do you guys stay for days without talking with your hubby

Jamie - posted on 01/14/2010

No Ive been married for almost 3 yrs and when we fight (which isnt often) we get it resloved. walking around mad is not going to solve it. You guys must have a mojor lack of communication to be going days without speaking. How do you care for children without speaking to each other? i think you both need to work on resolving these issues when they occur.

Jess - posted on 01/14/2010

My partner and I can go for over a week without talking. He simply pretends I'm not here no matter how polite I am to him. He is a great dad but that doesn't make him a good partner.



He is a spoilt brat to be completely honest and I think his parents have a lot to answer for ! I hope my daughter doesn't pick up on her dad's selfish ways otherwise Im going to have a huge battle on my hands !

Andrea - posted on 01/14/2010

I'll be married 2yrs. Aug. 29th and I wouldn't go even a day without talking to my husband. It's just not healthy for anyone. When I'm in a bad place with my husband, it effects the way I interact with my child because I'm still pissed about whatever we're arguing about. What I do is just take a moment to be alone, calm down, and gather my thoughts then when we are both in a better place emotionally, we use a "talking stick" meaning the person who has the stick [you can use anything] has the chance to speak until they feel understood, then vice versa until our views are heard and the conflict is resolved in a peaceful manner.
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Alyson - posted on 01/14/2010

I am 6 1/2 years into my marriage and can say that the longest my husband and I have gone without speaking is hours at most. My husband is very hardheaded and will not give in at times. So I pick my battles and make sure that it is really worth the discussion beforehand. The other thing is that someone has to be the adult in the situation and try to find a resolution to the matter. I would try talking to him and working on keeping things at a calmer level. The other thing would be to talk to him about this problem and see what type of response you get. Good Luck! Unfortunately there is no easy answer!

Tah - posted on 01/14/2010

No because neither myself or my husband will do that. someone has to be the bigger person, even if it's hey, maybe we have to agree to disagree about this or re-visit when we have both calmed down but i don't want to go to bed or leave the house mad at you because you never know what Can happen. If this is the case then you 2 can def. work on communication.

Anna - posted on 01/13/2010

hmmm, lets see. i have been married for almost 2 years. i can understand being mad and needing time to yourself. but i think there comes a point of being adults and talking about it. before we got married, my hubby and i went thru quite a rough patch. we didnt hardly speak for 6 months. when we talked, we yelled. well, i yelled. he never yelled at me. so, knowing i am the tempermental one, i decided the only way i could ex[ress myself without getting overwhelmed with emotion was to write it down. and it worked. within 2 weeks of writing eachother notes, we were happy agian. and now, we have learned how to discuss things without it turning into an arguement. try and find a way to work it out. its not healthy for your relationship or for your kids to see thats the way mommy and daddy work. i hope you guys talk soon :) good luck. oh and hes a guy, sex is a great fixer lol