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Jaime - posted on 12/03/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've been extremely depressed lately. Chronic depression runs in my family and I've been diagnosed with it before. I'm ready to get this pregnancy over with. Julie is huge and I can't handle not being able to get up and go like I used to. I've always been an active person and I hate that I can't even lean over a table or sit up straight without hurting somewhere. It's even become hard to sleep. I can't get out of the car without some kind of struggle beforehand and I'm surprised I can get off the couch without my husband's help.

I know that most of that is normal, but is it normal to be so depressed and angry about it? I can't even make a bowl of oatmeal without crying because the damn microwave nuked it and made it explode everywhere. (I think it was pretty logical that I got pissed but still...)

Have you ever dealt with this kind of depression and how did you do it? Without therapy, seeing as how I can't afford it...

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Jodie - posted on 12/03/2010

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firstly,they must be something for help for this illness,have you explored options,i understand its very expensive overseas,but there must be some help.if not,without meds it can be hard battle.try and take baby steps,dont over do it,like dont have 50 thousand things you need to do all in ine go,take 1 job at a time,make yourself get up and go for a stroll,make a snow man,with the kids,but dont take heaps on board,allow yourself time out for you,arrange for your husbund to look after the kids for an hour,go and have coffee with a mate,get some good sleeps in,being depress can be a rollercoaster ride,for any1 with a mental illness.without realising it,but i was depress for 2years,after the birth of my 3rd kid,it starting when her father decided to be a cock for 2yrs,i always felt sad and down,course i felt like he wasnt supporting me.but i didnt reach for help till march 2010,when me being depressed,finally took its toll,when me and my ex split,i had just found out i was hapu,with my 4th and our 2nd.i was put on meds,but i guess the lucky outcome for me,i live in new zealand,medical care is very cheap,so i do know what its like being depressed,without meds,and thats why i give you that advice at the begining,as i wish i had done all those things,if i could turn back time,i would of delt with my illness differently,instead of not wanting to do anything.try and make yourself become better,i cant imgine how hard it is for you,not been able to have the meds u need,course they do work,i call them my happy pills.reach out to your family for support,explore any network options.all the best and good luck,something will pop up,god bless you.from jodie white,of hamilton,n.z

Toni - posted on 12/03/2010

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I had that kind of depression after I had my son. I was the same way so sad, and so angry. At first I let it go because people were telling me that I am just being selfish because I wasn't the center of attention, my child was. Also people would tell me I was nuts. So it built up and built up. One day after I felt like I was going to explode because no one would listen...I called an old friend and I told her every single thing that bother me, hurt me, or whatever. I cried and poured it all out. For me that made me feel 110% better. Also I had a couple set backs here and there so I just went to my regular Dr and I talked to him about it and he prescribed me an anti depressant and that helped a lot. So maybe for now you could find someone that you could talk to and after the baby is born go talk to your Dr?

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