Erin - posted on 01/21/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
I was abandoned 2 months after moving across the country, when my daughter was 6 months old by her dad. We werent married and we were 20 years old. She is now turning 5 years old on the 1st of feb, and I have finally made headway trying to get the father to pay child support. Until this child support issue started, I didnt hear from that side of the family. His mother backed his decision up 100% yet still claimed she wanted to be as helpful as possible. She has not once ever called to ask for an update, and I had to force the father to call once in a while, which I gave up doing. Its been nearly a year since Ive heard an actual voice from anybody in that part of the family. Now, since I have had the papers put together to have the father served, all of a sudden I am getting messages on msn from his mother (Daughters grandma) talking about my poor mothering skills and how honorable of her son it is to be sending this money in the first place. She talks about how if it wasnt for her son, I wouldnt be able to raise my child, because I am severely in need of the money. While its true im not rolling in cash, my husband and I do fine without it. I demanded he pay the child support because its something he is legally supposed to do, and its the principle of the matter. He cant get away with not caring.
She has been making claims about how she will come and visit whenever she wants and wants custody and how my husband and I have no right to have my daughter, and blah blah on and on, anything she can think of to irritate me. And its working.
My questions, are what rights does she actually have, and what am I legally allowed to respond with to make her go away without sounding like a jerk. I should add, that they did come 2 years ago to visit us, with no phone call. They called and said "Were a block away coming to visit" and its a 3 day trip from their place to ours. Still I did not deny them from coming into my home. I have been nothing but patient with this family!