Can't get pregnant!

Cynthia - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 109 moms have responded )

180

17

22

My husband and I have been trying to conceive our second child for 4 months now, and nothing is happenening. It has been very heartbreaking! I came into this very naively- I was only 2 months into marriage when a surprise pregnancy resulted in my son, who is now 2 1/2. So, I went into it thinking, if I got pregnant so easily, while using 2 kinds of birthcontrol at once, that this would be a piece of cake. It is probably my own fault for not researching this a little better, but I still don't understand what can make it so difficult this time! I hope I'm not sharing too many details, but I have done the things that friends have suggested- woman on top, or doggie style positions, to get an easier vantage point, I've tried putting it out of my head and not thinking about it much, (which is alot more difficult than it sounds), and after the last time, Even layed with my bottom propped up on pillows for 40 minutes afterwards to ensure I got the "maiximum value of the merchandise!"LOL I have had some physical problems in the past year, and was diagnosed with IC , a painful bladder condition, but was told by my doctor that the medicine should be safe during pregnancy, so I don't think that would cause it. I was also told, that it showed up in an ultrasound that my uterus had tilted after my son was born, which I was told , may cause some problems, but it wasn't definite. If anyone else has been through this or has any advice whatsoever, I am willing to try anything! I want a baby so bad!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2009

24

5

3

hi my fiance and i tried for about 2 years and nothing happened we tried all the positions too i ate healthy stayed very still with legs up after same as you but nothing, i went to docs for tests and they all came back normal so it was looking like unexplained infertility, we were going to start ivf then out of the blue i was ill didnt think for a second i was pregnant but after weeks of being sick i ended up in hospital and they told me i was pregnant i couldnt believe it its the best ive ever felt when being so sick all the time!

they gave me a scan to confirm it and the found that my uterus was tilted, it was not a problem i asked if this could have been the reason it took so long to fall pregnant but they said no sometimes it just takes a long time!

i now have a beautifull healthy baby girl.

i hope this helps and good luck xxx

Francis - posted on 11/19/2009

2

4

0

I had a same problem.. But when I was trying everything not to get pregnant age 18 on birth control, I got pregnant..then after three years having my first child, My husband and I try to get pregnant same way you are doing, Then that didn't work, then we went to Doctors we tried the all Medicine, and even science, when that didn't work. We I was so so upset, and I give up. But when My daughter turn 8. I find out I was pregnant with my second child..After My youngest Daughter born, I went back on birth control..But after she was a year old, I got pregnant really fast with my third one without any type help, or even Medicine, Our bodies work weird ways for some reason. Maybe if you quit trying it might happen because that's what happened to me, Yes I wish I could had my second child closer age with my Oldest but I guess it's god's way, better then nothing. Don't stress on it, or get upset. I know it's hard, you gotta been strong, also my doctor told me when I was trying anything to get pregnant he told me more you worry, stress, upset then lest chance you will have one, because your body goes so many changes and it will get of guard..Then your body has to work more then normal. Just enjoy the fun part, and You will get pregnant when your body is ready..Have faith

Nicole - posted on 10/27/2009

13

7

0

remember the doctor said it "should" be safe, is he certain or guessing?? my friend has a tilted cervix and no problems with getting pregnant. all i can say is do it daily, thats how i concieved!

Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2009

69

32

1

Have you been checked for PCOS? Are you regularly ovulating? Have you used the pee stick ovulation kits? My mother had a titled uterus and PCOS and she could get pregnant, just not carry the babies. She had to have a stitch put in her cervix to have my sister. Someone in one of the other posts talked about Robustussim and I've heard that helps. Regular Robetussim md nightly before bed does something to the mucus.

Bekki - posted on 10/27/2009

186

6

8

Quoting Helen:

Just so you know the suggestions to seek out a fertility specialist or fertility drugs are good suggestions but I will tell you right now MOST fertility specialists will not even see you until you have been trying for a year or more without any success. Unless you have a condition that is already documented that makes you more likely to be "infertile".

Most Dr's will also not give you fertility drugs (i.e. Clomid) unless you have tried on your own for 1 year. If you do end up using clomid don't worry too much about the risk of multiples on it as it actually has a very low rate of multiples. My dr told us it like 5-10% chance of twins.

I know how you feel. DH and I tried for 5 1/2 years before getting pregnant with DD. We ultimately had to use Clomid to get pregnant. We did however get pregnant again 8 months after DD was born and will welcome our second DD in December.

Also all of the relax and it will happen is very unhelpful advice. Unless you have been in the situation of dealing with infertility don't poo poo it by implying that it will all be better if you just relax because the reality is that most of the time that is NOT the problem.


I don't recall any of the posts telling her to seek out a fertility specialist most were just telling her that is what they ended up having to do ..

This conversation has been closed to further comments

109 Comments

View replies by

Marie - posted on 09/02/2012

3

0

0

i got 2 kids n i have been trying for 4 mouths now to get pregnant since i took my inplant over n cause i been getting so much pain im goin to have a scan to check if my ovals r ok maybe u can do the same

Cynthia - posted on 10/31/2009

180

17

22

Thank you so much , everyone for your kind and helful comments! I am very THRILLED to announce, that after several heartbreaking months, WE ARE FINALLY PREGNANT! Baby #2 is due on July 10, 2010!!!!!! We just found out today, Halloween! It was the best halloween treat ever!!!!!

Tina - posted on 10/29/2009

42

11

3

stop trying so hard forget you want it and it will happen stress keeps you from getting pregant and worrying doesn't help

Anna-Louise - posted on 10/29/2009

15

15

3

Have you tried buying a kit that tells you when you're ovulating so you know which days are best?

Brittany - posted on 10/27/2009

2

110

0

i have 3 kids 3 1/2 year old daughter a 2 1/2 year old son and a 7 month old son. i never tried to get pregnant but everytime we had sex i always thought about having another baby but one day i didnt think of it at all and 2 weeks later found out i was pregnant. if you all you do it think about getting pregnant while youre having sex you get pregnant. enjoy the time with your husband and dont worry about getting pregnant. my husband was told he could never have kids and we have 3. unless its medical then i would get upset about it. we didnt use anything and he didnt pull out or nothing and i didnt get pregnant for almost a year then one day i didnt care and i enjoyed it. if you try to hard it takes away from the time you have with you husband.

Kim - posted on 10/27/2009

1

20

0

Hello, I'm new to this board. Don't know if this has been said or not (I didn't read all the posts...I admit it,) but second time infertility is very common. I am unable to conceive naturally,so I have done so much research onthe topic of fertility. (My daughter was born from IVF.) I would recommend talking to your OBGYN about doing som tests to see. However, they usually won't test until you've been trying for 6-12 months. Good luck to you.

Rachael - posted on 10/26/2009

5

14

0

Hi, it took us 6 months and we were worried too. We're both young and were wondering why it wasn't happening. Eventually I think being more relaxed and not trying too hard helped. I was on the pill tho, and they say it can take about 6 + months to get out of ur system. Good luck and don't be discouraged!

[deleted account]

It took me and my husband 9 months to get pregnant with our 2nd....try babycenter.com they have an ovalation calcutor you can use thats why finally worked for us.

Danielle - posted on 10/26/2009

20

21

0

When me and my husband decided to have a baby the first thing i did was have a look on the internet for foods that are said to help with fertility and worked out when i was ovulating using an "ovulation calculator" they can be found on a number of websites. i found this really helpful as we didn't feel pressure to constanty 'try' which we felt helped relax the situation and take away some of the frustration and stress. Good luck x

Jo - posted on 10/26/2009

23

65

1

i also have a tilted womb n had 2 children 10 1/2 months apart so that wouldn't cause any big problems, the only advise i can give u is the same advise i gave a friend cause she was having problems getting pregnant. i told her to stop putting so much stress on herself n then things should happen and it worked shhe finally got pregnant n is due in march.
i hope this helps u.

Kayla - posted on 10/26/2009

1

3

0

i dont know if this will help.. im pregnant with my first child. finally. it took my husband and i 7 months of trying EVERYthing to get pregnant. and it just wasnt happening . i dont know why but it broke my heart after month after month of negative test results . i thaught it wasnt going to happen everyone i new got pregnant so quickly why is it .. it took us so long. then 7 months later i took a test and i didnt expect at all for a possitive i had given up hope .. and there it was finally possitive. i just want to encourage you not to worry .. i know how it feels to wait and wonder what the heck . just relax and trust your body will do its thing when its ready .. my best friend got pregnant right away the first time and it took her 9 months for her second.. im sure you will have a beautiful baby again .. good luck and stay possitive.

Aimee - posted on 10/26/2009

7

7

0

I know what you are going through, I have been on bc for 4 years every since my little girl was born and me and my husband tried for like 4 months after I was off the bc. I am now four months prego. Stop trying, your trying too hard. It doesn't matter what position you try, its still kinda early just give it a while, I know its a pain in the butt waiting and trying not to think about it but it will happen, I had cervical surgery and didn't even know if I was able to have kids. Stop worrying and relax, it will happen sooner than you think. Try not to be stressed out too, that doesn't help. Whatever you do don't take fertility meds. bc they can cause problems, if you already have kids it will just take some time for the bc to wear off and get out of the system.

Marcia - posted on 10/26/2009

22

3

0

Oh yeah getting drunk does help too. It relaxes u and that is how i got pregnant the first time.

Marcia - posted on 10/26/2009

22

3

0

First get u uterus checked make sure it okay. U may be gettin pregnat and it just not attackin itself. Also go on a vacation and have fun not thinkin about it and bam it may work. It did for my sister-in-law. For me i was on top for two weeks everyday and i got pregnant. That way u have control and can achieve a major O, which helps.

[deleted account]

Don't be discouraged... it took me and my husband almost a year and I was not using any birth control besides condoms for well over a year before we decided to have another baby. So many factors play a part in getting pregnant. If you are too stressed for any reason or if you are too worried... everyone told me if you want to get pregnant, RELAX and enjoy the sex with your husband- even if you have to go to the bar get drunk and have sex in the back seat of your car! It is the spontanius afternoon or midnight sex that is most exciting and most relaxing. Everyone is different which does make things more difficult, if you truely feel like there may be a problem- just go to the doctor and see what medical advice they can give. Good luck- hope you are blessed with a little one soon!

Tina - posted on 10/26/2009

26

34

3

A tilted uterus isn't a problem. I had one and had no problem getting prego. You can google it and all the info says the same.

Gemma - posted on 10/26/2009

5

9

0

depends what birth control ur on but if its things like the pill or the injection ect then this can take a good 6 months to come completely out ur system anyway 4 months isnt a huge amount of time!give ur self time just enjoy it!!!:)

Tara - posted on 10/26/2009

41

55

2

I Fell Pregnant With My First Son Very Quickly But With My Second It Took Neally 18 Months!! Keep Trying As Frustrating As It Must Be .. I Understand. I Know A Few People Who Have Had The Same Trouble With Number 2.

Alana - posted on 10/26/2009

31

33

2

i have a tilted uterus and found that crossing my legs and holdin them up in the air straight afterwards and holdin pelvic floor muscle as tight as i could for as long as possible helped and was also on blackmores concieve well tablets also havin sex in morning and at night for the middle 2wks of my cycle...........hope it works for u soon i remember how painful it was whenever a test came up negative! good luck

Nicole - posted on 10/25/2009

3

21

0

i know what you are going through me and my hubby were not together fopr very long before i got pregnant with my son (surprise) i was on the pill for a while then we got married when my son was 3 and started trying to get pregnant well i did about a year later but miscarried i was so hurt cause my sister in law was prego too but after that me and my husband never used birth control and the doctor did tell me i had i a tilted uterus too well about 4 years later i really wanted a baby and every month i would buy a test if i was alil late and it would be negative andi would feel so defeated but 1 month i looked up the days i would be ovulating and had sex every day of the ovulation and htought what the hell i will put my legs up see what happens well next month i was i late thought ohh probably not prego just late went and got a test anyways came home took it and there were the two pinks lines the best day of my life (2nd time) 7 years after my son was born and my daughter was born 1 week after my sons birthday so i guess my fertile time was in dec. lol...but try and relax it will happen when u stress to much it wont happen keep track of your ovulating days and put ur legs up but rember miracles happen everyday..i thought i would neer have a another child i would always tell myself 1 is good but it was just to keep me from feeling bad and when i least expected it i had my daughter...good luck to you

Erica - posted on 10/25/2009

2

13

0

Honestly, I tried without my significant other knowing... if you know what kegles are then try those... it helps to strengthen the muscles down there.... also if you have a headboard hook your feet at the top.... lol... i know this helped me... i was pregnant within two months.... my son is almost 3 now... like all the other ladies have said though.... the best thing to do is DON'T STRESS.... the more you try the more you get frustrated i know.... my sister's friend also had a tilted uterus and it took them a while to conceive as well.... but her little girl is almost 2 now... so just be patient.... good things come to those who wait... :-)

Heather - posted on 10/25/2009

7

52

0

i suggest the book.. how to choose the sex of your baby.. even if your not choosing the sex of your baby it is really informative on what IT TAKES TO GET PREGNANT. seriously it is amazing how those accidents( both of mine were) but how they happen! :) i really suggest reading.. it has worked for a ton of my friends and me and my husband are planning on conceiving in Dec...good luck!

Erin - posted on 10/25/2009

115

34

16

Are you just coming off any kind of birth control? When I was trying to get pregnant, my doctor told me that it can take up to 6 months for the pill to be out of your system and as long as 18 months if you were on Depo (the shot). It took me 5 months after getting off the pill before I ovulated the first time and I got pregnant that month! Good luck and may a little one join your family soon!

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

5

16

0

Quoting rebecca:

try counting 12 days after the first day of your period, the 12th , 13th and 14th day are your most fertile. also if you have sex in the mornings you are apparently more likely to get pregnant. the first time i tried this i got pregnant, but it may have just been luck too!



sorry to reply again but I read this and wanted you to see it again....but also it depends on the birth control you were on and how long you were on it too....I was taking yasmin dp for 4 years and my doctor told me it was gonna take a year before I got pregnant....or it could be sooner depending on my body. Talk with your gyno and see if your uterus could be a problem....better to know that way you can fix it...but relax enjoy and just have fun! Dont make it another duty on your to do list.

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

5

16

0

Quoting rebecca:

try counting 12 days after the first day of your period, the 12th , 13th and 14th day are your most fertile. also if you have sex in the mornings you are apparently more likely to get pregnant. the first time i tried this i got pregnant, but it may have just been luck too!



sorry to reply again but I read this and wanted you to see it again....but also it depends on the birth control you were on and how long you were on it too....I was taking yasmin dp for 4 years and my doctor told me it was gonna take a year before I got pregnant....or it could be sooner depending on my body. Talk with your gyno and see if your uterus could be a problem....better to know that way you can fix it...but relax enjoy and just have fun! Dont make it another duty on your to do list.

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

5

16

0

I was in the same boat as you...we were trying for a year and a half. Was told half of the stuff you were told. From experience it is all about letting it go and not thinking bout it(which yes is hard to do) but think of sex as a pleasure not as a baby making chore. I also took prenatal vitamins to get my body baby ready. I was also told to count 14 days after the day you start and to have sex that day or the next. I dunno if that is what helped us concieve but we got prego a month later. If you smoke or drink alcohol that is a major factor that can make it harder. But as stated by many just enjoy all the sex you have with the one you love...and when the time is right the good lord will bless you with a bundle...Good luck!

Helen - posted on 10/25/2009

26

23

2

Just so you know the suggestions to seek out a fertility specialist or fertility drugs are good suggestions but I will tell you right now MOST fertility specialists will not even see you until you have been trying for a year or more without any success. Unless you have a condition that is already documented that makes you more likely to be "infertile".



Most Dr's will also not give you fertility drugs (i.e. Clomid) unless you have tried on your own for 1 year. If you do end up using clomid don't worry too much about the risk of multiples on it as it actually has a very low rate of multiples. My dr told us it like 5-10% chance of twins.



I know how you feel. DH and I tried for 5 1/2 years before getting pregnant with DD. We ultimately had to use Clomid to get pregnant. We did however get pregnant again 8 months after DD was born and will welcome our second DD in December.



Also all of the relax and it will happen is very unhelpful advice. Unless you have been in the situation of dealing with infertility don't poo poo it by implying that it will all be better if you just relax because the reality is that most of the time that is NOT the problem.

Bekki - posted on 10/25/2009

186

6

8

Quoting Jennifer :

Have you been checked for PCOS? Are you regularly ovulating? Have you used the pee stick ovulation kits? My mother had a titled uterus and PCOS and she could get pregnant, just not carry the babies. She had to have a stitch put in her cervix to have my sister. Someone in one of the other posts talked about Robustussim and I've heard that helps. Regular Robetussim md nightly before bed does something to the mucus.


I have PCOS/PCOD. I'm textbook infertile, which means i may conceive but the eggs are not viable and will always result in a miscarriage. Unless i get fertility drug Clomid which i thank greatly for the birth of my second son :) ..



 



If you are having trouble getting pregnant your hormone levels are probably still messed up from your previous pregnancy. Others are right, try taking a cycle of birthcontrol and having sex on the 3 days before your period, and the 3 days after. Having constant sex actually lessens your chances of getting pregnant. its like a cup in there, when you overfill it the contents that were there before tend to get pulled out. Get a basal body thermometer you can find them at the drug store and keep it beside your bed. First thing in the morning take your temperature and write it down.. DO NOT GET OUT OF BED FIRST. The smallest body movements can raise your temperature fractions of a degree and give you wrong readings.. that will let you know your ovulation schedule.. when your ovulating dont overdo it on sex.. Once a day is fine, keep your hips at a 45 degree angle afterwards for like.. 15 minutes to let gravity pull the lil swimmers to their destination :) .. GOOD LUCK!!

Christine - posted on 10/25/2009

12

26

2

It took me 3 years to get pregnant with my first, and it happened when I lost 20 pounds, a Dr. told me that if you are a certain weight, it is harder to conceive. As soon as I relaxed, it happened. Don't stress about it, because it can hurt your relationship.

Stephanie - posted on 10/25/2009

70

10

10

It took me 5 months to get pregnant with my first son who is now 18months old. My husband and i started trying 2 months ago for our 2nd and after a month is was getting annoyed so i can understand. I took a positive attitude and "WAS" going to get pregnant! everyone thought i was mad and shouldnt get my hopes up...turns out i'm now 5 weeks pregnant..not so crazy, i guess. After sex i wouldnt go to the bathroom and i'd lye on my side with my knees to my chest with a pillow under my hips. I read that this helps the sperm get better access to the cervix. Might help you out. Think positive it will happen! My cycle was always different so working out when i was ovulating was just a waste of time for me. Good luck!

Bridgette - posted on 10/25/2009

13

37

0

With my 1st pregnancy I got pregnant the first month we started trying...I was very shocked. So I figured when we decided to start trying again in January 2008 that it would happen fairly quick. It didn't...and I thought I was never going to have another baby. So finally me and my husband said if it happens...great and if it doesn't we already have a wonderful little girl. My cycles are pretty normal and I figured out when I was ovulating and in May of 2008 I found out I was pregnant! I really think figuring out the ovulation time and not being stressed about it helped us!

Heather - posted on 10/25/2009

1

18

0

My husband and I have been trying for 14 months. With a miscarriage in April and another in August. I have learned to be thankful for the 1 wonderful child that I have, and just keep trying.

Valissa - posted on 10/25/2009

44

25

2

they say that the missionary position is actually the best for getting pregnant, and that an orgasm makes a big difference in helping things get to where it needs to go. i know 4 months seems really long but you can always talk to your docter and see what they say. there is suppose to be no real issue until a year. but always check it out if your worried.

Melissa Jean - posted on 10/25/2009

1

17

0

I know what frustration you are feeling. My husband and I have been "trying" since Feb. My daughter was not a surprise, but not full planned, she was a "whatever happens, happens" if that makes any sense. I know I have tried tracking my ovulation and ensuring that I take my vitamins. I know a big factor of mine is the fact that I am addicted to coffee and the amount I drink plays a part in this. I have been slowly cutting back on my coffee intake to help move this along. So I am not sure what your caffine intake is, but medical research does show caffine can affect concieving.

Dawn - posted on 10/24/2009

66

24

6

Just relax and stop trying and it will happen. It took me a year after I stopped my birth control and it will happen when it is supposed to happen. Just have fun.

[deleted account]

don't listen to sex positions...that's not any thing that helps
the secret is..... TO STOP TRYING!!!!!!

YOU TRY, YOU STRESS, THEN NOTHING HAPPENS, YOU STRESS SOME MORE....SORRY, LEFT CAPS...LOL...BUT ANYWAY, GIVE UP, AND START HAVING FUN....FORGET TRYING.....THATS WHEN IT HAPPENS. YOUR STRESS LEVEL GOES DOWN, AND BAMO!!! BABY

Megan - posted on 10/24/2009

47

17

0

there is a ovulation calender on webmd.com that will track your ovulation and tell you when your most fertile. make sure to have sex on those days in the morning because that is when men are most fertile.

Charlotte - posted on 10/24/2009

2

7

0

it took me 7 months to get prego for the first time. I was taking medication and i got off of it and 3months later was preg. Maybe its ur medication messing with ur hormones and ovulation. And having a tilted uterus does make it harder to conceive! My mom had it and she thought maybe thats why it was taking me so long but mine wasnt tilted. You just have to try different positions like doggy style. Make sure ur not peeing after sex and if u smoke stop smoking. Maybe start taking prenatals too. Dont give up eveything happens for a reason!!!

Carrie-Jo - posted on 10/24/2009

24

48

0

My fiance and I have been together for 9 yrs. After the 5th year of being together we decided to start trying to get pregnant. After 4 years, much stress, basal thermometers and mucus testing, we got frustrated and decided to take a break. I got a real bad ear infection after Christmas 2007, got a rx but was told to take a pregnancy test before getting the rx filled. ALAS, after YEARS of trying everything, thinking there was something wrong with one or both of us and pretty well giving up on our dream of being parents.....the test finally came back positive! STRESS is the key factor in not conceiving I think, in those of us who are not lucky enough tp procreate like rabbits lol Now I am the very proud mother to my now 14 month old son Damian. We are thinking of trying for another real soon, curious how long it will take this time? Good luck to you!!!

Caitlin - posted on 10/24/2009

2

22

0

um I am also trying to get pregnant and have been off BC for nearly 4 months and we have been trying every second we can. I already have a 3 year old girl who is amazing but we are also ready to have our 2nd. I was told that coming off birth control to get pregnent could take up to 6-12month because the hormones and chemicals from the birth control can stay in your system and kind of mess with you and until those are cleaned out and your body is on it own biological clock then it could be difficult to get pregnant. I got pregnant with no problem with my daughter but I had been off the pill before trying for at least 6 months. Also, the week before, during and after ovulation have sex at least 3 times (if not more) in those weeks anytime of the day. I wish you lots of luck and keep us posted on progress.

Lacey - posted on 10/24/2009

55

10

1

it's only been four months, i know it seems like a long time to try but don't worry. You should try this website: www.yourdays.com. You put in your info and it calculates your most fertile days. You should try that because there is only a small window of opportunity every month to become pregnant, most people don't realize that. Also, having sex in the positions where you are on your back will likely be the most successful. Make sure you are taking vitamins, exercising, eating healthy, getting enough rest and not feeling too stressed. There are so many things to take into consideration when trying to get pregnant, it's hard not to feel stressed. Also, were you on birth control and went off of it to get pregnant? Because that can sometimes stay in your system for quite a while. I was taking the depo shot and it took nearly 8 months before I even got a period again once I stopped getting it. If you are still concerned you should talk with your doctor, though most won't address the issue until you have been trying for at least a year. Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon!

Karen - posted on 10/24/2009

12

22

2

My husband and me have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years!! I have had one surgery and they found that I have endometreosis, which is the most common cause of women not being able to get pregnant!! 2 and a half years ago we were offered the chance to adopt a baby from someone who knew my mother-in-law. We decided to do it since we still couldn't get pregnant. My son was born 2 years ago and he is everything to me. I still want to have one of my own, but no luck yet.
I hate people who tell you not to think about... how can you not think about something like that!! Keep talking to your doctor and maybe ask to see a specialist. They can do more testing and they may have better advice for you. Most doctors won't do anything until you have been trying for a year.... Lie to them if you have to hehe
Your husband should be tested first, since it is a very simple and easy test for him. It can be much more complicated for you! I wish you luck and hope to hear good news very soon!!!

Devona - posted on 10/24/2009

1

88

0

Hey I am going through the same thing. My little boy is 5 and in Apr this year we got off the pill. Well by May I was expecting, well that did not take long. We were so excited. Well May 19 I started bleeding really bad and went to the dr. I had to be rushed to surgery. I had a tupial preganency. Well they did surgery and only had to remove one tube and left one and both ovaries. Well my dr told me I should not have any problems getting preganet. Well I am like you tried everything and no baby yet. Every month I keep my hopes up and they get shot down. I do feel blessed to have one child though. Not everyone knows what we went through and when they make comments like " it is time for another one" I just want to cry.

Lori - posted on 10/24/2009

139

16

12

4 months sounds like an eternity when you want another baby now, but in reality it isn't that long. keep trying!!!! im sure youre husband won't mind, lol. i dont think a dr would really do much until it's been a year with no success. try and ovulation kit so you know when you ovulate. isnt it funny how we spend so much of our lives thinking that if a guy simply looks at us we're going to get pregnant, and then when you want it so so badly it doesn't seem to be quite that easy. hang in there sweetie!!!

Holly - posted on 10/24/2009

24

43

1

mi aunt and mi uncle tried for a baby for a year or so then they gave up and was gunna adopt then mi aunt got pregnant. i find when ur not trying is when it happens and when u r trying it doesnt. maybe its the stress of trying that makes it difficult.

Shayna - posted on 10/24/2009

214

0

28

You could have your husband take his semen into the hospital for a sperm count.



My aunt (whom I'm very close with) could not get pregnant. She had to have the help of a fertility doctor. The first time it took her 1.5 year to get pregnant with her daughter. After they had her they went back to the fertility doctor and immediately tried again, but were not successful after 5 year of trying and gave up. She then became pregnant 10 years later by surprise! They got their boy, and they are the most wonderful family.



You should seek a fertility specialist ASAP, as it can be a timeing process. They will help determine the help you will need to become pregnant if possible.



GOOD LUCK!

Pixie - posted on 10/23/2009

10

6

0

I have no idea what to suggest, with regards to the problems you describe, but I can relay my experience to you, and maybe what I did, will help for you too...

I also stuggled to fall pregnant, but I pushed on for two years, becoming more and more convinced that I couldn't fall pregnant at all. I also tried all the well meaning advise of friends...Try different positions, propped myself up, I even went so far as trying a balancing act by standing in my head...LOL!! Then someone told me to start doing yoga...So I went out, and bought a yoga book, and within a month I was pregnant. It may not work with you, or it might not work as fast, but it's worth a try at least. And you really shouldn't think about it, as the more you think about it, the more stressed you'll be...And the less your body will do what it needs to do. And like they say, the best part of having a baby, is the trying...So just have fun and let your body do the rest!!

Tanya - posted on 10/23/2009

5

18

0

it took my sister 6 months to get pregnant after she stopped bc - hang in there!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms