c section or vaginal?

Kim - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 292 moms have responded )

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im 23 and pregnant with my 3rd child.i tried to have a vaginal birth with my 1st but had complications and was told if they didnt get my baby out now i would have a baby at all!now i am scared to even try again to have a vaginal. i get teased all the time for having an elective csection with my 2nd and now have decided to have another with my 3rd. ive been told im not a woman coz i havent experienced the full pain of pushing the child fully out and ive also been told i shouldnt have kids if i dont want to push them out...has anyone else been in this situation? or one similar?

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Jessica - posted on 08/09/2009

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Quoting Eve:

who is the ignorant who te4ll you that? obviously they don't understand the pain after the c-section cause is like 50 times worse than the pain from the contraction. I also have two previous c-section and the 2 was the doctor choice cause i want to do it vaginal but it didn't happen; maybe for but the only reason i want it is because woman who give birth the vaginal way only have pain in that moment after the baby is theres no pain and when they stand up is like walking in heaven comparing to stand up after the c-section you know what i meant ; so just ignored them cause they won't stand a chace with they pain we have to deal with c-section; good luck in your pregnacy.


Hi Eve,



I have to disagree with the highlighted statement as I had my son vaginally and I was in alot of pain afterwards. I couldn't walk without feeling like I was going faint! This is mainly due to the fact that I had complications in birthing my son, lost a lot of blood and went into shock. But my point is, there is risk with any type of birth regardless of the method you chose. Also people have different pain thresholds and your body type and diet plays a huge factor in it aswell. A c-section isn't harder or more painful than a vaginal delivery. They are both as hard and painful as each other because every person is different. In the case of my cousin, she has 2 girls. With the first it was a painless 2 hour labour and 1 push and she was out, her second was 1 hour labour 1 push and baby 2 was out. In my case I had a 20 hour painful labour with 2 1/2 hours pushing before the crash team were called in where someone had to push down on my stomach to help me squeeze my boy out. The recovery process for a c-section is longer but not every vaginal birth is as easy as my cousin's!

Renee Anderson - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hey Kim, I did not read everybody comments but i have had 2 c-sections the first one was emergency and for the second it was plan. the doctors did not even give me a choice and of course with my 3 which is due in March i will have another c-section. The person that said all that crap must have not had a csection because it is way more painful after wards than having a vaginal delivery. Yes you dont go thru the labor and what not but you get cut thru abdomen and stomach muscles and takes twice as long to heal from. So i say screw whoever said that. It dont make you less of a woman or a mom. We all pee the,bleed the same. I have also done alot of reaerch on V-bac and you have more risk to take in account and like uterine ruptures. So depending on how your uterus was cut some women have no choice but csections and usually after 2 csections with no successful vaginal doctors wont even give you the opitions of trying for vaginal. So tell the person that they better get their facts straight before they open their mouths again. Ok sorry for so long and i will stop ranting. Good luck and enoy every min of your pregenancy. This is my third and final one. Kind of happy and sad at the same time.

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Heather - posted on 08/18/2009

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I will tell you that it's a load of crap the saying 'you have to go through so much pain to be a true mother' I know MOST women in the states have an epidural and as many drugs as they can get their hands on and watching them on birthing programs, some of them don't even scream or shout! All I had was gas and air (laughing gas) and I wasn't in a great deal of pain. I think that if you had a really rough time before and you are too scared to go through it again, don't make childbirth againizing, stressful, or tramatic for yourself and the baby. Who cares what other people think!! It's what you want and what you are comforable with :) Keep on the bright side ^_^

Samantha - posted on 08/18/2009

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no i havent i was so happy to have a c section as was realy scared to have a natural birth and no 1 said anything to me they were realy supportive x

Marci - posted on 08/17/2009

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hi my name is marci i had a c sectin with my son i tried to have him vaginally but he got stuck on my pelvic bone so i had an emergency c secton somethings you just cant help as long as you and baby are ok is all that matters

Brandy - posted on 08/17/2009

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oh my goodness pushing your baby out does not make you a woman its making the right decision for you and your baby! And you did just that! I am so proud of you for trying vaginal birth with your first child.. but it is better that you picked a csection for baby if there were complications! And it is so dangerous to try to have a vaginal birth after a csection let alone after two.. You shouldnt worry to much about what people say just worry about yours and the babys safety... =)

Neata - posted on 08/17/2009

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omg that is so wrong for people to say that to you..both my pregnancies have been fine but everyone has there fears and there doubts never let someone put you down that is bang out of order..you had complications in your first pregnancy and you are obviously still worried that it will happen again.Maybe you could suggest trying it on your own because it is a amzing experience i had a epidural with my first and a few puffs of gas and air with my second (but didnt like the gas and air so went with nothing)..You are not different cos you dont want to push your still a mum and you obviously love your children because you dont want anything to happen to them if you was to push..Dont let anyone put you down good luck with the pregnancy x

Susanna - posted on 08/17/2009

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Csections are scary! I was scared with all 3 of mine even though after the first I knew what to expect. The hardest part is getting out of bed the first time after the surgery. All of my sisters have had their babies vaginally and my oldest two sisters told me that they would much rather have their babies vaginally (they each already had 2 or 3) than to go through what they saw me go thru. The PAIN and slowly getting around, etc. What matters the most is to have a safe delivery for both the baby and you. As a mother you will have the mother instinct to do whats best for the baby. I didn't have any problems with bonding with my baby b/c I held them as soon as I could to nurse them. All 3 of my babies are very healthy even to this day. With my oldest daughter they did dislocate her right shoulder when they were pulling her out. She would cry in pain whenever I tried to nurse her and it put pressure on her right shoulder or when we laid her in her little hospital bed. I took her to my chiropractor the day I got out of the hospital and she adjusted her shoulder. The nurses told me that 3 pediatricians had checked her out and nothing was wrong with her. My chiropractor told me that sometimes that happens b/c of all the pulling and tugging thats done to deliver a baby during a csection.

Susanna - posted on 08/17/2009

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Hi, Kim! I can understand a bit of what you are talking about.
With my first child I had a very healthy pregnancy and my drs did an unnecessary emergency c-section. Scared me to death telling me that my baby was to big to birth vaginally and she might die if I tried to have her vaginally or they would have to break her collar bone and she would be maimed the rest of her life. I had a hard time and felt robbed of the experience of trying to have my baby vaginally. After my first child was born I NEVER went back to those drs again. I immediately switched drs and absolutely LOVE the one I have used for the past 6+ yrs. With my second pregnancy I read, read, read everything I could get my hands on about a VBAC and to better understand why the drs did the unnecessary emergency csection. I really watched what I ate so as not to gain too much weight. My dr told me that I could possibly have a VBAC depending on why I had the first c-section, how I was cut and the weight of the baby and if no complications developed. He had my info transferred from my previous drs offices and from everything I told him from having my first child and what the drs had written down on my papers it did not add up. He told me that drs can write down whatever they want even if its not what really happened. He told me that with the way that my body is built that I should have been able to birth my baby vaginally. I was the 14th csection patient for that set of drs that day, the gurney attendants or whatever they are called, were talking about that when they were pushing me back to the surgery room. Those drs ruined my chance of ever having a baby vaginally. With my second baby I had to have a csection b.c I had complications during that pregnancy with too much amniotic fluid around the baby and also she was over the 8 1/2 lb limit on the ultrasound. My dr told me that if the baby passed 8 1/2 lbs it was too risky to try to have her vaginally b.c of the risk of the uterus rupturing while pushing during labor and that can result in losing the mother or child and possibly both. He said that was a risk that he wasn't willing to take. With the extra fluid around the baby he said that I could try to birth her vaginally but the chance of her the umbilical cord wrapping around her neck during delivery and strangling her was very high. Of course, I wasn't willing to take that risk. My desire to birth a baby vaginally wasn't worth running the risk of losing my precious daughter or my own life. I had a husband and a 20 month old to think about. One of my sister-in-laws told me that I didn't have to do what the dr advised and I could have my baby vaginally if I wanted to. She made me so mad. She wasn't a dr, she didn't know about complications, hasn't had to have a csection to this day. I chose a csection with my second child b.c of the complications and my dr told me that with a 2nd csection that I would have no choice with a VBAC with any other pregnancies. My third child had the same complications as my second and I had 3 csections. Yes, recovery is HARD and thats putting it mildly. With my first c my mil came and stayed with us for a while and helped us a lot with the baby. With the second one that particular sil that I mentioned earlier helped me the first week and b/c of a major problem she caused in our family she was no longer welcome in our home and from then on out I did EVERYTHING myself while my husband was at work. When he was home he helped but otherwise I did it all. It was really hard. With my 3rd child I did it all again by myself and cared for my 4 yr old, my 32 month old and my newborn baby. Why? I did what I had to do and did the best for my kids. It doesn't matter how you deliver your child, you are still a woman and a mom. Ignore whoever tells you that junk, have they been thru what you have been thru? Have they walked in your shoes to know what its all about? If not they cannot say what they are saying, they are speaking out of ignorance. I would tell them how you felt about it and ask them to respect your decisions concerning your children, you choice of delivery, etc. If they cannot do that then I would choose not to be around them or talk to them. I was almost 23 when I had my first child, and then 24 1/2 with my second and 26 with my last child. Yes, I did feel robbed of that experience as a mom but I did what I had to do and felt was best for the health of my babies first and then myself. It was hard recovering and I didn't have any complications with the incision getting infected or anything like that. I had my tubes tied with my 3rd b/c the dr strongly advised against any more pregnancies b/c of 3 csections. Most drs do not want to deliver any more than 3 c's. Also b/c of complications with my last two pregnancies I did not want to go thru it again. With my second child they told me it was one of those freak things that just happens and they cannot explain why and when asked if it would happen again with my 3rd pregnancy they assured me that it wouldn't b/c it was very uncommon. With the 2nd and 3rd pregnancies from my first ultrasound (when they discovered too much amniotic fluid around the baby) I had to go in to the high risk obs twice a week besides my regular ob appts. I worked 39 weeks with my last pregnancy. Kim, read and research and talk to your dr about any questions you may have. I would write stuff down as I thought about it and then I would take the list to my dr and ask him. After that I would choose what I felt was best for the health of your unborn baby, yourself and your family (husband and other 2 kids). Research and make an educated choice. It all has pros and cons to it and only you can decide for yourself what is best. I wish you the best. Don't let others intimidate you into doing something you don't want to do.

Ashley - posted on 08/16/2009

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wow, thats pretty harsh to be told those things.....stop talking to those people !!! lol seriously.

Birth is diff for everyone, as long as the baby and mommy are safe in the end, thats all that matters. I was fortunate to have a safe pregnancy and was able to have a home waterbirth with the support of a certified midwife,(she's able to do everything a physician can, except perform a c-section...but i didnt need one). it was the most amazing experience of my life and i pry to be able to bring my future babies into the world in a calm and peaceful environment as well.

Desirae - posted on 08/16/2009

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You and your OB/GYN will know best. If you and your doctor are concerned enough about trying another natural birth then schedule it. The most important thing in this situation is the health of you and baby. If you feel the need to compromise between a vaginal birth and a c-section, then go in with the intention of having a vaginal birth and let the staff know the risks surrounding the situation. If either you or the baby become stressed, they most likely with the information you give them, will be ready in case they need to do an emergency c-section. Put together a birthing plan with your doctor. You can write up all your requests and have them made part of your medical record. There are many sites on birthing plans that have great information. I made one with my doctor because I was a very high risk pregnancy and thing went very smoothly because of it even though they didn't go as planned. I ended up having an emergency c-section. It does not make you any less of a woman... just a more fortunate one. Before emergency and scheduled c-sections were available, many mothers and children died in childbirth. Who ever is teasing you about scheduling your second as a c-section is wrong. You were obviously putting the health of yourself and your second child above all else, which is exactly what a parent is supposed to do. You sound like a great mother and a fantastic woman.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/16/2009

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Vaginal or not, what's most important is your health and the health of your baby! Don't put either of your lives in danger because someone has stupidity flowing out their mouth. My first was vaginal and it took me 2 months to recover! My second was c-section(not by choice) and I was up walking around the mall 5 days later! My third I opted for the c-section because of the fast healing time. Best of luck, you do what's best for you!

Karen - posted on 08/16/2009

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it doesnt matter how the baby comes out if it is by vaginal or c-section delivery as long as the baby comes out healthy and how cares what other people think it only matters to u.

Lynda - posted on 08/16/2009

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I have had two boys and both were by c-section.I tried having my first one naturally but had complications and was the same thing as u, my second was also complicated. I plan on having another child and i'm going to have a c-section.Having a c-section does not make u less of a woman,if u listen to people it will drive u crazy. U are just thinking about the problems ahead of time.Do watever's comforting to u,because at the end of the day those people will not help u with watever arises....So good luck in watever u decide.

Hannah - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughter's heart rate went low 2 times. They thought she was choking on her umbilical cord. I am very thankful to have her in my life. And having that emergency c-section was pure hell. it is NOT the easy way out!! recovery is WAY longer and WAY more painful!! I tried with my son. I got to 9 cm and then somehow i went down to 8 cm. i didn't know that was possible. i hadn't had any meds at all this whole time. I was given a local in the incision site and was happy to be awake for his birth. C-sections are scary regardless of how many you have. If anything at all you are brave and strong. Good luck :0)

Alyssa - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had to have an emergency c-section too. It's a VERY scary situation to be in! Faced with having another baby, I would absolutely have another c-section! What I would mention to anyone who pretends to care about whether you have a "c" or not is that it's your baby and your decision. Did they have an epidural? Or any pain meds for that matter? If so, then they have no room to talk... Good luck with the new baby!

Alyssa - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had to have an emergency c-section too. It's a VERY scary situation to be in! Faced with having another baby, I would absolutely have another c-section! What I would mention to anyone who pretends to care about whether you have a "c" or not is that it's your baby and your decision. Did they have an epidural? Or any pain meds for that matter? If so, then they have no room to talk... Good luck with the new baby!

Stephanie - posted on 08/13/2009

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don't listen to those people, u need to do what is best and safest for u and your child...i would be scared to have it vaginal as well if i went through that..don't worry

Christine - posted on 08/13/2009

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Recouperation time is much quicker with a vaginal birth in my opinion....my first was vaginal and because of complications my second was a c-section...But I would tell you to discuss it with your doctor and both of you decide which is best and most importantly better FOR YOU...People will always have things to say, negative or positive the end result is you have to be happy.....

Meredith - posted on 08/13/2009

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I don't think you're any less of a women because you have a c-section. I had an emergency c-section with my daughter. I was in so much pain. I went though 3 epidurals, none of them worked, and 2 days of labor. The doctor finally told me that they had to do the c-section cause she wasn't dropping. Low and behold my daughter stuck her foot in my rib cage, so she wasn't coming out.

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Not going through the experiece of labor dosent make you any less of a women. I'd call you lucky. I've heard that V-BAC's (vaginal birth after c-section) are possible, but I don't know of anyone who's oppted for the V-BAC. You should really talk to doctor and see what the saftest option is for you and the baby. :)

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had an emergency c-section after 40 hours of labor because my son was too big (9lbs 2oz) and I wasn't progressing past 5cm.

Jaqueline - posted on 08/13/2009

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Vaginal is definatly more natural and helps all of the junk get out of the babies lungs. Try vaginal. If you have to go c-cection, do what is best for the baby.

Lauren - posted on 08/13/2009

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honey- you are still quite a woman! i had to have an emergency c-section with my first. if i ever have another, there is no doubt in my mind that it will be born by C-section. I have no desire to push a baby through my vagina! :)

this was not my view going into childbirth - i wanted to be as natural as possible... well i ended up with the total opposite and was very glad of the result (no tearing or hemorrhoids)!

Anyway, TMI. Good luck with #3!

Kelly - posted on 08/13/2009

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Dont listen to people like that! I also have had 3 C-Sections...it is a surgery with a much longer recovery than a vaginal delivery..so you are much braver than them! Keep faith in yourself! =)

Abby - posted on 08/13/2009

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Kim, just ignore those people. I also had to have an emergency c-section with my first child. I TRIED with my second child to have a vaginal birth however I quit dialating. So if I ever have another child I'll be getting an elective c-section. For me, I don't even want to go through the hopes of being able to deliver to have them crushed. Plus skipping the labor and everything would be really nice too. I definately agree that it's better to have a baby vaginally, but unfortunately, sometimes it isn't possible.

Julia - posted on 08/13/2009

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anyway you choose to bring this baby into the world is your choice! i had two vaginal deliveries before my third baby which was delivered c-section. if your worried about complications then do the c-section. you can always try the vaginal and if it doesn't look like its going to work, you have another option.

Mystri - posted on 08/13/2009

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I have been told the exact same things and I feel like we are just as much a woman as they are. They didn't have their stomach cut open and their whole body numb so they are the ones who have no idea!

Megan - posted on 08/13/2009

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These comments kind of upset me. I am a mother of two little boys and had to have a c-section with my first because he never dropped and was just too big. My Doctor didn't even give me an option with baby number 2 which I would have chose a c-section anyway, and I am planning on having a little number 3 and would never consider a vaginal birth! Just because you can't have babies vaginaly doesn't mean you are not a women. Like my first OB/GYN told me, some women are made physically to have babies and others aren't, and I truely believe this. If you are a good mother and take care of your children, who cares how you get them as long as you care for them the best you can!!

Megan - posted on 08/13/2009

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These comments kind of upset me. I am a mother of two little boys and had to have a c-section with my first because he never dropped and was just too big. My Doctor didn't even give me an option with baby number 2 which I would have chose a c-section anyway, and I am planning on having a little number 3 and would never consider a vaginal birth! Just because you can't have babies vaginaly doesn't mean you are not a women. Like my first OB/GYN told me, some women are made physically to have babies and others aren't, and I truely believe this. If you are a good mother and take care of your children, who cares how you get them as long as you care for them the best you can!!

Aemery - posted on 08/13/2009

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dont worry about of what people will say about being a woman. What important is you and your baby is safe. I had my C-section to my first baby and im proud of it!..:))

Tara - posted on 08/13/2009

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Wow just because you had a c section doesnt mean that you shouldnt have kids!! I only have one baby and I did have her vaginally and it was a great experience but if there had been complications I would have definately gone c section. Now for as far as selecting to have one I would have to talk to my doctor about the risks and benfits because c section is major surgery and it's hard enough to take care of a new born if you're not feeling yourself. I think that you should talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits both ways because either way you get a baby at the end.

Lynne - posted on 08/13/2009

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Do not listen to those awful comments! When I found out i needed a C- section I was dissappointed because I was looking forward to labor...I know weird right? But now that I have had a c- section, I will definitely be having another c- section for my next child. There are too many complications that can happen to have a vaginal birth after already having a c- section. Safety first!

Pamela - posted on 08/13/2009

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ppl can be so ignorant and rude, you are no less a woman than the next. I personally had a elective C- section with my 1st due to being preggers w/ twins and high blood pressure. but w/ the next 3 I had V.D. and thankfully had hardly any complications (only thing was the baby would stay stationed at 0 when it was time to push). I say do whatever feels right for you don't go out of your way and put your lives in danger to pls anybody else.

Brittanie - posted on 08/13/2009

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I had to have an emergency csection with my son, and I am still debating what to do when I have another child. It was very traumatic for me as well, so i can definitely see where you are coming from and why you elected to have one for your second! People who have not been there and who have been lucky enough to have a perfect vd don't really have any right to judge you. So I say do what you feel is best and what is going to make you most comfortable! If you are tense and stressed out the whole time, it isn't going to help you or your baby.

Lisa - posted on 08/13/2009

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Don't listen to people who say "you are not a woman" b/c u didn't deliver naturally!! That is totally ridiculous! I am 27, have one 20mo old son, and just found out that I'm expecting another! I am very excited, however, when I had my son, I was in labor for 12 hours before the doctors told me my baby had flipped over and I had to have a c-section. Now, with my next child I am worried. I have done alot of reading on the subject, and they say that after you have one c-section, it could be very dangerous to deliver vaginally. It depends on each individual, how and why the c-section was performed, but having a vaginal delivery still really scares me. I want to have more children, and I am afraid something could go wrong. So, you have to do what is right for you! I would talk to your doctor, and have a plan worked out w/ him/her, so when it does come time to deliver your child you are mentally prepared for it. C-sections are much more common now than in years past, and having one makes you no less of a woman or mother. You need to think of your health and that of your baby!!!

Kandace - posted on 08/13/2009

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I have had 2 vaginal deliveries and am soon to be delivering my 3rd child. Every time a woman goes into labor, there is a possibility that she will have to undergo cesarean section. This is nothing to worry about. My sister-in-law was a failure to progress during her first delivery and had to have a c-section. The two children that followed were delivered in the same way because she failed to progress the first time.



Having a cesarean section does not make you any less of a woman and a lot of women who have had nothing but vaginal deliveries don't know exactly how much it does hurt to have a c-section.



Don't worry about what other people say and how they feel about you. You are the only one who can make the proper decision for yourself! You have to do what you feel is best for you and your unborn child! Good luck!

Annette - posted on 08/13/2009

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Wow, I maybe wouldn't talk to the people who have told you that you are less of a woman. Let me tell you from first hand experience how I wish my doctor would have been smart and had me have a c-section. My first daughter got stuck and they performed a fourth degree episiotomy to get her out and her shoulder was dislocated. My second daughter should have been a c-section but my doctor wanted me to have her naturally, and she got stuck too. So I had to have another fourth degree episiotomy, unfortunately she was stuck so long she came out not breathing and as a result of that, she now has to live with spastic diplegia cerebral palsy! So, in the end, choosing to have a c-section for emergency purposes is a loving and responsible thing to do for your child's sake! No one can tell you what is best for you or your child! Be proud that you have children to hold and congratulations on your 3rd!

Andrea - posted on 08/13/2009

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I delivered my first daughter vaginally, my second by c-section due to her being breech. No one made me feel like less of a mother because of my c-section....except myself! I felt like I was somehow less of a mother because I didn't go through the pain of childbirth. I almost felt depressed by it. Almost. Then, I snapped out of it and realized I've got two beautiful, healthy baby girls, and that no matter how they got here I'm still their mother.



P.S. I'd pick a vaginal birth with pain and all anyday over a c-section.....simply because of the recovery! C-section mommies are the bravest of the brave in my eyes now! :)

Katie - posted on 08/13/2009

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What people have said to you about not being a woman because you haven't pushed your babies out is awful and to be honest a load of crap!! I have only had one child, my son who is now 2 who i did manage to have naturaly but if there had been any chance that either myself or my baby would of been in danger i wouldn't of hessitated in having a c-section. And also that you shouln't have anymore children cause you don't gove birth naturaly, what a horrible thing to say and also i think these people are loosing sight of what is important and that is having a safe birth with a healthy and happy mummy and baby at the end. you do what is best for you and your new baby, and to honest people i have spoke to who have had both a vaginal birth and c-section say the section is far worse and takes longer to recover from, so in NO way are you taking the easy option. Good luck xxxx

Jennie - posted on 08/12/2009

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The main issue here is the well-being of the baby and of course the mother. Vaginal or C-section...there is simply no correct method to deliver. Do what is right. I had to have a C-section I would have. I count my blessings that it didn't have to come to that.

Melissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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there is nothing wrong with c section! i had to get a c section and to tell you the truth im glad cuz i think the pushing and the ripping is way to painfull just ignore the negative a holes and do what you gotta do girl its not about the pain its about the baby getting out safe!

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2009

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nobody can tell u that your not a woman unless they've been through what your going through. i vaginally delivered both of my children but i've heard that having a c-section is worse pain afterwards than vaginally delivery, if your child is at risk and needs to be delivered that way then you are a woman because your not being selfish and doin what is best for you and your child. dont let nobody tell you any different....i dont even think i would be able to have a c-section so ur alot stronger than i am. good luck!

Rosa - posted on 08/12/2009

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I have had my twin c-section and my singleton c-section. I had no choice. It was that are lose on of my twins. The last baby was just to big. Who ever said that is just jealous of you. I have been told lot of things along those lines. So honey do not worry about what they say. As long as you are a good mom that is all that matters. Just remember if they complain about you they are jealous of something you have and they do not. Well Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 08/12/2009

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I haven't actually been in your situation, however, when I was about 8 months pregnant, my baby girl was getting so big that my Dr. told me that I would not be able to have a Vaginal birth. If I had I would have suffered complications as well as putting the baby through traumatic stress. As a result...I had a scheduled/elected C-section. It was honestly the best decision my husband and I ever made! She came out perfect in 20 minutes! Who can beat a 20 Minute Delivery?? People can be so rude...but honestly, it's about you and your baby...you need to do what is going to be best your the both of you...and if a C-section is what is best...the have the scheduled C-section. Either way...you are still a woman!!!

Sam - posted on 08/12/2009

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there a more choices available now then ever before. You have a choice and should not feel guilty about what you chose. Do what is right for you and your baby. I just had my first baby july 26 - 2 weeks ago. I chose to have a normal birth with out druged pain relief. Little did i know what was coming. She tore right through the urethra and now i am unable to control the urethral muscles. It will take a while to get everything working normal again. I would probably choose the same again on the next baby (sucker for punishment) but i certainly wouldn' t judge anyone because they would have an elective c section.

Regine - posted on 08/12/2009

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im 24 and with my first son i had a vaginal delivery it wasn't bad its the pushing that gets tiring....but when u do that final push and u see that baby pop out it is something u can never forget.my second son i had a c-section becuz he had a bowel movement inside.when they broke my water it wasn't clear it was green ,so i had the c-section.i don't like .feeling like i can't do any thing and being on drugs for pain i really don't like. jus try having a vaginal delivery u should at least try it once.

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Quoting Sandy:

I had my baby by vaginal birth just. I had preclampsia and was just getting papers signed for c section, I didn't want to have c section as I hate scars and wanted to get back to normal quicker but if rikky didnt come when she did it would of been life or death. I feel if you had complications with your first baby and elected c section for your 2nd, it might be risky even trying vaginal birth now. Do what u feel more comfortable with. Its not up to any1 else how u have ur baby.


Ur no less of a women if you dont have vaginal birth, and people should not judge

Sandy - posted on 08/12/2009

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I had my baby by vaginal birth just. I had preclampsia and was just getting papers signed for c section, I didn't want to have c section as I hate scars and wanted to get back to normal quicker but if rikky didnt come when she did it would of been life or death. I feel if you had complications with your first baby and elected c section for your 2nd, it might be risky even trying vaginal birth now. Do what u feel more comfortable with. Its not up to any1 else how u have ur baby.

Lisa - posted on 08/12/2009

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I had to have a csection the first time because my daughter was breech. And I am going to have another csection this time because it is what is best for my baby. Real women and mothers have to make the right decsions for our children and thats all that matter.

Valissa - posted on 08/12/2009

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its a hard decision and the safety of the baby is all that matters. i've been told sometimes its hard to have a vaginal birth after a c section. all that matters is the baby and you are healthy and safe. be proud of your decisions.

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