Do you dicipline other peoples kids?

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 10/30/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Inspired by another post. What do you think? Is it okay to dicipline them? When? Why? In your house? In publlic? Anywhere? Anytime? Never? Only under extreme dangerous circumstances? Verbally? Physically?

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Belinda - posted on 11/01/2011

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I think it depends on the situation. If my nieces are at my house under my care, I discipline them. If they're at my house but their parents are there as well, I redirect them or reprimand them but I let their parents be the ones to actually discipline. The same goes for any other children in my care, related or not. If I don't know the child, I don't discipline. But if it's a dangerous situation or they did something to harm my child, I will reprimand them. But I would remove my child from the situation rather than disciplining the other child. Regardless of the situation, I would never physically discipline someone else's child but I would verbally if necessary.

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I do cuz I do childcare for a living. ;)

It is a hard thing for me to NOT say something to a kid that is being rotten, but I typically will try not to say a word to random kids unless they are being violent. It's REALLY hard to restrain myself though... since I have to do it several days a week anyway. ;)

Stifler's - posted on 10/30/2011

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yes. not physically. but if their kid is bullying your kid, correct them. if their kid is not sharing, tell them to share. i don't associate with people who get offended by me telling their kid off for being naughty.

Christi - posted on 10/30/2011

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I am a stay at home mom of 4 soon to be 5 and when my children have friends over. I have no problem if I need to verybally prevent an accident or dangerious situation or anyrhing else that may need some redirection. I will never ever physically dicispline some one else's child. When we are out at public place like the park or Mcdonalds if another child is cussing or could hurt my child I will ask them ever so kindly please don't do that. But if we get no where I will let the parents no my concern. Somtimes though parents are so rude about it you relize why the kids are heathens, and we just leave.
My children and my home is my responsabilty and if your child is going to jepordize either I will say something. I don't care if you like me or not, this is not a fashion show but a parentle place.

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User - posted on 09/05/2012

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Post a reply! the reason why i can discipline my daughter's friend is when they are playing dangerous play and i can do that anywhere i meet them doing so for them to know that what they are doing is bad.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 11/18/2011

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This is more cute than anything

I try to tell my 1 year old 'No' for climbing the changing table and he just ignores me and LAUGHS when I pull him off of it. Oh goodie. Love how that's 'play time' to him :) lol

Cute and annoying......... must...... move........ table......... lol

Jenn - posted on 11/18/2011

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I would never discipline another persons kids in public unless they were in danger or they were a friend's children that i knew well. I would be pissed if i was in public and my child did something and some random parent started yelling at them or put them on a timeout...God forbid someone should spank them, i would feel bad for that person put it that way...Now when it comes to children in my house or yard, then yes i will discipline someones child, unless the parent was there with them. If the parent was there and did nothing i would take the child aside and tell them that i do not permit whatever the behavior is and if they do not follow the rules they will have to go home, then i would mention it to the parent. If the parent is not there then i would do the same and put them on a time out if necessary, because if they are at my house and their parent is not there then i am responsible for their safety and the must abide by the same rules as my children. I would NEVER spank another persons child though..I do not spank my kids anyways. I have in the past but quickly realized it was doing nothing to improve the behavior and have since moved onto time outs, etc. It is the parents job to discipline their child, and i do not know what method of discipline they use, so i feel it is not by business to discipline another persons child...With the exception of a child that is in my care or facing danger.

Trista - posted on 11/17/2011

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I watch two little boys other then my own their parent both know I dicipline their children. And I'm that mom the kids get mad at because I do say something to other kids because I don't want them teaching my kids unsafe things or just plain mean things. With the kids I watch if there is an issue I tell the parents about it.

Katie - posted on 11/11/2011

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@Jessica - "We have all lived here since 2005, the kids have grown up together and we are more like an extended family-small village." There is a reason for the saying, "It takes a village to raise a child." That's awesome that you live in a community that you feel safe in to be able to do that. I discipline any child in my home that does not follow my rules, especially if they know them. However if the parent/s is there, I tell them and let them handle it. If it endangers ANYONE'S child, whether mine or not, I will reprimand them. I've also stepped in to reprimand others' children, IF AND ONLY IF, they have repeatedly spoken to them for the same thing; and I only do that if I know them well enough to know how they feel about, i.e, my sister, my best friend. In public only if their parent/s is not around.

Monet - posted on 11/10/2011

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If the child is left in my care then yes,however,my method of discipline is timeout and then getting down on his/her level and stating the reason for time out.
I find that ,I hardly have though because I reason with kids alot and so people's kids,I don't normally have to discipline .
My own is a whole different story .Timeout and spanking and getting down to her level and letting her know why .She is a little bad butt now so privileges will be taken away soon. she is 2.

My friend slapped my baby in front of me and I shoved her..took my child and left because I was straight pissed and didn't want to end up in jail. She called and apologize later.

Jessica - posted on 11/06/2011

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I correct any child who is in my home, they need to behave. I will also get onto the kids that are playing in our neighborhood. We have all lived here since 2005, the kids have grown up together and we are more like an extended family-small village. The other parents on our street are the exact same way. A child in public I will only tell things like dont run in the store and say "i know your mom raised you better". We are in the south in a small town so we are a bit different around here.

Nichol - posted on 11/06/2011

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Absolutely. Two main times: In your house, if it has anything to so with your own kid.

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Physically? As in you spank someone else's child? You do realize that could land you in jail if the parent presses charges, right? Good thing MY kids don't know you.... :(

JuQuana - posted on 11/04/2011

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I disipline my families & friends children physically & verbally. Strangers, i am so quick to verbally disipline them if they are in the wrong; especially if it's around my child. I don't care if it's in public, home, or whatever. Some parents let their kids do anything, but let them stay with me over the weekend & they'll come back brand new.

Marquita - posted on 11/02/2011

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LOL Christi @ heathens when I use that word my friends laugh, but it is so true. I agree that some parents are so ignorant that you see where the kid gets it from. Anyway yes I will verbally discipline anybody's kid because my son is usually around and I have to correct the situation. I say stuff to teenagers when they are in ear shot of my very impressionable 2 yr old cussing, and so far the ones with respect apologize and clean it up. I will not physically discipline someone else's kid but I would be lying if I said I did not want to sometimes.

Mel - posted on 11/02/2011

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I discipline my friends' kids if they are misbehaving either verbally or physically depending on what they are doing, i also expect my friends to do the same to my daughter if she is naughty. if I saw someone's child i didn't know doing something that hurt or endangered my child or someone else i would yell at them no worries and I would do it anywhere, whether their parents were there or not

Caitlin - posted on 11/02/2011

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I would step in if another child was doing something that was dangerous, mostly verbally, but physically only if there was hitting or other violent behaviour going on. I got a huge thank you one day for intervening at the park when a mom that was helping one of her kids didn't see that her other child was "stuck" on a climbing thing and was looking kind of panicked (she was afraid to go up or down) and I picked her up and helped her down. I was worried the mom would give me a dirty look or tell me off, but she was quite nice about it.

Over all, I don't like someone else telling my kid what to do, but if I see that MY kid was being a total grat, i'll step in and continue the correction. Otherwise, back off.. my kids are pretty young though, so i'm always there..

Ashley - posted on 11/02/2011

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Our best friend's children are kind of obnoxious to put it lightly and they like to try and parent my two boys (their kids are 18, 15 9,7. The 9 year old gets on everyone's nerves and when he continually gets after my boys I tell him that the boys have 2 parents and that is all they need. IF they are hurting someone or something then he can say something otherwise to leave my boys alone. I have also told my boys that if this kid tells them what to do to ignore it. I have had to talk to our friends about this and they agree and have given me permission to put their son in his place if he kept it up.

Candace - posted on 11/02/2011

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Nieces and nephews and I discipline them anytime, anywhere and they actually listen to me better than they listen to their parents. Other kids I would only say something if i'm babysitting them. If their parents are around and their doing something i'll usually tell the parent and let the parent handle it.

Denikka - posted on 11/01/2011

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I will verbally reprimand a child in my own home or when whatever they are doing affects my child (pushing on the playground etc) Other that that, no, not really. Especially not when the parents are nearby
I don't like when someone steps in with my kids while I'm sitting right there (their uncle is REALLY bad for this and it pisses me off, especially when it's in my own home and not something I would reprimand them for)

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I will call down other people's children when they are doing something that may but themselves in danger...I work in a autocenter where we have stacks of tires on display and cannot have children pulling and playing on them being that they are not bolted down just simply stacked and numerous times I have called kids down...also in the parking lot we can't have kids standing in the middle of parking spaces so I ask the kid to step closer to the car or stand on the sidewalk that they they aren't in direct danger of someone running them over

Amanda - posted on 10/31/2011

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Yes I will if I need to. If they are in my home I have no problem letting them know my house rules and making sure they follow them. If we are out and a random kid is pushing or being rude I will divert my kids away before the situation escalates. If it continues I will say something.

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I don't, unless it's a safety issue.



Or if they're in my home, and I have to stop them from destroying something.



I wish I could, though. A friend of mine has two children who are sweet kids; they respect property for the most part, but sometimes talk back -- mostly to her, but sometimes to other adults too. She isn't very effective at curbing it. It's pretty frustrating having a kid being rude to you in your own home, but I don't want to offend my friend.

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