Did you keep baby in your hospital room?

Katie - posted on 07/27/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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When I had my son, I had him sleep in the hospital nursery at night because I guess I felt that I'd take advantage of the help while I had it. I actually had mixed emotions when they took him away to the nursery and didn't want to seem like a bad mom because I made this choice..
I am being induced on Monday with #2 and this has been on my mind-whether or not to keep her in the room with me or have her sleep in the nursery.
Anyone else do this and feel the way I felt as well?

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Karen - posted on 08/02/2011

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the hospital i was at didn't have a nursery so there was no choice. my son was in NICU for his second night as he was having a bit of trouble keeping his oxygen up and i hated it - i sat beside his incubator most of the night because i didn't want to be away from him. once he got the ok to leave NICU he was back in my room for the remainder of our stay

Angela - posted on 08/02/2011

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the hospital i had my daughter in, only had a nursery for preemies or babies who needed care so she stayed witth me both nights

Christina - posted on 07/29/2011

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I kept all my kids with me in my room, except my preemies. My preemie daughter was in the NICU. My preemie son was required to be in the NICU the first night for eval, and the second night I let them keep him and just bring him to me for feedings since I just had a tubal and was afraid I wouldn't be able to get up to get him. My full term babies stayed in my room with me and slept with me (since I breastfed all of my kids)

Laura - posted on 07/29/2011

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It was one of my fears for my baby to be taken away to stay in another room, so no, both my kids after they were born, stayed with me all the time. The only time I was parted was when I went to the toilet, and when I had my son he stayed in a cot in the opposite room while I took a bath. My first (my daughter) I was so bothered by being seperated from her, that they wheeled her crib with her in, into the bathroom with me. There's no way I could have ever had them sleep in a nursery or anything. But that's just me.

Jessica - posted on 07/29/2011

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I chose to let her stay in the nursery during the night. I would have them bring her into me every couple hours to feed, but took the time to sleep and prepare myself for the road a head. I think that every woman should take the chance to sleep a few extra hours after your little one comes. I felt a little bit guilty at first, but after the first night I was okay with her being with us all day and then just really taking time to sleep.

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2011

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I had them keep my son in the nursery at night during our stay at the hospital, even though they brought him to me every couple hours for me to breastfeed. It's completely understandable. It's one of the last times you'll get a full nights rest. No need to feel bad about it. :)

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2011

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I agree with you katie... like I had said earlier in the post we don't ave that option here the only "nursery" we have in our hospital now is for the baby's that need the incubators.. the last time they actually had a nursery for all the other babies was when my brother who is just 2 years younger then me which makes him almost 21 was born ... after that they changed the hospital here alot

Katie - posted on 07/28/2011

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Here in New Zealand, we don't have nurseries available in the hospital. Baby stays with you in your room. Sounds funny but I thought the whole nursery thing was an "old fashioned" thing that was done many years ago. As until reading this, I had never heard of nurseries being used!!

September - posted on 07/28/2011

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We kept our son with us the entire time. I'm not even sure the nursery was an option for us. I could have never been without him plus I was breastfeeding. I slept with him on my chest or more so he slept on my chest (I did not sleep much at all) the whole 2 days we were in the hospital. Don't feel like a bad Mom, it's a personal choice and that's ok. Congrats and I hope that you have a great delivery.

Kelly - posted on 07/28/2011

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I was given good advice on this when I had my second child. I think you should definitely allow them to go to the nursery at night so you can get some sleep. There is nothing wrong with doing that. Wouldn't you rather be a well rested pleasant mom than a grumpy, grouchy mom? Allow yourself some time to sleep. We like to pretend that labor is no big deal, but our bodies go through a major ordeal and we deserve as much rest as possible.

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My daughter roomed with me (the hospital didn't have a nursery). However one of the nights I was so exhausted and frustrated that I had the nurses watch her for a bit. I had a c-section and couldn't get out of bed to get her when she cried, or to change her. I felt bad handing her off, but my husband will sleep through anything and wasn't responding to me asking for help (he felt bad the next day). They held her out there for about an hour. They also make sure to not feed her formula so that she'd be hungry to nurse. I slept so deeply that hour.



Edit: After that night one of the nurses snuck in and showed me how to easily co-sleep with my daughter, without having to worry about her falling between the bed and rails.

Michelle - posted on 07/28/2011

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With my first child, I had him in the nursery as much as possible. It sounds bad, but my husband was deployed and I had no help. I chose to get as much rest as possible while I had qualified people nearby to help. With my second, my husband was with me, so the baby stayed with us most of the time. I did send him to the nursery a couple of times so I could shower and my husband could get some sleep.

Katie - posted on 07/28/2011

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It's interesting to me to hear that some don't even get the option of having baby in the nursery at night! Totally understandable, but at the same time, I can't imagine being in exhausting labor for hours and hours, & then not having the "luxury" of the nursery help to sleep a bit. I had my son at 3:00 a.m. and we were just too excited & worked up to sleep until that night, so I was very thankful that I was able to keep him in the nursery.

Aimee - posted on 07/28/2011

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in the uk we do not have people take them to nurserys as they find it causes moms to not bond with there babys but if that is what happens were u live then except the help why u can so u can have some rest u are not a bad mom u just want a little rest before u take your children home then u will have no rest at all. if i had the chance i would have done as i needed a rest but i have 5 and 3 of mine were took off me straight away as they were prem but the 2 that i had with me were so hungry they woke every hour for a feed hope this helps

Ashley - posted on 07/28/2011

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I never had the choice to do this lol... our hospital has the babies with their mommies at all time unless you need a shower then the nurses will keep them at the desk with them unless daddy is there to watch over them

Carolee - posted on 07/27/2011

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With both of mine, I had them in the nursery the first night, with me the second.

Lady Heather - posted on 07/27/2011

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I had mine in the room, but my husband was also there and took care of her the first night (other than feedings) so I could rest. Then my mum and sister came to visit the next day and we both got to sleep. So I had help in my room. I don't know if they take babies to the nursery here unless they have problems. Families are encouraged to stay all together. We have huge rooms to ourselves with double beds for the dads and such, so anyone can stay and help out.

I don't think you should ever feel guilty about taking a break though. I had family members hold the baby while I slept a whole bunch in the first couple of weeks. That isn't really any different and it's what kept me able to heal and work on feeding the unfeedable kid. I think that's quite a natural thing - community helping the new mum.

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My first daughter stayed with me with the exception of the few tests that they do. I just had my second in a birth center so she was never away from me and we went home the same day she was born. I kept both of mine with me because I feel it's easier to breastfeed. I also think it's a great time to bond since they're so new and the world is pretty scary. I don't think you should feel back for getting a little rest though. Having a newborn is hard.

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The first night (or two... can't remember) w/ my twins they were in the nursery. The rest of the nights they were in the room w/ me. We were in the hospital for 5 days... The nurses did take them for some 'nap breaks' for me. My girls were the only babies there the entire 5 days.



My son was in the nursery the first night and w/ me the other 2... the third night of his life we weren't even in the OB area anymore. It was too crowded, so they kicked me out into the med/surg area. I REALLY just wanted to go home, but the ped wanted my son monitored a bit longer.



I've had 2 c-sections, so as soon as I was able to be out of bed enough to care for my kids.... they stayed w/ me.

Stifler's - posted on 07/27/2011

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I had both of them in the room with me but I used to work up a good cry and buzz the nurses hoping they'd offer to take them away so I could sleep during the night. They don't give you the option of having the baby in the nursery here. if they did, that's where my kids would have been.

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With my first one I felt like I had to keep her in the room with me because that was what my mom expected. I was exausted and fell asleep with her a couple times (always making sure she was in a place where she wouldn't get squished). I'm sure the nurses woul dhave loved to have her in the nursery though since she was the only baby born that day (yes, she was born in a very small hospital). The next day (after I went home) I wished I had sent her to the nursery at least a couple times because I was so tired, but it did give me a great opportunity to bond with my daughter.

With my second, I was in pre-labor for 2 days before she was born (mostly back labor - ick...) and I was so tired that I had them take her into the nursery. I felt bad, but I know I needed the sleep (I had only gotten 3 hours of sleep in the 2 days before she was born). It was so nice to be able to sleep for a bit, even if it was only a couple hours between feedings. We ended up staying for 2 nights (because our daughter was born at night and they wanted her there for at least 24 hours after birth) and I had them take her both nights. I felt so much better when I got home with the new baby and I felt like I was a better mom because I was more rested.

I think a lot of it depends on how you feel. Just remember that there is no shame in asking the nurses to take your child into the nursery. :)

Amanda - posted on 07/27/2011

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I had both my kids in the room with me.
I think it's a personal choice and after some women go through long labours especially overnight ones I can see why you would want to have your child in the nursery.

I think its abit different when its number 2. You don't really get one on onee time with them because there is a second child needing to be taken care of as well, so having the baby in the room and getting the early bonding and getting to know your child is beneficial. But like the other mums have said you won't know how you feel until you have had the baby.

Kramale - posted on 07/27/2011

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I just had my 3rd child on the 5th and I kept her away from the nursey as much as possible because i felt that i needed to learn her although it was only 2 days i learned alot about her like how she likes to sleep and the way she wants to eat...I had mixed emotions at first beacause when i had my twins they were in the nursery more(i was a 1st time mom). but yea I kept my baby in the room with me the whole time except when i had to take my showers and when they had to do all the test and things every morning. hope this helps

Elizabeth - posted on 07/27/2011

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Hmm.. I don't think it makes you a bad mom. It it's completely understandable why you would want to take advantage off that. I have three kids and each time I always had them in the room with me. I think it is a personal choice that you will not be ready to make until after you have the baby.

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