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DeadBeat Dads Vs. Amazing Step Dads

Nikki - posted on 01/09/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm Dealing with this. I think i'm doing the right thing by keeping my daughter away form her Biodad Because he has been careless with her safety and well being. and she has no clue who he is she is 2 1/2 and has not seen him in a year the courts took visitations form him and gave me soul cusdity.. He didnt even fight the court. She has my last name. She only knows My best friend has her daddy, When they are together no one else matters to ether of them. We didn't force her to call him daddy she just started one day and me and him had a talk and he wanted nothing more then to give her the love and care that a father would. and he has been for almost 2 years now. But as Soon as her biodad found out. he caused a world war 3, He has had me threated by his whole family including the adults. All because he dose not want to be in her life he just wants to control mine and not allow a man in her life. He has done the curl things to me form trying to have me beat up to miscarrie to making up lies. threating me that he has a cop as an uncle so he can do what he wants, kidnapping my child, having my best friend killed. and he has done countless things to my daughter. by taking her in the freezing cold when she was just a couple mouths old. with only a t shirt on no blanket or shoes or socks or jacket. or even a bottle left her by her self.. and took her to a party with drugs and beer where his girlfriend got drunk and he drove them home. and she loved taking baths but after his first weekend with her she has done nothing but scream if you even get her close to something full of water,? I get crap form his family and friends for keeping her away form him and allowing another man take care of her. Am i doing the right thing. and is there anyone else dealing with the same things

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Pat - posted on 01/09/2011

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hi nikki u are doing the right thing,I would go to solicter,and get advice and to get him to keep away from u,im sorry u going through this,i know how u feel good luck if u want a chat either here or on facebook pat xx

Lacye - posted on 01/09/2011

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You are absolutely doing the right thing! The sperm donor, he doesn't even have the right to be called a Biodad, sounds like a total douche bag and should be sterilized! You didn't force her to call your friend daddy. She did it on her own. It's not your fault or hers that the sperm donor is a fucktard.

Nikki - posted on 01/09/2011

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Thank you and yes. that is what i have been doing everytime i get threated i call the police. So that if something happens to me or my daughter or we go to court i have the proof. Yes thats amonth some of my reasons to his girlfriend is very young and now pregnant by him to. but she was the one that tried to have me miscarrie. i understand she was young and loves and wanted to believe his lies but theres no axcuse to threatin the life of an unborn child like that. when i was 8 months pregnant at that. Right now. i'm trying to get his name off the birth record cause i did not put it there i put none as her father and we are wanting my best friends name on there.and i'm talking to a lawyer on getting his rights terminated

Lisa - posted on 01/09/2011

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of cource u r doing the right thing, like u sed u didnt force ur daughter to call ur best mate dad it just happened, i myself too have had this problem, but my son is older and knows who his dad is, i also have a baby with my current partner ( my sons step dad) so more since the baby was born he has wanted to call him dad, he doesnt mostly because i think it makes him feel weird, but he doesnt see his dad any more due to letting his step mother treat him so bad that he started asking me and my partner not to go any more, it came to a head when i found out she was treating him bad and tried to resolve the issue. due to my sons step mum bein rather young and immature i thought maybe this is why she was strugeling with my son, any ways things got out of hand and she attacked me in front of my sons, now my oldest does not see hsi dad due to the way his wife behaved, he did have the chance to se his son but failed to do so without trying to change plans all the time, any ways i know he has a great bond with my partner and they get on great the fact that he wants to call him dad is his own choice because he feels as tho that is the bond he should have with his dad . i think ur ex is just feeling hurt because his own daughter sees someone else as her dad and he missed out on this. he will just be over reacting just ignor him or report him to the police about the threts, he is obviously not suited to bein a dad no matter what the meaning i, but get legal help, and suoport from the police hope this helped :)

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