1st Birthday! Its her day and not anyone else's. that to me looks hidious for a 1st birthday! Maybe if you have a keg after the kids are all sleeping because that is something that shouldnt be around little children! I wouldnt allow for any type of alcohol to be at my daughters 1st. Too much of a risk for the young ones!

Alicia - posted on 07/15/2010

You want your friends and family to remember the nice time they had celebrating your baby's birthday not remember how they got wasted. This is a celebration for the baby. A party costs alot of money so think it twice.

Erin - posted on 07/15/2010

For my 4 yr old's bday we have a bbq @ home...the last 2 yrs I have not bought alcohol for it, but after ppl arrive my husband & someone? end up running to the store & buying it anyhow... I imagine this year, as it is a dinner bbq I will prob. buy an 18pk that will be kept in the fridge...the coolers outside will be soda! But were talking 20-30ppl (1/3 of which are kids). I will only conceed the alcohol this year because last 2 yrs it was late morning/lunch time, this yr its dinner, and it always manages to end up there any how! I'd rather my husband not be leaving in the middle of the party?



I can't imagine getting a keg, especially if it does have 300 beer like someone else said... I don't mind supplying a beer or 2, but to give enough for everyone to get drunk is bad taste IMO

Tiffany - posted on 07/15/2010

girl if i was you and this was my man i would smack him on the back of the head and say are crazy. no you dont need that there

Jennifer - posted on 07/15/2010

Yeah.. i wouldnt go for it. Now my BF did ask if after the party some of his buddies stuck around if i minded if he went up and got some beer and hung out. That I dont have a problem with he never gets to hang out. But during the party um no that wouldnt fly with me personally so I dont think your being uptight at all

Erica - posted on 07/15/2010

While a BBQ or family event may be appropriate for a keg, this event is not. As many others have stated, the event itself is a child's birthday party so I think you are right in feeling how you do. And yes you are right, it is expensive and you could use the extra cash on things for your daughter.

Maria - posted on 07/15/2010

im completely against it a few friends brought there own and as soon as i saw it those that had been drinking were sent home straight away it is a babies party if anyone cant not drink for one day and not mind they have problems and should talk to AA

Natasha - posted on 07/15/2010

If people want to bring a few beers for themselves that's fine, but you shouldn't have to provide that. If they bring their own it'll be more controlled. Plus, most of the people in my family don't all like the kind of beers that come in kegs! Lol. Just write bring your own drinks on the invitation. Do what you feel is right! Stick to your guns! Lol

Melissa - posted on 07/14/2010

A keg, seriously? No way... we are drinkers and we still have never had alcohol at one any of my daughter's birthdays. That day is for your child and not about having an adult party.

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2010

Personally I wouldn't supply a keg, with both of my daughters birthdays if we are having a party or bbq at home sometimes we have a few beers in the fridge or parents may bring a couple with them. But at the end of the day its your childs birthday and at the risk of people drinking to much and ruining the day I wouldn't supply one. Even if you wait until the kids are all asleep if people are going to be drinking large amounts I don't think it is right. I just don't think that people should be getting drunk while there children are around at all, that sort of stuff should be done when children are being watched by someone else somewhere else not while they are asleep in another room. I think a couple of drinks is one thing...getting smashed is totally different so it depends on what your friends are like. You say that they would most probably stay the night at your place but will there be a baby sitter watching the children? I think if they aren't able to drive because they have been drinking so much then they shouldn't be trying to take care of there kids either. If they do it at there own house that is there own business but I wouldn't be encouraging it in my own home around my kids.

Karen - posted on 07/14/2010

I'm in the minority here but I fail to see what is "disgusting" about having beer at a party, even a 1st Birthday party. I think there is a big difference between a kid party and a family and friend's cookout that celebrates a child's birthday. Every year we have 2 (or 3) parties; one for kids, one for family and close friends. Since family and close friends come here for parties and people enjoy a beer or glass of wine with their burgers, etc., I fail to see the issue at all. It sounds like the cookout is simply a family and close friends party. As long as people are responsibile and aren't getting themselves in a situation where it's dangerous to drive, then I don't think there's an issue. In fact, it's good for kids to see adults being responsible with drink and not using it to get trashed. I think the keg thing is having a bad connotation because it is so often associated with being drunk. Maybe it's because I am 20 years past my drunk, keg days, but cost-wise it may be cheaper anyway, and since I don't associate kegs with being drunk anymore I'm more about the cost myself.

Alice - posted on 07/14/2010

if ur guests drink provide them with what u can cuz thats wat my bf and i are gonna do 4 our sons 1st b-day

Christina - posted on 07/14/2010

I dont think you should have one, just my opinion.
While everyone will be having fun and enjoying the company of others a child might be able to acess the Keg and it could be very dangerous. just my opinion though.

Hannah - posted on 07/14/2010

it also depends on the people you invited. if they are big drinkers and do so around their kids, then go for it. if there are only a few that would want to drink, have them bring their own.

Kristin - posted on 07/14/2010

I just want to say if you dont feel comfortable then dont do it, but in my baby book along with my brother and all my cousins, it says 1st birthday keg and ice cream!! I dont think it is a bad thing but do what you feel is best

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2010

I drink every once in a while usually something fruity LOL. I feel any thing for adults only is not right at a kids party. My in laws did that once and it was horrible they had a big party for the sons birthday and ended up drinking all day and the kids did not have a good time so tell him you will have an adult party sometime and then you can get the keg.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/14/2010

how is this even a question...its a childs 1 yr birthday party....keep the drinking for you and your bf birthday partys. You are def not being up tight...hold your own on this one hun....Good luck!!

Karmi - posted on 07/14/2010

To be honest I have a huge Mexican family and no matter what the event their is alcohol. Although at my son's first bday their wasn't because the facility didn't allow it. But all other events no matter what everyone drinks. I guess it is a personal preference as far as what kind of party it is and the type of family you have. My uncles are always having a beer so that is what they do. But for others it may not work out. I think maybe disgusing it a little bit more. And if all else fails ask the guest to brink their own beverage to help save on cost.

Kristen - posted on 07/14/2010

I believe its a childs party it should be all about the kids and if you do get a keg it should not be brought out until the kids our inside and asleep or not there I am also one that i dont usually stay too long around people who are drinking when i have my kids there b/c i dont think they should be around that but everyone has there own point of view and that is mine but I say NO KEG at the party but maybe after if you would like for the adults to have fun after the kids

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2010

not appropriate! i know a girl who has done that at all of her kids birthday parties... they had alot of booze, played drinking game and sent the birthday boy to grandma's house so they could party! i'm sorry but if its the kid's birthday it should be about them! make it fun for the kid! i think the only people that should be invited are people that are part of the child's life and they shouldn't care if they is booze there or not and should understand its a child's party not an adults!

Vixi - posted on 07/14/2010

Personally I think your bf should remember this party is for your daughter's birthday and its her party, not his. The adults are not there to get tanked up they are there to share your special day with your daughter. If the adults want alcohol get them to bring their own, that way it's more controlled and not turning it into a big beer festival. Good luck xx

Kristina - posted on 07/14/2010

Personally.... a keg is OK if you AND him feel its ok... if one says no then that's it. I see nothing wrong with alcohol being around kids. My son has been around me drinking since he was a few days old. Teaching them how to be responsible with the alcohol is a very important tool. But if you think its wrong... then its wrong! Put your foot down and make sure it doesn't happen. You're the MOM (it doesn't matter if he's the dad lol)

Lashond - posted on 07/14/2010

Bring a keg to your daughter 1st birthday is not right. Her first birthday party should be full of memories, laugher, and pictures. I thnk that the keg would just start a lilttle problem with all the drinking, maybe a summer BBQ then yeah bring a keg just be careful... Take care ;-)

Kelly - posted on 07/14/2010

Amber- I like the point you make about children learning to associate beer with fun! I live in WI and drinking is clearly a very big problem here especially since it often involves driving as well! I do believe that if more parents set a better example for their children in respect to drinking and driving, there may be better success in lessening the problem!

Kelly - posted on 07/14/2010

Everybody of course believes something different, and the choice is ultimately yours. My opinion however is that a keg has no place at a child's party. If the family members and friends that enjoy that would like to have a separate get together then they should do that. There are too many issues that could arise. 1-will there be enough sober people to be responsible for the number of children? 2-what happens if one of the adults gets drunk and jumps in the moonbounce and causes injury to one of the children? 3-what if the children get curious and decide to try some beer for themselves? I know my husband wouldn't even ask for this so I am sorry your significant other is forcing you to make the choice. If mine did though, I would tell him that I believe it is selfish to not be able to give up one night of drinking for your child's birthday party. If you don't think it is appropriate then stick to your guns. There is probably a reason you don't feel comfortable with it. Just trust in your mother's instincts! Again, this is ultimately your decision and I'm sure you will make the right decision for your situation no matter what the decision is! Hopefully this helps! Have fun at your party!

Nikkole - posted on 07/14/2010

i think a keg is a little to much. i dont see any thing wrong if some people want to have a drink but not get drunk bc there is childen around. for the ones that want to drink i would make it BYOB and be done with it.

Chastity - posted on 07/14/2010

I agree with you with in appropriate to have a keg at a child's birthday party. My rule when throwing any party for any one of my 3 children, is if the party is for the child and the party is suppose to be centered around your child in a PG or PG13 setting; BEER or other ALCOHOL is not needed!

Katie - posted on 07/14/2010

no you are exactly right amber mcmyne! i would never have alcoholic beverages at a child's party. you're right on them associating beer as being fun. remember they learn from us. and drinking is one thing they can learn how to do like us!

Amber - posted on 07/14/2010

i agree with you that it just seems wrong to have a keg at a child's b-day. those kids are going to be watching all their parents drinking when it should be a party for them and not for their parents. all you need is one person to get a little out of control to ruin the whole party and why take the chance??? and if anyone decided not to stay but to drive home then you have to worry not only their own life while driving but their childs too. i dont think its a good idea at all and i would never allow it myself. i also dont agree with places like chuckie cheese's serving beer to adults, i dont think alcohol should be around children like that because than i feel like it incorporates fun with drinking in their minds, even though of course they themselves arent drinking, but watching a bunch of adults have fun doing it... im not saying that a cookout or whatever every now and again with beer is bad, but when its incorporated with childrens activities like a b-day it is asking for trouble. im sorry if i offended, really didnt mean to, this is how i feel and everyone has their own opinions. i would never tell anyone they were wrong to do something, i just wouldnt do it myself.

Seneca - posted on 07/14/2010

Wow i would tell him no...my family are big drinkers most are alcoholics at my daughter's 6th birthday it was going to be at my ex-brother in laws house whom i was living with at the time...when i sent out the invites i ended up getting calls asking if i'm going to have beer there i said no this is my daughter's birthday party are u out of your mind...and sure enough people brought cases of beer and had them in there trunk and were drinking outside i was so pissed but there was nothing that i could do....so even if u tell him no there will still be beer at that party i can guarantee that it will happen...but as soon as anyone acted like an immature ahole i kicked them out and told them to leave family or not...noone is gonna screw up her party...so be prepared and good luck!

Erin - posted on 07/14/2010

I would say a huge no! I'm one of those people that completely centers my kids parties on them, I wouldn't even let my boyfriend watch a basketball game during my son's third birthday. However he does drink and a few of my friends drink so we did have some alcohol at his birthday but it wasn't enough to get anyone drunk and belligerant. You do not need that type of activty at a childs birthday party so I would just avoid, because let's face it not everyone will be responsible and you don't want some drunk idiot ruining your daughters day!

Kamry - posted on 07/14/2010

Buy one and don't bring it out till the kids are in bed?

Kittie - posted on 07/14/2010

One keg contains about 160 12oz drinks so personally I think a keg is a little much for this type of party. You say 70 people, but if its a child's birthday there's sure to be plenty children and not all adults drinks sooo buy beer by the can, BYOB or just have mixed drinks. I think people are smart enough to realize its a CHILD's party and they won't get wasted sitting around with children in the middle of the day. I'm quite laid back so the thought of alcohol at any gathering really doesn't bother me. Plus, my husband is a big drinker so no matter what we're doing he has a beer. But he is smart enough not drink too much when we're doing things as a family or hanging out in the backyard with our son. You should have faith that people aren't stupid enough to get trashed at your daughter's party. Bottom line, it is you and your boyfriend's decision, and he may want to compromise. Whatever you decide to do is right for you and your family.

Maria - posted on 07/14/2010

i would say no keg but if people want to drink have them bring whatever it is they want to drink but wait till the end or after the party to drink

Demetria - posted on 07/14/2010

A half keg is about 150 beers. Divided by 70 people thats 2 beers per person. Unless your a light weight, your not gonna get drunk. Maybe thats the way to go. Everyone can have a drink but won't be irresponsible and wasted. Let me ask you and everyone on here a question: Who remembers their first birthday? No one? Yeah neither is your child. The first birthday is more of a "We survived the first year" celebration for you as parents. After that its about the kid. What better way to blow off the stress of the first year than with a drink or two? You don't really want to get trashed because there are kids, and even after their in bed you don't know what can happen. Someone can run a fever, someone can wake up early the next morning before your hangover has run its course either way not a good idea to trashed. But a couple of drinks will make the party more enjoyable for the adults and anyone who doesn't have kids.

Katie - posted on 07/14/2010

i agree with aimee all the way.

Julie - posted on 07/14/2010

i don't think it's wrong to have alcohol at a child's birthday party, but I also don't think it's necessary to get a keg. If your gonna have beer at the party it's probably best to just get some cans. We don't have alcohol at our children's parties but most of our children's friend's parties we've been too especially the bbq's have had some sort of beer or wine for the adults.