co sleeping

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I've been reading a little bit about co sleeping and was thinking about giving it a try with m 1 month old. My husband and i share a queen size bed and i was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for safe co sleeping?



I have one of those little beds that you can put in the middle of the both of you but its just the same as being in is bassinet i think.

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Shauna - posted on 09/10/2009

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We did co sleeping with our first daughter and felt very safe with it because even though I was asleep I was still aware she was next to me, but now she is 3 and still refuse to sleep in her own bedroom. We chose to not co sleep with our youngest and she has slept throught the night since she was 3 months. I still woke constantly to go check on her but still felt close to her and knew she was safe.

Janelle - posted on 09/05/2009

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We started cosleeping on accident...I would fall asleep while nursing... we did have the bassinett next to the bed and if I woke up would transfer DS over to it, but he would normally wake up and we would have to try it all over again...then after he out grew the bassinett we went on to the pack n play.. and then when he was too heavy for that we went to his crib (in his own room).. but most nights he spends with us..Now that he is bigger (almost 11months) we make sure he is in the middle of us so we dont worry about him rolling off the bed... he's quite mobile in his sleep...I do have to say I don't get alot of sleep though- you don't go into a deep sleep.. I would say he spends 1/2 the night in his crib and the other 1/2 with us.. when he's teething or sick he wants to nurse and snuggle in bed with mommy and daddy..he really likes to sleep wiht one arm on mommy and one on daddy...it works for us...I think you should do what feels right for you.. I have had people tell me how dangerous it is to cosleep.. I did find one great peice of advice - even asleep our bodies know their boundaries - think about it.. you don't fall of the bed or roll over on your partner do you?

Virginia - posted on 09/05/2009

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if having baby sleep in same bed as you i recommend a bassinet beside the bed,

the longer you co-sleep with him beside you or in your arms will make it harder for him/her to transition to their crib.

the earlier you can have them sleep in the crib the better for when they are older.

if worried about not beign able to hear baby turn up volume on monitor in your room and position the monitor in baby's room close to the crib

i have his monitor on a box on the floor a foot away from his head and i can still hear him breathe or sigh in his sleep.

you will get a nice long restful sleep.

hope that helps :)

Laura - posted on 09/03/2009

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Ha, Ha, That just the way it is. I co-slept with my daughter (loved it) and I dident get any real sleep while she was with me. But if It makes you feel any better, I thought the same thing, and she never suffocated, (you would be awake enough to know). Then just as they grow out of the little stage and you wont have to worry, they get so big and start to crawl that you cant have them sleep with you anyways. I personally found after 3 months of co-sleeping, that if I have her next to me, but in her own bed, it not only would have made the transition from bed to crib alot easier but I would have slept alot better too. She now is 7 months old and still sleeps in our room but in her own pack and play. I get sleep and she gets a lot better sleep too. Hope this helps ;)

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i agree with the person above me.
I have the pillows on the outside of the bed then the baby then me then my partner. If i swapped sides it would be me on the outside, baby, pillows and hubby.

They always slept on their side with the pillows behind their back to support them

I always had my arm above their head to prevent me from rolling onto the babies.

I also gave them their own blanket so incase i rolled over and pulled them off.

Also i put a fan on so the snores of your partner or yourself are less likley to wake them up

Robbyn - posted on 09/03/2009

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I've co-slept with my son since his first night. Honestly, I don't know why anyone *doesn't* :P
Anyway, to be as safe as possible: Make sure you have a firm mattress, you and DH should use separate blankets, only one pillow per adult and make sure they're up away from baby's head, bed should not be up against a wall (baby can get trapped between the wall and the bed), don't cosleep if you've been drinking, smoking or doing drugs.
Babies are *supposed* to sleep on their backs, but I think it depends on the kid. DS has always been a side sleeper and often uses the bottom breast as a pillow. But he's also been able to hold up and turn his head very well since birth, so I've never worried about him self-smothering.

Linda - posted on 09/03/2009

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I co-slept with my DD up until she was about 4 months old. I was bf'ing and it was much easier to just turn over to her and bf her that way, otherwise I wasn't getting much sleep. My advice is, if you are a heavy sleeper- don't do it! My Dh is, and I "protected" her from him by sleeping in the middle and placing her on the opposite side. It worked well for us.

Tanya - posted on 09/03/2009

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we co slept with our son, it was great because i was still breast feeding him,but i never got a good nite sleep because i was scarred the blanket would go over him or he would snuggle to close, so at 8months we started to put himinto a cot but when it was time to go to his cot he wouldnt have a bar of it, he is 3 1/2 now and will mostley sleep by him self. i think it creates a great bond

Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2009

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Co-sleeping can be rewarding, but watch out once their in your bed its hard to get them out! We are still struggling to get our 4 yr old(aug 18.) to stay in her bed through the night!!

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2009

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this is what i'm doing currently although because i cant turn on to either of my sides and find i still dont sleep very well, and when i do cuddle him in my arm wheni'm on my side his body will turn into me and i'm worried he will suffocate.

Stephanie - posted on 09/02/2009

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I slept w/my girls when they were infants..I always tucked my arm under their neck and cuddled with them. I'm not much of a mover when I'm asleep, but their daddy is so i just stuck pillows between them. Plus we have a King size bed. So there was room

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