Do you experience temper tantrums? And if you do, are they worse than your childs?

Kristi - posted on 12/27/2010

Jennifer, PMDD is NOTHING to be ashamed of dear. If you thought that you may have diabetes, wouldn't you consult your doctor about that? It's the same concept but different disorders. Suffering from PMDD does not mean that you can't control yourself; it simply means your hormones are out of wack and need a little help to get in wack lol. PMDD is much more common than you may think it is, heck your neighbor could be suffering from it and you'd never know, especially if she's on the proper medication for it. Talk to your doctor, hun, it will definitely help. I'm sure that not knowing is also part of the problem. If you speak with a doctor, whether you go any further than that or not, at least you'll know what's going on. =)

Jennifer - posted on 12/27/2010

Most definately. LOL My problem is usually during PMS. I just can't controll it. I honestly think I suffer from PMDD, but am too embarrassed to talk to a doc about it. I feel like I should be able to have complete self controll no matter what time of the month it is, but it is almost like I am an outsider looking in. I have never hurt myself or anyone else and don't think I ever will. I just yell a lot.

Kristi - posted on 12/27/2010

Rosie, perhaps you should speak with a doctor about hurting yourself when you're angry. I think zoloft is the only depression medicine that you can take while you're pregnant, so now that you've had your baby, they can give you a different prescription, one that may be more helpful. Depression runs in my family, my sister is bipolar and tried to kill herself when she was 14 years old. She started taking a medication called Lithium shortly there after and it seems to help her when she is consistent with taking it. Talk to a doctor, hun, and hang in there. =)

Kimi - posted on 12/26/2010

I have never thrown a temper tantrum. Not even as a child. I invert when I'm upset, then I stare at the wall or go cry somewhere. Counting to ten in my head helps if I need to calm down in the middle of a social situation.
A good therapist could help you find a trick that works for you or you could do some deep exploring within yourself. You are smart enough to figure this out.

Amanda - posted on 12/26/2010

I have temper tantrums and I know for a fact that mine are way worse than the kids!! They learn from me, and that's not necessarily the best thing! Lol...I have a short fuse when it comes to people being lazy...my son knows how to pick up his things and when he deliberatley doesn't, I'll get angry and oh geez! My fiance makes me throw the worst tantrums though, he gets me soo angry sometimes that I'll kick my feet, scream and yell at him, and pout...but hey who doesn't throw tantrums!

Nicole - posted on 12/26/2010

No, I don't experience tantrums. Sometimes, if I push myself too hard, I cry easily. This is a warning sign for me that I am not taking as good care of myself as I should. That is when I put getting enough sleep, eating well and the urgent tasks first, and let everything else go, until I am rested again.

It sounds like you need to cut back on the stressors in your life. You do not need to be super mom, but you do need to take care of yourself and your family. If you are not able to do that, you need to find help.

Does your daughter have an established bed time? If so, I would suggest taking her to the park, taking her swimming and getting her lots of exercise, giving her a bath, putting her to bed and then, if you need some adult time to self sooth, take it then.

Rosie - posted on 12/26/2010

I tend to hurt myself when i'm extremly upset. I try not to act out in front of my daughter, but she'll follow me around the house. Sometimes i think i ought to be on medication to control my mood. During my pregnancy i was prescribed zoloft for depression. it didn't help me, instead it gave me an adverse side effect. I nearly fainted in the bathroom of the hospital. My husband says that i should just pray about the issues that bother me, but he causes most of them. so instead of ringing his neck, i injure myself.

Kristi - posted on 12/26/2010

I think we all experience temper tantrums, it's really hard to control yourself when you're angry or hurt. But controlling yourself enough to keep your cool in front of you little ones, and then fall apart behind closed doors will better teach them how to react when angry. Children learn by example, it's amazing the things they pick up. I try to teach my son that temper tantrums are wrong, especially in public, but that if you're sad, it's okay to cry. And it's okay to be angry when you're mad. I tell him that it perfectly okay to feel these things, but to act them out is wrong. I hope I don't confuse him lol.