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Frances - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )

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How does everyone feel about letting your kids believe in fictional characters such as Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny? Do you encourage them to believe in these characters?

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Jennifer - posted on 04/07/2010

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In my opinion thats part of being a kid and teaching them to use their imagination. I feel kids need this sort of thing to deal with real situations so yes totally :) I hope this helped :)

Brandy - posted on 04/06/2010

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Wow, I think it's sad that people are against letting kids be imaginative. Do you play with your kids? If you can pretend you're the queen while having a tea party, why can't you pretend you're a guy in a red jumpsuit once a year for a few years? Ya, ok, set an age to tell them the truth about santa but I don't see why it needs to be cut out all together. Most of the people I know found out at school anyways and none of us were left with permanent damage or hatred towards our parents for lying about it. I think I would be more angry going to school and hearing about how this santa guy brought all these gifts to all these other kids and not me! The easter bunny is a bit ridiculous; a bunny that somehow runs around laying eggs?? But we still do it. Because it's fun for them and fun for us too. I love letting my daughter explore her imagination. Seriously, go find one adult that says they would rather their parents didn't lie to them about that when they were a kid.

Christina - posted on 04/06/2010

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I personally do not allow my children to believe. I can remember when I was a child and I found out that there was no Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc. and I was extremely affected by that. I couldn't understand why it was okay for my mom and dad to lie to me about things like that, but it wasn't okay for me to lie to them. And didn't understand why they would lie to me in the first place. Not to mention that all of that hope and I put into those fictional characters was crushed. So I vowed to never let my children believe in things like that.



Now I am a born again believer and am VERY glad that I did not allow my children to get into the "worldly" habits like this. It is against our religion...VERY much so! My children know that at Christmas time we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ not the presents and candy you get from "Santa". They also know that at Easter we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ, our one true God. Good Friday is not a "free day" off from school. It is celebrating the day that Jesus Christ died on the cross bearing all of our sins. It is very nice to not have the contradiction of what the holidays are about in our house.



I'm not saying that you have to believe what I believe, although Christ died for YOU as well as he did all of the rest of us. I am simply saying that I grew up in a non-religious family and was STILL DRAMATICALLY affected by the lies my parents told me and my rebellious attitude towards them did not start until I figured it all out. I believe it's giving children falst hope, and doing exactly what Satan wants us all to do which is getting as far away from God as possible.

April - posted on 04/06/2010

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I do, but I also tell him about the religous reasoning behind the holidays, even though I do not consider myself a Christian. I just think that if I am going to celebrate a Christian holiday, I should give credit to where it came from. So, if the kid wants Santa to come, he's gonna hear about Jesus. If he wants to go Trick-or-treating, he's going to hear some history on the Pagan origins. Plus, it gets him to go to bed if he thinks the Easter bunny won't come while he's awake.

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actually we did as kids but we arent teaching our daughter that. his mom thinks we should but we are teaching ours the real meaning not the fake imaginary stuff. i had a teacher whose son believed until he was almost a teen and when he found out santa was fake he was so upset and cried. of course santa was a real person like thousands of years ago, but i think most kids take it too far and believe too long. its fine to teach kids that i know with my family and his we will end up just telling her there is until shes at the age she should know its not real.

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Tea'sa - posted on 04/07/2010

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It all depends on the personal beliefs of the mother.. I am let him believe in this fake characters for now so he begins to learn and understand the holiday with out having to tie in a religious aspect as our religion is different and we want him to not have beliefs forced due to holidays.. Let him grow and see what we do and let him choose what he wishes to believe in.. BUT ALWAYS KEEP HIS IMAGINATION GROWING ..

Shannon - posted on 04/07/2010

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Its a lie. I don't teach my kids to lie, so I don't lie. I tell my son that he is fake and we pretend that he is real so if he wants to pretend he is real than mom and dad will pretend with him and Santa Easter bunny whoever "will come" When he asks why we pretend I tell him that not everyone knows he's fake and its fun to pretend and get and give gifts. I am religious about it but this way you can give because you want to give to your child and not lie to them.

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2010

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My daughter will believe in the Easter bunny and Santa. I feel there is no harm in letting her have fun with these holidays. We do go to church and she will know the real stories behind the holidays but why not add a little fun in it too. I don't need recognition or need to have my child recognize how much my husband and I provide for her. She knows that every day of the year. It's a cruel world out there, why not let the kids have some fun and magic even if just for a little while??

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I try my hardest to get my son to believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, and the tooth fairy, because I want him to believe in magic. The funnest part of my childhood was believing in magic and mystical things, and the anticipation of things like waking up Christmas morning and seeing the "evidence" that magic exists was what made the whole year worth while.
It doesn't damage your child in any way to give them something to grin about.

Tammi - posted on 04/07/2010

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My son who was 6 years old last christmas was asked by his grandfather, "What do you want Santa to bring you for christmas?" My amazing son, whom I am so very proud of replied "Papa, You know Santa isn't real, It's JESUS' Birthday. You are the one who brings me gifts." I love that my son knows the truth. I mean I understand the whole imagination thing, but dang where does it end?. Really now?. A Bunny who brings CHICKEN eggs and candy... And a man who brings you whatever you want?. I only know of one man who just knows what you want and has the power to give it to you, thats Jesus. Everyone has their way of parenting and by no means am I saying one way is better than another. We celebrate holidays, I just choose to tell my son the truth. There are other ways to stimulate a childs imagination.

Meaghan - posted on 04/07/2010

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We'll let our child's imagination wander, because we ourselves are very imaginative people, however when it comes to santa, he will not bring all of the gifts at christmas, maybe 1 or 2 classic toys. I want our boy to understand and appreciate that mommy and daddy work hard to provide for him. As for the other holidays.. we'll see. I don't see anything wrong with them other than they are way commercial and blown out of proportion. Easter bunny bringing more than some chocolate eggs? Strange. Though my parents gifted me at easter with things like bubbles and skipping ropes, I think we'll hold back.

Alysha - posted on 04/07/2010

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I think a child's imagination will do just fine without me telling them what to imagine. I think spending time with family and friends is enough to look forward to at holidays, it may sound old fashioned but holidays growing for me were all about family and had nothing to do with fictional characters and I loved it!

Antoinette - posted on 04/07/2010

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I did all these things as a child, my boyfriend did not. It is not uncommon for children to not do these things...being that my boyfriend grew up in a 3rd world country there just wasn't money...He said that he remembers waiting for "The 3 Kings" (Which is the equivalent to Santa Clause in Hispanic Cultures) and not getting anything EVER! To me that is sad. American kids have it good...Also another reason for my boyfriend and I deciding not to do these things is because they seem "religious" and they are far from it. When I found out the truth about these "religious" holidays I stopped celebrating 3 years ago, they are filled with paganism and that is one thing that I refuse to pass down to my daughter.

Brandi - posted on 04/07/2010

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I most def agree with that, i do not want to start lying to my son, i will explain the real reason behind Christmas and easter.

Bonnie - posted on 04/07/2010

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not really but i dont have an opinion here lol i mean i bet there are heaps down here but if the child is not being hurt or in harm i dont see why not :)

Kerri - posted on 04/07/2010

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there is a difference in pretending and using your imagination and encouraging your child to use their imagination, and lying to them and convincing them someone is real and loves them and gives them presents when they are not real. To say anyone who doesn't let their kids believe in fictional holiday characters do not encourage their child's imagination is insulting to my intelligence and the intelligence of my child. Just because they are taught the truth about holidays does not mean they grow up without imagination and happy childhoods. I grew up not believeing in them but I grew up to have plenty of imagination, I'm a writer of fictional stories even*gasp*. Sorry to all of those who let their kids believe and also support my decision to not let them, but some of the comments here really got under my skin and I had to comment further.

Kerri - posted on 04/07/2010

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I personally don't agree with it. My sisters both do it with their kids but I do not plan on it with my kids. Why lie to them and have them face the disappointment when they find out it was just a lie you've been telling them for years? They will face enough disappointment in life, why make more? I know they get over it and move on, but I do know someone who felt betrayed by his Mother because she's been lyng to him for years. And my nephew cried when he found out Santa wasn't real. I don't see the point at all of it. Just my oppinion though.

Halima - posted on 04/07/2010

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because you had the same stories when young you should do the same to your kids.As long as its not portraying anything bad

Lydia - posted on 04/07/2010

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I grew up not being aloud to believe in any of them. I told my cousin when I was 6 and so was she that santa was not real. I got in trouble and my cousin was so hurt. She was really mad at her parents but they blamed it on me and sent me to bed without dinner (I was staying at their house.) I didn't know any better because I was just told by my parents it was wrong to believe in any of these characters.



My boys have grown up knowing that they aren't really real but it is fun to pretend sometimes that they do. We'll even have santa on a present or two just for fun.

They also know it isn't their job to tell other kids, they aren't real.

Francesca - posted on 04/07/2010

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Well my Dh and I agreed right from the start that we will of course tell them the stories but not lie and lead them to believe they are the current truths.



Like Santa Claus is based on St. Nicholas the patron saint of orphans, and because of the wonderful things he did by giving gifts to the needy kids of his time, we give gifts to those we love on Christmas.



Of course, we will also teach her the story of baby Jesus but we will also tell her the story of Winter Solstice since they all intertwine with our current culture and traditions of what we consider Christmas...(Ei. Christmas Trees is pagan, but the manger is Christian) That we don't really know the exact date of Jesus birth so it was decided to put it on Winter Solsitce.



Basically, my Dh and I decided we will try to be as honest as possible with our daughter. My Dh felt betrayed when he found out there was no Santa. And I felt lied to when I found out that most of the Christian tradition were stolen from pagan ones since I grew up in a very religious home. Its blasphemy that I argue they are not originally Christan...



That is why it is so important to us. We don't want to teach our daughter to mistrust us. But we will also agreed to teach her discretion. We don't want her ruining other kid's dreams. But I guess thats a balancing act we will have to get to when she is older. She is only 1...



I don't think that not believing in Santa or the Easter bunny will ruin her chances of a vivid imagination. I think there are other ways to encourage that. And I think that there will still be excitment for Christmas. I mean I still am excited for all the holidays and I haven't believed in Santa since I was 5.



But thats just my opinion. This is one of those things that is completely personal to each family. And only us moms know whats best for our families.



Interesting thread though. Thanks for everyone who shared :)

Kryss - posted on 04/06/2010

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I have not read any post yet and would like to put my input first ...so here goes. For christmas my son knows the story of Jesus' birth ..and b4 he was 10 we let him have the idea of santa . Easter my son knows the story of Christ as well and he has never really cared abt the Easter bunny ...mayb it is the way i was raised and my beliefs in God but, my son is a bit more realistic than most kids i have come across...just rem you are the parent and your parenting for your child is wht you find best for them...:)

Lexus - posted on 04/06/2010

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@ Amy Johnson. I love your answer!!!! I want my child to understand both "meanings" to the holidays as well. This was very helpful for me, and I will use this basis to build on with my son. Kids have a vivid imagination, fiction can be presented as fiction, and a child can still make it magic. Thank you.

Emma - posted on 04/06/2010

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I believe it encourages their imagination and helps a child to develop a form of imagination. Having a child believe in the easter bunny and santa claus i believe doesnt harm a child in anyway or form. Its apart of growing up as a child and the excitement of santa or the easter bunny or tooth fairy visiting. And i personally love the joy and excitement that it brings to a childs life. =)

Moriah - posted on 04/06/2010

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We as kids were told they were fictional characters, therefore we didn't get things from Santa or the Easter bunny. It's good to encourage your child have an imagination but I don't think it's a good idea to tell them about people that don't exist. You wouldn't tell them they have monsters under the bed to develop their imagination would you? Holidays like Christmas and Easter are about Jesus and they should be taught that way. It's not just a day to get presents or gorge on candy. They actually have a meaning.

April - posted on 04/06/2010

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i think it's a fun thing to do for the holidays! setting out cookies and milk for santa, leaving teeth under the pillow for the tooth fairy, leprechans on st patty's....its just fun for kids i think. i have great memories of all of the little fictional characters when i was little!!

Ashley - posted on 04/06/2010

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thats the whole part of being a child. I remember being soooo excited that santa was comingi could barely sleep. I remember my brother and i laughing and having a great time before going to bed and my mom telling us we better get to bed before santa comes. I get my nephews all excited (mine are too young yet) the night before xmas and easter. I sat with them on Sunday telling them stories about the easter bunny...how i had seen him....they were soooo excited it was cute. i personally think it's a part of growing up

Jeanette - posted on 04/06/2010

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i think its part of growing up and a lot of family fun i encourage it every child should have a santa lol

Kristin - posted on 04/06/2010

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let children be children and have their imaginations for a while before they have to hit the real world. Santa and the Easter Bunny, Dora and Mickey Mouse...these are all fictional characters to a point. Kids are not adults and I think some people forget that. It's fun. I get the "losing the real meaning of insert holiday here" problem but there is always a balance you can maintain. As for "lying" to your kids, I think that is a cop out and ridiculous....

Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2010

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We believed in the birthday fairy..that came in the middle of the night on your birthday and decorated the WHOLE house with balloons and ribbons..that was the best thing in the world to wake up to and i would still love it if that happened. it makes children feel special on the holidays..like they're the most important person on that particular day or holiday..and to YOU, they are. so.. there you go.

Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2010

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I'm all for it. I encourage it, but..My daughter is only 8 months old so she looks at me like I'm crazy. She'll understand :] Most of them grow out of it by 7 or 8. I find it harmless. They have to have faith in something, you know?

Haley - posted on 04/06/2010

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No way. It is in my system of beliefs that One you don't lie, Two most of our holiday celebrations center around religion, not a fictional character derived from Pagan rituals. I feel strongly about this. I never have her take pictures with Santa, or the Easter bunny etc. On valentines day we celebrate love, on Christmas and Easter we celebrate life and rebirth etc.

Amy - posted on 04/06/2010

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we teach our son abotu santa and all that but we also teach him the real meanings of those hoildays too. There is NOTHING wrong with the kids believing in make believe people or whatnot.

Ashleigh - posted on 04/06/2010

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I sure do! I hope my son will believe in these characters because its so innocent and innocence doesn't last forever!

Carmelita - posted on 04/06/2010

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Honestly my family my father was always the joy kill of holidays and special occasions, so we never got to believe in santa and the easter bunny. but my husbands family they believe in them and since we've been married i have come to the reasoning that letting them believe in santa and the easter bunny isn't a bad thing. my son love it and to see his face in those mornings is priceless and i wouldn't trade it for the world. so im for letting children believe in fictional characters.

Nicole - posted on 04/06/2010

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Well i have 4 children all different ages ranging from 9 to 3 and i dont think it would hurt them to keep the tradition of santa claus and the easter bunny for a bit longer. My children live for it they are so suprised and happy when they see what they have received from santa or the easter bunny. Maybe when they have reached maybe 12 -13 years maybe then it might be approperate to explain to them that they did exist along time ago. well that how i plan to break the news any.

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2010

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I think it's fine for kids to believe in Santa, Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy. They have to have something to believe in and I have always felt my kids are better for believing in these things. In fact, I think it makes the holidays better for me too. This year I did let the cat outta the bag on the Easter Bunny for my kids ages 7 and 11 though cuz my oldest no longer believed the Easter Bunny was real. I think my oldest may know the truth about the Tooth Fairy too cuz I was bad once and forgot to exchange the tooth with cash. I wonder how much longer they will believe in Santa...hopefully for a year or two longer.

Bethany - posted on 04/06/2010

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Nope, we aren't going to lie to our kids about that. They'll definitely hear about the real Saint Nick, and understand that some kids believe in Santa and the Easter Bunny so they don't ruin anyone else's holiday. However, the real "magic" (as some posters have said) isn't about Santa or the Easter Bunny. It's all about Jesus, and the undeserved redemption we were freely given by Him, through His suffering. That's what we celebrate during those holidays!

Sherre - posted on 04/06/2010

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I don't understand why people say they're not religious but allow their child(ren) to believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny on holidays that are supposed to be about Jesus. Everyone has their right to believe in what they want to but if you don't believe in God, you should make up your own holidays for the imaginary people you want your children to believe in.

Roxanne - posted on 04/06/2010

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it's these fictional characters that allow kids to use their imaginations which allow their minds to run wild and use their imaginations which keeps them young and allows them to dream big.

Dani - posted on 04/06/2010

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WHAT!!! SANTAS NOT REAL? lol... christmas, easter and the tooth fairy is what i grew up with, i remember always trying to stay awake when i lost a tooth just to see the tooth fairy and if she was really as small as everyone said she was, i remember waiting up late trying to catch santa out filling my stocking to say thanks for the prezzies he left last year and i rembember doing easter hunts trying to look for the easter bunny, these are some of the best memorys i have, when i found out the truth yea i was bummed but i got over it and now i look back and think what an amazing job my family did in trying to make me and my brothers believe that magic was real!! I do the same for my children and i wouldnt have it any other way, i dont think theres any harm in letting a child have an imagination.

Christine - posted on 04/06/2010

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I do because you are letting them to have a imagination. It just like having a imaginary friend. It makes them be excited about something.

Holly Jo - posted on 04/06/2010

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I believe it is totally up to you and your family how you want to raise your child. The reason for the season is what my husband and I will teach our Daughter. In our family Jesus is the reason we celebrate these holidays. Easter and Christmas is very important in our home.

With the Tooth fairy I beleive it is just a way to talk your child into pulling that tooth they have been scared to pull, hey what ever works right? :-) As far as Santa and the Easter bunny... Yes! My girl is growing up so fast already. I had so much fun watching her hunt Easter eggs this weekend!

I believed in Santa; and when I found out it was parents. I honestly could not believe what they did for my brother and I. It was my parents that bought me the bike I wanted, the nintendo, the tv for my room, ect. NOT SANTA!! hey, my parents are awesome! Ya, I wasn't mad!

Nicole - posted on 04/06/2010

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I don't see an issue as long as kids are also being taught the real reason for such holidays. Let's keep CHRIST in Christmas and remember that Easter is for celebrating the ressurection of Jesus.

Shaz - posted on 04/06/2010

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yes i do ,i have a six yr old boy , n i think it does them gd to believe in these characters , my son , really believes in santa , i believe it makes there christmas really magical n its very important to see them happy xx

Robin - posted on 04/06/2010

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I think it is most important that they believe in such things. Kids are only kids for such a short time. Keep them little. For as long as possible. I hope my kids still believe when they are 13 and 14. Certainly make the seasons brighter!

Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2010

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I think it is important for their imagination. It's all about knowing how your child reacts towards certain situations. What I do is get my kids involved in Easter egg hunts and seeing Santa. I let them know that this is fun and not to be afraid to dream of whatever they want. At the same time I am honest with them and let them know these characters simply represent a special event. They need a balance of imagination and truth which can be achieved. Kids need to go through that stage. It's part of developing their hearts, minds, spirit and just their whole attitude towards life. At least this is my opinion on the subject.

Cindy - posted on 04/06/2010

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Let them believe in it untill they figure out on their OWN that those fictional people do not exisit. You're only a kid once, let them have fun while they can.

Arielle - posted on 04/06/2010

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yes i do because its fun! if you tell them they are real your kid will go around telling the kids that do believe that they aren't real. and there goes a big mess. i believed in them and i trned out fine.

Anna - posted on 04/06/2010

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I dont really see anything wrong with it. Its a fun thing for kids. But at the same time, I also want my daughter to know why we celebrate Easter and Christmas. Not just for the presents and candy, but for family and friends and for our religious beliefs. I know that its hard to realize that its not real, but its a part of life. And yes, its disappointing to know that its just something made up, but while other kids are talking about what the easter bunny brought them, our kids might feel left out. I guess, I understand both sides. But I think we will let my daughter make the decision for herself. If shes happy believing in them, ok.

Meghann - posted on 04/06/2010

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we're not doing the Santa etc. We just decided that it can be just as much fun for our kids to open presents from mom and dad. We make all sorts of other traditions, and still hide the Easter baskets and all of that. Why make the extra work for yourself and not even get the credit. We encourage imagination in a million other ways. It may get tricky as they get older and can talk with cousins and such.

Amber - posted on 04/06/2010

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i let my kids believe in santa. i think those who think it is detrimental to their development or that it will hurt them when they discover the truth forget that they believed and loved it. i encourage santa and i always tell my kids that he lives in your hearts and that how u keep santa alive. as for the easter bunny...well i never encouraged or discouraged it and i dont hype up the bunny...or the tooth fairy but i dont tell them they are fake either.

Dorothy - posted on 04/06/2010

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didn't YOU belive you when you were a kid? i did. i miss those days. so yes im going to let him belive in santa.. if i see its getting out of control then we'll figure out what to do when the time comes. why shouldn't kids belive in the unseen?? if my son doesn't belive in the unseen how is he going to belive me when i tell him his great grandma is watching over him.. ( she passed away on the 1st of april) im not an extrermly religious person but i still belive she's watching over us and i want him to belive that too.. im rambling now

Randee - posted on 04/06/2010

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I believe all kids should have the right. It makes them happy to think santa is coming down the chimney and the Easter bunny hoping

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