Do any other moms get upset when strangers try to touch their children?

Amberlee - posted on 12/30/2009

I would freak out! It's a scary world, and as parents we need to do everything to keep our children safe, including protecting them from strangers. I don't care how cute you think my kid is please don't touch them!

Amberlee - posted on 12/30/2009

I would freak out! It's a scary world, and as parents we need to do everything to keep our children safe, including protecting them from strangers. I don't care how cute you think my kid is please don't touch them!

Josephine - posted on 12/29/2009

I hate it! I almost hit a lady. I told her I didnt want anyone holding or touching her because she is still very little she then grabbed her out of my arms and kissed her forhead....I gently took her back and told her off, I wanted to beat her!

Crystal - posted on 12/08/2009

yes i cant stand it i was polite to people at first but when it kept happening i finally flat out told them not to touch my kids or i would rip their arms off they finally got the point

Jennifer - posted on 12/08/2009

and why don't they speak to US the mothers? like for example: "hi, you have a beautiful child! Bless you." and leave it at that.. I have this saying on my FB that I live by even with my other friends that have children: "To honor and respect a parent of a child is to indeed show honor and respect for the child as well." Anyone else come across "scolding" elderly women in their outings with your child? Just wondering!!! I had this old woman go up to my child when he was 3 and right in front of my face.. "you are such a sweet looking child. Too bad your mommy doesn't wear a ring." NO LIE! I turned to my son and said "Jamison, that is what we call a bigot. And we pray for those but we ignore them as well" Jamison was like: "whats a bigot?" The woman grabbed her cart and shot me a hateful look and well.. I was rude.. but really? I got home and laughed for hours at the look on her face... I love it when the older generation shares wisdom and care NOT bigotry!! Funny how they can be so rude to your face, but because you are a younger mom you must be stupid and lack the ability to nurture and we are just to take it. I usually don't get to stirred up by those things.. but man! Life is hard enough. If the older generation really helped and passed down wisdom and some warmth then maybe us younger moms could really gain from them.. You should always communicate with the parents and show respect.. it teaches the child to respect the parent as well... I am not mean or violent but man! sometimes people can really say some things that are way out of line.

Mandy - posted on 12/03/2009

I have an three and a half month old and with thing like h1n1 i don't want people i don't know touching him. People need to learn to keep there hand to themselfs i am to the point that i hate going shopping now.

Kandice - posted on 12/03/2009

I wonder why strangers are still touching babies when the majority of the comments here say that they hate it

Danielle - posted on 12/02/2009

It depends for me...if someone pats my child on the head lightly that doesn't really bother me...but if someone (ANYONE) took my son out of my arms I'd lose it on them. They wouldn't even get him out of my arms before they'd get seriously hurt lol.

Magela - posted on 12/02/2009

ah man i though i was the only one! but i cant stand that1 i cant ! what pisses me off the most is that my in laws think its wrong ... like this one lady came up to my daughter n said oh beautiful eyes and just grabaed her hands!! ah i hate thta1 i told her please dont touch her hands and she was like im not sick im like do i F*** know u ? how am i supposed to know ... n she walked out ... but yeah i dont seem to b rude is that come on how can u touch a lil babys hand when u know theyll put there hands in there nouth n might get sick ...

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2009

your dame strait, I have freaked on people, it happened constanly when my kids were younger. When we'er out with my friend she has a 1 yr old and is expecting her secound, my four year old yells at people we don't know when they try to touch the 1 yr old or my friends belly.

Dj - posted on 12/02/2009

That actually happened to me today. I was holding my 8 month old while waiting for my four year old to come out of preschool. She actually put her arms out like I was just gonna hand her my baby! I just backed up real quick and acted like something else had my attention. She wasn't one of the regular moms I've seen everyday for months. Even then I probably would not hand some one, who I hardly know, my child.

Patty - posted on 12/02/2009

Yiou know what I think is funny people ask to touch me dog but have no problem touching my child how weird is that?

Cleo - posted on 12/02/2009

Quoting Amanda:

I must be weird, I really don't mind. In a way it makes me proud! Proud to think that my kids are SOOOO darn CUTE that there is NoOne who can resists them! LOL

So you're saying that you wouldn't mind a complete stranger coming up to your child touching and or trying to take them out of your arms??  A complete stranger doing either of thoughs things would make you proud??

Carla - posted on 12/02/2009

I know that when I was pregnant I wore a shirt that said "Simon says hands off the belly". I hated it when people I didn't know would come up and just feel my belly. To me thats like someone coming up and grabbing your ass or something. Hands off buddy lol

Hayley - posted on 12/02/2009

yes i do know wat u mean i never seen this lady b4 in my life and she didn't know that i was her neigbours grandaughter, till after it happen. and i've had other times as well!

Jenn - posted on 12/02/2009

I HATE that too... especially in the flu season... you certainly don' want random people touching your baby!!!! I even had a random guy tell me my son was so cute he "wished he had his camera to take his picture" HELLO you DON"T take pictures of random children!!!!

Rana - posted on 12/02/2009

I think that is very rude when some one does that.They don't know you and you don't know them what if they have some sickness or something.I understand my child is cute but please don't touch them

Abigail - posted on 12/02/2009

yes its very creepy and in this day and age scary! when i was pregnant i was grocery shopping this woman just came and rub my belly and then called her friends over to touch my belly i felt very uncofterbol and emberrassed, now that i have 2 children its even harder to keep people away it seems sometimes that my kids are the only ones who attact attention like that! cause sometimes there will be other babie in the room and they will be the ony two getting attention!

Janie - posted on 12/02/2009

that god that hasn't happened to me YET. i would feel violated if it happened cause thats my child unless i give permission don't touch. i had a friend suggest putting a no touching sign on the car seat so strangers would know not to go there. i wonder if wearing one would be a bit to much?

Anne - posted on 12/02/2009

Some people are really aggressive and sneaky about it. Often it's like they KNOW they're doing something inappropriate because instead of facing me or asking me, they literally sneak around behind me and start touching my baby's feet or hands or face. It's very odd. I try to say something and one time I kept trying to pull my stroller away from a woman and she still wouldn't take her hand out.

Jessica - posted on 12/02/2009

I used to get so mad when my daughter was little, I actually put a sign on her car seat (the carrier kind) that said, please do not touch the baby, Thank you. I also had (well still have) the issue of everyone assuming becuase my daughter doesn't have much hair yet, that she is a boy! She will be dressed in all PINK with a doll in her hand, people still to this day (she is 2yo) tell me how handsome my little boy is. IT KILLS ME! Just open your eyes, keep your hands off and no one will get hurt! LOL

Judith - posted on 12/02/2009

when my kids were little litte- infant car seat age/size- I would keep a blanket over their carrier. That way no one could touch my baby. I've also found that, and yes it is gross, if my child has a runny nose no one wants to touch him or her. Aslo if you have a lot of kids- more than 2, most ppl won't want to come up and admire so I'll take my 4 out all the time plus the kids I babysit- it's funny to see but people will stay very far away when I have 9+kids in Walmart :)

Hannah - posted on 12/02/2009

I don't really mind. Valerie tends to get shy with the ones that I would worry about. I have had many people ask if they could hold her, and when I try o say that she's shy, she reaches to them, and wants them... I actually had met a woman at Target, and we stood there for at least an hour talking to eachother, and holding eachothers babies. I am not a person who goes up and starts touching a strangers baby, but it doesn't usually bother me too much.

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2009

I get upset too! I wouldn't go up to anyone elses kids and try that so I don't see why other people think its ok. Especially right now with all the germs and sickness.

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2009

yes!! oh my..I HATE IT!!! at a very busy restaurant once the waitress kept coming over and was holding my then 2 months olds hand, and everytime she walked away i took a wipe and washed his hands! well really though, she was touching money and goodness knows what else! i thought i was the only crazy mom, thanks for bringing it up! also we just got out of the hospital and i had signs up on the door saying wash your hands please, and if you have any flu like symptoms please dont visit, you wouldnt believe how many people ignored them...ridiculous!

Thea - posted on 12/02/2009

Absolutely! That dirves me crazy! I try to be nice but tell them not to touch my kid.

Nergiz - posted on 12/02/2009

I'm due in about a month but if a stranger would try to touch my baby I would def slap em.

Meghann - posted on 12/01/2009

ABSOLUTELY!!! Especially since we have a sign on our youngest sons carseat that says "Please wash your hands before touching mine." That still doesn't seem to do it! Both my kids were preemies, my oldest was 15 weeks early and 2 pounds at birth. My youngest was 9 weeks early and 5 pounds. Because of their fragile health to begin with I really don't take them out much but when I do HANDS OFF!!! And now with cold and flu season starting, and H1N1...I swear, I'm gonna start taking people down if they touch my kids! I do carry hand sanitizer with at all times and wet wipes to wipe down anything they're gonna touch, but I haven't figured out how to get people not to touch them! I seriously thought the sign on the car seat would get the message across! Apparently not! (I've even had people comment on what a great sign it is and STILL touch them! Like the sign didn't apply to them. GOSH!)

Christie - posted on 12/01/2009

I Hate when randoms do this!!! Creeps! people need to keep thier hands to themselves, end of story.

Melodie - posted on 12/01/2009

im a dad and i do mind with all the weirdos out there you never know there are just lines that you dont cross

Tina - posted on 12/01/2009

Yes I dont like that either makes my skin crawl I usually tell to back off she has a cold when we are in stores I always make sure to block the front of her in the cart with her carseat.

Patrice - posted on 12/01/2009

haha this happens to us all the time but no one actually tried to take him outta my arms they usually juss look at him and touch his face i find it ok for us as long as they dont look creepy lolz but u may feel different, juss smile n walk away

Kandice - posted on 12/01/2009

Yes!!! I use to not say anything and just wipe his hands when others touched him, but once he became about 3 months old I asked strangers not to touch him. Now that he's 2 he tells strangers not to touch him or pulls away

Hayley - posted on 12/01/2009

yes! i was up twn with my son when he was yonuger in his pram i ran into a friend stop to talk, my son was a sleep and while i was talking he started to scream not jst awake-up scream frighten one i turn around so fast to find this old lady pushing her face right into to his i could only see her back that how close she was to him bending into the pram. i pulled the pram away she nearly fell over i didn't meant to do that but she had woke scared him and was not even sorry she bout she had done, she was trying to talk to me but i wasn't listening i freak i was trying to carm my son and i just helled at her i don't know you get away from my child and away from me. my friend had to take me around the corner to carm myself dwn cos i started breathing badly the doctor called it a panic attack cos i got so flarred up. wat really shocked me was when i took my son to my granmothers i walk in an found the same women in her flat turn's out she's my granmothers neighbour.

i don't thing some people know wat personal boundaries are nor do they relise the fear it puts into your mind, wit these days kids getting taken from the pram, the trolly an jst disappearing thats why know when i stop to talk i say come sit and have a chat were i can turn th pram around to me and see my baby an my other child can sit between me and my friend in the big chair against the wall.

Andreina - posted on 12/01/2009

Yeah on black friday this woman came up to my son in his stroller and started touching him and i totally freaked out. I was having a conversation with my sister and this woman came up and said that he was such a cute baby. I was so mad that i screamed at her to get away in english and in spanish. lol i had never been so mad she had no right to touch him. It didn't help that i got up at 3 in the morning to go shopping either.

Danielle - posted on 12/01/2009

I don't mind if people touch my daughters arm or foot... but not the hands and the face.... I once had this woman come up to me and proceed to try and take her out of the stroller... I flipped out... She didn't even ask me if she could do it... it was also clear that she had been drinking... all she said was she wanted to hold her and that she was adorible... that's all fine but you can admire my daughter from a distance. I wanted to hit this lady so badly.

Kelly - posted on 12/01/2009

I hate when that happens! Especially with everybody being sick. I just say "Oh thank you..." and pretend she needs a toy or something and move her car seat away.

Lauren - posted on 12/01/2009

I don't even like when people I know touch my baby!!! She's 3 1/2 months old and is still building her own immune system. With the swine flu stuff and reg flu I'm like afraid of her getting sick. People get offended when I tell them to wash their hands it's ridic. and strangers should NOT touch your kid! you wouldn't touch their kid!

Sheryl - posted on 12/01/2009

yeah, i get upset. but i have tough my boys to bake up. poeple have always so oh his so cute. i try to be nice and say there shy. sometimes it works. if that don't work i say got to go. just anything to get away from them. it feels great i'm not alone. when it comes to strangers.

Amanda - posted on 12/01/2009

I must be weird, I really don't mind. In a way it makes me proud! Proud to think that my kids are SOOOO darn CUTE that there is NoOne who can resists them! LOL

Laura - posted on 12/01/2009

i hate it! wish they wouldnt touch them, especially on their faces! i try and walk off before they have chance, bit rude but o well!

Kelley - posted on 12/01/2009

I hate that. It is such rap, and I yelle at someone in the grocery store for coming up and touching my son when he was a newborn. That is so rude. If you think someones kid is cute, say so, and ask permission before you touch them.

Brittani - posted on 11/30/2009

i do very much so.. expecially when it comes to my son because he has a lung condition that restricts him from alot of things like people who smoke are not allowed around him... but i completely agree.... one lady came up to me and tried to grab my son out of my hands saying he was adorable and wanted to hold him... i told her sorry i dont know you and i would prefer not. she wasnt to happy.

Kandi - posted on 11/30/2009

Omg. I get so disgusted, evrytime i go out w/ my 17mos twins boy/girl men always want 2 touch my baby girl. I tried puttin her in the back but they still reach ova 2 her. Smh

Sarah - posted on 11/30/2009

Yeah I hate when people try to touch my son and I don't know them. One time I was at my moms house and this woman who I don't know walked in and as I was taking my son out of his stroller she came in the front room all of a sudden and held her arms out and was like "I'll take him!"..I was completely shocked. She never introduced herself and she already wanted to hold my kid and so I looked at her and said a firm No. Then I saw her face and realized she had been drinking and I was so pissed. She then asked to hold him AGAIN..I looked at her and gave her a look she will never forget and said " I already said NO." Its like really..come in here drunk like you own the place and like you know me and my son and try to touch him..never again!

Danica - posted on 11/30/2009

Oh my goodness, yes I get sooo mad! One time when I was taking a walk with my son who was only a few months old at the time and was in his stroller. An older woman was walking toward us and I watched as the little old lady was making a beeline straight for my son! I veered the stroller so far away from her as soon as I saw her hand reaching out for him and said "Don't even think about touching my son without asking first." She looked so confused and said "But he's so cute, I just want to feel him." Soooo creepy... and then on the bus someone next to me pinched my son's cheeks. I don't understand why people think that it's okay to touch other people like that. I was so tempted to return their gestures by pinching their cheeks too!

Michelle - posted on 11/30/2009

I don't know how old your little one is now, but I have found that it helps to wear my son. It keeps him closer to me and I can move the cloth around him more. It's almost like a warning...I have to move the cloth so that someone may see his face while he is sleeping. After I started wearing him the touching seemed to for the most part, go away. Good luck. oh, I found directions on wraping at www. gypsymama.com

Brittany - posted on 11/30/2009

When my son was a newborn we actually stopped going to a restaurant because the waitresses were very touchy feely when it came to babies. I would probably have freaked if anyone had tried to take him out of my arms, I think that is the reaction any mother would have to something like that.

Meredith - posted on 11/30/2009

I'm a germaphobe, especially with this swine flu, so YES I completely get upset... you have to be your child's advocate

Mel - posted on 11/30/2009

Yes i hate it,drives me crazy i think i get more attention because i have twins too. They used to get sick so easily all the time until i started putting a blanket over the pram,even then it didnt stop one nosey lady from jumping infront of me and lifting it up to look.You just have to learn to walk quick and say no..