do any of you mothers smoke during ur pregnancey???

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Ashley - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Jaime:

Risks are indeed that, only risks! Not all babies will be small, or sick, if their mother smokes while pregnant!

Let me try to shed a different color of light on this subject!

If your baby was breach, would you try to deliver naturally, knowing the risks?

If you were pregnant with multiples would you have a home birth with out a medical professional there to help?

If you absolutely needed a blood transfusion, would you choose to use a needle that had been used on other people, or use a new, sterile needle?

Would you go out and have unprotected sex with 50 men that you didn't know?

While those things may sound extreme, they could all turn out just fine in the end, a good percentage of the time!!!! Would you take the risk?

Why take the risk with your baby, when the only thing you have to do is not smoke!!!

No brainer in my opinion!



lol somne of this made me laugh... my answers to those questions... yes to the first 2, new needle, and NO! lol.

Jaime - posted on 12/19/2009

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Risks are indeed that, only risks! Not all babies will be small, or sick, if their mother smokes while pregnant!

Let me try to shed a different color of light on this subject!

If your baby was breach, would you try to deliver naturally, knowing the risks?

If you were pregnant with multiples would you have a home birth with out a medical professional there to help?

If you absolutely needed a blood transfusion, would you choose to use a needle that had been used on other people, or use a new, sterile needle?

Would you go out and have unprotected sex with 50 men that you didn't know?

While those things may sound extreme, they could all turn out just fine in the end, a good percentage of the time!!!! Would you take the risk?

Why take the risk with your baby, when the only thing you have to do is not smoke!!!

No brainer in my opinion!

Ashley - posted on 12/19/2009

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I don't smoke, but my mom, step-mom, and older sister all do and smoked through their pregnancies... we were all (except for 1) under 7 lbs... my step-mom's kids have asthma... but other than that, we were all fine.

Kendra - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Rana:

It is very selfish to smoke while pregnant.Your innocent child inside of you is receiving all the bad stuff that's in cigarettes.Think about it would you want to harm your child in any way because that's what you're doing.You're also risking serious health conditions like mental retardation.





That not true. Smoking while pregnant is, of course, not the best thing for your baby. However, "mental retardation" is not a side effect. I think you're thinking of marijuana. Smoking cigarettes while you are pregnant put your baby at risk to be preterm and have a low birth weight. SOMETIMES, in the case of extremely heavy smokers and other exceptions,  there is also a complication with the oxygen levels in the baby's blood as well. Also-- don't judge. It's not your place.





What is the side effect to low oxygen levels I ask

Kari - posted on 12/19/2009

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I had a friend who was pregnant and smoked the entire time she was pregnant (hint HAD a friend) she thought nothing of it until her son was born with serious breathing problems, and now she regrets it every day, so if you're pregnant and smoking just think of how its going to affect your baby once they're born and for the rest of their life not yours.

Naomi - posted on 12/19/2009

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i smoked all throughout my pregnancy with my son and he is perfectly healthy. my midwife said it wud cause more stress on me and my son if i quit x

Kendra - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Shannon:

i smoked with both of mine lil family history my grandma smoked with my mom and she is fine. on the other hand my mom did not smoke with me or any of my four sibs and all but one has asthma. long storie short if there is going to be problems there will be problem if not then just be happy.
o my son was6 4.9 oz 18 3/4 inches long
my girl 7 7.3 and 19 1/2
taje care of your self and you will be fine


Yes some babies are fine even when their mom smoked while pregnant, and some babies have problems even though their mom did everything the health professionals told them to do.  However the studies done don't lie.  The babies with low  birth weight, pre-term, and that had SIDS were greater in those whose mothers smoked (along with other activities).  Thank goodness your babies are fine, not all are so lucky.



 



My suggestion is:  Do what you feel comfortable with, with all the information you have.  Then when you have that little bundle of joy you'll know you made the best informed decission for your family.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/19/2009

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Unfornately I dint quit w/ my son it he ended up being born w/ VSD (& is now thankfully closing but will never be the same as a 'normal' heart) & suffering from a seizure disorder.

Kimberley - posted on 12/19/2009

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i smoked while i was pregnant wen i found out i got patches to stop but after a week i couldnt handle it and a packet of 10 lasted me a week and a half with all the stress i had within that week i was told i could loose my child cos of the stress that i had dint help that i was planning my wedding as well so i had half a fag a day still bad i know i still smoke now but not when my son is around i will go out side and do it so that he cant see me cos if he see me i know i will feel gulity about smoking i enjoy smoking but i know if i get pregnant again i wont smoke cos of the affects it can cause to your unborn child even tho i smoked during my pregnancy i have a healthy boy born 11 days over due and weighed 7lbs 14 oz and that was 17 months ago

Mandy - posted on 12/19/2009

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I had smoked for years before I got preganant I tried quiting as soon as I found out but I couldnt. I did go down to only a few a week and eventually weaned myself off by my second trimester and I havent smoked since. My daughter was born health and was even a large baby.

Dawnelle - posted on 12/19/2009

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No one will say it. DO NOT SMOKE WHILE YOU HAVE A CHILD. Whether you are pregnant, breast feeding or have an infant, toddler, child or teenager in the house. Not only does the smoke hurt the fetus, it causes long damage and decreases its development in lungs, heart, brain and many other neural functions. You are also hurting your child by smoking once you have given birth; second hand smoke stays in your cloths and is the most dangerous to your child. Just think about all the time you will spend holding your child and he/she will snuggle into your shoulder. He/she will only be breathing in all of the second hand smoke. It is also one of the leading causes of asthma in children. Your older children and teenagers will see you smoking and find that it could be something they want to do. And they also will have easier access to these tools because you will have them in your home. Kids find everything, hiding it never works.



If the side effects that you could cause to your children not change your mind about smoking then think about your child having to bury you because you died from your nasty habit. You could die of lung cancer, mouth cancer, or heart disease; just to name a few. You remember that every day you smoke you are not only putting your child at risk but you are also possibly taking away their mother earlier in life than necessary. When you willfully put your child in harm because you are selfish, you are a bad mother. Call me a bitch I don't care, but I think your main priority should be your child and your child only.

Jaime - posted on 12/19/2009

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I was a really heavy smoker until I got pregnant with my first. As soon as I found out I quit! I cannot imagine justifying to myself to continue smoking when EVERYONE knows about the health risks! Women say they will do anything for their kids, but some cant quit smoking? I agree it is VERY SELFISH!!! The women who do smoke during their pregnancy and comtinue to smoke in their homes with small children--- I believe they have questionable parenting morals! I would never let my kids go to a house where people smoke inside. To me it is the same as women who smoke weed while pregnant! And parents that get hammered drunk, or high while their children are home! Why have children, if you cant grow up enough to leave those things in your past, or at least keep it out of your childrens lives. You wouldn't let your 2 year old smoke a cigarette would you??? (There was a family that actually lost their child to the state because a video of thier small child smoking a cigarette got out) And I say GOOD!!! And they say that second hand smoke is worse than smoking the cigarette yourself!!!

I know I will get attacked for this post-- but for all of you that want to defend putting your childs health at rist--- GROW UP! Your child is more important than a cigarette right? I am amazed that some people might not feel that way!

And have a merry christmas everyone!!!

Jayme - posted on 12/19/2009

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I smoked during my pregnancy and my daughter is very healthy. i ate good and did everything i was suppose to. but i went from newports to marlboro lights and i cut back alot. i was told by a high risk doctor that quiting smoking early is best but if you cant than just cut back because the baby will already use to it. and u can put to much stress on the baby so if you already so far i would just cut back i know alot of people who smoked while pregnant and their babies are all healthy . I'm not telling to you smoke thats your choice. i don't want it to sound like im encouraging it. but now that my daughter is here we don't smoke around her or even in my house.

Candyce - posted on 12/19/2009

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Nope, I don't mind people smoking but when you're pregnant it's selfish. Even when you do it around your little children it is. you are risking their lungs to spite your own.

Deidre - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Rana:

It is very selfish to smoke while pregnant.Your innocent child inside of you is receiving all the bad stuff that's in cigarettes.Think about it would you want to harm your child in any way because that's what you're doing.You're also risking serious health conditions like mental retardation.





That not true. Smoking while pregnant is, of course, not the best thing for your baby. However, "mental retardation" is not a side effect. I think you're thinking of marijuana. Smoking cigarettes while you are pregnant put your baby at risk to be preterm and have a low birth weight. SOMETIMES, in the case of extremely heavy smokers and other exceptions,  there is also a complication with the oxygen levels in the baby's blood as well. Also-- don't judge. It's not your place.





I feel bad for all those doctors and scientists and researchers who have spent thousands on college etc, whose numerous, uncontested studies have PROVEN that women who smoked pot during pregnancy had babies with a 25% higher IQ than those who did not!



Them idiots mustv'e wasted their eductaions on nothing! O, nevermind us commoners know way more than those idiots scientists!

Patti - posted on 12/19/2009

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well everyone has a different opinion and with any hot topic not everyone will agree..
im a smoker and did so with both of mine and they are jus fine... sure i cut down quite a bit but still had a few.. My dr said the same that quitting cold turkey could do more harm because of the stress it takes on yourself.. but thats your decision and yours alone....

Rana - posted on 12/19/2009

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Sorry sweets but I'm pretty sure I'm antitled to my opinion and it was for the girl who asked the question not you.Thanks but try and mind your own business from now on.

Anastasia - posted on 12/19/2009

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I can tell you that I honestly smoked during some 3/4 of my first pregnancy. My husband just went to basic training for the military and I felt as though I needed it. Everytime I smoked I felt guilty and he was born 22 inches and 7lbs 3 oz, he wasn't premature or anything, just thin. With my daughter I didn't smoke at all and she was healthier weight 7lbs 15oz. I contribute his lower birth weight to smoking. I should have quit, but I didn't think I could. I just think that you should do what's best for you and your baby. Good Luck!

Michelle - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Rana:

It is very selfish to smoke while pregnant.Your innocent child inside of you is receiving all the bad stuff that's in cigarettes.Think about it would you want to harm your child in any way because that's what you're doing.You're also risking serious health conditions like mental retardation.


That not true. Smoking while pregnant is, of course, not the best thing for your baby. However, "mental retardation" is not a side effect. I think you're thinking of marijuana. Smoking cigarettes while you are pregnant put your baby at risk to be preterm and have a low birth weight. SOMETIMES, in the case of extremely heavy smokers and other exceptions,  there is also a complication with the oxygen levels in the baby's blood as well. Also-- don't judge. It's not your place.

Michelle - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Rana:

It is very selfish to smoke while pregnant.Your innocent child inside of you is receiving all the bad stuff that's in cigarettes.Think about it would you want to harm your child in any way because that's what you're doing.You're also risking serious health conditions like mental retardation.


That not true. Smoking while pregnant is, of course, not the best thing for your baby. However, "mental retardation" is not a side effect. I think you're thinking of marijuana. Smoking cigarettes while you are pregnant put your baby at risk to be preterm and have a low birth weight. SOMETIMES, in the case of extremely heavy smokers and other exceptions,  there is also a complication with the oxygen levels in the baby's blood as well. Also-- don't judge. It's not your place.

Amber - posted on 12/19/2009

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I had smoked for like 2yrs b4 i got preg, and when i started feeling nauseous when i smoked a cig i had a feeling that i could be preg! So i took test showed up positive, i smoked maybe a cig a day for week! And i totally stopped! after my son was born few weeks later i bought a pack and smoked maybe 3 packs and ive totally quit!! its been nearly a year quit

Sara - posted on 12/19/2009

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yep, i had my first baby and smoked thru the whole thing with him; of course i only smoked at the most maybe 3 or 4 a day and actually used to go a few days without any at all, but he came out absolutely healthy 8 pounds 5 ounces, and is already a month old weighing 10 pounds 8 ounces. i also breastfeed and smoke on occasions, but only like i said a few a day and i always wait a few hours to feed him after each cigarette and drink alot of water.

Sarah - posted on 12/19/2009

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I have a friend who as continued to smoke through out her whole pregnancy. I didn't do it while I was pregnant and I would be afriad to risk it. But thank god, her baby is perfectly healthy, just a little on the small side.

Kelly - posted on 12/19/2009

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Hiya im afraid i did i did try to quit but became really stressed so started up again, but gave birth to a healthy baby

Bailey - posted on 12/19/2009

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Asthma is also hereditary not linked to just smoking for those of you that didnt know that!!

Bailey - posted on 12/19/2009

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I smoked during my pregnancy as the specialist I had to see had told me that it would be harder on the baby for me to quit!! So I cut back from a pack a day to pack a week plus!! Quiting smoking while pregnant then quitting cold turkey like you would have to is like going off drugs on the child!!! So the person to ask is your doctor I wouldnt quit cold turkey but I would cut back and if you can quit by cutting back then thats the best way to go about it!!

Nicole - posted on 12/19/2009

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This is a very touchy subject and I will not get into my opinion but to answer your question, I smoked for 15 years and totally enjoyed it but as soon as I found out I was pregnant, I quit. I haven't gone back to it and my daughter is 1 tomorrow, that's not to say I don't ever think about smoking again.

Rana - posted on 12/19/2009

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It is very selfish to smoke while pregnant.Your innocent child inside of you is receiving all the bad stuff that's in cigarettes.Think about it would you want to harm your child in any way because that's what you're doing.You're also risking serious health conditions like mental retardation.

Laura - posted on 12/19/2009

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I never did to be honest but i've never been a smoker...i know my best mate was told by doctor its bad to completely quit though and she cut back big time!

Amy - posted on 12/19/2009

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My doctor said the same thing, she said if I were to quit I would have to ween myself off.

Amy - posted on 12/19/2009

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I gave up soo much when I became pregnant, even coffee! But the one thing I couldn't give up is smoking. I tried and tried, it was soo hard. I've known people who smoked and their kids came out fine. My mother didn't smoke with me, smoked with my brother and he has asthma and breathing problems. But my daughter(i smoked with her) is perfectly fine. She is very healthy and weighed almost 8lbs at birth. There's a slight chance something could go wrong, its just if your willing to risk it or not. I risked it and took the chance(kind of selfish of me) but I was a recovering drug addict. Becoming pregnant got me clean and I am still clean, 1 year and 1 month! So smoking was the one thing I did not give up.

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I did. I know it is bad for the baby, but I am a smoker for 8 years now and I could not just give them up over night. I tried but I did not make it. My son was on time and healthy as could be.

Danielle - posted on 12/19/2009

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I quite way before i was even planning to have a baby. Its better for your health as well as the baby and you want to be around as long as possible to see your kids and grandkids grow up! :)

Karen - posted on 12/19/2009

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I smoked for about 10 years before I was pregnant. Soon as I found out I stopped. (Wasn't easy!). During pregnancy I had half a rollie when my other half had a "oh god i'm going to be a dad soon" mental breakdown on me (you know how emotional pregnancy can be for poor dads to be lol) but it made me feel sick and to be honest I felt disgusting hiding in an allyway with a bump and a fag hanging out my mouth.

If you spoke to my partners mum, well shes smoked all her life and all through her pregnancys (had 5, all healthy), shes from a different generation though that found it acceptable. But I think this day and age it's just wrong. A mother owes it to her completely helpless unborn child to show restraint and strength and not cave to addiction whilst pregnant. It's only for 9 months of your life. I breifly started smoking after my daughter was born (down the bottom of the garden, in tears with the baby blues!) but I am pleased to say I have finally kicked the habit and I feel so much better for it.
Part of me thinks it is wrong to impose on others what they should and shouldnt do, but at the same time the sight of someone with a bump or someone pushing a pushchair with a cigarette hanging out their face, well it just disgusts me.

My step-dad told me something once that always stuck with me about smoking, if a man smokes, it affects his sperm, but as new sperm is produced it doesnt have a lasting effect, say if he quit. But a woman, if you smoke, it affects your eggs, and we don't produce new ones, we have our eggs from birth... imagine generations of smoking women, pregnant or not, and then look at all the cancers and health problems of today... I dunno, it made me think!

Sabrina - posted on 12/19/2009

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I still smoke just not as much as I used too obviously. It is my choice to smoke, and I know what I am doing. It is not easy to quit and thats no excuse. I choose to smoke and that is that. I have been smoking for 7.5 years. However I am going to quit before my little one is born.

C. - posted on 12/19/2009

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JUST REMEMBER.. WHATEVER THE MOTHER BREATHES IN, SO DOES HER BABY.. AND IF THE MOTHER CAN'T BREATHE, NEITHER CAN HER BABY!!!!!!!!!!!

C. - posted on 12/19/2009

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HECK NO! Why would you be willing to risk the health of your baby??? You could cause SO many health problems for your baby!
http://www.marchofdimes.com/professional...

And there seems to be a pattern w/ women who smoke during pregnancy and their child developing Asthma at an early age.. Hmm, something to think about, yes?

Ashley - posted on 12/18/2009

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Quitting smoking is hard. I know. I quit cold turkey three years ago.

Cutting down gradually during pregnancy is better than a pack...I guess. Still NOT good, but better to have one or two than twenty. I don't see why the one or two couldn't then be cut down to zero though. And the "baby being addicted" part? PA-LEASE, what do you think happens when your baby is born? Unless you smoke in your baby's face or hand them a smoke, they will go through withdrawls after birth.

There are many ways to relieve stress. Do them. It is much better, really. Exercise, get a massage, eat healthy, go on a date, take a nap. If you have a craving, try a sugar-free sucker or a flavored toothpick. It works.

But please do not brag that you did something that could potentially be so dangerous and yet you have a healthy child. I sincerely hope your child(ren) doesn't develop problems later on. My husband was a tiny baby at birth (his mom smoked a lot). So was my dad and he has asthma (my grandma's doctor never told her the dangers of it).

I know women who did drugs during their pregnancy and their babies came out "fine". Does that make it right? Hell no!

You would put your baby in a car seat, right? Well, 30 years ago you didn't have to.

Just please try and do the right thing and quit, it will be one of the best decisions you can make for you and your baby.

Kathryn - posted on 12/18/2009

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I don't know who would do such a thing. Irresponsible, selfish, ridiculous.

Michelle - posted on 12/18/2009

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I had the same issue that some other women have said. I was a HEAVY smoker before I got pregnant. My doctor OF COURSE recommended that I quit, but she told me to absolutely not quit cold turkey. She said that (especially THAT early in a pregnancy) the kind of stress that would put on me and my body could harm my baby, and even, since I was such a heavy smoker, cause me to lose my baby. Now, for those women who are stuck up on their soap boxes, let me say this: my OB/GYN went to a Jesuit college, and was considering leaving her practice to go to seminary. She was INCREDIBLY rude to my fiance and me because we were not married, and actually told me that I should consider adoption. Obviously for those reasons we changed doctors, and THAT doctor told me the same thing about smoking. I cut down, and was actually completely off smoking by the time I was 5 months, and I'm glad I did.I think it's a little self-righteous to be yelling at women, just because they didn't make choices that you agree with, especially if you didn't have the conversations with your OB/GYN that we did. Oh, and btw.... My son was born one day before his due date and he weighed the same that I did when I was born to my non-smoking mother.

Jodi - posted on 12/18/2009

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Here's my history with pregnancy and smoking. My mom smoked with me and my two sisters, the oldest of us was an emergency c-section due to lack of oxygen (smoking causes less oxygen in your system, so less oxygen for your growing baby), the middle of us wasn't supposed to live, she was born 6 weeks early, weighed 5 lbs and was in NICU for quite some time, I was born healthy, a little underweight, but I suffer from horrible asthma. I started smoking when I was 13 years old, about a pack a day for 8 years. When my husband and I decided to start trying, I decided to quit smoking 3 months BEFORE I went off birth control! My sister on the other hand smoked with her children as well, eldest was born 6 weeks early, the second one was 2 days overdue but had a low birthweight. The eldest has fought many chestcolds. My sister continues to smoke around her children, I remain smoke free and will not allow anyone to smoke around my daughter. I have actually threatened to stop bring her to see my own mother because I caught my mom giving my daughter a bath in the tub and smoking. She thought it was okay because the window was open. Please don't smoke while you're pregnant, if you wouldn't put a cigarette in a 3 day old's mouth, why would you force that child to enhale cancer causing smoke while they are trying to develop vital organs? As for the people who claim their doctors told them it would be too stressfull to stop smoking...whatever! We face MANY stresses each and every day, relationship stressed, work stressed, economic stresses, but are we told to control any of that...NO! Just because your doctor gave you an EXCUSE to not quit, doesn't mean you HAVE to follow it! Do what's best for your child!!!

Christy - posted on 12/18/2009

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I did smoke during some of my pregnancy, not a pack a day though. My doctor told me that if I was getting stressed out because of not smoking, then its better that you stay calm and a few wouldnt hurt. I don't know how true that is, but i know a lot of people who did smoke and had healthy babies and a few that had complications.

Jessica - posted on 12/18/2009

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no I have asma I can't even be around a lot of smoke any more probably from years of second hand smoke... My mom smoked for all three of her pregnancies and I don't think that it is a good thing to do because the more a person smokes the more problems the baby can have for example my asma and my friend that smoked was full term and had to be in the nic u becuase of breathing problems.

Brandi - posted on 12/18/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

The fact that there are some lucky women out there who made the decision to smoke while pregnant and wound up with healthy children does NOT justify smoking while you're pregnant. There are scores more women who made the same decision, and their children are suffering for it now. If smoking while pregnant wasn't such a big deal, your doctor wouldn't tell you to quit and they wouldn't bother putting warning labels on packs of cigarettes directed at pregnant women. It's clearly not a bright idea to continue smoking during your pregnancy - just because a few people get lucky is no reason to light up, cross your fingers, and hope for the best.

Talk to your doctor about quitting while your pregnant - there are tons of smoking cessation drugs out there, and plenty of other things that they can suggest to make quitting easier. I quit the day I found out I was pregnant, and I smoked about a pack a day. Did it suck? Sure. But what would have sucked more would have been my twins coming out with health problems because I didn't have the willpower to make a personal sacrifice for the good of my children.


I ABSOLUTELY agree!!!!!!!  My mother lost a baby and still smoked while pregnant with my youngest sister. SHE ALMOST LOST HER!!!!!!!!!!  That was what it took for her to quit (at least while pregnant). I have seen several babies born healthy to smokers, but they should get down on their knees and thank GOD for their healthy babies cuz SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many babies are born too early, too small, or with horrible health issues or birth defects due to smoking. NOT TO MENTION the behavioral problems that can come later.  Babies whos mom's smoked while pregnant have an increased risk for ADHD and other hyperactivity disorders.  Some mothers who had "healthy" babies at birth will find later that their babies are not as "healthy" as they once thought.  they may never connect the dots, but definitely could be due to smoking.  I will never understand why mothers who smoke can't/wont quit for the health and safety of their unborn children.  So much can go wrong while your pregnant even when you take ALL the precautions. (no smoking, drinking, doing drugs, eating right, watching your weight, making sure the baby is getting all the necessary nutrition, all that) so why would you decrease the chance of a PERFECT little baby. If you are actually considering continuing to smoke while pregnant PLEASE reconsider for the health of your baby.

Brandi - posted on 12/18/2009

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Quoting Frances:



Quoting Tricia:

I smoked for 9 years and when I was preggo w/ DS. I was under high-stress with family situations and my DR actually told me that it was worse to quit cold turkey than just to cut back...hopefully when #2 comes around I can quit.





what dr recommends that you dont stop!?!






WOW





It's actually true, I guess the nicotine levels dropping so suddenly can harm the baby too as they get addicted to the stuff too. Seems stupid, I know.

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