Cannot Believe People's Reactions On Breastfeeding In Public

Katie - posted on 05/20/2009 ( 126 moms have responded )

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last night i watched a documentary about breastfeeding. the tv crew followed moms who were breastfeeding children of different ages right up until one of them was 8.

anyway, some of the moms featured formed a group to help promote breastfeeding and sat in a shopping centre breastfeeding their children (perfectly normal in my eyes) and p[assers by were asked about their feelings of breastfeeding in public ....... i was shocked to find that a lot of people found it disgusting and innapropriate to do .... and was even more shocked when a man said i think its wrong for a woman to ''whip out her boobs'' in public, not that any of the women featured had exposed their boobs to anyone AND MORE TO THE POINT IM SURE HE WOULDNT MIND IF IT WAS SOME STRIPPER DANCING INFRONT OF HIM FLAUNTING HERSELF!!

so yeah, after all of that just thought id like to hear your views on the situation! and i wont be put off breastfeeding my child because of other people thinking its wrong!! :D

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Ashleigh - posted on 05/20/2009

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Yay for you!!!!!! I breastfed my daughters til they were around a year old and completely plan on doing the same for my son! I think its the best thing possible and completely normal and great. Maybe breastfeeding needs to become more of the normal thing to do instead of so many people feeling pushed out of shape about it. It's the best thing for your baby!

Guggie - posted on 05/20/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Guggie:




Quoting Kari:

I myself don't really mind breastfeeding in public, as long as it's done respectfully. I think breastfeeding is a natural thing to do, and you should be able to do it where ever you want, within reason. What bugs me is when I see women who take maybe 5 minutes or so just to get the baby to the boob, and they're just letting everything hang out in the meantime. If I wanted to see boobies, I would google them. I breastfed my son as long as I could, and did so in public only a handful of times simply because I wasn't comfortable with it. I would go to a dressing room and ask if I could borrow a stall usually and they didn't mind a bit. To me, breastfeeding is a private bonding time between mom and baby, and I didn't want to share that with anyone else, except maybe daddy. But if you're happy with doing all that in public, more power to you. One last thought, to those who argue that it's natural and singlemindedly tell everyone that: it's natural for us all to poop, but do you really want to see us do that in front of everyone? Just because it's natural doesn't mean that everyone wants to see it....
Just my opinion though.








Wow I think that beats the whole "penis and vagina" analogy for level of offensive BS.








 








I seriously recommend a little introspective meditation on why you think it's proper to talk about a woman's body working properly to feed an infant is comparable to an organism excreting waste.








 








Just.wow.









How is not comparable???  Both are natural functions of our bodies.  I completely agree with Kari.  If an individual uses the bathroom in public they can get arrested for a sex offense (at least in the US), yet women feel it is okay to whip out their breasts in public?






I have absolutely no problem with breast feeding, in fact my son was breast fed, but there are ways to be discreet in public.  No, I don't feel that you should have to go to a bathroom to feed your child, but you should have to use a blanket or cover of some sort to make sure that you are being respectful of those around you.  Breastfeeding is supposed to be an intimate bonding time between mother and child, not between mother, child, and whoever else happens to be nearby!  Find a quiet corner and feed your child where you aren't right in the middle of things.






P.s. I'd rather you put a blanket over your head when you ate. My innocent daughter doesn't need to be covered up b/c of your hangups.

?? - posted on 05/20/2009

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It's not disgusting, it's not wrong, it's perfectly natural to breast feed. I don't think any woman should be told to do it privately. I don't think women should be refined to breast feeding in a bathroom.



I think that women need to be respectful of those around them though. We would be shocked to find a young boy playing with his penis in the middle of the shopping center. But, that's natural for young boys, who are just learning their private parts.



There is a limit, a line, a common sense factor that you need to take into consideration when you are out there. 8 years old and breast feeding - that's not acceptable in the eyes of nature let alone the public... walking around with your breasts hanging out and a child hanging off it - that's not appropriate... A boy playing with his penis in the middle of a shopping center - that's not appropriate...



I don't know which women said it - but whoever said the breast has been sexualized by society and breast feeding is natural - the penis and vagina are sexual, but they're natural as well. The female breast isn't PRIMARILY sexual but it is viewed as a sexual body part, and that's a fact. You can't just ignore that fact.



If you aren't breast feeding, do you take your breast out when you're sitting in the shopping center? No, you don't. So it's kind of silly to completely ignore the fact that it is ALSO a private body part.



I used to work in a shopping mall, and there are some mothers I would love to slap solely for the fact that they would purposefully make a spectical of breast feeding. Women that bottle feed don't go out of their way to make sure people know they are feeding their child. That is the only time breast feeding in public bugs me - when the mother makes sure everyone knows she is feeding. And then those same mothers would say "I love breast feeding it's such an intimate bond between me and my child." And yet, everytime they are out in public they make sure everyone that walks by shares that bond with them as well.



You can't have it both ways. If your breast isn't a private part, don't bitch when some guy oogles your boobs. If your breast is a private part, don't make a spectacle of breast feeding.



You can be proud of breast feeding, good for you. Good on you for breast feeding. What a wonderful bond you have with your child. I don't want to share that bond with you though. I don't need to share that with you. That's a natural bond between mother and child. Not mother, child & anybody that walks by.



If everything worked on that "it's natural" logic - we'd be having sex in the streets and giving birth on the corner... we'd all be running around naked and the world would be living a gloriously natural existence.

Shameron - posted on 05/20/2009

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I honestly see no problem with breast feeding in public. Most women who do are very discreet about it, and never even show a breast. It makes more sense to feed the baby there, when the baby is hungry than to wait until you get home or to go to a bathroom. I have heard the "go to the bathroom" argument way too often, and my question to those people is, "would you eat in the bathroom?" Why is it okay for an infant with a weaker immune system than you to eat in a fecal depository?

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Guggie - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Jodi:

I seriously don't understand the whole "Would you go eat your food in a public bathroom?" and the "Would you eat with a blanket over your head?" or the "Would you rather my child scream the whole time?" arguments...

Simply because...

The people that do have an issue with breast feeding in public have the mind frame that it's a private matter because you ARE exposing your breasts - regardless of the reason. The women that have an issue with it usually also have an issue with strippers as well as speaking about drugs, drinking, menopause, your period, family problems, and pretty much anything that involves private parts, mental states or personal issues.

And the men - of course they have an issue with it - they don't find it disgusting they find it erotic and they get turned on so they use the excuse they are disgusted by it to cover their own simple mindedness.

It bothers me how simple minded the hardcore breast feeding "advocates" are (and I use the word advocate loosely - I can't think of another word without being rude or offensive). How self absorbed they are in their own lives and what they are doing that they have no consideration for the people around them but expect every single consideration from every single other people they can possibly get. And they also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.

I don't care if women breastfeed - I have a ton of friends that do, but they also know the world does NOT revolve around them and just as they want people to respect the fact that they are feeding their children they respect the fact that there are people out there who do not want to see their breasts in the middle of the mall, restaurant or where ever they are.

NO I AM NOT saying that EVERY WOMAN that breast feeds is a hardcore breast feeding "advocate" but some of the women on here make it seem like if they didn't breast feed their children they would die and that taking an extra 2 seconds to make sure your boobs aren't more exposed than they need to be would end up killing their baby.

It really doesn't hurt to do that in respect of others (and you also wouldn't have to worry about as many snide remarks) and if you have a problem with doing that, you're just sinking to the level of the people who are making the snide remarks - then you are no better than those people in the first place.



I will cover up when:



 



-Those who bottlefeed cover up their hands



-Men are required to cover their breasts



-No one is allowed to eat in public without either putting a blanket over their head of sitting in a bathroom stall.



 



 



If those three things happen, then you can come argue. Until then, you've done nothing but show how ignorant and intolerant you are on the subject.



 



It's not superior. It's not special. It's not private.



 



It's called feeding your infant and all mammals do it.



 



In fact, if an animal doesn't we call that "abnormal."



 



 

Charlie - posted on 05/23/2009

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But its not " the world " that thinks that way , if you have travelled to as many countries as i have you would have seen that most countries dont find this offesive at all its why i bought up westernised countries , many countries happily whip it out to feed their child without so much as a second look infact many people will continue to talk to BF mother while she is doing so , i also had this same conversation with my O/S friends to see what they thought of BF in public and many of them cannot beleive what an ordeal it is ! with your comment in context with your area or country this is probably sad but true , and yes i agree we do have to rise above these rude and nasty comments that we may receive on occassion ,

Sophie - posted on 05/23/2009

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breastfeeding is not easy. especially at the start when all you can think about is giving it up because of the pain but when you grit your teeth and carry on it is well worth it. and im glad i embarresed that old man because it is only what he did to me

Erin - posted on 05/23/2009

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I feel breastfeeding to around the age two is completely great but past that is just werid ( i have beem breastfeeding for 15months so far). I was adamit about it because i didn't with my son and he wound up on alimentium formula and had feeding problems so this time around i made sure i had everything i needed to make it sucessfull and it truely has been the greatest experience and i'm sure it will be hard when it comes time to wearn but i feel that's part of parenting certains things you just have to due.

?? - posted on 05/23/2009

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I'd also like to say that I'm not a prude. I am not offended by breasts, I personally think breast feeding is beautiful and necessary. It just seems to me that quite a few moms have this idea that because they are fine with it, the rest of the world should be and will be too. And the world just does not work that way. We shouldn't expect rude or nasty comments... but you're gonna run into someone who will say something rude or nasty and you just have to rise above it. Don't get bent out of shape about it.



Do what you gotta do. I would bet most moms that breast feed will go through breast feeding multiple children with absolutely no comments about it.

Sophie - posted on 05/23/2009

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i agree with you completly. i did cover my boob when i used to breastfeed. but i think we have the right to feed our children where we like. if it is in the middle of mc donlads or tucked up in the corner as we r doing something wrong. i think you you are not comfortable with dont look

?? - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Barbara:



Quoting Jodi:

I seriously don't understand the whole "Would you go eat your food in a public bathroom?" and the "Would you eat with a blanket over your head?" or the "Would you rather my child scream the whole time?" arguments...

Simply because...

The people that do have an issue with breast feeding in public have the mind frame that it's a private matter because you ARE exposing your breasts - regardless of the reason. The women that have an issue with it usually also have an issue with strippers as well as speaking about drugs, drinking, menopause, your period, family problems, and pretty much anything that involves private parts, mental states or personal issues.

And the men - of course they have an issue with it - they don't find it disgusting they find it erotic and they get turned on so they use the excuse they are disgusted by it to cover their own simple mindedness.

It bothers me how simple minded the hardcore breast feeding "advocates" are (and I use the word advocate loosely - I can't think of another word without being rude or offensive). How self absorbed they are in their own lives and what they are doing that they have no consideration for the people around them but expect every single consideration from every single other people they can possibly get. And they also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.

I don't care if women breastfeed - I have a ton of friends that do, but they also know the world does NOT revolve around them and just as they want people to respect the fact that they are feeding their children they respect the fact that there are people out there who do not want to see their breasts in the middle of the mall, restaurant or where ever they are.

NO I AM NOT saying that EVERY WOMAN that breast feeds is a hardcore breast feeding "advocate" but some of the women on here make it seem like if they didn't breast feed their children they would die and that taking an extra 2 seconds to make sure your boobs aren't more exposed than they need to be would end up killing their baby.

It really doesn't hurt to do that in respect of others (and you also wouldn't have to worry about as many snide remarks) and if you have a problem with doing that, you're just sinking to the level of the people who are making the snide remarks - then you are no better than those people in the first place.





So my question to you is where is the imaginary line between "respectful" breastfeeding to "hardcore" breastfeeding?  It's kind of up to an individual's interpretation, isn't it?  Boobs don't offend me in the least, so if mine is showing a little while I breastfeed my 15 month old I wouldn't even notice.  Does that make me hardcore?  Or do you have to be nursing with the intent to garner negative attention from others in order to be hardcore?  Where exactly is the line between ok and disgusting?






And BTW, babies die every year due to complications associated with not being breastfed.  So those "advocates" are kinda right, unfortunately.






To me, the "hardcore" breast feeders are the ones who freak out inside if someone looks at them and DOESN'T smile. They are the ones that get snippy with the women who do bottle feed instead of breast feed. They also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.



The line isn't imaginary at all - having both boobs out is unnecessary, laying your child on the table and putting your nipple in their face is unnecessary, and making sure you're right in the middle of everything where everyone can see you and having your whole breast out for the world to see as they pass by is unnecessary.



You kind of asked a question I already mentioned in my reply.



My point was that there is being proud of breast feeding and then there's expecting the world around you to give you all the respect in the world when you can't even give the tiniest bit respect to the world in return.



Which leads to snide remarks and mean words from people walking by and women feeling as though everyone in the world that doesn't give them a smile when they see them breast feeding means they are thinking that it's disgusting. When in reality, the majority of people just think "aw babes hungry." and go about their business.



I just asked a bunch of friends this question (guys and girls) If you see a woman in the mall breast feeding, do you care? Everyone said "No." Then I asked the same bunch of friends this question If you see a woman in the mall breast feeding, and both her boobs are out, what would you think? Everyone said something along the lines of "What the hell? Why is that boob out, you're not using it, put it away."



There is a difference between feeding your child with your breast - and unnecessarily exposing a part of your body that is known as a private body part. Regardless of what it is used for, or meant to be used for, what God intended it to be, etc.. it is a private body part. Unless you walk around topless everyday there is no need to have your breasts exposed to the world when it's obviously not accepted. If you want your breasts hanging out then you better be fine with the remarks and looks etc. cause you're gonna get them.



And if you're gonna get upset over a remark from some grumpy old man or silly lil woman that makes a random comment just because you are breast feeding - why bother wasting any energy on it? You're doing what's good for babe, so roll your eyes at them and continue with your business.



No one is going to change the view of the world just because they say they're feeding their child. As much as we wish everyone in the world would accept it - not everyone does. So if you're gonna get upset about the comments - do something to change what you are doing to stop the remarks. Cause not a single word or idea or anything you do can change everyone elses thoughts. They might say sorry, but they probably say it more out of embarrassment than because you taught them how to be accepting of what is your motherly duty.



And BTW, babies live perfectly happy and healthy lives every year with out being breastfed too.



And BTW - this is my opinion and thoughts on the extremists and non-extremist breast feeding women getting upset at other people's comments.

?? - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Barbara:



Quoting Jodi:

I seriously don't understand the whole "Would you go eat your food in a public bathroom?" and the "Would you eat with a blanket over your head?" or the "Would you rather my child scream the whole time?" arguments...

Simply because...

The people that do have an issue with breast feeding in public have the mind frame that it's a private matter because you ARE exposing your breasts - regardless of the reason. The women that have an issue with it usually also have an issue with strippers as well as speaking about drugs, drinking, menopause, your period, family problems, and pretty much anything that involves private parts, mental states or personal issues.

And the men - of course they have an issue with it - they don't find it disgusting they find it erotic and they get turned on so they use the excuse they are disgusted by it to cover their own simple mindedness.

It bothers me how simple minded the hardcore breast feeding "advocates" are (and I use the word advocate loosely - I can't think of another word without being rude or offensive). How self absorbed they are in their own lives and what they are doing that they have no consideration for the people around them but expect every single consideration from every single other people they can possibly get. And they also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.

I don't care if women breastfeed - I have a ton of friends that do, but they also know the world does NOT revolve around them and just as they want people to respect the fact that they are feeding their children they respect the fact that there are people out there who do not want to see their breasts in the middle of the mall, restaurant or where ever they are.

NO I AM NOT saying that EVERY WOMAN that breast feeds is a hardcore breast feeding "advocate" but some of the women on here make it seem like if they didn't breast feed their children they would die and that taking an extra 2 seconds to make sure your boobs aren't more exposed than they need to be would end up killing their baby.

It really doesn't hurt to do that in respect of others (and you also wouldn't have to worry about as many snide remarks) and if you have a problem with doing that, you're just sinking to the level of the people who are making the snide remarks - then you are no better than those people in the first place.





So my question to you is where is the imaginary line between "respectful" breastfeeding to "hardcore" breastfeeding?  It's kind of up to an individual's interpretation, isn't it?  Boobs don't offend me in the least, so if mine is showing a little while I breastfeed my 15 month old I wouldn't even notice.  Does that make me hardcore?  Or do you have to be nursing with the intent to garner negative attention from others in order to be hardcore?  Where exactly is the line between ok and disgusting?






And BTW, babies die every year due to complications associated with not being breastfed.  So those "advocates" are kinda right, unfortunately.






To me, the "hardcore" breast feeders are the ones who freak out inside if someone looks at them and DOESN'T smile. They are the ones that get snippy with the women who do bottle feed instead of breast feed. They also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.



The line isn't imaginary at all - having both boobs out is unnecessary, laying your child on the table and putting your nipple in their face is unnecessary, and making sure you're right in the middle of everything where everyone can see you and having your whole breast out for the world to see as they pass by is unnecessary.



You kind of asked a question I already mentioned in my reply.



My point was that there is being proud of breast feeding and then there's expecting the world around you to give you all the respect in the world when you can't even give the tiniest bit respect to the world in return.



Which leads to snide remarks and mean words from people walking by and women feeling as though everyone in the world that doesn't give them a smile when they see them breast feeding means they are thinking that it's disgusting. When in reality, the majority of people just think "aw babes hungry." and go about their business.



I just asked a bunch of friends this question (guys and girls) If you see a woman in the mall breast feeding, do you care? Everyone said "No." Then I asked the same bunch of friends this question If you see a woman in the mall breast feeding, and both her boobs are out, what would you think? Everyone said something along the lines of "What the hell? Why is that boob out, you're not using it, put it away."



There is a difference between feeding your child with your breast - and unnecessarily exposing a part of your body that is known as a private body part. Regardless of what it is used for, or meant to be used for, what God intended it to be, etc.. it is a private body part. Unless you walk around topless everyday there is no need to have your breasts exposed to the world when it's obviously not accepted. If you want your breasts hanging out then you better be fine with the remarks and looks etc. cause you're gonna get them.



And if you're gonna get upset over a remark from some grumpy old man or silly lil woman that makes a random comment just because you are breast feeding - why bother wasting any energy on it? You're doing what's good for babe, so roll your eyes at them and continue with your business.



No one is going to change the view of the world just because they say they're feeding their child. As much as we wish everyone in the world would accept it - not everyone does. So if you're gonna get upset about the comments - do something to change what you are doing to stop the remarks. Cause not a single word or idea or anything you do can change everyone elses thoughts. They might say sorry, but they probably say it more out of embarrassment than because you taught them how to be accepting of what is your motherly duty.



And BTW, babies live perfectly happy and healthy lives every year with out being breastfed too.



And BTW - this is my opinion and thoughts on the extremists and non-extremist breast feeding women getting upset at other people's comments.

Anna-Marie - posted on 05/23/2009

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hehe I agree to tough titties! You don't see heaps of cows with their calves running into milking sheds to feed their young when they are hungry! You don't see cats covering their kittens heads while they feed haha

Charlie - posted on 05/23/2009

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there is a saying in australia that i think sums up my attitude to BF in public " tough tittie's " if my childs hungry then im gonna feed him i couldnt care less for the prudes that have a problem with it and say " you should go to a public toilet and do it " WTF you go sit in the public toilet till hes finished feeding , its a breast the life source of nutrients designed to feed child , and as for the person who earlier compared a breast to a vagina or penis , Physically and medicall a breast is designed for feeding a vigina and a penis IS a sex organ designed for intercourse and reproduction you cannot compare the two , people in the westernised world have made breasts sexual it is not a sex organ wow ! if your gonna say a breast is a sexual part of the body and should be covered than i may as well say so is a mouth or lips cover your mouth when your eating !

Barbara - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Jodi:

I seriously don't understand the whole "Would you go eat your food in a public bathroom?" and the "Would you eat with a blanket over your head?" or the "Would you rather my child scream the whole time?" arguments...

Simply because...

The people that do have an issue with breast feeding in public have the mind frame that it's a private matter because you ARE exposing your breasts - regardless of the reason. The women that have an issue with it usually also have an issue with strippers as well as speaking about drugs, drinking, menopause, your period, family problems, and pretty much anything that involves private parts, mental states or personal issues.

And the men - of course they have an issue with it - they don't find it disgusting they find it erotic and they get turned on so they use the excuse they are disgusted by it to cover their own simple mindedness.

It bothers me how simple minded the hardcore breast feeding "advocates" are (and I use the word advocate loosely - I can't think of another word without being rude or offensive). How self absorbed they are in their own lives and what they are doing that they have no consideration for the people around them but expect every single consideration from every single other people they can possibly get. And they also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.

I don't care if women breastfeed - I have a ton of friends that do, but they also know the world does NOT revolve around them and just as they want people to respect the fact that they are feeding their children they respect the fact that there are people out there who do not want to see their breasts in the middle of the mall, restaurant or where ever they are.

NO I AM NOT saying that EVERY WOMAN that breast feeds is a hardcore breast feeding "advocate" but some of the women on here make it seem like if they didn't breast feed their children they would die and that taking an extra 2 seconds to make sure your boobs aren't more exposed than they need to be would end up killing their baby.

It really doesn't hurt to do that in respect of others (and you also wouldn't have to worry about as many snide remarks) and if you have a problem with doing that, you're just sinking to the level of the people who are making the snide remarks - then you are no better than those people in the first place.


So my question to you is where is the imaginary line between "respectful" breastfeeding to "hardcore" breastfeeding?  It's kind of up to an individual's interpretation, isn't it?  Boobs don't offend me in the least, so if mine is showing a little while I breastfeed my 15 month old I wouldn't even notice.  Does that make me hardcore?  Or do you have to be nursing with the intent to garner negative attention from others in order to be hardcore?  Where exactly is the line between ok and disgusting?



And BTW, babies die every year due to complications associated with not being breastfed.  So those "advocates" are kinda right, unfortunately.

Sophie - posted on 05/23/2009

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i agree y should our babies eat in a toilet. if they dont want to see it then dont look

Sophie - posted on 05/23/2009

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i breastfed in mc donlads. and old man came up 2 me saying how it was disgusting bcos people were trying to eat n i should go and do it in the toilet. i asked everyone if they were alright about it and they said it was fine so i told HIM to stop looking and go and eat his big mac in the toilet. he didnt think that was a good idea so i said its the same for my little one. he said sorry. at least i have turned one persons view around on it. lol

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I breastfed for 1 1/2 years and would do so any time my child needed it!! I will not make my child wait to eat just because a few people might get offended. They'll have to get over it. I'm sure that if they were hungry and someone would deny them food just because others didn't want to see them eat they would have a different opinion.

I always tried to use the breastfeeding rooms in the mall but if there wasn't a nice or clean one i would find a bench or a secluded area. Believe me that whipping out my boob in public is the LAST thing i wanna do especially after pregnancy!! So for all of you out there who think that breastfeeding in public is offensive or distgusting I say SHOVE IT!!

?? - posted on 05/23/2009

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I seriously don't understand the whole "Would you go eat your food in a public bathroom?" and the "Would you eat with a blanket over your head?" or the "Would you rather my child scream the whole time?" arguments...



Simply because...



The people that do have an issue with breast feeding in public have the mind frame that it's a private matter because you ARE exposing your breasts - regardless of the reason. The women that have an issue with it usually also have an issue with strippers as well as speaking about drugs, drinking, menopause, your period, family problems, and pretty much anything that involves private parts, mental states or personal issues.



And the men - of course they have an issue with it - they don't find it disgusting they find it erotic and they get turned on so they use the excuse they are disgusted by it to cover their own simple mindedness.



It bothers me how simple minded the hardcore breast feeding "advocates" are (and I use the word advocate loosely - I can't think of another word without being rude or offensive). How self absorbed they are in their own lives and what they are doing that they have no consideration for the people around them but expect every single consideration from every single other people they can possibly get. And they also go the extra mile as to whip out both boobs, or lay their kid on a table and plop their boob on top, or purposely go out of their way to make everyone know that they are breast feeding.



I don't care if women breastfeed - I have a ton of friends that do, but they also know the world does NOT revolve around them and just as they want people to respect the fact that they are feeding their children they respect the fact that there are people out there who do not want to see their breasts in the middle of the mall, restaurant or where ever they are.



NO I AM NOT saying that EVERY WOMAN that breast feeds is a hardcore breast feeding "advocate" but some of the women on here make it seem like if they didn't breast feed their children they would die and that taking an extra 2 seconds to make sure your boobs aren't more exposed than they need to be would end up killing their baby.



It really doesn't hurt to do that in respect of others (and you also wouldn't have to worry about as many snide remarks) and if you have a problem with doing that, you're just sinking to the level of the people who are making the snide remarks - then you are no better than those people in the first place.

Anna-Marie - posted on 05/23/2009

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I have every right to feed my baby when/where he is hungry. It is quite funny, since becoming a mum, I see my breasts as being there purely for feeding my son!! Still, while I am out - I do not like strangers seeing my breasts just as much as it seems these people didn't like seeing them either and I will not just pull it out in front of everyone and wave it around as it seems people are suggesting above (ie whipping them out in front of everyone.) I am still quite discrete but I think that is more for my own dignity (well, what little I have left after childbirth haha.) When did the most natural thing in the world suddenly become worse than pornography?

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I have every right to feed my baby when/where he is hungry. It is quite funny, since becoming a mum, I see my breasts as being there purely for feeding my son!! Still, while I am out - I do not like strangers seeing my breasts just as much as it seems these people didn't like seeing them either and I will not just pull it out in front of everyone and wave it around as it seems people are suggesting above (ie whipping them out in front of everyone.) I am still quite discrete but I think that is more for my own dignity (well, what little I have left after childbirth haha.) When did the most natural thing in the world suddenly become worse than pornography?

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Also I dont believe you ever need to cover up with a whole blanket unless you want too. I do it sometimes because I dont want my son getting cold. (Or myself lol) Most times I just pull up a loose shirt and it bunches above his head and compleatly covers my boob. He covers the rest. That way I can see his eyes. When he lookes at me while nursing it melts my heart. Any person who thinks breast feeding is gross and sexual is a moron. My question is, would you rather me feed my child and make him happy or would you rather he screamed the entire time? Most people cant stand a screaming child much more than a quiet one...

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Quoting Deanna:



Quoting Joanna:

i feel that if you are ina store or resturant go to the bathroom no one wants to see your boob or you breastfeeding your kid i dont care how natural it is i think it is gross.






Bathroom! Are you nuts!? Next time your kid gets hungary I hope you take them to the bathroom and feed them. Or make sure you put a blanket over your head the next time you eat. I am not ashamed that I chose the to feed my baby in the way that is healthy for them. God gave em to me for a reason, and it sure wasn't for looks.





Absolutely Deanna!



Joanna, do you take your meals to the bathroom to eat them? I very much doubt that you do for hygiene reasons! And your the one with an adult immune system! We are talking about children here! Babies for the most part! They don't have immune systems of their own till around 6 months when they start to develop them! how on earth can you expect a child to eat in a sespit of germs? Especially since you don't do it yourself!

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Quoting Deanna:



Quoting Joanna:

i feel that if you are ina store or resturant go to the bathroom no one wants to see your boob or you breastfeeding your kid i dont care how natural it is i think it is gross.






Bathroom! Are you nuts!? Next time your kid gets hungary I hope you take them to the bathroom and feed them. Or make sure you put a blanket over your head the next time you eat. I am not ashamed that I chose the to feed my baby in the way that is healthy for them. God gave em to me for a reason, and it sure wasn't for looks.





Absolutely Deanna!



Joanna, do you take your meals to the bathroom to eat them? I very much doubt that you do for hygiene reasons! And your the one with an adult immune system! We are talking about children here! Babies for the most part! They don't have immune systems of their own till around 6 months when they start to develop them! how on earth can you expect a child to eat in a sespit of germs? Especially since you don't do it yourself!

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Ya know, I know it makes some people feel uncomfortable but I honestly dont care. When I feed my son It makes me feel proud to know that I am making him happy. Feeding him in public has never been an issue to me. I keep myself covered and I feel like a good parent for meeting my childs needs. If someone ever said anything to me I would give them a serious peice of my mind.

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Quoting Joanna:

i feel that if you are ina store or resturant go to the bathroom no one wants to see your boob or you breastfeeding your kid i dont care how natural it is i think it is gross.



Bathroom! Are you nuts!? Next time your kid gets hungary I hope you take them to the bathroom and feed them. Or make sure you put a blanket over your head the next time you eat. I am not ashamed that I chose the to feed my baby in the way that is healthy for them. God gave em to me for a reason, and it sure wasn't for looks.

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Quoting Barbara:




I never meant to imply that all bottle feeding women go that route because they are uncomfortable with breastfeeding.  I just wanted to point out that for many women societal pressure is a deciding factor in whether or not they will even attempt it.  Like one lady from another post was saying, she knows that breasts are really for babies and not for sex, but she still feels uncomfortable with it because of the views of the society in which she was raised. 






Breastfeeding is becoming more prevalent by the day, but the effects of our parents and grandparent's generations being pretty much only formula fed is still being felt.  I was lucky in that my mother breastfed me until just before my fourth birthday, and having been raised in an environment where breastfeeding was the thing to do gave me the support to continue through clogged ducts, mastitis, and when my son was up all night breastfeeding for months and months.






Basically, there is a tiny percentage of women who physically cannot or should not breastfeed, but it's less than one percent.  It's certainly not over 50%, which is closer to the amount of women who don't breastfeed or stop in the early stages.  That is a societal problem that needs to be remedied, and the more visible and accepted breastfeeding is the sooner we can cure it.





I have to say i don't agree with this because some women are just not up to breastfeeding and not because of physical ailments and not because they don't want whats best for their child.  i breastfed for 6 weeks and i just became so emotionally and mentally drained that i couldn't keep it up! i think it is a choice and thats the way it should stay! i agree that we need to help those who are breastfeeding feel more comfortable about doing it when they need to regardless of where they are or what company they are in but that doesn't mean everybody should have to breastfeed.

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I breast feed my daughter and I would get up and go set in my car to do it that should be between you and your child not anyone else. I'm for breast feeding but please don't do it in public go to a place for you and your child or cover up with a blanket to not show it to the public.

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Quoting Jodi:






Why are so many women choosing not to give their babies the best?  Perhaps it is because people are less than welcoming in their attitudes towards nursing. Perhaps they don't want to be labled as "indiscreet" or "immodest" or "disrespectful." 










Every single woman I know who has chosen to NOT breast feed, including myself, has been for 1 of 2 reasons.






1 - They couldn't keep up with baby and baby needed more more more. Or 2 - They had to go back to work and breast feeding wasn't an option - pumping and formula were in replacement.






It really bothers me that just as breast feeding mothers find it dispicable that people don't want to see breast feeding and then those women are also the ones who look down on mothers who don't breast feed - regardless of whether it's they are saying stuff or not.






I stopped breast feeding after 3 months because my son was up literally every 45 minutes wanting to feed, I couldn't keep up. I was exhausted. My body wasn't able to produce the milk my son needed EVERYTIME he needed it. There fore I started him on formula.






My friend didn't even start breast feeding because her milk NEVER came in.






Just because we bottle feed - does not mean we are all against breast feeding and I don't understand why breast feeding mothers just assume Iwe're looking at them like they're nasty. I never have, EXCEPT, for those women who I mentioned earlier. Who aren't breast feeding cause their child is hungry, but because they NEED the attention it brings them.






There are more women who go about their business, feeding their child as they need and not making a big deal out of it. And then there are the few women who make a huge deal of it and it's no longer breast feeding it's using that as an excuse to be in the spotlight.





I never meant to imply that all bottle feeding women go that route because they are uncomfortable with breastfeeding.  I just wanted to point out that for many women societal pressure is a deciding factor in whether or not they will even attempt it.  Like one lady from another post was saying, she knows that breasts are really for babies and not for sex, but she still feels uncomfortable with it because of the views of the society in which she was raised. 



Breastfeeding is becoming more prevalent by the day, but the effects of our parents and grandparent's generations being pretty much only formula fed is still being felt.  I was lucky in that my mother breastfed me until just before my fourth birthday, and having been raised in an environment where breastfeeding was the thing to do gave me the support to continue through clogged ducts, mastitis, and when my son was up all night breastfeeding for months and months.



Basically, there is a tiny percentage of women who physically cannot or should not breastfeed, but it's less than one percent.  It's certainly not over 50%, which is closer to the amount of women who don't breastfeed or stop in the early stages.  That is a societal problem that needs to be remedied, and the more visible and accepted breastfeeding is the sooner we can cure it.

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If u r breastfeeding in a resteraunt or cafe and someone else asks u to stop or they ask an employee to ask u to stop legally the owner of the establishment has to say to sed person that if they don't like it they can leave. i breastfed for the first 6 weeks and when i did in public i actually had some random guy shout at me that i was disgusting and should stop exposing myself to others. never mind the fact that i wasn't exposed at all and had a muslin covering myself and my sons head! i think if u want to breastfeed in public then go for it. if others are offended by it then let them walk away! not you!

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its a perfectly natural thing, i however have seen women just pop a boob out in full sight before they get baby situated, i do think this is wrong, it doesnt hurt to cover it and i wouldnt want my preteen boys or teen boys to see a womens boob because normal and natural or npt boys still see aboob as a boob

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In Australia I feel that it is becoming socially unacceptable to bf in public. I used to cover up with a muslin sheet but now that my baby is older (15m) he pulls it off. So I have to bf in public sometimes but I try to sit out of the way and I try to be as discreet as possible. Personally I don't like to see other women's breasts, I'm uncomfortable with it because of the sexual taboo, and I'm okay with saying that. I know it's natural, I know that I've been conditioned by society to be uncomfortable and I know it's not a good thing to feel that way, yet I do. If I see a woman bfing then I smile at her. It's a good thing. But if she's waving her boob around and it's not because she's having an attachment problem (I have a friend who whips it out and waits around because it's 'her right') that annoys me because it gives the rest of us a bad name. These days I try not to bf in public because the 'looks' make me angry. I don't want to get angry. I don't want to feel angry. I don't want to have to justify what I'm doing. Not to anyone else, not even to myself. I'd love to wean my baby. He bites sometimes!! However, he is not ready to wean, and I can't handle the screaming. I swear, by 2 he'll be weaned, screaming or no screaming. I understand that it is my right to bf in public. I try to be discreet because I know that it can make others uncomfortable for whatever reason. I don't know what I'd do if someone actually commented in a negative way. Maybe ask them if they know what year it is? Probably tell them I have an Early Childhood degree and joke that I'm therefore "qualified" because I know all about it. I try to keep everyone happy but I won't do it at my baby's expense. Worst case scenario? I'll become a 'closet feeder'. Stay home so I don't have to deal with other people's neurosis'.

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Quoting Joanna:

i feel that if you are ina store or resturant go to the bathroom no one wants to see your boob or you breastfeeding your kid i dont care how natural it is i think it is gross.


When you are in a store or a restaurant and you are hungry, do you eat?  It's not fair on a baby to make it eat in unsanitary conditions, or to force a mother to hide herself away just for wanting the best for her baby.  If people don't like to see it, they should leave.  They should be ashamed, not the other way around.

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P.S. Just wanted to add for all the moms who say use a blanket alot of times you cant. I know with a couple of my kids they did not like it. So I would make sure my shirt came down to their mouth so you caouldnt see anything. And for the moms who talk about letting other children see it. That is how the ignorance is spread. It is just like a child being raised to be racist it is passed down. And when stupid poeple do not explain things as natural as BFing to their children they will never learn. I have six children and each of them know exactly what it is. They see me do it and know that that is how a baby is fed. In fact everytime the baby cries my daughter tells me the baby wants her milk. I have also on occasion caught my daughters imitating me and BFing their baby dolls. Im glad that they are learning. It is the same when we see poeple with a disability and children ask questions they need to learn and be taught or they will grow up ignorant too.

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I totally agree I think it is wrong that society frowns upon a natural part of life. I have BF all of my kids. And a lot of times it was in public. Luckly for them no one said anything to me. I have a mouth and use it well. And so does my husband. I am so sick of hearing the things poeple say about it. Like why don't you go to the bathroom and feed your kid. WHAT! If you don't eat there neither does my kid. Poeple are so ignorant. There was only one time my husband was discuted by it. We were at Chuck E Cheeses and a lady laid her baby on the table and put her boob on top to feed. That was a little too much. But like you said if the girl was waving her boobs in some mans face he would love it. It is sad though that in some states you have to have laws to back you up so you can feed your child. I know in FL we have a law that allows a woman to feed any where in a public place. Just hope poeple can stop being stupid.

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I'm totally for breastfeeding i wish i could have breastfed my kids longer but my milk just never was enough to keep them full. I encourage woman to breastfed it's so healthy for your children. I nursed in public and think it's ok for woman to nurse where ever they are. If your kids hungry your kids hungry!!! I do think that they shold cover themselves i do not think woman should be exposed. We were at an air port where a woman was wearing a tube top and had the whole thing flipped down and was nursing her child NOT EVEN TRYING to cover her self up, both breast exposed. I did not feel this was right. I would say go for it but cover yourself up. it could make others offended!!

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Quoting Bry:

Its natural and I do not care about the looks I get. If my little one is hungry then she is hungry, I have a curious little girl who likes to pull off while feeding to watch passers by leaving me totally hanging out. So I have breast feed in public AND been left totally exposed on many occasions. She will not feed while being covered up and the bathroom is disgusting. Sorry for all of those who say to be discrete but its what our bodies are designed to do and most men and women have seen breasts before. Love all the references to strippers! it only seems to be wrong to see breasts when its related to breast feeding but not when its to sell something or for sex. I will continue to do what I need to do and feed my child when she is hungry!


 



 



 



 



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Its natural and I do not care about the looks I get. If my little one is hungry then she is hungry, I have a curious little girl who likes to pull off while feeding to watch passers by leaving me totally hanging out. So I have breast feed in public AND been left totally exposed on many occasions. She will not feed while being covered up and the bathroom is disgusting. Sorry for all of those who say to be discrete but its what our bodies are designed to do and most men and women have seen breasts before. Love all the references to strippers! it only seems to be wrong to see breasts when its related to breast feeding but not when its to sell something or for sex. I will continue to do what I need to do and feed my child when she is hungry!

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Quoting Guggie:






Quoting Jodi:


I don't know which women said it - but whoever said the breast has been sexualized by society and breast feeding is natural - the penis and vagina are sexual, but they're natural as well. The female breast isn't PRIMARILY sexual but it is viewed as a sexual body part, and that's a fact. You can't just ignore that fact.






 









 






 






I don't know which women said it - but whoever said the breast has been sexualized by society and breast feeding is natural - the lips and hands are sexual, but they're natural as well. The female hand isn't PRIMARILY sexual but it is viewed as a sexual body part, and that's a fact. You can't just ignore that fact.






 






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I said womens breasts have been sexualized by society, but as far as I know breastfeeding in public is legal, having sex in public is not. And the definition of a sexual body part falls with in the male and female reprovuctive organs, hands do not nor do lips. And though some people may see them as sexual, I think most do not. Ans medically speaking it is not a "fact" in which to be ignored. It is not a " fact at all".  All that aside, her question was our opinion of the subject of breast feeding in public. I think its a natural thing a child eating from their mother. It  is natural. The breasts aren't shown, most of the time and the areola is always covered, which even while watching a show on tv, that all network cable requires to be covered up. I understand some people think its offensive, and I have always tried to be sensitive to that fact, but as far as i am concerned there are alot more things people can object to than a mother and her child during feeding.





 

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I think it's funny that my hubby was more concerned about me covering up in a restaurant than I was. I did my best to only pop out the boob after baby was already in position to cover the view with his head.



Baby has a right to eat where food is served; not to mention the fact that our LO hated(s) having his head covered while he is nursing.

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Quoting Morag:

I personally find grossly overweight people eating McDonalds burgers and french fries disgusting or worse attempting to fit into very revealing outfits that are 3 sizes too small or tiny bikini's. However, if I was to tell them that they weren't allowed to do that, refused to serve them, ask them to leave a resturant dressed that way, go into a toilet to eat their food or put a blanket over their heads, what would happen??? I'd be done for discrimination...lets face it. Even voicing the fact to a grossly overweight person would have me up in court over it. Yet the same isn't applied to our most vulnerable people, babies

What I have found is the people who have most issues with breastfeeding in public tend to either have several hang ups with their own body and are jealous that bfing mothers are confident enough to do this or were jealous they couldn't breastfeed in the first place.

As for comparing penis' and vaginas to breastfeeding falls foul in two ways. 1) all public places are required to provide rest areas but they are not required to provide breastfeeding areas. Some do and a lot of mothers would prefer that. Anyone with a nosy baby knows a nice quiet, distraction free room, with a comfy chair is more preferable than a noisy, busy shoping mall bench. Also a lot of breastfeeding areas cover nappy changing and the smell can be awful if the bins haven't been emptied for a while.
2)Both male and female genitailia are sexual and are required to have full sex penetrative sex. But not breasts. Men's breasts are not sexual and women who have undergone mastectomies can continue to have a full active sex life. This is then sexual discrimination or means that breasts are not required for the act of sex and are therefore NOT sexual, lewd or obscene.

Discrimination against women for breastfeeding opens a whole can of worms that Western society really doesn't need.

I personally haven't breastfed in public for a long while. Not because I feel its disgusting or get negative comments, but because my LO is just too nosy. She won't breastfeed if there is lots going on and has been like this since she was 4 months old. I do remember 2 times though when I did. At the beach where people were topless and this woman complained, and I pointed across at this woman who had the saggiest boobs in history and wasn't doing anything but displaying them. I asked her why I was disgusting for doing with my boobs what boobs are made for and if she'd like I'd tell this other woman that she found her boobs offensive and could she cover up to..I've never seen a middle age woman move so fast away... and at a friends wedding when my youngest was just 3 weeks old. In the middle of the service (nuptiual Catholic mass was 2 hours long) my tiny baby obviously got hungry so I went to the back of the church to feed her so as to not disturb their ceremony. I had a little old woman come up and complain when she realised I wasn't just cradling the baby but breastfeeding. As I said to her, if it was good enough for Jesus Christ it's good enough for my baby. She never said anything after that. :)


AMEN!!!   I have a hard time excepting that a lot of people are just so narrow minded.  Very well said.

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personly i dont breastfeed but i respect anyone who does iv seen loads of woman breastfeeding in public i don't think its wrong its one of the most natural things ever. woman should be able to breastfeed where ever they want.

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I personally find grossly overweight people eating McDonalds burgers and french fries disgusting or worse attempting to fit into very revealing outfits that are 3 sizes too small or tiny bikini's. However, if I was to tell them that they weren't allowed to do that, refused to serve them, ask them to leave a resturant dressed that way, go into a toilet to eat their food or put a blanket over their heads, what would happen??? I'd be done for discrimination...lets face it. Even voicing the fact to a grossly overweight person would have me up in court over it. Yet the same isn't applied to our most vulnerable people, babies

What I have found is the people who have most issues with breastfeeding in public tend to either have several hang ups with their own body and are jealous that bfing mothers are confident enough to do this or were jealous they couldn't breastfeed in the first place.

As for comparing penis' and vaginas to breastfeeding falls foul in two ways. 1) all public places are required to provide rest areas but they are not required to provide breastfeeding areas. Some do and a lot of mothers would prefer that. Anyone with a nosy baby knows a nice quiet, distraction free room, with a comfy chair is more preferable than a noisy, busy shoping mall bench. Also a lot of breastfeeding areas cover nappy changing and the smell can be awful if the bins haven't been emptied for a while.
2)Both male and female genitailia are sexual and are required to have full sex penetrative sex. But not breasts. Men's breasts are not sexual and women who have undergone mastectomies can continue to have a full active sex life. This is then sexual discrimination or means that breasts are not required for the act of sex and are therefore NOT sexual, lewd or obscene.

Discrimination against women for breastfeeding opens a whole can of worms that Western society really doesn't need.

I personally haven't breastfed in public for a long while. Not because I feel its disgusting or get negative comments, but because my LO is just too nosy. She won't breastfeed if there is lots going on and has been like this since she was 4 months old. I do remember 2 times though when I did. At the beach where people were topless and this woman complained, and I pointed across at this woman who had the saggiest boobs in history and wasn't doing anything but displaying them. I asked her why I was disgusting for doing with my boobs what boobs are made for and if she'd like I'd tell this other woman that she found her boobs offensive and could she cover up to..I've never seen a middle age woman move so fast away... and at a friends wedding when my youngest was just 3 weeks old. In the middle of the service (nuptiual Catholic mass was 2 hours long) my tiny baby obviously got hungry so I went to the back of the church to feed her so as to not disturb their ceremony. I had a little old woman come up and complain when she realised I wasn't just cradling the baby but breastfeeding. As I said to her, if it was good enough for Jesus Christ it's good enough for my baby. She never said anything after that. :)

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I think it's fine to breastfeed in public. What else are you suppose to do if you baby is hungry. I breastfed mine in public, of course I covered up and most of the time you couldn't even tell I was doing so. I got dirty looks at a resturant one time, but that didn't stop me. I think other people just feel uncomfortable for some reason. My thing is don't look, don't make it into a big deal, b/c its not. Breastfeeding is natural, it's a means of food for you baby and we shouldn't have to hide in our home to breastfeed.

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I don't see a problem at all breastfeeding in public if you are comfortable with it and covered. I personally couldn't in public because I'm super self concious (sp?) but I don't see why its should be frowned apon. We all need to feed our children.

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I honestly do not get why it offends people. I don't see anyone judging the moms who formula feed. Which I have done and felt guilty about. I wish to this day that I had lasted longer with my older two. I will say this tho, we nursing moms not only have a the whole bonding experience, but we're saving hundreds and hundreds of dollars that others are spending on formula!

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You can find some information on state breastfeeding laws (and a bit of humourous entertainment) at this website http://www.dumblaws.com/



I have been lucky enough that I haven't run into the funny looks in public and even if I did, I could care less what others feel.



I get funny looks and nosiness at the office when I'm pumping in my cubicle.

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WOW! The breasts sole function is to feed a baby! You should nurse your baby where you feel comfortable. After my first child (I have four, all nursed) I was nursing in a food court under a blanket. I had a woman come over and tell me I should "do that in the bathroom". I told her when she fed her child in the bathroom, then I would feed my child there. Nursing a baby is a personal preference. It is just like your religious or political views, to each his OWN! No one has the right to pass judgment on another, though many do. Just remember, you live in this world for you and your child. IT doesn't matter what anyone else thinks!

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I am so disgusted in all the negative comments that are on here. I am a breastfeeding momma. For 6 months now. I didn't last this long with my other 2 and I have surpassed my own goal this time. I have just become comfortable BFing in public. I would go to a fitting room or to my car. I didn't do that with my other 2. When they were hungry would just give them their bottle wherever. So to you moms who think we should hide when we nurse our babies, maybe you should go give your baby their bottle in bathroom stall. IF YOU FEEL NURSING MOMS SHOULD HIDE, THEN YOU SHOULD TOO FOR YOUR IGNORANCE!



My 6 month does NOT like to be covered while she eats. I have tried and she still likes to smack the cover off and peek around. Why should she have to be hidden away, she's done nothing wrong. You don't like it, well DON'T LOOK!



I like to put you all in a crowded area, with people talking around you... then cover your head and force you eat! See how you like it. You should be more embarrassed on your ignorance. Breastfeeding is a wonderful bond between mother and child. Every woman I know has been very accepting. Be it whether they have children or not, whether they breastfed or formula fed. What happened to just being supportive of the mom? Last I checked we were supposed to support one another.



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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Guggie:




Quoting Kari:

I myself don't really mind breastfeeding in public, as long as it's done respectfully. I think breastfeeding is a natural thing to do, and you should be able to do it where ever you want, within reason. What bugs me is when I see women who take maybe 5 minutes or so just to get the baby to the boob, and they're just letting everything hang out in the meantime. If I wanted to see boobies, I would google them. I breastfed my son as long as I could, and did so in public only a handful of times simply because I wasn't comfortable with it. I would go to a dressing room and ask if I could borrow a stall usually and they didn't mind a bit. To me, breastfeeding is a private bonding time between mom and baby, and I didn't want to share that with anyone else, except maybe daddy. But if you're happy with doing all that in public, more power to you. One last thought, to those who argue that it's natural and singlemindedly tell everyone that: it's natural for us all to poop, but do you really want to see us do that in front of everyone? Just because it's natural doesn't mean that everyone wants to see it....
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Wow I think that beats the whole "penis and vagina" analogy for level of offensive BS.








 








I seriously recommend a little introspective meditation on why you think it's proper to talk about a woman's body working properly to feed an infant is comparable to an organism excreting waste.








 








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How is not comparable???  Both are natural functions of our bodies.  I completely agree with Kari.  If an individual uses the bathroom in public they can get arrested for a sex offense (at least in the US), yet women feel it is okay to whip out their breasts in public?






I have absolutely no problem with breast feeding, in fact my son was breast fed, but there are ways to be discreet in public.  No, I don't feel that you should have to go to a bathroom to feed your child, but you should have to use a blanket or cover of some sort to make sure that you are being respectful of those around you.  Breastfeeding is supposed to be an intimate bonding time between mother and child, not between mother, child, and whoever else happens to be nearby!  Find a quiet corner and feed your child where you aren't right in the middle of things.





Thank you. I'm glad someone understands where I was going with that

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I think that any women that breastfeeds should be able to do it any where she would like to. In the county I use to live in, in Kansas, they have signs up everywhere stating that you are able to breast feed anywhere and their isn't anything anyone can do about it. I was only able to feed my daughter for her first 2 weeks, and we never got out much, but if I were able to do it longer, I would have breastfed her anywhere I went. Don't let them looks of other people put you down. You are doing what is best for your baby.

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