Diary of an Angry Pregnant Woman

Frilin - posted on 06/18/2012

I don't know if you guys believe in "SAYINGS", we'll us Filipinos (From the Philippines) we have a saying that if you are pregnant sometimes ur partner feels the same way. they crave, they're emotional and they feel angry. Don't leave and Don't HIT! Try Going to a Prenatal Yoga class. Let it all out there. It's Calming for you and ur baby. and it will help you with Labor too. Or walk it out. hopefully he'll come into his senses. I was like that with my partner, but I talked to him and explained. eventually he came into his senses. I hope everything goes well for you.

Ginny - posted on 06/18/2012

Pregnancy and Menstrual cycles are "nature's design for making you re-examine your life intensively so you can discover a new path of power and wisdom." Donna Eden, writer and teacher of Energy Medicine said that. Basically, when we have bad PMS, which is what it can feel like the entire 9 months of pregnancy, it's a call to go within and work to clear and release emotional pain and negativity. This can be difficult because most of us were never taught that our thoughts and feelings are energy. When you don't acknowledge and move through your emotions, they get stuck in your body and come back to haunt you in the most distressing ways. When you are pregnant or going through menstrual cycles, all the issues that need to be acknowledged and cleared come up and stare you right in the face. It's also a time that you are extremely vulnerable to attracting negativity and stress from others.
The best way to work with the difficult emotions of pregnancy is to acknowledge what you're feeling without judgment, and then clear the energy that's driving the emotion. There are amazingly simple techniques that are easy to do and really do help release the emotional intensity of what you're going through so you can think clearly and better choose how to respond to the situations that come up in your life.

I used to be so raging mad all the time. I was depressed and unhappy a lot. I was filled with self hatred because I couldn't control my emotions and would blow up at the people I love. What turned things around for me was becoming a mother and knowing that I needed to get on top of things so I could be a more loving and emotionally available mother for my children.
The simple techniques that I use to heal and clear difficult emotions really work and any one can use them. I have posted some audio programs and how-to's on my website where you can learn for free. If you are interested in the info just go to www.ginnywalker.com/free

Best of luck to you!

Rosa - posted on 06/17/2012

I know how you feel. With my first child I was always angry and crying totally depressed at time and my husband did NOT help at all. He would do the same thing follow me around when I walked away from an argument because I did not feel that it was the best way for me to deal at the moment I wanted to go away and relax and come back to it. But he would just follow me and ask why why why. He also would ask me Why I'm being such a bitch YES he would use the word bitch to describe me. Unfortunately If we did argue too long HE would result into punching me in the arm or pushing me onto a bed or chair. Needless to say that marriage ended after my daughter was a year old, he was a sweet guy and all but the sexual relationship was gone and he only saw me as baby momma not the wife. After 7 yrs we are great friends. Now my second pregnancy was totally the opposite. I met him online went out 3 nights in a row and lo and behold I was pregnant on the third day. lol During the pregnancy I swear I thought I was in love with him. I wanted him next to me ALL the time. If he texted or called or even showed up at my place he would put a smile on my face. IT'S THE HORMONES LOL But after a year I still feel the same way with him. He still puts a smile on my face and now I know that I DO love him. :) I'm just showing you that you are not alone and it could be the hormone changes in your body or it could be that your relationship has changed due to the pregnancy. Maybe go out to dinner at a quite place and talk with him. If you do still love him and want to be with him explain how you are feeling tell him to listen to what you have to say and then he can put his two cents in. And you need to listen to him to maybe there is a miscommunication somewhere. Try what you can without stressing yourself out because if he is not willing to help you through your pregnancy how is he going to help you when the child does come into this world. Patience is a virtue. Trust needs to be earned. Good Luck with your pregnancy and hope all goes well with you both.

Joanna - posted on 06/16/2012

I think there is much more to this story than you can post. Just because you have resorted to hitting does not mean that you are just some hysterical pregnant woman. It is not just the hormones. This relationship is not healthy. It is changing who you are. You are more vunerable because you feel crazy with hormnes. Even if you get anger managment & counselling I don't believehe will stop bullying you. If you truly love him you have to be honest about what is happening. You do need some tactics not to hit but youbalso need to feel free to express what is being done in a systematic way to control and bully you and how it needs to be addressed. good luck x

Kate - posted on 06/14/2012

I'm having the same issue. However this is my second and I can honestly say that I did not have this proble with the first, nor have I ever felt this way about him before. We have been together for six years and although we have had our share of fights I have never been this nasty in my life. To those who say that it is abusive, you're right; but let's also not forget that we are all human and we make mistakes.

Before you leave him consider asking him to research some of the changes that pregnancy can cause and come up with a list of ways he can be more supportive. Also stash stress balls around the house. It's not quite as satisfying as smacking him in the face, but it is much more civilized :) When you're not fighting come up with a list of rules for arguments- no interruptions, no statements that start with you, no using the word "but" post them someplace and hold each other to them. Try to figure out the top three things that you argue about and make plans to address them; so if you fight about who is doing all the cleaning make a chore chart together, money- come up with a budget together and so on.

Carolyn - posted on 06/14/2012

Look into prenatal depression. It is a real problem for some women.

Jo - posted on 06/13/2012

I don't know how pregnancy affects everyone but I know when I was pregnant last time, I turned into the bitch from hell! My partner pissed me off and I felt angry a lot of the time. Those hormones can do crazy things! My suggestion, first of all, is to tell your partner how you feel if you haven't already done so. Sometimes men are thick and need things to be pointed out very obviously! Try to get out of the house, see friends, family, make regular plans so you don't feel like you're sitting at home going mad! I can tell you, in my situation, things got so much better towards the end of the pregnancy and when my son was born. I'm pregnant again now too, so waiting to see what this pregnancy will do to me!!! Hope things get better for you soon!

Ashley - posted on 06/13/2012

in this situation If you can stay at a friend or relitives house for a week or two let him know you dont what to hit him any more so you are removing yourself from the situation for a while, thenwhen you feel calmer and less stressed go back. and if het go's back to trying to piss you off tell him look the stress you are creating for me right now is effacting our baby I thought we were on the same page and you were happy with me and wanted this baby but i feel like you upseting me on perpes and that isnt good for our child so I am doing whats best for our baby and living with so & so untill we can resolve this issue try to stay calm and stress that you are not only consernd about his helth because lets face it he is the one getting hit but it is putting your baby at reisk too! *just be cause you are not living with him dosent mean you cant try to mantain the relationship you juast mightneed that extra time away from one another * hope it all works out for you.

Dominicca - posted on 06/13/2012

I think that many things contribute to anger management including cooperation on behalf of your significant other. I also think that its amazing how people say you need anger management for hitting someone but taunting and bullying someone doesn't constitute a need for anger management. Anger management isn't just a matter of talking to a therapist its also a matter of a change of lifestyle which is something that my mother made clear to me. So I definitely know that on my end there are some decisions that need to be made in regards to this lifestyle. The reason I posted on here is because this is something that has happened after the pregnancy we never had moments like these before. Thanks so much for the feedback you guys.

Ashley - posted on 06/12/2012

Him provoking you is not ok, but hitting although at the moment may make you feel better it wont in the long run and if you dont find a way to deal with your anger properly now when you have a 3 year old doing nothing but trying to anoy you it will be hard to keep control, trust me on this, I would suggest conflict resolution its a course and it teaches you how to argue and come to a sulution its amazing. Now your hormones are deff going crazy and that dosent help but if you think its bad now just wait till baby comes home its only going to get worse start councelling get this stuff worked out before because sleep depervasion only makes things so much worse. best of luck

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2012

Hitting people because you're angry is abuse. If he was doing it to you there'd be people in here saying to leave him because he's physically abusing you, just saying. You sound like you need anger management. Or marriage counseling.