Conceiving #2

Brittany - posted on 01/12/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )




My son is 9 months old, and I am soooo ready to have another baby. My husband is ready, too, so we're in total agreement.
My question is, how easy or difficult was it for you to have #2, and how long did you wait? Also, did BFing affect your ability to conceive at all? Finally, I have developed ovarian cysts since my son was born. If you have/had them, did they affect your ability to conceive?
Thank you!


Rachel - posted on 01/14/2011




Hey Brittany, I have a 22 month old daughter and am happily 29+ weeks pregnant with a little boy now :) although it wasn't an easy road!! I do suffer from PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and it was difficult for me to conceive and due to a lot of other health issues and having had surgeries before to remove both fibroid and dermoid cycts, it was difficult for me to carry a baby as well (liquid-not as bad, and solid masses of tissues- very painful and only removable by surgery)

I had miscarried with an ex before and was told i was lucky to have gotten pregnant, but it only made me believe i would never fulfil my dream of being a mother :( ...After our relationship fell apart, i met my fiance and he and i both really wanted kids! I was finishing college and working when I found out --totally by surprise) that i was pregnant with our daughter! 5.5 weeks!! I was so excited and so was he, but i really didnt believe it would work out-and it did!!! :) After having a healthy baby girl March 2009- i knew how badly i wanted her to have a sibling but i was just so grateful to have had her that i couldn't think of anything else for the first 6 months ♥ Around when she turned 7 months, I knew that if we wanted to try to conceive i would need to speak to my doctor and see what he thought- so i did and i found out to no surprise, that i had a few cycts :( He wasn't sure if i would get pregnant easily but said we could try and since they were liquid- that the pregnancy might dissolve them (the hormones etc) So we tried and tried :P and finally when my daughter was about to turn 1, we found out we were 4 weeks along! I was overjoyed and thought my days of womenly troubles were over, but unfortunatley i was wrong..... I lost the baby at 7.5 weeks, just after my daughters birthday party :( it broke my heart and I wasn't sure if i wanted to try again since i knew how hard it was to lose a baby you want so badly. The doctor gave me the news and reassured me that my cycts were not responsible as far as he could tell, it just wasn't a viable pregnancy and i could try again when i felt ready.

It took my fiance and I a month to decide what to do when we finally decided to set a goal-if we weren't successfully pregnant by the time our daughter was 16/17 months (spacing the kids 2 yrs apart) than we would stop trying and just enjoy our family. Well to our surprise we found out when she was 16 months that we were 4 weeks!!! And i felt great! i didn't have the same headaches etc i had when i miscarried and im still pregnant with a healthy baby boy :) I was so excited-still worried, but having set it in my mind that whatever was going to happen, was meant to be- i felt prepared for anything and luckily, i only have to be prepared to enjoy what we've strived for!

If you and your husband feel ready than all the power to you! Just make sure you are healthy and be prepared for anything because even the healthiest of women can miscarry and you dont want to feel detered. But no, i dont believe your cycts (if not persistant or painful) will affect you conceiving, but only if they aren't affecting your menstral cycle. If you are getting one every month-than you are still ovulating regularily so thats good! and it probably means that you will get pregnant when your body's ready :)

Since most cycts that are small and liquid commonly dissolve during pregnancy, you may have nothing to worry about :) Conceiving is only affected by cycts when your ovulation is.

I also breastfed my daughter til she was 11 months, which by then she was completly on 3.5% milk so I'm not sure if it affected my ability to conceive but I still had my cycle regularily so i think not (we weren't trying til i was done breastfeeding) I also know quite a few moms whom breastfed while pregnant so they must have conceived while breastfeeding :P

Good Luck on your journey to expand your family!!! ♥ *all the best to you and yours* ♥

Christine - posted on 01/16/2011




Hi Brittany,

I am a mother of 2 little gals, ages 4 & 3. Aim turning 30 this year and currently trying for #3. It's been quit difficult for us as I too have overian cysts. 1 miscarriage at about 3 weeks through last year and I am now trying some natural treatments ( vitex,evening primrose and estrosense) keeping my fingers crossed.

My girls are 17mths apart and we conceived right away with our second (about 2 mths)

Jessica - posted on 01/14/2011




I currently have a 3yr old(4 in a month) and a 7month old. I really enjoy there age separation/and closeness. I think it's important to not give birth until the first is potty trained, and more independant, and good around other children. It is going to be very difficult if the child cant tell you there feelings, and there will be resentment when the child is still in there 'it's all about me' stage. I think it's great to have the children within a few years of one another though, I think it's great for them because they'll be able to more so relate to one another, and have more things in common, and hopefully be very good friends, not just siblings...

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Brittany - posted on 01/17/2011




Thank you for all your enocuragement! It's been good to read some of your experiences.
We've "not been trying not to" for about a moth-and-a-half, but I've been really sick and on medication for the last two weeks. I'm off it now and hoping that things are successful for us.
My cysts to cause pain and sometimes affect the regularity of my cycle. I'm just trusting God to give us Baby #2 in His timing.

Crystal - posted on 01/15/2011




hi i had my first feb 08 , 2nd june09 and 3rd august 10 for me and DH we fell pregnant first try with all of them :)

Rebekah - posted on 01/15/2011




Are you ovulating yet? You can try an at home ovulation predictor kit to see if it's even possible to get pregnant yet. I quit nursing my daughter at 14 months and had my first regular cycle (period) when she was 15 months old... BUT, according to an OPK, it took a couple more months before I actually ovulated. We are currently TTC #3 (my youngest is 19 months). My first two are 27 months apart and it's perfect now (was a living nightmare for the 1st 6 months, but I love it now).

ETA: My midwife recommends waiting at the very least one full year before trying to get pregnant. I got pregnant when my son (1st born) was 12 months old and had an early miscarriage. Not that it happens to everyone, but I felt like it was my body's way of saying it wasn't ready yet. That's why we waited until my daughter was 1.5 before trying for #3.

Good luck to you!

Savona - posted on 01/14/2011




I JUST Had my second bub on the 4th, (So glad hes finally here! ^_^) I had my daughter a couple years ago, shes 2 years and 4 months.
When I had ovarian cysts I was in the hospital until they went away, which was a couple hours later >.< so I wouldnt know if they would have effected my conceiving ability.
Ive read in many places (As Im sure a lot of you mums have) that breast feeding is a form of birth control after youve givin birth so there may be the possibility that it might effect you conceiving.
Hell In my opinion if youre ready to go for number two, chuck the condoms and act like rabbits? XD lol!!! Glad you and your hubby are enjoying parenting so much and goodluck! =D

Katherine - posted on 01/14/2011




there is 18months between my first and second and 15months between my second and third and I am loving it they all get along really well. They are 3.5yrs, 22months and 6months and we are going to try for another when our youngest is 9months, good luck

Asia - posted on 01/14/2011




It took my husband and I 2 1/2 years. I got cysts after my 3 year old was born and had to be put on fertility meds! Good luck and keep us posted!!

Bonnie - posted on 01/14/2011




It was pretty easy for me and my husband. When our first child was around 13 months we decided to start trying because we wanted them close in age. Within the first month of trying we I got pregnant. I have heard that women who have ovarian cysts could take longer to get pregnant (like a year or more), but that doesn't mean it is like that for everyone. Good luck!

Debra - posted on 01/14/2011




I got pregnant with my 2nd child when my 1st child was only 9months old. My 2nd child was unplanned (a condom broke) My husband & I tried for 15months to get pregnant with my 1st but conceiving my 2nd was no problem! Good luck!

Jayde - posted on 01/14/2011




Hi Brittany, i am also ttc #2 & i'm on my second try we hoping its this month :) Good luck to you hun. My daughter is 20months atm. I've just started only bf my daughter at night time only to put her to sleep. hopefully it wont affect my ability to conceive...

Aimee - posted on 01/14/2011




i had cysts on my ovaries and didnt know i had them.its never made it hard to get pregnant. my daughter was 3 months old when i got caught with my son and i had 3 other children before that but waited 2 and a half years between them but if u are ready and your husband is ready then its up to u. good luck hope this helped and sometimes cysts disapear

Vicki - posted on 01/14/2011




Hi, my daughter is 2 tomorrow and since she was born my partner and I have never used contraception but nothing happened! Its a good job though really as we'v had some tough times lately.

However Im proud to say we moved into our new home in November 2010 and found out yesterday that I'm expecting baby no2!

We are very excited and I think it took us two years because before now the timing just wasnt right for us!

Good luck x

Brittany - posted on 01/13/2011




I have heard a lot of different things about BFing and cysts and conceiving. I have had my cycle since 6 weeks after my son was born. It seems like it's just different for everyone; but it is nice to hear everyone's stories. We've only been "not trying not to" since the middle of Dec, so I know it might take some time.

Amelia - posted on 01/13/2011




My son is 22 months old at the moment and I am 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant with baby#2! The baby is due 30 July 2011 and I cannot wait!

We started ttc June 2010 and fell pregnant immediately, but at the 12 week scan (the first one for that pregnancy), there was no baby present and a biopsy ruled it a missed m/c. So I had a D&C done. In my 3rd cycle after the D&C I fell pregnant again and at our 6 week scan we saw a tiny, but strong heartbeat. Again at 8 weeks and we'll have another scan next week.

Having the Angelsounds fetal doppler at home really helps me cope with some anxieties. Nothing like hearing my babies heartbeat to put me at ease!

Carmina - posted on 01/13/2011




thats very exciting, good luck! my son is 15 months old and we are trying for a second.. only been trying since nye so 2 weeks hehe but hopefully it will happen fast! all the best to you and your family :) ps thanks for the post i will be reading all the reponses!

Dawn - posted on 01/12/2011




We conceived our second when our first was 15 months old. We decided we were going to start trying about 2 weeks before we found out we were pregnant again. Wow did it happen fast. We thought it might take longer the second time around, and boy were we wrong! Breast feeding did not affect it in the least obviously. I'm trying to find out currently if I have an ovarian cyst, and my doctor said they usually shrink on their own and that birth control tablets for a couple months can help shrink them. I'm glad you both are loving being parents so much, but please take your time. If you were to become pregnant like nw, you're next one would be born when your first is around 18 months. There are a lot of changes going on at any age, but 18 months usually brings a burst of independence and 'NO'. It's a rough time with one, let alone a newborn. If you're up for the challenge, more power to ya! My goal here is not to scare you, or even change your mind. I just want you to be really sure you're not just wanting another child at some point, but that you really want it now. Take care and good luck!

Leigh - posted on 01/12/2011




Your are more like to conceive right after having a long as you are not breastfeeding because for most it is a nature birth control pill...Just make sure your eating healthy and exercising, plenty of water and not drugs, or stimulates. This is for a healthy person thou..some people have a harder time with if u are doing all this and can't then i go and get a doctors help

Danielle - posted on 01/12/2011




My husband and I have been trying to conceive over a year now for our second.

If it were our decision it would have happened a while ago (obviously). We wanted our children to be spaced around the 2-2.5 year mark. We started trying to conceive when our son was around a year old thinking it would only take a couple months but we have underestimated that time line.

I do get cyst on my ovaries and it was recommended that we waited until my body reabsorbed the golf ball sized cyst before trying to our second.

As a result of the cyst we had a miscarriage, and that is how we found out about it.

I would reccommend making sure that you are clear of any major cysts before attempting to get pregnant. It can affect your hormone levels, and can lead to miscarriage.

Kyla - posted on 01/12/2011




my daugther is 8 months and im seven weeks pregant. I went off the pill in december and got preagant the same month. I'm due sept 12 were very excited.

Liz - posted on 01/12/2011




My b/g twins were 16 months when we conceived ( while on the pill) our youngest. They are 25 months and 4 days apart.

Angela - posted on 01/12/2011




We didn't get pregnant with # 2 until our oldest was 18 months old. I went off the pill in January, we decided we wouldn't try but wouldn't prevent, and I got pregnant in February. It was much easier this time around. I have cysts as well and haven't had any problems getting pregnant.

Good luck!

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