Can't believe what I'm hearing....

Jolene - posted on 10/20/2010 ( 82 moms have responded )

5

20

0

I am a dance teacher and last night in class I asked my 9-11 year old class of girls what they were going to be for Halloween. I got the following answers: Katy Perry in her California Gurls cupcake bra, Lady Gaga, Snooki, and "Major Flirt" which is basically a stripper costume of a barely dressed army person.... I was left with my mouth hanging open. I consider myself a very liberal person, but what are we teaching these little girls is okay when as parents we tell them it's ok to dress like that?!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Rachael - posted on 10/20/2010

28

37

4

We have 2 daughters, and they are going to HATE us- I don't care how "uncool" it is, there is NO way my daughters will be let out of the house dressed like that.

It scares me.....some parents are so irresponsible. I would be horrified if my daughters looked like that.

[deleted account]

Oh Lord. I can see Lady Gaga being okay in SOME instances but the rest of them? Who is Snooki, anyway? I have no idea who the heck that is (I'm sure I'm very alone on that) and from the pictures I've seen of her I don't know how a kid is supposed to dress like that without just looking like some goofy girl with a huge pompom on top of her head.

We have a daughter who'll be here in January and neither of us knows what we're going to do about the wardrobe issue. I've always been pretty modest. I have only worn shorts above the knees two or three times in my LIFE and only recently have I begun wearing tank tops. But even though my clothes covered everything, I still think I managed to look cute. I snagged my husband somehow, right?

So I think what we may have to do is teach our daughter that you don't have to show a bunch of skin to be sexy. I think you can be sexier in jeans and feel better about yourself than short shorts or mini skirts, which leave nothing to the imagination, and leave you feeling so much more open to criticism, which kids have a hard time giving out and handling.

Melly - posted on 10/20/2010

203

42

42

It sickens and scares me, and people wonder why there are child molesters out there.

Ava - posted on 10/23/2010

307

31

12

For those who are lost, Snooki is a slut from Jersey Shore that glorifies having sex with every man in the club, pretty much.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2010

351

35

63

Is there such thing as a "sexy" ninja costume? LOL high fives for all the mommies who cover their kids!!! WOOT! When my niece and daughter was little my niece would say "I so Seeexy mommy" I always got mad at my sis in law>>>> There is NOTHING sexy about a baby! Baby meaning 21 and under LOL

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

82 Comments

View replies by

Grace - posted on 08/25/2012

8

0

0

OMG! that is wrong and for halloween you usually wear scary outfits anyway! like witches and ghosts and crows not katy perry!

English - posted on 10/28/2010

5

24

0

There's like 80 posts so far and we're all saying the same thing!!! NO WAY would we want our little sweet peas dress like that.....so what can we do?? Would it be possible to all send a letter to companies? What steps should we take. I know not to buy the stuff and all. Any ideas??

And even barbie's doctor outfit is a miniskirt.....what happened to the regular white coat?

Heather - posted on 10/27/2010

116

17

4

I don't think that she meant it to all young moms really. But I do see it at our dance studio. Yes I am a young mom, but would never let my kids dress like that. But, many of the young, and teenaged moms that we have at our studio do let their little girls dress like they are 16, or put them in little clothing. They think that it's cute to see their little girl walking around in a pair of shorts and a belly shirt. I do have to agree that I dont see older moms letting their kids dress like this though.

Ashley - posted on 10/26/2010

2

32

0

Thank goodness my 10 year old is going to be a lady bug. I dread the day she asks to wear something like that. So not gonna happen.

Lauren - posted on 10/26/2010

54

70

0

yea u no! id rather put pins in my eyes then let my child dress anywhere near like that music videos are showing way to much and encouraging the wrong type of stuff for kids

Katherine - posted on 10/25/2010

9

22

0

I think it's just time the pendulum should swing the other way on the modesty thing... we've hit the extreme, now it's time to pull back towards the middle again.

as long as parents and society perceives this as acceptable it will be, if we let the media control us, we WILL all eventually walk around half nude. Society needs to stand up to mass media against over sexifying our girls! and promote high standards in our boys (we always forget to talk about what this kind of thing is telling boys!)

and someone please for the love of our eyeballs get katy perry some pants...

Denise - posted on 10/25/2010

9

29

1

I think bashing everyone as you are is not really fair. Yes dressing girls like that is totally wrong I will agree with you there, but it isnt always the parents and it isnt always the kids. It depends on each situation on why a girl is dressing that way. And I bet most of you cannot say you didn't sneak a sexy outfit out there here or there when you were a young teen and up. Yes nine is WAY to young, but look what they are plastering all over magazines! The way girls are "supposed" to look. That is where most girls get it, not from young moms or moms that are friends, it is society and what is expecting from them (so they think). And Katherine I remember doing that as well it was the best the one night you got to be a rock star. Too bad rock stars nowadays dont wear any clothing!

Katherine - posted on 10/25/2010

9

22

0

We found the same stuff last year and it's getting worse this year, and what makes it EVEN WORSE is the fact my daughter has started developing a little (another topic, kthx) here's how I solved it. I didn't shop for a costume in the halloween section - I went over to women's dresses and found one that was long enough to cover her, and a pretty color and added some fun accessories - she made a great vampire, and it wasn't a gross plastic dress that made her sweat all over the place, and it's something we're able to reuse this year. I think it just takes effort to find a costume that's acceptable. I remember my mom freaking cause me and my sister wanted to be Madonna.but we compromised with "generic punk rock stars" hot pink t-shirts, black shorts, blue colored hair spray, too-toos. and way too much makeup :) it was great! there's ways around mass produced costumes

Anna - posted on 10/25/2010

301

9

19

It's like people don't realize that when women, and little girls in return, dress provocatively, they are sending a message to men that they are available. Do people really want their 8 year olds saying "Hey, I'm available in a sexual way!" ? Ridiculous.

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2010

69

34

3

i do not think it is right how parents let there children dress these days. I am a young parent myself (20) but there is no way my daughter would walk out of my house dressed half naked let alone take her somewhere dressed like that. teens will test there limits yet but a 9 and 10 year old i believe can pick out what u give them to not go around lookin like mini strippers. i do not agree at all with it!

Allie - posted on 10/24/2010

341

8

26

OMG I cannot believe that!!! I'm so thankful I have a son who wants to be batman or superman or yoshi lol!

[deleted account]

I agree. I'm 25 now, but even when I was a teen I was embarrassed to wear the crap I see on younger and younger kids. This is not an age-of-the-mother thing, this is a stupid parent-who-wants-to-be-a-friend thing. Chances are, either the parent is just letting their child dictate to them, or they don't care what their child does because they never worked at building their child's self-esteem.

Ashley - posted on 10/24/2010

956

23

134

ok chloe thats kinda a low blow at young moms dont you think NOT ALL young teen moms dress like that and will be teaching their children to dress like that.. I am a young mom I am 22 with 2 girls and DO NOT dress like that and never have and my children will be damned before they try it too their grandmother tried to buy slutty clothes for them and they left and she has never been back since ITS not just the age of the mom either

Chloe - posted on 10/24/2010

8

23

1

i feel that this comes from a younger generation of women having babies. most women are teen moms. they havent really experienced life themselves

Jordan - posted on 10/23/2010

22

11

4

Some parents just need to figure it out that their kids are their kids! Not their best friends and children NEED boundaries and letting them dress like tramps is setting their children up for a harmful situation down the road. It's just really inappropriate to see a 12 year old dressing like a 21 year old. But then you usually see the parents and they are the ones that are dressed also inappropriately. So it's a catch 22. I'm glad I have a boy and I will teach him as he gets older how to treat and speak to ladies and to stay away from the ones that are out of control and don't respect themselves. *FYI* LESS revealing is more, I wouldn't want someone to be with me based on what I was wearing or in this section (not wearing). this infuriates me.

[deleted account]

I think alot of girls aren't being given the proper set up for a healthy self esteem. If they were, they would find those costumes as ridiculous as we do.

Caitlyn - posted on 10/23/2010

61

12

4

It's quite disgusting really. Sometimes I wonder if these parents know what types of individuals their children have the potential of coming across. If they did, and knew how their minds worked they surely would put a stop to that. That will be the day that my minor daughter walks out of my house wearing sluttly clothes... she may never leave the house again lol

Chrystal - posted on 10/23/2010

419

25

47

I do not think at that young of an age it is ok to dress like that. I just would like to know what is wrong with our generation

Anna - posted on 10/23/2010

36

5

4

young girls shouldn't ever be dressing like that ever!! It is just awful to see but what about the boys that wear pants that are 2 sizes to big and sirts that go almost half way to their knees. Its just not the girls that are leaving the house dressed trashy..boys do it too...i've seen boys that wear their pants so low their butt hangs out! That is just as awful seeing a girl dressed in trashy clothes...I have a 6 month old son and he is going to wear pants and shirts that fit him!! when he is older.

[deleted account]

im sorry but if my wee girl tryed to dress any sort way or form that most young girls do now she will be sent up to get change as theyre putting them self at a very bad risk of things happening to them but at same time parents should be saying something to them as well cause ive seen girls at 11 who look as if their 18 that not right their still children why let them ruin their child hood to be older than what they are as childhoods supposed to be the best time i hope my wee one dosnt think when shes older she will be dressing like that she has another thing coming

[deleted account]

I complain about this all the time. In my opinion it's not ok to teach little girls that this is ok. They are worth more than that, and "sexy" isn't going out dressed in your underwear, pouting, etc. I'm not just against it for the younger girls, I'm against it for ALL females of all ages. It's about time we took back our respect and self-worth from Hollywood and the music industry. I can't watch TV without saying FFS put some clothes on!!!

Natalia - posted on 10/23/2010

35

17

9

I know! It is ridiculous the way little girls dress these days. I consider myself a pretty liberal mom. I mean I have tattoos and piercing, but there is no way I would let my daughter go out looking like a hooker. My little girl is only two and have big issues with the clothes they sell for her age. I have gone so far as to have to make her skirts or dresses myself sometimes cause the ones in the store barely cover her bottom. I will not teach her its ok to follow the crowd and dress like a hooker. I have already told my son that if a girl is dress inappropialty she will not be allowed in my house.

Kristy - posted on 10/23/2010

132

41

10

I thank God everyday I have a baby boy, however, we would like to have a little girl in the future.. But as far as these parents its crazy!! Its bad enough to had to worry about letting your kids out of your sight with all of the molesters and sicko's out there, but to ALLOW your children to dress like this is ABSURD!!! Call me old fashioned but you leave the house you supposed to be WEARING CLOTHES!!! Its even more disturbing that parents are allowing thier little girls look up to some of the "celebrities" as role models! Its our responsibility as parents to protect our children and raise them to the best of our abilities, it breaks my heart how some parents claim to be "good parents" and still allow the kids to dress and behave this way. :(

Robin - posted on 10/23/2010

79

44

8

Umm... coming from someone with a daughter...I wasn't even allowed to wear makeup until I was 16 except for clear gloss when I was 15. Even at 16, my makeup had to be barely noticable. I am also large chested, and my clothes were not allowed to show any cleavage and my shorts always had to touch just above my knee. My daughter will have the same restrictions...especially because of the sick culture we have now where 9-11 y.o. grls think it's okay to look "sexy" when it's not. Sexy is a look that an older woman (over 18) should have...and even then it should not be so puplicly displayed. This makes me sooo sick.

Charlotte - posted on 10/23/2010

359

43

18

OMG! That's bordering on sick! My daughters are only 5 1/2 but I would let them dress that way til they're major!

Laura - posted on 10/22/2010

32

31

4

I agree with all the moms on here who are trying to keep their "little girls Little" I suggest reading a new book called "Bringing Up Girls" by Dr. James Dobson. He is a child psychologist and the book talks a lot about these topics. Thank you for trying to protect our angels.

Tana - posted on 10/22/2010

52

46

0

you went as a hooker??? i didnt even know what a hooker was until i was a teenager and i would have been horrified to be dressed as one...and a hula girl...its not like all you wore was a grass skirt and a coconut bra. I'm sure you wore clothing to make yourself more covered up under those things.

Tana - posted on 10/22/2010

52

46

0

HOLY COW SERIOUSLY! Thats ridiculous! That is beyond way to young to be dressing that way and to even be thinking that those "costumes" are appropriate! Parents need to give those girls some self respect and teach them that letting it all hang out for the world to see especially so sexualized at such a young age is extremly unacceptable!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 10/22/2010

351

35

63

Well thanks for the compliment. I get a little frustrated with parents anymore. I actually do not like my daughters friends, not because they're not good kids but because they aren't made to mind and at my house- you better mind! So yeah I blame the parents. :)

Tonie-Marie - posted on 10/22/2010

5

26

0

thats insane (sorry parents). my girls age 10 and 7 listen to katy perry and lady gaga, but they dont wanna as them for halloween

Brittany - posted on 10/22/2010

157

55

6

Really? Indiference? We really need to be more in control of our kids lives.

Brittany - posted on 10/22/2010

157

55

6

Laura, You dressed as a prostitute for halloween as a child? That ridiculous! It's unacceptable for a child to see that as okay. Any adult in a child's life in any way can be perceived as a role model. We not talking about a generic character such as an animal, we are talking about real people. You can't tell a child not to look up to someone, it's not possible. So you have to control who and what influences their lives.
Jennifer, AMEN! Thanks for being your kids mom. Thank you for being a good mom.

Isobel - posted on 10/22/2010

9,849

0

282

ummmmmm...I didn't look at hula girls or prostitutes as roll models...nor cats or bunnies, or any of the other silly costumes that I dressed as when I was a child, so I don't know if that's necessarily true.

Brittany - posted on 10/22/2010

157

55

6

It's about parents. I think the responsibility comes down to the parents of children. The parents allow their children to look at these people as roll models. Entertainment that is made for an older audience is being consumed by children, and that is not okay. I understand that children will hear things when they are with their friends, but if they are dressing like this for Halloween, they are ovbiously doing this with their parents consent. That means that this has nothing to do with friends and everything to do with parenting. I sincerely believe that parents are no longer doing their job in monitoring their children's activities and sheltering them properly. Parents are NOT doing their jobs any more.

[deleted account]

There's a huge difference with being open minded as in open to people being gay etc. but those things are usually involving adults...not girls wearing skimy outfits! I would have bene horrifed!

Isobel - posted on 10/22/2010

9,849

0

282

seems to me that when I was eleven I went as a hula girl with a grass skirt and a coconut bra...and another year I may have actually been a hooker...so...while I don't like it...I do feel like a little bit of a hypocrite.

Jennifer - posted on 10/22/2010

351

35

63

Morgan,
I'm sure it had some to do with it, but it's not an excuse. I came from a conservative family and didn't dress like that at all and yes was abused, however, when I was married and in the private of my bedroom with my husband I understood the power of feeling sexy and I liked it. It's a heady thing to feel that way... but my daughter is to respect me. Now and always. Let me catch her just one time dressing inappropriately... My daughter is 9, yes, and maybe I'm way off base here, but my authority is not questioned. I am the boss, I OWN her as long as I am paying for her food and clothes and home. Until then she will dress head to toe if I wish. Why? Cause that's my perogative as her mom. She was abused at 3 and I'll be dipped if I'm going to encourage it to happen again by the way she dresses... Cause then, it's MY fault. Time for parents to step up and shoulder the responsibilities. If I've been negligent in my parenting, then I am guilty for it and harbor that guilt.

Monica - posted on 10/22/2010

8

5

0

completely agree i am open minded but when a little girl is wearing something shorter or more reviling then i would even do i think its bad.its a shame parents don't want to stop this either and the companys feed into it.i am lucky to have boys so i dont necessarily have to deal with the dressing just the whole body image of muscles and etc

Kayla - posted on 10/22/2010

9

23

0

theres alot of influence out there now days that makes these little girls wanna do older girl things but thats when the parents need to interfere and explain to them that certain things arent appropriate for little girls...my oldest daughter whos 6 loves hannah montana and sometimes i see miley cyrus and think shes overdoing it!! but thats the society today...wat can we do?? by the way shes gonna be a goth fairy...sooo cute:)

Alexis - posted on 10/22/2010

632

21

21

I agree and almost feel lucky to have a son. But at the same time I have to teach my son to not be a typical guy just because the girls are dressing like that. (although some of why girls dress like that is not only to fit in but the attention they get) I think it is pressure from society, friends and lack a parental input causing it. Most of these girls' role models are people like Katy Perry, Lady Gaga and the such. Sometimes I think that if we were just all nude all the time and that was the norm, we could take away this sexuality that clothes are providing. Then maybe people wouldn't have body issues either, because they would see that there are a lot of people who look just like them and it was the underclothes, or clothes that made their body look a certain way. (anyways-off on a tangent there) What I dont understand is how a parent can let their girl dress that way and idolize the pop stars, then wonder why they are having sex at a young such young ages and getting pregnant. I think as a society we need to start teaching our girls and boys what is appropriate and how to have self esteem in themselves and their minds\accomplishments not their body image.

Morgan - posted on 10/22/2010

1,116

44

166

Hey Jen,
I am sure it also had alot to do with the Additude of that girl and they way she carried herself, not just her clothes.

Cynthia - posted on 10/22/2010

2

9

0

I am sorry, only I think that often this has to be with the form in which the girls get dress. Of course it does not forgives those who do it.

Alecia - posted on 10/22/2010

644

21

43

wow....i dont even watch jersey shore, i couldnt imagine letting kids watch it. (plus why make ppl like that famous?? aint nothing special 'bout em). i am pretty liberal, but i would not let my kid wear any of those till she was 18. where is the parenting now-a-days?

Lady Heather - posted on 10/22/2010

2,448

17

91

Halloween is the worst for it. It's bad enough that the costume world expects all us adult women to dress that way, but it's definitely creeping into the kids market. I saw some disturbing stuff on the racks of a local department store - aimed at 8-10 year olds!

When I was 10 I was a witch. What happened?

Jennifer - posted on 10/22/2010

351

35

63

Hey Morgan, very true abuse happens regardless... however, I have a friend who dressed provacatively on the sly too... She was raped but brothers best friend, complained to me, "Sorry you basically asked for it", CONTINUED to dress that way... happened again! (I personally was shocked) This woman was molested or raped several times before she was 18. If you're advertising for it then whats to stop someone from doing it? No it should never be okay for a guy to disrespect a woman, but if you put it out there..... The women in here are pretty conservative, and that's what we're talking about. Yes, it is still the parents responsibility.

Morgan - posted on 10/22/2010

1,116

44

166

I just wanna say that I dont think its always the parents fault, My mother always watched what I wore but she never knew that I had girls bring me clothes so I could change at school!! And the comment "After a while they will be asking why my daughters is pregnant or being abused" What??? this is about the dumbest comment Ive heard on here so far!! you dont have to dress like a slut to be abused do you know how many little girls are abused in fuckin onsies??????? GROW UP!!!!!!

Cynthia - posted on 10/22/2010

2

9

0

OMG, It scares me, .some parents are so irresponsible. After a while they will be asking why my daughter is pregnant or being abused. As parents we should direct our child´s and don´t let them do what ever is COOL for them, even if it means being uncool¡ but with boys is almost the same even if we are not talking about clothes TV and Video games are teaching them violence and sex¡¡

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms