Do you think it;s right for a boy/man to defend them selfs???!!!

Rhiannon - posted on 07/01/2010

What's good for one is good tfor the other. Men shouldn't hit woman and woman should not hit men. Both are entitled to defend themselves and both should be taught that. My son just turned 2 and we will be teaching him not to hit, but we will also be teaching him that he needs to defend himself, against both boys and girls!

Zora - posted on 07/01/2010

i agree with you completly i wouldnt want my son to sit and allow a girl to beat on him repeatedly without doing anything but there should be a warning before he takes action himself

Christina - posted on 07/01/2010

I agree with you. Kids need to learn this at a young age. I know when they get to school, kids can be so mean. I'm not approving of kids fighting or of kids hitting each other, regardless of gender, but a child should know how to stand up for him/herself in case the situation arises.
I'm going to teach my daughter to fight so she can defend herself if necessary, but I'm also going to teach her to not start fights. As far as I'm concerned, she will know how to stand up for herself, and for others.
Hitting should be a last resort rather than the first reflex action. Unfortunately that's not the case most of the time. It's up to us as parents to teach our kids how to handle confrontations, and mean people.

Josie - posted on 07/01/2010

I think he should try to hold her back but not actually hit her. If this happens repeatedly then he needs to leave the relationship.

Jackie - posted on 07/01/2010

I agree totally. I was actually in an abusive marriage so i know how it feels to be beaten but I also dont agree with the man getting beaten by the woman. I feel that if shes putting herself in a mans place then she should be treated like a man. Just so you know I never hit my exhusband back. It ends quicker if I let it go.

Jessica - posted on 06/30/2010

in the case of the man defending himself against a woman, i dont think they should actually hit her, maybe hold her away if possible, but not hit. and a woman shouldnt beat on a man unless she has a really good reason to...but if they HAVE to defend themselves, and there is no other way to go about it, then they should do so, only after making it know that whats going on is not ok

Shannon - posted on 06/30/2010

i agree with you. i mean, if i started swinging fists or kicking and biting like a savage, i'd almost expect my fiance to give me a slap if i wouldnt stop when he told me to. but i dont act like that, and he has never hit me. i think it goes both ways. so i think you're doing the right thing teaching your son that. as long as he understands not to hit people unless they have hit him and wont stop when he tells them to, and they're actually hurting him.

Lindsey - posted on 06/30/2010

I dont feel a man should beat a woman but there is a difference between abuse and self defense. If he is unable to get away from the woman safely then he has every right to defend himself but at least try to do as little damage to the woman as possible. Woman have the right to defend themselves against abusive men so why shouldnt a man have the same right. There are woman out there that do beat men it just doesnt get reported as often as it does for men beating woman. Everyone has a right to defend themselves it shouldnt matter if they are male or female. No one should be abused and just be forced to stand there and take it. You keep teaching your boy what you are teaching him because he needs to know self defense is okay for men and women.