crying on the potty?

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hi there all! :)
my oldest is a two year 4 month old girl and for some reason she SCREAMS bloody murder when we try to get her to sit on the potty. wether it be the small floor potty or the big pottt with a smaller seat. she will watch all her other playmates of the same age sit and try to potty but nope she wont. she is still in diapers and my husband and me have just in the last month tried to get her used to what the potty is and how we use it ect. ect. ect. but she WILL NOT sit on either and is scared. so does anyone have any info on when this phase may pass and when potty training could begin? or does or has anyone else ever had a problem like this?


Liz - posted on 07/12/2010




In my opinion, I think that's a sign she's not ready. Give her a little bit more time and dont force the issue.

The potty is the one thing you dont want/need her to have negative feelings over. And sometimes forcing the issue can cause problems down the road. I know that from experience.

You have to give her time to get used to it. I started putting my son on the potty when he was 6 months old, holding him on the seat for about a minute a few times a week. I didn't expect him to do anything of course. I was just getting him used to sitting on it so when he learned the muscle control to know when he needed to potty, he had no issues getting up there and going.

She's not going to take to the idea overnight, no matter how old she is. It takes time, she'll learn. They all do. :)

Good luck.

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Jen - posted on 07/12/2010




If she's crying on the potty back off for about a month a try again. Try taking her to the bathroom when you go and let her see that there's nothing wrong with the potty. You may need to say things like, "Look how mommy uses the potty. Let mommy know when you'd like to try sitting on the potty." You can also reward her for just sitting there without crying. You can also try letting her sit on the potty clothed before taking her diaper off.

My daughter is only a few months older than your daughter (2 years, 7 months) and she's been fully trained since the end of May. When she turned one I got a small potty and put it in the bathroom. When I went , I'd take her with me and tell her what I was doing. I'd let her look in the potty and then I'd show her her potty. I let her sit on it clothed while I went and we worked up to sitting with no clothes on. It wasn't until she was 22 months that we started taking her everyday before bed and after waking up. At 25 months we went to only pull ups and right before she turned 2.5 she was telling us when she needed to go and she started wearing panties.

It's all about taking your child's signs. Right now it doesn't sound like your daughter is ready, but she will get there. Let her continue to watch her friends and she'll do it when she's ready. Good luck. :)

Brittanie - posted on 07/12/2010




When we started potty training my daughter we gave have a treat for just trying, so she associated it with something good. Now the that she knows what it's for she only get's a snack if she uses it. We also sing a song and praise her as if she had just won a gold metal or something. We feel like fools but she is doing great! Hope this helps! Good luck and God bless!

Laura - posted on 07/12/2010




Have you've thought bout trying those cusioned seat u put on ur loo, she may cry coz she finds it uncomfy i wuldn't like to sit on that wuld u lol

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