Karyn - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am one of the unlucky few who's mother was unable to be at my babies birth (sadly she has passed). I only had my sister as my family here. So in the birthing suite I had her and my fiance. I didn't want anyone else to be at the hospital or at my home for at least a week until I had found my feet and recovered a bit.
However this didn't go as planned, 20mins after being stitched (I had natural birth) and showering, still int he birthing suite I had 5 members of my fiance's family come in to see the baby. I wasn't too happy about this as we agreed on having 1 or 2 coming in at a time. Then they were also over at our home the next 2 days. I was so upset that my wishes were not being respected.
This drama has caused a drift between my fiances family and myself. They believe that I have 'robbed' the birth of their granddaughter from them. Here I was thinking that its not about them, thats it's supposed to be about the mother of the child being born and how she wants the day to go. So my first 3 weeks were 'robbed' from me as I was so depressed thinking that I was the worst person in the world for not allowing them what they wanted. Oh and I have told the in-laws how I felt about all this and their selfish response was 'It's the way everyone does it, it's the way we did it"
So my question is how many people were at your birth and how long after giving birth were you having people invade on your recovery and adjusting time?