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CONFUSED & CLUCKY!

Ayla - posted on 05/22/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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feeling so torn as to start trying for our next bubba or just wait as I'm only 22yrs old but want my kids close and would love a big family!our boy is 13 months old and took ages to conceive with him, though scared as to think of another baby and having had an emergency csection with my first, really need to find the best place that will support a VBAC!! Ahhh we are also moving states for work so won't have the comfort of our communitie and parents!! But I still feel comfortable to birth else where! Spose I'm just abit confused and my hubbie is no help except let's go and start trying right now ;) hahaha so any amazing mummas out there willing to give this Mumma some advice on wanting to have another baby but also needing to move and get more money for a house! Am I being inpatient or is this normal??

Thank you

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Lisa - posted on 05/25/2012

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I had my two when I was 21 & 22 and they are only 14 months apart. My second was an unplanned miracle and we were not ready for her financially but I couldn't dream of it any other way. Now I am 25 with a 3 1/2 yo and almost 2 1/2 yo and I am so thankful that I had them when I was younger. Even though I can tell my energy levels are starting to decrease, I am still able to run and play with them all day. I am grateful that I am able to be so active with them. I am also grateful that mine are best friends (do remember that the best friends' fights can be worse than worst enemies' fights occasionally).

For your own health, do pay attention to the timing guidelines for VBAC, but after that time has past go for it--the younger you are, the more energy you will have to spend playing with the little ones! Good luck!

Nicola - posted on 05/24/2012

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My 2 are 16 months apart and I gave birth to my princess 3 months after I turned 23. I have to say that having them so close was a blessing and we moved interstate when she was 10 months old. my little man is fantastic with her I think it helps now that they are close in age, he has never been allowed to get used to being the only child which helps him adjust to other kids now we are in a new place :)

Anthea - posted on 05/24/2012

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I'd choose closer together than further apart. I had my first ( unplanned ) at 17. Then after I was married at 21 had 4 more babies within the following 6 years!! After having the big 5.5yr age gap between my first and second, I was determined to have the rest of them close together.

Ayla - posted on 05/23/2012

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So true! Be much easier having them to help and yes I'm determined for a VBAC so waiting another year is no biggie!! Thanka

Stifler's - posted on 05/23/2012

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If you want a VBAC i recommend waiting the 18 months - 2 years before you start trying to get pregnant again. I have them close and I'm 23 it was good but in hindsight I wish I'd waited until Logan was old enough to be helpful with the baby and not still a baby himself.

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