Disipline for a 10 month old

Misty - posted on 09/08/2010

My little girl loves paper and she loves to put it in her mouth, when I tell her NO she freaks out and starts to make a sad face. She still goes for it and I try to tell her daddy to tell her to stop but he doesn't want to be the bad guy. I feel for you because Kula doesn't listen to me sometimes.

LaToya - posted on 09/08/2010

thanks but i tried that and all she does is smile and go for the kill

Tricia - posted on 09/08/2010

Definitely need to use a firm deep voice and a tap to the hand. Make sure you follow through with the action right away. I refused to baby proof my house when my 3 year old was a baby. She learned what she could and couldn't play with.

LaToya - posted on 09/08/2010

my problem is my daughter likes to scratch people in the face....I clipped her nails but it still doesnt work she will still grab faces!

Michaela - posted on 09/08/2010

My son is a year old, and when I say 'no' he just shakes his head and says 'bo' rather than stopping doing what he's doing. If he does something that I think is particularly naughty, I pick him up and put him in his cot for a 5 minutes. It does work, he went through a stage of biting and I'd put him in his cot as soon as he bit me. Hope this helps :)

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2010

I had to give my son "timeouts" when he was around 10 months, for his own safety most of the time, but for not listening too. He was walking everywhere by 9 months so he was getting himself into situations where he could really hurt himself, so I would put him on my lap and not let me move around for a short period of time. It worked for awhile. My mom told me that babies will always be harder on their moms then their dads because there is a different bond between mother and child and the unconditional love allows then the freedom to exerience everything including pushing the boundaries. I am not saying that dads dont have a unconditional bond with their children, but the bond between mother and child is different expecially if your the one home all days with baby. I understand your frustration, I have been there. If you find yourself frustrated dont be afraid to put her in her crib for a mom and baby timeout. It will give a moment to breath and her a moment to listen. Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 09/07/2010

If you find out the trick to this let me know! Elizabeth is 2 1/2 and it doesn't matter what I say or do, she will refuse to listen to me. As soon as her daddy says something, she follows it. I think it might have something to do with the difference in pitch of voice. Maybe daddy's voice sounds scarier then Mama's lol. I really don't know. I've tried everything. I guess it's just something us mommies have to deal with. Also, she's the most well-behaved child in public. NEVER acts up and everyone compliments us, but once we get home, she's a lil rebel when mommy says to do something.

Julieanne - posted on 09/07/2010

Depends on what my son is doing, if he hits or touches something he shouldn't he gets a hit on his hand. If he is throwing a temper tantrum he goes to the corner....he knows when i say corner he runs to one puts his hands on the wall and stays there til i tell him to come out. It usually last 5 to 10 seconds. he is 19 months

Katt - posted on 09/06/2010

My daughter is 19 months and is very well behaved I would say. My daughter didn't even start crawling until 10 months so we didn't really start discipline until 11-12 months. I started with re-directing her at first, when that stopped working around 13-14 months I started time out. I would always warn her at first by saying "If you hit mommy one more time, your going to time out" 9 out of 10 times she won't do it again but if she does, she goes into time out. I put her in time out in her crib corners do not work with her. Also for fits if it gets out of control I will walk across the room for a minute come back and say "Are you ready to calm down and listen?" if she does not I will say "Okay, then lets go into your room and have some quite time" I will take her to her room and read her a book or lay her down for some quite time. She listens to me 9 out of 10 times and rarely ever throws fits now. She is 19 months. The key is setting rules and sticking to them and the punishments always have to be consistent. Every child is different you may have to play with a few methods before you find something that really works for him. Good luck :)

Alicia - posted on 09/06/2010

A lot of people disagree with me, but I have a perfectly behaved 20 month old that proves me right. I have been VERY strict with my son since he was about six months old. I've never tolerated anything but good behavior. When he was 6-12 months I would count to three and if he still wasn't listening with his big boy ears he got his hand popped. From 12-18 months he got his butt popped, same count to three rule. These days I hardly EVER make it past two, but if I do he goes STRAIGHT to "bye-bye" time. There's NEVER an exception, consistency is KEY. We kicked pacifiers at 6 months, the crib at 14 months, ba-ba's (this one was more scary for me than him lol) at 16 months, and had him potty trained by 20 months. Do what YOU feel is appropriate for YOUR child. (BY THE WAY, to all of you that are freaking out by me popping my son's ass, I NEVER BEAT HIM, NOR HIT HIM HARD ENOUGH TO HURT HIM)

Carol - posted on 09/05/2010

i try to redirect my son at that age he was allowed to check things out. but if he wasnt allowed we moved it. my son only listens to my husband its the tone of voice a man has. its not mom who is here all the taking care of baby but dad who is more the disciplinarian

Alexis - posted on 09/05/2010

I tell my son no, if he does not listen I tell him no again and then get up and move him away from the object and introduce an object he can touch or play with. Yes this is a time consuming approach but now when I say no or dont touch he understands and obeys for the most part. Sometimes he still tries to test me to see if i will really get up but all I have to do is head in his irection and he stops.

Jac - posted on 09/05/2010

My daughter was born on the 16/10. When she is into something I say 'Ahh ahh' in a stern voice then 'NO' if she continues. I usually only have to say no once and she gets upset being told off but if she continues I tell her Mummy said NO and move her away towards something fun. Good luck, this is where all the fun begins for us !

Terra Lynn - posted on 09/05/2010

I think every nother is in the same boat with that one. My daughter will be 10 months old in the 8 of Sept. and when you tell her NO she crawls faster while looking back at you and laughing.

Kyla - posted on 09/05/2010

try changing the tone in your voice that is what i have to do with my 10 month old baby girl......she does not like when daddy is home and says no because he means it and untill i changed my voice a bit when telling her no she thought that i dont give her trouble

Sabrina - posted on 09/05/2010

that is exactly like my daughter..when her dad is home n he says no she listens but when i do she ignores me...but she is almost 2 but she has akways been like that...hm when my daughter was around 10-11 months i started to do time outs just for 1 minute and it caught on very fast :)

Nina - posted on 09/05/2010

I say no and if they going back I give a little love tip on the butt and then a time out and then I tell them ( I have two year old twins) why they were in time out and they seem to get it. I started about their first birthday
good luck!!!!!

Amy - posted on 09/04/2010

my 10 month old boy is the same i started off saying no he just looked at me and laughed then tried the little slap on the hand and got the same response the next thing i tried was the naughty chair. i have a high/low high chair so i dropped it down lower and moved it to a different spot in the room so he didnt think he was getting food. that seems to be the best thing ive tried so far. hgets 3 warnings then the naughty chair. i cant really judge on the listening to daddy more than mummy as im a single mum. hope the other stuff helps though :)

Yolanda - posted on 09/04/2010

LOL, why when daddy come home they listen, i never get that :) they just exploring whats around them and etc. my son is a busy body.

Kerrie - posted on 09/04/2010

my daughter is 9 months old and whenever i tell her no she just laughs at me....i think when the day comes that she cries when i say no it will break my heart....at the moment i just try to distract her with something else

Donna - posted on 09/03/2010

my baby is 10 months old. I think shes too young to be disciplinned and still doesnt understand. we try to redirect her still, eventhough she is a persistant one. at about a yr old I'm sure a nice firm no the first time and a no with a swat to the hand the second time normally gets the point across eventually.

Josephine - posted on 09/03/2010

I try not to say 'No'...instead I say things like 'That's the dog bowl...That's not for Bobby to play with'. If he keeps putting his fingers toward the bowl, I say it again as I lead him to something else. It's seemed to work so far. My little one is 16 months and listens most of the time.

Kendra - posted on 09/03/2010

i had the same problem, my daughter is now 13 months. but at first she would only listen to her dad and not to me. finally after me constantly having to be on her like a hawk she learned mommy means business. at 10 months though i dont think she really understood but once she hit 12 months we started spanking if she didnt listen the first time. Now i tell her no, and if she doesnt listen i ask her "do you want a spanking" and about 8 times outta 10 she will stop right then and there.

Shayeea - posted on 09/03/2010

I think its the Bass in our voice. When I was having hta tproblem (and I still do, my daughter is 3) I drop my octave and it grabs her attention. Its not 100% but it does help her recognize your serious voice from your regular voice.

September - posted on 09/03/2010

Check out this community. These Mom's have great advice!
http://www.circleofmoms.com/positive-beh...

September - posted on 09/03/2010

IMO a 10 month old baby is not yet old enough for discipline. A 10 month old is still very much a baby and enjoys exploration. It’s our jobs as parents to provide a safe environment in order to give them the opportunity to explore and learn. What worked well for our son at that age was re-direction. If she is getting into things that she's not supposed to then it sounds like you might need to do a bit more baby proofing of your home. If there are things that she gets into that you're not able to move then that's when re-direction comes into play, just focus her attention elsewhere. We tend to not use the word "no" with our almost two year old and never really have since it only makes him want to do whatever it is he's doing even more so. I would guess she listens to Daddy because he uses a stern voice and to be honest it probably scares her. Which in my opinion is not a healthy way to discipline a 10 month old. I also don't believe in spanking, tapping, slapping whatever you like to call it, I think it sends the wrong messages. I read a book by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay called Parenting with Love and Logic and have found the techniques to be very helpful! It's a great read you should check it out. Good luck!

Jenee - posted on 09/03/2010

Remember that at 10 months your baby does not understand right from wrong yet. That comes later. This site has a great list of things that you can do. We use them all for my son but now that he is older her gets a time out for about a minute ( the rule usually is a minute for each year they are old. )

http://lancaster.unl.edu/family/parentin...

Amy - posted on 09/03/2010

I only condone spankings when the child is DELIBERATELY disobeying. I let my daughter know that the behavior is unacceptable and if it continues she will get a pop on the hand or whatever. The trick is to always follow through! otherwise she wont take you seriously.

Kathleen - posted on 09/02/2010

When my son was that age, he got into everything also. It was terriable knowing that he would listen to his gpa (my hubby was in basic training, so we lived with my parents) but he would listen to gpa instead of me. but I learned that i had to deepen my voice a little, hold his hands (both in one of my hands) and with my other hand made him look at my face when i told him no with my sternest voice. kids need to know that you mean business. and just holding their hands and making them look at you exerts confidence from you that you are in charge, and the child will back down. my son is 2 1/2 now, and he knows when I talk with that deep voice he had better hop-to and listen to what he is being told. tantrums are a given, but most days, if you nip it in the butt before it gets out of hand, problem situations can be avoided.

Sammi - posted on 09/02/2010

do you realize how diffrent you act with your friends than when your with your family. a baby is the same way. shes comfortable with you.

Amanda - posted on 09/02/2010

What I've learned to do with my soon to be 10 month old is if she's pulling people's hair or picking things up she shouldn't I give her a light but firm tap on the hand and look her in the eye and say "NO, Taylor. That is bad. Don't touch." and she's slowly learning what she can and can't do and it sems to work. No tantrums yet. lol

Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2010

This is my life story!!!! Daddy says now and she pouts crawls/walks away and comes to me for comfort. I say no she smiles and touches it again. I've tried getting down on her level looking her in the eyes and holding her hands and saying "Mommy says no!" and sometimes that works, other times I move whatever it is or if its not movable I move her. This could be multiple times but she learns. Last resort is her exercauser to keep her contained. Hope this helps!!

Ricky - posted on 09/02/2010

For now you can try to distract her, but when she starts throwing tantrums if you say no you can start timeouts. My son started throwing tantrums around 11 months and thats when I started time out and now if he doesnt listen when I say no I just threaten with TO and he listens (he is 16 months now).

Rachael - posted on 09/02/2010

if it isn't something dangerouns then try just saying no and explain what you don';t want her to do and then distract her with a toy. the farther away from it you bring her the less likely she is to go back to it. If it's something dangerouns she is doing thogh, then very sternly say no. if i sternly say no and remove him from whatever he is doing 2 times, the 3rd time he gets a slap on the hand

Kelly - posted on 09/02/2010

yeah sometimes I can distract her but sometimes I have to pry her little hands off the tv stand, it doesn't matter what I block it off with, she figured out it has a secret drawer and she won't stop going for it. It just baffles me that dad can say, Karma..NO! and she stops dead in her tracks ..NOT FAIR

Maira - posted on 09/02/2010

Im having the same problem. my book says change their mind with somthing fun when they act bad or just start giving them love.