c section or vaginal?

Kim - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 292 moms have responded )

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im 23 and pregnant with my 3rd child.i tried to have a vaginal birth with my 1st but had complications and was told if they didnt get my baby out now i would have a baby at all!now i am scared to even try again to have a vaginal. i get teased all the time for having an elective csection with my 2nd and now have decided to have another with my 3rd. ive been told im not a woman coz i havent experienced the full pain of pushing the child fully out and ive also been told i shouldnt have kids if i dont want to push them out...has anyone else been in this situation? or one similar?

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Terresa - posted on 08/09/2009

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go with what feels right for you.. i had a natural for my first and two emergency caesarians, if you have a choice, make it yours not someone elses. dont let anyone push you for something you arent comfortable with not even a doctor

Rebecca - posted on 08/09/2009

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Let me just say that the person who said you are not a real woman if you don't have a vaginal birth is ridiculous...I had an emergency c-section because my baby was premature...was i supposed to let something terrible happen to him because I wanted to be "more of a woman"? that doesn't make any sense!! Do what you have to do...it is your baby..and no one elses business how you deliver him/her!!

Jessica - posted on 08/08/2009

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I think you should do whatever you feel most comfortable with, you are no less of a woman by having a c-section instead of vaginal delivery! You experienced the pain of labour with your first, and since there were complications you did what was best for you and your childs outcome.

Aletta - posted on 08/08/2009

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Wow! How rude can people be? You're "not a woman because you haven't experienced the full pain" and you "shouldn't have kids if you don't want to push them out"? Good grief! I really hope you told these people that it's none of their damn business just how your children entered the world - you love them and that's all that matters!

Ahem, that being said... I delivered my daughter vaginally and without medication. That was what my hopes were for the birth and it worked for me. My labor was complication free and yes, even though it did hurt (especially right near the end!), it was worth it and I would not change a thing. But let me say this: my primary concern was for my daughter. If something happened during labor or delivery and a c-section was needed, I would not hesitate. If a c-section was strongly recommended by my doctor for a medical reason before labor even started, I would have it done. I'm not about to put my child's life (or mine) on the line because someone thinks I may be less of a woman for giving birth other than vaginally.

You do what you feel is right for you and your child (with doctor's advice of course). If you want to try for a vaginal delivery, go for it. If you decide that you want another c-section, go for it. All that matters is your baby and your health. Take good care of yourself, your little ones and good luck!

Heather - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had to have a c section with my son and i elected to have a c-section the second time around tell people to grow up! If I were u I would stay on the safe side and just do the c-section again but thats my opinion:) Dont listen to everyone saying stupid stuff...this aint the old age where u drop a kid while gardening and keep going! lol!

Ashlee - posted on 08/08/2009

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ok I haven't had a c-section but i can still tell you that no matter how you bring a child into your family (whether it be vaginally, c-section or adoption or serogate) you are still a woman as well as a mother. Besides there are women who have vaginal births that "feel" the pushing of the baby due to drugs or whatever. So I'd say tell whoever questions you to go fly a kite and you keep doing what you are doing.
Also c-section is definitely not at any way an easier way I had my son vaginally my mom had 4 c-sections and my sister had one each way and they had a harder recovery than I did so for you to go through surgery 3 times wow good on ya!!

Ashley - posted on 08/08/2009

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you have to do whats safe for you and your baby. I wanted to have my first vaginally but after 16 hours of labor she was stuck and it had to be done. they said there is a chance for me to have a 2nd vaginally but because of the eternal stitches there could be problems. developing and bring a new life into this world she be womanly enough! Dont listen to those ppl. Listen to the doctors and more so, listen to your body!

Larissa - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hi, I have had 3 children. My first was a vaginal delivery and she tore me so badly that I had to have an epidural AFTER I gave birth. Because of the trauma I had endured with her it was recommended that I have a c section for my second ( twin birth). I found that both ways had there advantages and disadvantages. If I were to do it again it wouldn't bother me which way I went. I doesn't feel emotionally any different to having them naturally or with assistance, and all of my children are healthy and developing well. To all those people that are comenting on you not being a 'REAL' mum, just ask them if it makes you more of a 'real' mum if you let your baby die or suffer just so you can give birth to them naturally?? It's not as if you are electing to have a c section just to make it easier on you. And unless it is an emergency C section it is always classed as an elected surgery!! Regardless of the reason your doing it.

Laura - posted on 08/08/2009

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I don't think they send you home with the "Gold Medal of Vaginal Delivery". You want a healthy child. I had a C Section, by choice. I felt it was less tramatic for the baby, and he came out perfect. That is all that matters.

Laura - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had my first baby via c-section cuz she was breach and elected another cs for my second. I totally know what you're saying- I often felt judgment with people's reactions when they found out there was no immediate medical reason. My co-worker openly disagreed with my decision and hates the fact our company pays 8 weeks maternity instead of 6 as with a vaginal. It got my blood boiling when I was pregnant, but I had to let it go.

Robin - posted on 08/08/2009

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Oh just one more thing to add, what about those who adopt!!!! Taking in a child that its own mother couldnt are they less because its not BIOLOGICALLY theirs? If that were the case there would be a LOT of kids still in orphanages and foster homes!!!!! and then they are also given something they may not have been able to have on their own!

Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2009

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I think this is the most ridiculous(spell check haha) comment ever......I do not think u r ANY less woman no matter how u have a kid....so the ppl who dont have kids r not women at all.....thats just DUMB hahaha. it doesnt matter how u have a child it matters how u care for it.......I wonder those ppl who talked crap to u how many of them REALLY care for their kids......or how many pawn them off...or how many just tell the kid to fend for themselves......dont let it bother u I KNOW I am a woman and I had 2 csections.....I want those women or any lady to tell me I am not and I WILL slap someone ahha.....I had a 2lb baby girl at 6 months preggo I ALMOST died and had her to save our lives.....until they go through a csection I dont wanna hear CRAP bout being less a woman......atleast their hoohoos heal after a week oor two we go through 6 to 8 weeks of pain.....man this made me mad haha....

Jess - posted on 08/08/2009

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That is the most rediculous thing i have every heard!!! you are absolutly NO less of a woman than me or any other women on this earth!!! i have had a vaginal birth and if i was in your situation i would have done exactly the same as you. In the end what the whole thing comes down to is the safety of you and you baby! tell them all to jump of a f***** cliff! I dont believe some people!

Bonnie - posted on 08/08/2009

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I was fortunate enough to experience vaginal births with all 3 of my children. Women who have undergone c-sections typically have a much harder recovery time so if you must go through one I think it's something to be admired. It's about the safety and well being of you and your unborn child, not your "womanhood". VBAC can be very dangerous so I think you're making the smartest safest choice. Some women are just not able to deliver vaginally for a variety of reasons and it doesn't make them any less of a woman than if they did!

Robin - posted on 08/08/2009

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THAT IS HORRIBLE! I have only one but I had to have a c section and no one should tell you those sort of things, you carried your baby for 9 mo, and is now living and breathing right? not everyone is able to birth vaginally, and who the H*** are they to say that they are a real woman because they had to push, if anyone one who has said that to you ever had a c section they would know it is actually MUCH MORE DIFFICULT, ANY DR WILL TELL YOU THAT, why do you think most of the time they get discharged in 24-48 hrs, and I was in the hospital from fri morning to monday night, and the recovery time is much longer, and it actually takes 2 years to fully heal after a c section, unlike natural births, and MOST DRS wont do a VBAC!!!!! So who ever said that to you can kiss our you know whats!



Not to mention I wanted desperately to have a natural birth no meds no nothing but there were complications, and I was terrified to have surgery, and anyone who has ever had major surgery, AND YES IT IS MAJOR SURGERY! will tell you how scary it can be!!! not being able to care for yourself after the fact, even when the just started me getting out of bed, it was excrutiating, even with IV drugs, and couldnt even go to the bathroom on my own, the embarrassment of having to have someone help you wipe and pull up the hosp undies they give you, etc etc. The list goes on, POINT BLANK NATURAL BIRTHS ARE EASY COMPARED TO C SECTION, AND ONE LAST QUESTION, IS IT YOUR DNA IN THAT CHILD? THEN YES YOU ARE A REAL MOM!!! I also couldnt breast feed because of complications, but I did my best to pump for the first four weeks, then I had more complications, and I had my best friend put me down and belittle me because I was pumping and not putting him up to me, you know what I found out later is that she was jealous because I actually produced enough milk to feed both our babies and then some!!! at least it was my milk and I tried.



Sorry I get so fired up and it is a sensitive subject for me but I consider my son to be a miracle baby anyway, I have PCOS and I had to be on clomid to even get pregnant, even though when I was a teenager the dr said I would never have kids. Im sorry but it was very traumatic for me to have to have the c section to begin with after 14 hours of induced labor, I wanted desperately to have natural and it just didnt work out that way. and if that was the safest thing for the next one, I would rather have a live baby than a dead one!!!!!!!! the people who said that to you actually had it easy!!!!!!

Christina - posted on 08/08/2009

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Honestly, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks or says. You need to do what is safest for you and your baby, my first was natural, my second was an emergency c-section and had to be knocked out for it because the cord was around his neck, my third i elected to have a c-section mostly because it is the safest route for the baby as well as yourself. Less complications, but this time i was able to have a spinal block, i was so nervous. but it was well worth it, because i was still awake to see my baby and recovery was quicker than the first c-section. So do what your heart tells you, if you wanna try it, it's a great experience. But look at it this way, you still get to be with your baby at the end of the day, no matter what!!!!!!!!! Congrats and Good luck!!!!!!!

Katty - posted on 08/08/2009

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C-SECTION..I PUSHED FOR 1 HOUR AND 1/2...BUT BABYS HEART RATE DROPED! SO ENDED UP BEING CSECTION! I THINK IF YOU HAVE THE CHOICE WHICH THANK GOD WE DO..SO ITS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU!! DONT LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE SAY!! I WOULD LIKE TO TRY WITH MY SECOND TO HAVE IT VAGINAL..BUT LLOK WHAT HAPPENED WITH MY FIRST..YOU ALSO JUST NEVER KNOW! GOOD LUCK!

Cyndi - posted on 08/08/2009

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thats the best part of having the c-sections, u pretty much decides when ur child will be born.

Colleen - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had a c-section with my first, after 12 hours of induced labour. It wasn't the way I had chosen to go, but those were the cards I was dealt. Now I'm actually looking forward to having my second by c-section because it will be scheduled and there will be no guessing as to when I'll be going to give birth and I don't have to worry about labour. I'm not looking forward to the recovery again but I know I have a very helpful and supportive husband who will step up to the plate once again.

Cyndi - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had c-sections with all my kids. To this day I wish I had at least had one of them natural. But I couldn't because of health isses.

Amber - posted on 08/08/2009

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Having a child is not what makes you a woman. Don't let people's opinions get you down. My mother-in-law had c sections with her children, twins, then a boy then a girl. If you get to have the choice its your's to make! I had mine vaginally and I didn't regret it. Carrying a child for 9 months and taking good care of it is what matters not how you have it. I think the people telling you these things should take a good look at themselves and see why they are making those comments. Please, don't think lesser of your self b/c of the delivery options. Some have water births, some have vaginal births, others have c-sections. Be a good mother and you don't have anything to regret or explain to anyone!!!

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Quoting alina:

i had to have an emergency c section with my son and u go through so much with it. i went on you tube and saw what they did to me. wow!!!!!!! bad idea. u are very brave to be going through a c section. i was also told that if u have a c section with one u can never go back to a vaginal birth. it could rip something.....i think. not completely sure. but u are doing the right thing for u and your baby.


They say you can rupture -- BUT there are higher and more risks for repeat c-sections than a VBAC! So don't believe everything you hear from your Dr. Make sure to do your own research!! I just got done reading a GREAT book its called "Silent Knife!" I would suggest anyone who has had a c-section or wants to try for a VBAC to read this book!! Its great with lots of good info! :)

Alina - posted on 08/08/2009

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i had to have an emergency c section with my son and u go through so much with it. i went on you tube and saw what they did to me. wow!!!!!!! bad idea. u are very brave to be going through a c section. i was also told that if u have a c section with one u can never go back to a vaginal birth. it could rip something.....i think. not completely sure. but u are doing the right thing for u and your baby.

Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2009

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I think you did the right thing by agreeing with the emergency c-section and I don't blame you for opting to have another. I have two children and have had c-sections with both of them. With my son I had to have an emergency c-section because I had toximia (sp) really bad and swelled up like a balloon and he was very stressed. After trying to induce 3 times I ended up having a c-section but it was the best thing to do for the baby and for me. The second my little girl I wanted to have vaginal but again I had complications. My blood pressure went up to over 200 so I had to deliver quick because the baby was getting stressed. I really wanted to deliver vaginally but I look at it this way the health of my children comes first and whether I had a c-section or delivered vaginally I am still no less of a mother. You are NOT any less of a woman than anyone who has delivered vaginally. Good luck with your delivery!

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I think you need to do what is best for you. Its not worth trying to do a VBAC if your not in it full heartedly!! I am going to be doing a VBA2C's. I am SET and determined!! To each there own is what I say. Best of luck & just let the comments slide right off your back. ;)

Melissa - posted on 08/08/2009

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I don't think that you are not a real mom if you don't have a vaginal birth. You don't get a medal for either. I had my daughter vaginally, she almost was a emergency c section because we weren't sure if she was going to fit through the birth canal, I felt the same way and I was scared that people would say the same thing to me, it was a great experience for me, however that does not make you any less of a woman if you have a c section.I look at it this way strechmarks are my reminder that I am a real woman.You need to do what is best for you and your baby.I wsh you all the best with you new little bundle of joy!

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Girl, I have been in the same position. I had an elective csection with my first child and then also delivered my 2nd by csection. I have learned this is such a HUGE debate with women and the OB/GYN world. I did my own research and went with what I thought was best for my body and my child. I heard it all--I wasn't a real mom, I wasn't going by God's plan, blah blah blah! Luckily my OB was on my side, he 100% supports elective csections. Why go through hours of labor and pushing? One statistic states that 3 csections is like having 1 vaginal birth due to the harm vaginal deliveries have to the body. C-sections help prevent against prolapse (when you get older your female parts fall and they have to be tacked back up!) My mom, grandma, and 2 aunts lived throught that! People always said "Why do you want major surgery"? Well, excuse me for being blunt but I would rather have my stomach cut open then my vagina ripped open!!! Who says in order to be called a "Woman" you have to endure so much pain in delivery? You conceived a child, right? Who carried that baby for 9 months? Only Women can do that, LOL!! Just remember a real woman stands up for what she believes is right for her and her child! More power to you! PS--If breast feeding doesn't work out, keep that to yourself too! Elective c-sections and not breastfeeding, you will be the lowest of low in the motherhood world!! :) Been there, done that!! Good luck!!

Lisa - posted on 08/08/2009

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i experienced both sides and i dont' think it makes me more or less of a women. my first was a VD and my second was a section due to not progressing past 7 cm. personally i would have preferred VD over a section but everyone is different. you do what's right for you, no matter what anyone else says or thinks.

Faye Cassandra - posted on 08/08/2009

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with the case that you had on your first baby, i could say that you've done the right thing...you made the right choice coz' you've saved your baby. Do not mind other people's opinion if they seem to be so harsh for you because it wouldn't help you to grow being a mom. it'll only discourage you and could only lead you to depression.

if you feel like delivering the baby through what they call "normal spontaneus vaginal delivery", go for it. but do what the doctors are tellng you because they are the ones who knew what will happen to you just in case you will have those previous complications ypu had on your first baby...

Kathryn - posted on 08/08/2009

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with my first child i had an emergency c section, i dont think its a fact of not being a "woman" if you dont have a vaginal delivery. ya just gotta think, would you rather get the baby out healthy as possible or be stubborn and try to have it vaginally and have complications. i am now pregnant with my second child and i am hoping to have a vaginal delivery. but i think it is personal choice, if you dont want to run the risk of the same thing happening as your first pregnancy that is all up to you, and no one else.

its your baby and your body, so dont let people make you feel bad about your situation. when they go through what you have been through then they can judge....but until then they should keep their opinions to themselves!! :D hope things go well with the 3rd delivery

take care

Kyandra - posted on 08/08/2009

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It is completely yuor decision!!! I am 23 and just gave birth to my first child naturally but had they tod me that there was anything wrong i would have had a c-section in a heart beat... just do what makes you feel comfortable and ignore what other people say its your body and your baby!

Nicole - posted on 08/08/2009

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Oh please! don't listen to what people have to say I had 2 csections with both my children and i feel that the pain from that is more than giving birth naturally! plus once you had 1 csection the doctors recommend it for the others due to the fact of complications when you are trying to deliver. Who ever told you that tell them to kiss ur a-- and being a good mother is natural enough.. Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 08/08/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

Dont listen to them! Most women (myself included) opt to get the epi and you dont feel a thing but the pressure when you are 10cm dilated! I do not blame you at all especially if you had such a bad experience the first time, and a c-section is the safest for your baby especially if you have already had two. I was was debating whether or not to get the epi because I wanted it to be "all natural" and I had heard people say that strong women go through it without any type of anesthesia. My back labor got really intense and when my doctor came in to check on me he told me that it was better for the baby bc when you have a contraction your body tenses up so much that it's hard for the baby to move its way down if your muscles are tight and as soon as I got the epi my labor progressed majorly. So just do what YOU feel is best, you know your body and since you have been through it before you know exactly what to expect. You are a true woman when you want what is best for your baby, and that's exactly what you are doing!


Epidural's don't make the labour faster! They actually slow it down! The whole point of contractions is to help push baby down and out! Not to mention the contractions do not stop with the epidural you just don't feel them! It can also make a vaginal delivery more difficult as mom can't tell if she is pushing hard enough. I'm not saying epidural's are bad cos my mom had me an sis with epi, but if incorrect information is being put out there women will make misinformed decisions for the wrong reasons.

Kristie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Congratulations Kim!!! Yr going to be the proud muumy of three beautiful kids and it doesnt matter how they came out, they r yours and they r beautiful!!! I also had a emergency c-section with my first bub and when i have my second i would like to opt for another c-section. Personally im a little scared of my scar rupturing but hey we will see when the time comes...My partner and i often joke when ppl ask if i had a c-section or a natural birth coz we always say he cam out of the 'sunroof' hahaha!!! Hope you got a bit of a laugh. Dont listen to small minded ppl, either way bub comes out, you have just created a miricle xx

Tammy - posted on 08/08/2009

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hi kim i am a mother of 3 & i have had all my children by c-section my 1st was an emerancy after 12 hours of labour 2nd was a chosen one i wanted 2 have my 3rd by virginal i was under a doctor i thought i was prepared 2 try it but was scared cause of a lot of complications so i pulled out of it when i was about 30 weeks pregnat & choose a c-section but my 3rd child i was rushed in 2 have a c-section as she was born premmie u need 2 go with what your mind is telling u 2 do dont let anyone make that decsion 4 you go with what u think is best 4 u & your baby that is what comes b4 anything safety is the 1st choice 4 me thats why i wanted 2 have my 3rd baby by a c-section good luck

Shelly - posted on 08/08/2009

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o my god, how awful are the people you are speaking with? not a real woman because you haven't push out a baby! thats ridiculous!!!
I dont blame you having an elective for your second, I'm planning the same next time after my first was an emergency section and a baby in special care for 4days, i'm too scared and dont want to risk it as its almost certain i'm not going to be able to give birth vaginally.
Dont listen to horrible people and their nasty comments, the decision is entirely yours and depends on how comfortable you are with going for vaginal birth or whether you would rather elect, personally i'd elect, i like the idea that I can be completely prepared next time and also that my baby is going to be fine, rather than her being ill, us with days of worrying and not actually getting to see her until 12hrs after she was born, like last time. And agreed with everyone else my scar is a badge of honour, a c-section is not the easy way out as we all know with the recovery time, so i wish some people would keep their mouths shut when they criticise!
Good luck with whatever you decide :)

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2009

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I think you should ignore those ignorant people who tell you those ridiculous things. Some women have no children at all, that does not mean they are not women. I think you should choose the method that is best and safest for you and your baby. I think you will be much happier with a healthy baby than no baby at all. My friend had 3 C-Section, one of them i was in the room for. It is just as beautiful as a regular birth. When a baby is born it is always a beautiful thing. You carried that baby in you for 9 months and there is nothing more wonderful than that. If you ask me the recovery after birth is what is the most painful and C-sections take much longer to recover from and anyone that has to go through that pain is a real women as well. So in my opinion I think you should worry about your health and your baby's health and just ignore those others who want to think they know it all. Good Luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy!!

Selena - posted on 08/07/2009

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I feel that you are a women no matter what.As long as you had to go through the whole nine months of carrying a child that puts you on top no matter how you have you child.

Crystal - posted on 08/07/2009

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wow I thought it was only me. I have def experienced all the same criticisms...even from my own mother. i have had 4 csections and often hear "if you would have had 1 natural u wouldnt have so many kids". My response has always been if you would have 1 csection you would elect to have vaginal....but with hurt feelings. I would say research both options, talk extensively with your dr. My 1st section was emergency..then my dr refused a vbac and the rest is history....do what you feel is best....for you and your baby! Good luck!!!

Courtney - posted on 08/07/2009

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PS I wear my scar with pride and honor as well! Although I have to adimit my doctor uses an old fashioned method which is FANTASTICK btw my scar is hardly noticable but even if it was I would still wear it with pride!

Courtney - posted on 08/07/2009

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Holly crap who the hell told you that you are not a woman because you did not get to experience the full pain of pushing and that you should not have kids because you did not push them out! Seriously there are som F*ed people in this world who could go around and tell someone that! I had a c-section and I refused my pain med cause they were making me sick and I was up and walking around the same day doing circles around the other moms who also had c-sections who WERE on pain meds... and if I would of pushed my son out he would of been in critical condition becuase he has a double knoted umbillical cord and it would of tightend and it would of ended in a more of an emergency c-section anyways... I had to have a c-section because I got a fever and my progression slowed down. Yea I was upset at first but you know what to this day I am happy that my body did not allow me to progress and push because it basically saved my son! If those knots would of tightened who knows what could of happend I maybe would of not had a son today if they could not get to him on time! Being cut in half I think is worse than pushing... I mean if pushing was so bad and so painful with or with out the epideral, why do those moms get to go home in one day where we have to stay in the hospital for 4 days? I mean yea both have their pain and complications but obviously being cut in half is a little worse than pushing hence why we need to stay longer. Don't let those people bother you... You are not less of a women and your probably a great mom... So if you want to have a c-section so you do not risk losing your child like you almost did with your first then do it! Plus I have heard that if you have had a c-section once then you most likely have to do it with all of them because you are risking your utterus to collaps or there is a high chance of a breech birth... I can't remember exactly which my doctor told me but neither of those sound that fun anyway. Good luck and whatever you choose I hope you do it because you want to not because you feel pressured to.

Stephanie - posted on 08/07/2009

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i had a somewhat similiar experience, my first turned into a c-section because her head wasnt positioned right and she got stuck in my pelvis, and now 11 months after her im about to have another baby, (ugh i know) and he HAS to be a c-section. being a woman is carrying, and nurturing, and providing for your child, it has nothing to do with how the baby comes out, cause either way we suffer. there is a reason for everything, maybe its for the best of both you and the babies lifes to have a c-section, no sense in putting yourself, and baby in jepeordy because some people say your not doing it the way they did.

Tara - posted on 08/07/2009

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oh and dont listen to whoever told you that line of bull...your just as much as a woman no matter what way you decide

Tara - posted on 08/07/2009

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wow your story is almost identical to mine....im 23 have 3 kids first was a c-section 2nd was vaginal and 3rd was a c-section because my 2nd child barely made it out and almost got stuck. so i personally would have another c-section just in case you run into the problem i had.....especially if you have bigger sized babies..good luck

Topaz - posted on 08/07/2009

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Whichever way any woman decides to have her child is the best decision for her and her baby.... Whether it s vaginal or a c-section. Mine was vaginal, but i told my dr. 'whatever is the safest way to get my daughter out, thats what we are doing.' as long as the baby comes out safely and healthy what does it matter?!

Ashley - posted on 08/07/2009

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OMG... i've had c-sections with both of my children wasnt my choice the 2nd time but, it doesnt make you any less of a woman to not go through a vaginal birth. whoever has told you this is just giving you their opinion, and it not right for them to say that to you. when i had the c-section with my daughter, it was my choice to do it the 1st time only because my daughter was weighting in at 9 lbs 3 oz, she came out 9 lbs 5 oz. with my son i wanted to have a vaginal birth but they would only let me go a week after my due date then told me i was getting a c-section. i felt like if i didnt get to have a vaginal birth that i was letting myself down. but dont let people criticize you.

Theresa - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have 1 child and have heard horror and good stories about vaginal deliveries. I was all for a vaginal and an epidural but when i got to about 6 months pregnant my doctor had mentioned that the baby was big. i had a feeling she was larger than normal because my belly was huge and i was not. at around 3 weeks before my due date i started to beg my doctor to have a c-section and he refused. 2 days before the day i devilered i had an ultrasound to see how big she my be, i was told 8lbs 2oz. 2 days later i was induced, labored for 4 hours, her heartrate started dropin and i delivered by c-section a 9lbs 10oz baby girl. my doctor just thought i was scared but i had a gut feeling she was bigger than i was told! he said next time he'll listen lol.

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2009

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Dont listen to them! Most women (myself included) opt to get the epi and you dont feel a thing but the pressure when you are 10cm dilated! I do not blame you at all especially if you had such a bad experience the first time, and a c-section is the safest for your baby especially if you have already had two. I was was debating whether or not to get the epi because I wanted it to be "all natural" and I had heard people say that strong women go through it without any type of anesthesia. My back labor got really intense and when my doctor came in to check on me he told me that it was better for the baby bc when you have a contraction your body tenses up so much that it's hard for the baby to move its way down if your muscles are tight and as soon as I got the epi my labor progressed majorly. So just do what YOU feel is best, you know your body and since you have been through it before you know exactly what to expect. You are a true woman when you want what is best for your baby, and that's exactly what you are doing!

Tracy - posted on 08/07/2009

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I had vaginal births with my two but my sister had a c section because her baby was breech and they told her if she had another she should do c section again, can't remember why as CJ is now 6 going on 7 but i don't feel any woman is less for not doing vaginal especially since you did the work of carrying the baby for 9 whole months!

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