daycare troubles

Maura - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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my 3 month old daughter goes to the same daycare i work in, and when i go visit her i cant help but feel that one of the caregivers does not like her she makes grrets other babies happily and all she says to mine is are you gonna stay happy after mommy leaves and i only get negative feedback from this caregiver, the other caregivers love her and she smiles at them , but not the other one. am i being too sensitive and should i talk to this caregiver??

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Maura - posted on 01/10/2010

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thanks guys I did talk to one of the teachers and she comfirmed my feelings, to those of you who said it was because dropping in makes it hard on the baby thats not it because when I go in she isn't crying when I leave she happy or sleeping its just when that caregiver is ihen the room but like I said I was right but she is applying for a different position hopefully she gets it this is someone who should not work around kids, :)

Leahann - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Tameer:

You should talk to her and if you EVER feel uncomfortable with your caregiver, find another one! Not being too sensitive at all!


I agree with her.  Espcially if ur baby is showing signs of dislike because babies can pick up on more senses and feelings than we can.

Danielle - posted on 01/05/2010

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i would definitely talk to the other daycare workers to make sure your child is being treated the same by all the workers.

Kylie - posted on 01/05/2010

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it's hard when mums work in the same centre, you would probably know, that daycare workers make the worse parents to deal with, they know to much (I am a 2-3year teacher). If you daughter is generally happy, and there is no neglect, or proof of negative feeling/behviour to the child it may just make the whole environment worse.

Lisa - posted on 01/05/2010

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I am not currently working, but I work for the Army daycare system when i am working. We have an "open door" policy for our parents. Any parent can come in at any time and check on/play with their kids. My son also attend the last center I worked at. I found that peeking through the windows and doors satisfied me (as well as regular talks with the teachers) until he felt comfortable in his room. Then I would go in and put him to sleep on my breaks. It was nice for him, and I felt like I could still be near my son and part of his day. He was a toddler when he started there.
If you have an infant, of course your child is going to miss you and not be able to give voice to her feelings. Ask her teacher if you can post some pics of you and your daughter's family on the wall near your child's bed or in a quiet area where she can see it. Then when you leave, her teacher can help her see your picture and it will help her feel more comfortable. I've had parents come in and out a lot, wether they work for the center or not, and have never found a reason to be harder or more unforgiving of a center worker's child. ( I can't imagine find a reason to treat a child rudely anyway) If she cries when you leave, a better course for the teacher would be to give her a few extra hugs and to tell he you'll be coming back soon. Babies can't express in words, but they understand them very well. A little extra love goes a LONG way to making a child comfortable and each day a little easier.

Jamie - posted on 01/05/2010

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definetly talk to her! I worked in a center, (before i had my daughter) and always felt like the children of teachers in that center were always treated differently, and were expected to be little angels, and the mothers would almost always get negative comments about the children, it's almost like they forgot that they are still children too and just because there mother works there they shouldnt be treated differently!

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I agree with all of the comments. I've worked in a daycare and having a parent stop in is very hard on everyone. I know it's probably hard not too since you work there. Can you see in the door? Maybe you could watch her from the door. This way you can see her and you can see how the caregiver interacts with your child. If you see anyting that bothers you or have a feeling that something is going on, talk to the management.

Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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I work at a daycare.. sounds like you need to bring this up to your management.. if she's saying these things to you then she's probably doing the same to other parents as well.. which would upset any parent

Renee - posted on 01/05/2010

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I would talk to that particular caregiver and let her know your concerns. You might be a little sensitive, but that is your right as a parent. By stopping in during the day to visit your daughter it might be making things harder as well for your daughter. I used to hate it when parents would stop back in to "check in" on their kids during the day when I was a nanny because the kids would get fussy again after they left. I would no sooner get them calmed back down and playing and the parents would come back to "check in" again, restarting the whole process. I quit being a nanny for one family because of this due to the kid just screaming the entire time...they were a very good kid when Mom or Dad was around.

Lisa - posted on 01/05/2010

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Maybe when you visit your daughter and leave she gets upset which makes the job of her cargivers harder, I work in daycare also I have been on both sides before I had kids with other workers visitng thier children and it made it much worse for me and I used to be in the same room as my son. Anyway ask the other workers if your daughter is treated well by all wokers. I dont think it is ever a bad idea to bring up your concerns with the people who are taking care of your child. Just make sure to do it calmly and be sensitve and not jump to conclusions too fast. I hope I made some sense here.

Tameer - posted on 01/05/2010

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You should talk to her and if you EVER feel uncomfortable with your caregiver, find another one! Not being too sensitive at all!

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