Depression /mirena iud/ postpartum depression

Jayne - posted on 01/31/2013

Hi my son is 2 and a half and last week I was diagnosed with depression, they gave me diazepam and citalopram, been taking them for a few days and now i'm feeling more anxious than ever, it's come 2 the stage that my parents av 2 av my son as I don't feel that I should b looking after him whilst on this medication, now cos of this, my little one's son is now threatening to get full custody cos i'm suffering from depression

Amber - posted on 07/14/2009

Do any of you think the mirena is making more depressed possibly, I've had it for two months and havent been feeling well for a few weeks. I don't know if I should try something else or get my tubes tied, though that seems a little drastic

Amanda - posted on 07/14/2009

Hi Amber,
I work with people with depression frequently, and you really have to talk it out. There's usually something behind what you're showing to the world. Feel free to review my web site: www.aplusplan.com and contact me for a complimentary phone consultation. I started my business to help people, and I know what it's like having a little baby to care for each day - exhausting! Take care and speakt o you soon.
Best,
Amanda

Melissa - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting carrie:

i'm so nervous right now, i've got a 22 week old son, and i've just been diagnosed with it, i tried to kill myself 3 weeks ago, i've become recluse, i don't like anyone even my husband to touch our son, it's horrible, i feel unhappy for no reason, i have everything. i've just been put on meds and have counciling from a CPN every week. the meds don't seem to be working yet because i still feel suicidal on occassions. i'm also looking to see if there is light at the end of the tunnel but when i've posted stuff it gets ignored and then i take it down cause i get paranoid. i resent the way i'm feeling!

OMG! Listen hun....you need to take yourself away from the situation when you feel it coming. In your mind you need to think about how much your son needs you and how it would effect him if he had to grow up without his mother. I don't think I had ppd. Alot happened after I had my last son. He's going to be 2 in sept but I didn't want to be pregnant the whole time. I was mad and when he came I didn't feel as close to him as I did with my other 2. It was really strange. I never was diagnosed or anything. I have suicidal thoughts ALOT. I keep telling myself all the reasons I need to be here. I'm going through so many things now that I think my family would be better off if I was gone sometimes. Due to money issues not mentally. Then I have to tell myself how much my kids would suffer if I was gone. It's really a struggle for me everyday. Lately it's been worse because of other things. I love my son completly now. I don't know how I could live without him. I feel horrible for the way I felt. I should probably see a dr but it's not an option for me at the moment. I hope you all feel better and things get better for all of you. Remeber we all have a reason to be here and be happy! Our children!

Bonnie - posted on 07/13/2009

Bobbi - I couldn't agree with you more! Anything that changes my hormone levels is bad for my body (and for my husband's ears). I'm MEAN when I'm hormonal, which I never had been before I had my son. I still haven't gotten 100% back to normal.

Bobbi - posted on 07/13/2009

Hey! I didn't notice my PPD my pediatriction asked my husband if I was ok. I took meds for 6 months and took my self off. It took about a month to get the "spinning" out of my head but everytime I tried to just cut back my dose it was worse. I just quit and YES I was "crazy" sometimes. I would cry or scream at my husband the baby kept me happy. I also had my IUD removed two weeks ago and I really great. I also had to take a look at my life and know that I am a good mother, let the guilt go and now that I have to be a strong women for my daughter. Birth controls and hormones and me don't get along and I had to realize that.

Sara - posted on 07/13/2009

Yes, I did have post pardum depression after my daughter and my son were born. I remeber not likeing my daughter at all, though I knew I would not harm her, I just did not love her until she was like a month old. It was worse and I was very sad after my son was born, that I started going to a psychiarist. He suggested that it sounded like my hormons were out of wack and he prescribed me a simple birth control pill. It made my periods go back to normal and it made the mean thoughts and feelings I was having for people in my life to go away. I have tried to take myself off the birth control several times because my tubes are tied and I do not need it for birth control, but every time I come off, I have those same irrational mean feelings about people. My son just turned two and I am still on it and it is still working. SO, possibly a birthcontrol pill could monitor your hormon level and make you feel better?



Good luck and warm wishes,

Sara

Mschelseamac - posted on 07/13/2009

There is a great group to help out with this on Circle of Moms. It is called Mom's who have experienced or are experiencing postpartum depression. It is a wonderful group to seek help or share your experiences and advice with other Mother's going through similar struggles. I am a member of it and really like it. It's very down to Earth, helpful and non-judgemental.

Bonnie - posted on 07/13/2009

Everyone resents feeling this way. You're a good person, because you wouldn't feel bad about it if you weren't. What people without it often don't understand is that you literally can't help it. It's not your fault, just use all of the resources available and don't give up.

Amber - posted on 07/13/2009

I know how you feel, it takes a few weeks maybe even up to a month for medication to start working. I was hospitalized for two weeks three months after my son was born. Continue with the counseling and look to your family for support. Get as much help as you can with the baby and if there is anyone available to stay with you until you are feeling better I suggest doing that. I needed a lot of help when I was on my way to getting better, it took months before I could handle him on my own. Good luck to you, I am here if you need some moral support!

Carrie - posted on 07/12/2009

i'm so nervous right now, i've got a 22 week old son, and i've just been diagnosed with it, i tried to kill myself 3 weeks ago, i've become recluse, i don't like anyone even my husband to touch our son, it's horrible, i feel unhappy for no reason, i have everything. i've just been put on meds and have counciling from a CPN every week. the meds don't seem to be working yet because i still feel suicidal on occassions. i'm also looking to see if there is light at the end of the tunnel but when i've posted stuff it gets ignored and then i take it down cause i get paranoid. i resent the way i'm feeling!

Bonnie - posted on 07/10/2009

Amber -

I'm sorry you've had such a tough time. Depression is so complicated, and it doesn't help if you were clinically depressed before-hand. I will tell you that changing depression medications often is bad for you. When your body just gets used to them, and you change them, this can often cause a person to contemplate suicide. (My little sister has had the same reaction, as have two of my close friends.)

I had my son Holden nearly 4 months ago, and I experienced Postpartum Depression as well. I was never clinically depressed prior to my son, so it came as somewhat of a surprise to me. Unfortunately, men and non-parents will never understand the emotional and physical turmoil new moms face. It's draining. The lack of sleep alone can cause stress levels to sky-rocket, and new fathers don't help when they can't so much as hold the baby without the fear of "breaking him/her".

My suggestion is this: find someone reliable to talk to who isn't a close friend. (Therapists and Psychologists are expensive, but they work wonders.) Using friends is nice, but they eventually get tired of hearing about something they do not understand. The person prescribing the depression meds should be someone with knowledge about them and will not just prescribe them because you've asked. 100% honesty is very important. This is your life.

Furthermore, if you have to force yourself to smile, then do so. Even making yourself smile feels better than being miserable. Try and get enough sleep every night, ask your husband to help out around the house, if he doesn't already. Eventually, you'll get through this. Don't worry.

Sean - posted on 07/10/2009

hi, if i were u i would try to find a support group or another doctor that specializes in post postpartum depression . there is no reason why you should have to suffer

Amber - posted on 07/10/2009

I'm surprized no one has commented on this either, yes my medication does work wonders and I feel normal, the occasionable not able to fall asleep, but I have something that helps with that too. Thanks for your input!

Melanie - posted on 07/10/2009

hi!sad to see no one has commented on this yeat. this is my experience i had my daughter almost 3 yrs ago now. BF for a mth then stoped and went on birthcontrol (pills) i never went to a doctor but i diffetly started feeling some sort of depresion somewhat on the other end of most women i was paranoid that somehting would happen to my daughter and kept thinking my husband was cheating on me (for no real reason) i kept my daughter on me at all times i slept with her because i was afraid she would stop breathing in her crib at nite.I would spend most of the nite awake making sure she was ok. Then i started being afraid of shadows thinking someone was in the house and that it was gonna ge me and my daughter i was literaly going insane. sounds crazy to me now. So after a while i decided i had to talk to someone but not a doc cause i figured they would take my daughter away. So i talked to my gmother ( shes a reiki healer) she said that i had to get off the birthcontrol and that the hormones were too strong for my body.So wanting to do anything to feel normal again i did. gradualy i got better and now i am somewhat 'normal: i had my son 5 mths ago and i also have the IUD but the one with no hormones. I deffinetly dont feel like i did before i had kids i dont know if any one ever does considering all the extra responsibilities u add but i make an effort to take care of myself wich also helps and i ask for help when i need it.i dont know what yr experience was like but i sure hope someone can help u. but if the pills are working for u and not hariming yr body then maybe u should stay on them.good luck