c section or vaginal?

Kim - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 292 moms have responded )

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im 23 and pregnant with my 3rd child.i tried to have a vaginal birth with my 1st but had complications and was told if they didnt get my baby out now i would have a baby at all!now i am scared to even try again to have a vaginal. i get teased all the time for having an elective csection with my 2nd and now have decided to have another with my 3rd. ive been told im not a woman coz i havent experienced the full pain of pushing the child fully out and ive also been told i shouldnt have kids if i dont want to push them out...has anyone else been in this situation? or one similar?

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Emma - posted on 08/10/2009

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Firstly I'd like to say that whoever has told you that you're not a woman for not wanting to risk complications again is just downright stupid. A mother wants the best for her children and you succeeded in bringing your children into the world safely. I was told with Jamie that I had to get him out or I could lose him and I pushed like hell there was noway I was losing him. I later found out that if I hadn't have got him out within the hour I'd have needed an emergency c-section still with the possibility of either 1 or both of us passing on. We both nearly died that night. How you gave birth to your child does not dictate what sort of mother you are. If I was you I'd completely ignore the nasty people that are making you feel guilty for wanting what's best for your children. At the end of the day your children will adore you regardless of how you gave birth.

Misty - posted on 08/10/2009

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I had trouble with my first child also. I pushed and pushed then ended up with a c-section. the recovery time was horrible. When it came to my second child I went c-section no questions asked. I recovered so much quicker and could do more things for my children. I ve never been teased by my decision. People can be so rude. That's just like saying Im bettre because I opted to stay at home, or Im better cause my kids are getting to know the outside world, to stay at home or not. It all boils down to what you want. What everyone else says shouldn't matter. With as much as I went through with the first I didnt want to go through it again. As long as your babies are healthy and happy that is what metters. Go with your heart and not what everyone elses says. It doesnt make you less of a women. Youve gone 9 months nurishing that baby no shame in what you choose to bring them into this world.

Amanda - posted on 08/10/2009

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Well i had a c- section with my son and when we decide to have another is going to do the same with baby number 2! The only reason i had a c section in the first place is because i had preclampsia and had him at 30 wks! And been told that i will have to have a c section with my next!

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whom ever has said that to you was an ass. there is nothing wrong with having c sections. my sister in law had them with both of her kids (who are only 10 months apart)

i haven't had one and don't plan on it, but i don't think it makes a difference. but to be perfectly honest, pushing my son out wasn't painful at all. i had no drugs or anything and he just came right on out. i actually stopped hurting once i started pushing. i thought it was the easiest part of my entire pregnancy. does that make me less of a mom? hell no! does it make me more of a mom? hell no! have your baby any way you want to. its your baby!

Lisa - posted on 08/10/2009

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OMG!! People have told you you are not a woman cuz you haven't pushed a baby out?! Or you shouldn't have kid if you don't want to push them out?! I am speechless! Having a c-section the first time was beyond your control and the second and third time opting for c-sections does not make you any less of a woman! Screw people who tell you stuff like that. To be honest it is no one's business how you have your children or how many you have as long as you are taking care of them, which I assume you are. This "mom bashing" is ridiculous. We should be supporting each other as women and encouraging each other, not putting each other for "how" our babies were born. I was induced with my first baby two weeks early and had him vaginally but the labor was hell (3days, was induced on a Wednesday morning, he wasn't born till early Friday morning) I had two epidural cuz the first didn't take etc. My second son I was scheduled for a c-section cuz he was measuring big. I was scheduled on my due date at 4pm i ended up going into labor at 2am that day and he was born at 11am, I also had an epidural with him. His labor and delivery were what my doc called "textbook" whatever that means. I had a c-section with my 3rd baby. My daughter was also measuring very large and my doc was afraid i would have an eleven pound baby so I had a c-section.

Girl, ignore the mean comments and opinions people have. It is NONE of their business. Like I said there is always something to "mom bash" about. I have heard it about having epidurals and I tell people, "would you have a root canal without novacaine?" And leave it at that. It's no one's business how your baby is born. Don't worry about it! Good luck on your new arrival!

Kaylyn - posted on 08/10/2009

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i was always told that if you have had one c-section, all the rest are mandated to be c-sections. something about the muscles you need to rely on to push your baby out have been cut and not as strong/useful anymore. If you try to have a vaginal, you may be pushing and pushing for hours with no advancement and may have to have a c-section anyways. I honestly don't know, its just what i've been told.



and on another note, people can be extremely rude and critical. don't worry about what others are saying. i would definately have taken the emergency c-section.

Natalie - posted on 08/10/2009

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Im only 23 myself and i had a c section with my 1st and with my 2nd i had her vaginal but if i didnt have her on the day i did then i would have had a c section again. if i was u i woulde do what u think is best 4 u and ur baby. ignore who every have told u ur not a woman coz u r.

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I would say that all the pain you have to go through recovering from the c-section more than makes up for not having a vaginal delivery! As for the whole "bladder weakness" issue, that happens anyway from carrying a baby, not from the way you deliver (I had a vaginal delivery 3 1/2 years ago and I'm still dealing with control issues) Talk to your Dr (who went to medical school and is an expert on this kind of thing, unlike the negative people who are trying to tell you what to do with YOUR body) and do what YOU think is going to best for you and your baby. In the long run, all that really matters is that you are at peace with your decision and that your baby is here safely! Good luck and congrats!

Courtney - posted on 08/10/2009

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That's completly ignorant. Having an unplanned c-section the first time around is not your fault, and planning them after is not a bad idea. It can be very difficult to have vaginal birth after a c-section because during labor the stress of the uterus contractions can cause the scar tissue from the first 2 surgeries to tear endangering you and the baby. I personally dont feel its worth the risk. I had my son by emergency c-section and any children i have after him are going to be c-section.

Kyndra - posted on 08/10/2009

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I too, had to have an emergency c-section with my daughter. My local hospital wouldn't even think of the possibility of a VBAC when I was pregnant with my son, and I had to do a planned c-section.



A planned c-section is so relaxing, it's amazing. Plus the baby comes from your womb positively absent of any birthing trauma. (My daughter for example, when I was pushing, was apparently caught against my pelvis and was taken from my womb with a bruise and bleeding on her forehead that was massive and alarming, she is healthy as can be now however).



I would recommend another c-section, for you AND the baby's safety and better health.

Keyonnia - posted on 08/10/2009

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I must say that my first two children I delivered naturally and it was an amazing experience. With my third child had to have a c-section, I was 41 weeks and 4 days and his head hadn't dropped. I wanted to have him naturally. My suggestion is to try to have your baby naturally. Some woman just can not have a natural birth. If you can not have natural then have a c-section and don't worry about what people have to say. Having children doesn't mean yo have to push them out. My sister has 3 children all by c-section because she couldn't go past 3 centimeters. Your still a woman regardless. Just try to have this one naturally. Just relax. Let me know how it turns out. Best of luck!!

Donna - posted on 08/10/2009

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I did not read every post but I find it tronic that I am reading this post the same the a group on here called "The Bumb" has a question about elective c-sections. I had left my comment on the question and was saddened by the other responses I read, many women stated how an elective c-section means you should not children or that you are vain.



The way your child comes into the world has no barring on wether or not you are fit to be a parent it is the love, nurturing and enviornment you provide that means anything. I was 10 days late and had they had been inducing my labor for more than 25 hours, I was in pain, they had used the little pill, then a catheter in my cervix then the pitocin. The cathether hurt like hell and the contraction were painfull, more painful then I could have imagined. After about 27 hours the doctor on call came in and said I was still only dialated to a 5 and worse my husband and I found out that there was a chance that if I delivered vaginally we could lose our daughter. While the percentage was not high it was a percentage none the less, so I went with the c-section.



My daughter is 7 weeks old, I am still numb and feel some pain but I would do a c-section all over again as opposed to the x amount of hours it might take to push out my child, and I DARE someone to tell me that makes me less of a mother!



Not that much of this is relevant to the topic but I wanted to share my story.

Shawnah - posted on 08/10/2009

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With the wonders of modern technology we are able to save so many more babies and mothers due to the c-section. Just because you were unable to have a regular vaginal birth does not mean you are not a "real woman". Now, if you were to have a c-section because you "didn't want to have to go through the pain of a birth", that's different and eligible for a debate. But for a complicated birth, a c-section is a life-saving technique. There are plenty of women who are able to have a vaginal birth after a c-section. But always consult your doctor. They know the medical risks with your particular body and health for that. However, from what I've heard, the more c-sections you have, the higher the medical risk for a vaginal birth afterward. Again, consult your doctor and see if it's a valid option for you.

Carla - posted on 08/10/2009

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I had an emergency c-section after pushing for 3 hours and then my daughter got stuck in the birth canal. My dr tells me that a c-section next time will be best. And I would rather take an elective c-section over the chance of not being able to deliver again. If anything I think c-section moms are tougher..we have to come home with a new baby and having our stomach muscles cut through. Being mom has nothing to do with how a baby came into the world, it's what you do for that baby once it's here.

Crystal - posted on 08/10/2009

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I have had two children by c-section and it definitely wasn't by choice. The first was because my baby was too big and the second because my doctor wouldn't let me try a VBAC. I was more interested in keeping my doctor than driving two hours away to a doctor to try to do it naturally. I was pretty upset to miss the natural birthing experience. I was in labor trying for over twelve hours trying. Anyone that would say a c-section is not really giving birth is crazy and you are definitely a woman because no man would do that more than once. It is a decision that you and your doctor make. If they had been through it themselves they would not be making these kind of comments. Let them get up to feed a child every three hours with twenty or more staples holding them together and then they can talk about it. Both kids of child birth are hard and there is no easy way to do it. Everyone who has kids deserves kudos no matter how they came out. Good luck

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009

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I haven't been in your situation but I would definitely recommend the vaginal delivery. It is so amazing. If you get an epidural you don't feel anything, but just the fact that you pushed the baby out yourself is amazing. I think you should at least try it.

Emma - posted on 08/10/2009

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My son Callum was born vaginaly but my 2nd child Sienna was born by emergency c section then we got pregnant with our 3rd and i panicked. The c section went really bad with sienna that i lost so much blood and the healing process was hectic so we decided to have a natural birth with adam which was the easiest birth i had. It really doesn't matter if you have a vaginal birth or c section its whats best for you and the baby if you feel it would be safer which i think it would be for u do it. You are a woman you have experienced child birth don't listen to people that only tell you the negative.

Laura - posted on 08/10/2009

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I also had a c-section with my 1st for the same reason as u and just feel thankful that we are both ok...would also be scared of having a natural if i chose to have any more children. I can't explain why but i know i would be, it does not make you any more or less of a mother than someone who had 3 vaginal births. Being a mother is what u are when the baby is here...not just in the delivery room. Enjoy your family xxx

Amanda - posted on 08/10/2009

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How can anyone say that to you, dont they realise how serious a c-section is, you are saving your baby, at the same time risking your own life. After being in labour for 42hrs, i was given an emergency c-section was awful, and painful, recovery time was hard, i wasnt lucky enough to give birth vaginally, is something most women want, people shouldnt pass judgement, until they have been through it xx

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Oh honey, people are ridiculous. I live in the state of Oklahoma, and they don't give you an option. If you have had a c-section, then the rest of your babies will also be delivered c-section. I, too, had to have an emergency c-section with my first child. Her heart rate wasn't handling the labor very well, and we had to deliver her quickly by c-section. But I will tell you this, she was just as much My baby as if I would have had her vaginally. Don't let people bash you for having c-sections. I definitely don't think that you have to "push" to be able to be just as much of a Mommy as anybody else. What those Moms don't know is what all you actually have to go through after the C-section. It's not always easy to jump up and just keep on keeping on right after you've had a major surgery. Even I seemed to forget how serious a c-section can really be. It's actually considered a major surgery, even though it seems so simple.



Obviously, I will have a c-section with any other children we have, and I'm perfectly satisfied with that. I don't think that you should be viewed as ANY less of a woman because you chose to do another c-section. You have to do what's best for your body and for your baby. Its just not worth it to do otherwise.. =)

Natasha - posted on 08/10/2009

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I had to have a c-section because she was breech. It was the saftest thing for both of us. Just because you didnt have them vaginally doesnt mean you didnt try. You did was right for urself and the baby.

Ashley - posted on 08/10/2009

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I've never been in the situation... if I were to have a c-section and the get pregnant again, I would try vbac simply because I wouldn't want to have another c-section, but there is nothing wrong in having repeat c-sections after already having to have one.

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I had to have a c-section after I was induced and labor stalled at 5cm after 16 hrs. Then I got pregnant again when my son was 6 months old. They told me that because they would be less than 2 years apart that I would need to have another c-section because I was at risk for uterine rupture or something like that...since I didn't have a full 2 years to heal after the first one. I don't coinsider myself less of a woman, and I dare someone to say that to all those adoptive moms out there too, who didn't even carry their own child. They are just as much a mother to those children as I am to mine...and just as much a woman as any who delivered their babies naturally or otherwise.

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009

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Quoting Natalie:

Ive just read some posts that say vaginal is best!My understanding is that you didnt choose to have the first c-section,and honestly I wouldnt listen to these people.None of them have said they have had c-sections,so what do they know?

I was drugged up with my first as it was an emergency.The thing is with an elective,you normally are awake and alert and are able to hold your baby as soon as it has been checked out-the same that happens with a vaginal.

Hun,do what is best for you but please dont let people who havent had c-sections get to you and make you doubt yourself and what you are doing


I think the people who are saying vaginal is best are looking at it from the perspective of first time mums and the long term results.  I haven't had a c-section but I'm not against the idea! I still think that IF you have a choice first time round then vaginal is best! There after it's a matter of health and safety. However, I would not judge someone who had an elective c-section with their first! Childbirth is a very scary and sometimes traumatic event. You should never put yourself through something like that unwillingly, It's not healthy for you or baby!

Louanna - posted on 08/09/2009

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I had a C-section with my first son because my Doctor told me that I was to small to have a V.D. which was fine with me.....I didn't really want to go through all of that Labor pains and everything, but I think no matter how you have to have your baby you still are a great mom no matter what....

Tiffany - posted on 08/09/2009

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Not a similar situation but I had 2 csections and really they were not optional I would not dilate with number 1 after my water broke and I chose to have one with the second b/c the risks outweighted. Tell them its easy to push a baby out and recover but try recovering after having from a major surgery and taking care of a new born not easy

Uraina - posted on 08/09/2009

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1st of all they not the ones given birth so whatever u have to do whats best for u i had one vaginal birth and had 3 c sections not by choice cause i had a emergence on with the second one that doesnt make me any less than a woman they r people who give birth but doesnt make them a mom

Uraina - posted on 08/09/2009

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1st of all they not the ones given birth so whatever u have to do whats best for u i had one vaginal birth and had 3 c sections not by choice cause i had a emergence on with the second one that doesnt make me any less than a woman they r people who give birth but doesnt make them a mom

Monica - posted on 08/09/2009

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That is totally wrong for anyone to think that.. C-section or vaginal doesn't make a women just like having it all natural or with drugs doesn't make a women either. I had my first one natural with a vacuum to help her out because she got stuck. Twins my second time around was emergency c-section and my last one I elective a c-section...I didn't find me having a c-section less of a women..Its what works for you and your baby.. Think of your baby..and what you want not what other people want you to do.



Good luck

Jessica - posted on 08/09/2009

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I had an emergency c-section with my son. He got stuck on my pelvic bones because they are too narrow. Im now 27 weeks prego with a little girl and i just had the doctor schedule my next c-section. Many women that i work with tell me the same thing and i just ignore them. I planned it this time because if it's safer for omy baby to not be born vaginally then i i wouldnt dream of doing it. Your def. not any less of woman!

Natalie - posted on 08/09/2009

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Ive just read some posts that say vaginal is best!My understanding is that you didnt choose to have the first c-section,and honestly I wouldnt listen to these people.None of them have said they have had c-sections,so what do they know?



I was drugged up with my first as it was an emergency.The thing is with an elective,you normally are awake and alert and are able to hold your baby as soon as it has been checked out-the same that happens with a vaginal.



Hun,do what is best for you but please dont let people who havent had c-sections get to you and make you doubt yourself and what you are doing

Natalie - posted on 08/09/2009

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Oh my gosh!

Whoever has been saying those things to you are completley ignorant!

I had to have an emergency c-section with my oldest,after 50hours of labour and TRYING to push her out both of us were in danger.They did some damage to my uterus and because I was pregnant three months later I had to have an elective,which was the best choice as my scar from my oldest started to tear internally and thankfully they were able to repair alot of it while they were taking her out!



I completly understand you "choosing"to have c-sections.If I got pregnant again even if my midwife said I could deliver vaginally I dont think I would.C-sections arent easy as Im sure you know but because Ive been in labour and experienced it I dont relish the thought of going through that again.It in no way makes you less of a woman.In my experience it may even make you more of one,as the pain you go through afterwards is far worse.That and you really have to be inventive in ways to be with your baby because you are so limited in what you can physically do with them.



Ive had "good"meaning friends and family put me down for having c-sections but as my husband tells me,none of them have seen the pain I went through.



Good luck with your baby and if your want to chat or anything just send me a post:)



Natalie

VICKI - posted on 08/09/2009

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It does not make you less of a woman just becaue you had a c section,it was not ur fault. i have to baby boy's i give bifth to them natrual had nothing there is little pain and as soon as the baby is born you will forget all bout it but not much i went in on the 2 boys and on the two of them i was 8cm, within 4 hours on both, sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo do not be afraid to try it, i think u should go for it if u can, and the best of luck to u, hope everything goes to ur plan xxxx

Ca'Tesha - posted on 08/09/2009

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Vaginal.. Is better....Csection u have to get drugged up and dont really know whts going on but...If there is medical issues then .. the baby needs to come out the best and safest way

Sarah - posted on 08/09/2009

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vaginal because there is a chance that c section could cause problems ie bladder weakness, vaginal is best

Vicki - posted on 08/09/2009

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my god how horrible to say that to someone! i would of done exactly what you did, fear of the unknown probably being a major factor, i am a mother of a now 15 month old boy and i did the whole natural birth thing i had about 20 mins on gas and air but thats it, i am extremely proud of myself for doing what i did but i wouldnt say the labour itself made me feel more of a woman, the whole experience of being pregnent did, feeling him move and kick. you need to do what makes you happy and more comfortable, if you feel like youd regret not trying a vaginal then of course i would encourage you to do it as you never know you might not have a chance to do it ever again but as long as you have a happy healthy baby, its your experience YOU choose, people have no right to make comments about your birth experience.

Brooke - posted on 08/09/2009

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I can't believe that people would say those kinds of things. I had to have an emergency C-section with my son I hated it at first but would much rather have him alive then not. It can be even more dangerous to have a V-back after a C-section some states don't even allow women to do that. Good luck and don't let anyone tell you that because we can't control what happens to our bodies during delievery we are not ALL the same. Good luck again.

Brittany - posted on 08/09/2009

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my 1st baby i had an emergency c section and am having another on the 31st i chose a c section because i dont want the risk of hurting my baby or me. some people just dont understand c section is not easy either!!!

Jenny - posted on 08/09/2009

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i had vaginal delivery with both my children and the idea of c-section scares me stiff.vaginally was painless,quick and back on my feet as soon as the baby was out so im completly pro vaginal.I dont think anyone should have elective c-section unless you know in advance you wont be able to have a vaginal delivery.

Here in the uk you cant have an elective c-section anymore i do believe and for good reasons as there is more cons than pros to having c-sections unless its medical reasons.But at then end of the day its your decision and shouldnt be bullied about it and i do understand why you would want c-section considering what happened with your 1st labour

Brandi - posted on 08/09/2009

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GIRL! do NOT listen to ANYONE who will give you shit for planning a schedualed c-section! i had an emergency c-section with my first daughter & planned to have a 2nd c-section with my next baby. it all went smoothly because of me just planning ahead. plus you get to CHOOSE the date and everything. how perfect is that!? PLUS - there are said to be a lot of complications for a VBAC - Vaginal Birth After C section - the scar tissue could rupture...id have to look into it more but im sure there are plenty more complications that go along with having a child vaginally after a c section...can you imagine? no thank you! im not trying to scare you...but according to what ive seen most, heard of most & what ive experienced first hand - GO WITH THE C - SECTION girl! :O) well, good luck & keep us all posted with your decision & the outcome! were all here for support!

Amanda - posted on 08/09/2009

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That is ridiculous! Do not ever let anyone tell you that you are not a woman cause you have not experienced the full pain of pushing the child fully! Who are these ignorant people that say such things?!!?!! Wow...Anyways, Once you have had a c-section, and you get pregnant again, having another c-section is the safest way to go! At least, that is what my doctor has told me! I am pregnant with my second child...I had a c-section my first pregnancy because he was sunnyside up! My doctor recommends that I have a c-section with this pregnancy as well because there is a chance of your uterus bursting (a small chance, but still a chance). I'd rather be prepared for my child's introduction into this world anyways! I would not ever recommend to someone to have a c-section over a vaginal delivery unless they had already had to have a c-section with their first pregnancy! A first time pregnancy should always try for a vaginal delivery unless there are complications! However, having c-sections does not make us any less of a woman!!!

Aletta - posted on 08/09/2009

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Quoting Lucy:

My NCT teacher gave me some very wise advice, she said when you have your baby YOU have to feel relaxed - how you give birth and where you give birth are a big part of staying calm and maintaining some control. do whatever you feel is best for you.



Cheers!!!  I completely agree with you and the advice you were given!  That is the BEST thing a mother-to-be can ever hear!

Lucy - posted on 08/09/2009

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i had a virginal birth at home because i was too scared to even go to hospital!! i can't imagine how brave you are to have a c-section... and actually how brave we all are to have children however they come out!!
My NCT teacher gave me some very wise advice, she said when you have your baby YOU have to feel relaxed - how you give birth and where you give birth are a big part of staying calm and maintaining some control. do whatever you feel is best for you.
Hope it all goes well and you have another healthy bundle of joy xxx

Rosemerry - posted on 08/09/2009

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Don't worry about what they say!!! I didn't get a choice when I gave birth, my son wasn't coming down and I wasn't dilating and it was coming down to crunch time. Just remember the end result is the same both ways, a happy healthy baby, no matter how they got here!!!!

Jessica - posted on 08/09/2009

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Quoting Eve:

who is the ignorant who te4ll you that? obviously they don't understand the pain after the c-section cause is like 50 times worse than the pain from the contraction. I also have two previous c-section and the 2 was the doctor choice cause i want to do it vaginal but it didn't happen; maybe for but the only reason i want it is because woman who give birth the vaginal way only have pain in that moment after the baby is theres no pain and when they stand up is like walking in heaven comparing to stand up after the c-section you know what i meant ; so just ignored them cause they won't stand a chace with they pain we have to deal with c-section; good luck in your pregnacy.


Hi Eve,



I have to disagree with the highlighted statement as I had my son vaginally and I was in alot of pain afterwards. I couldn't walk without feeling like I was going faint! This is mainly due to the fact that I had complications in birthing my son, lost a lot of blood and went into shock. But my point is, there is risk with any type of birth regardless of the method you chose. Also people have different pain thresholds and your body type and diet plays a huge factor in it aswell. A c-section isn't harder or more painful than a vaginal delivery. They are both as hard and painful as each other because every person is different. In the case of my cousin, she has 2 girls. With the first it was a painless 2 hour labour and 1 push and she was out, her second was 1 hour labour 1 push and baby 2 was out. In my case I had a 20 hour painful labour with 2 1/2 hours pushing before the crash team were called in where someone had to push down on my stomach to help me squeeze my boy out. The recovery process for a c-section is longer but not every vaginal birth is as easy as my cousin's!

Cecily - posted on 08/09/2009

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FIRST OF ALL IT ISN'T ANYONE'S BUSINESS HOW YOU DELIVER YOUR BABY. I HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD AND I HAD HER BY EMERGENCY C-SECTION. NOW I'M PREGNANT AGAIN WITH MY SECOND CHILD AND I HAVE TO HAVE A C-SECTION. IF YOU ARE HAVING COMPLICATIONS WITH VAGINAL BIRTH THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE A C-SECTION. IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU LESS THEN A MOTHER. IF ITS THAT MUCH OF A BOTHER TO YOU I WOULD JUST KEEP MY PLAN FOR DELIVERY TO MYSELF SO YOU DONT HAVE THE EXTRA STRESS COMING FROM THE OUTSIDE. BEING PREGNANT IS STRESSFUL ENOUGH, AND IF IM NOT A WOMEN BECAUSE I DECIDE TO HAVE MY BABY BY C-SECTIO SO BE IT I STILL LOVE AND CARE FOR MY CHILDREN THE SAME.

Ivianska - posted on 08/09/2009

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who is the ignorant who te4ll you that? obviously they don't understand the pain after the c-section cause is like 50 times worse than the pain from the contraction. I also have two previous c-section and the 2 was the doctor choice cause i want to do it vaginal but it didn't happen; maybe for but the only reason i want it is because woman who give birth the vaginal way only have pain in that moment after the baby is theres no pain and when they stand up is like walking in heaven comparing to stand up after the c-section you know what i meant ; so just ignored them cause they won't stand a chace with they pain we have to deal with c-section; good luck in your pregnacy.

Kyriel - posted on 08/09/2009

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Kim-- A c-section is a major surgery and has more recovery and down time than a vaginal birth... if anything your friends should give you more credit! I am only pregnant with my first child and I have been reading a bunch of literature on the topic as at 25 I was unsure what I wanted to do... Some people I know get the c-section and then the tummy tuck at the same time. After all my research I decided to go vaginal because it has the least pain involved! So I send you my love and you are one tough woman and already a great mom to your new baby!

Kelly - posted on 08/09/2009

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I agree with the post by Kelly Wing that some people can be so critical. I had to have an emergency section with my 1st baby also. Just because you have a section doesn't make you any less of a woman!!! You still conceived, you still carried and grew this baby inside you and unless you are a woman, you can't do that.right?!?!



I can understand your experience with a traumatic 1st birth and that's exactly why I chose to have a section for my 2nd child. I didn't want to have this wonderful pregnancy to be terrified of the outcome when my due date rolled around. What a lot of women who don't or didn't have sections for emergency purposes is that when it's an emergency situation, the pain you experience is a lot more in depth then natural "normal" childbirth. Hence, that's why it's an EMERGENCY.



Anybody who would choose not to have a section because they would feel like less of a women and put their unborn child in jeapordy like that is well...I don't want to say the words..that's selfish. I agree with your decision to have an elective section, I did and I feel all the better for it because I was prepared, I knew the exact date and time my child was going to be born so I could mentally prepare. Also, another point, sections are harder then natural birth in my mind because you have the recovery time afterwards. So it's not like it's a "walk in the park" so to speak because once the baby is born you have not only giving birth to a baby, but you've also had major abdominal surgery that requires recooperating time and a little TLC.



So if anyone out there thinks that sections are the "easy way out" ....you are so so wrong. And unless anyone has had one they wouldn't understand how it feels afterwards. We may not have had the experience of pushing out a child but we still gave birth to them just in a different way and experience a lot of pain in other ways.

Terresa - posted on 08/09/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

I had a vaginal birth but a c-section is NOT an easy option at all.


i guess it depends too on how well you heal... if you dont heal well a c-section is definitly not a great option....

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