Does anyone else feel ugly?

Alanna - posted on 11/24/2008

yep. i am 22 and have a nine month old and am expecting again. I feel i everytime i go to the closet. I didn;t lose any weight between the first and second pregnancy. Breast feeding is said to help the weight lose but it all depends.

Carla - posted on 11/24/2008

i've always been a plus size woman and had great self confidence. i weigh the same now as i did before my baby the 30 lbs i gained during pregnancy shed fast. But my self confidence has gone down the drain. everything is much more jiggle and much less attractive. I try to work out but it's hard with a 7 month old. and being a stay at home mom doesnt help much either with food always at an easy reach. i try to snack on healthy foods and take vitamins!!

Liza - posted on 11/24/2008

WOWEE!

I guess Im not the only one with these feelings. And Im sorry to say it, but Im glad Im not alone. I've now started calorie counting....

Apparently 3500 calories is equal to 1 pound. So if I cut 500 cal's a day and burn an extra 500 a day I should hopefully loose 1 pound a week. Just in time for Christmas food!!

Dawn - posted on 11/24/2008

I was the other way around, after my son was born I was back in my old clothes within a week and everyone said how lucky I was but since then I have put all my pregnancy weight back on :( and now I can't shift it. All those chocolates to make me feel better when I was down :(. My son is now 2 years old and at the minute I do not feel that I have the will power to get rid of the weight. I have a chronic pain condition which makes it hard to excersise and I don't seem to get the time anyway.

Lauren - posted on 11/24/2008

My son has just turned 1 and im only just back to my prepregnancy weight and feel kind of normal again, but my tummy is still covered in stretchmarks so im never going to wear a bikini again! Its just something we have to accept im afraid, but I promise you do feel better as time goes on. I think I felt worst when James was about 4 months because I expected to have lost some weight, but it takes time xxx

Amie - posted on 11/23/2008

Well there are some things mom's need to come to accept which namely is unless your rich and can afford surgery your body will never be exactly the same as it was pre-baby. =) It's a depressing thought but it's the truth. I'm on my 4th and while I may have gone back down and lower than my pre-pregnancy weights at times it didn't matter. The hardest part for me was getting over the extra skin, this may not be your issue though, and the wider hips. I didn't like it. I've come to accept it though and while I may not be one of the skinny supermodels on t.v., which I never tried to be anyway, I am happy with myself. I got curves now which are pretty awesome in themselves. It took some anti depressants and doctors help but I got over it as I'm sure you will to. =) Every mom goes through it.

Amber - posted on 11/23/2008

I completely know how you feel. I have a daughter who will be a month old tomorrow. I feel so fat and miserable. I can fit into most of my prepregnancy clothes, but they look awful and I just feel so gross. What makes matters worse is that I was anorexic and bulimic for most of my teenage years. You still are waaay skinnier than I was before I got pregnant and I know its hard, but you shouldn't feel bad.

Tonya - posted on 11/23/2008

i do i have a 8 and 5 year old i still trying to get back to normal i work out and everytrhing. it sucks i am 25 but i look like i have a 30 year old body it sucks

Laura - posted on 11/23/2008

If you've gone from a 5 to 7 that's awsome. After my first I gained even more weight when I quit breastfeeding, then lost it about year and a half after my son was born. But with the hips expanding you may or may not go back to what you were. with my second I started at a size 6 and 2 mo later i'm at a 12. Just eat healthy and exersice and you'll get there.

Amanda - posted on 11/23/2008

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I think just about everyone goes through that except for celebrities. My youngest is almost 2 and I still haven't quite gotten down to my "before I had kids" weight, and I'm active duty military! One thing to keep in mind is that when you're pregnant your hips widen to make room for the baby, and a lot of times they don't narrow back down (stupid skeletal system!). My problem is that I can't find pants that fit all of me. My waist is a size 10, but my hips/thighs are a size 12. You're lucky to only be a 5-7. Even before I had kids I was an 8-10. I think the last time I was a 5-7 was early high school.

Sara - posted on 11/23/2008

Don't worry, I feel fat and ugly too. I think it just comes with the territory:) I am hoping to loose the weight ASAP. My daughter is 7 weeks old and I still have 16lbs to loose. Very sad.

Ashley - posted on 11/23/2008

My son is 19m old and just in this past month I've gotten under my prebaby weight. I feel ugly all the time. People say you've done such an amazing thing in bringing a baby into the world, well, if you can do something that amazing then you feel like you should be able to lose the weight quickly too. It'll happen. Just wait until your baby is around 1...then you will feel ugly because you won't have time to "beautify" yourself cuz you'll be too busy chasing your little one around.

Brandy - posted on 11/22/2008

My daughter is 1.5 years old and I still haven't been able to get into me pre-baby jeans. But I have never felt more beautiful in my entire life.Just think about it you created a human,a most perfect,precious, most innocent human, you gave life to this gift. How remarkable,look inside yourself,beauty isn't about your waist size!

Liza - posted on 11/22/2008

Thank you for your support, it helps knowing Im not the only one!!

Kiyomi - posted on 11/20/2008

Oh, I do too! Although you are a bit skinnier than me. I am 23 and have a 3.5 month old daughter, I am short and went from a size 8-10 to 14 and into maternity pants for me. I am down to a 12, but my hips still haven't gone completely back yet so I can't fit into my regular pants yet! I just can't seem to lose that extra flab under my belly button area! It is driving me crazy!!!

Christina - posted on 11/20/2008

A size 5-7 is not big! It took you 9 months to grow a baby, it's going to take you the same or maybe a bit more to go back. Don't give up and don't feel bad. It's totally normal to feel the way you are feeling though. Keep working out and doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Go get your nails done, a pedi, buy yourself something nice, get a hair cut or whatever makes you feel sexy. Your body is going through some major changes and adjustments, it's gonna take a while but if you don't give up on yourself it will happen eventually!

Caroline - posted on 11/20/2008

Your gonna feel like that chick, your body has gone through some major changes! they say it takes 12 months for your body to completly recover from pregnancy etc so dont try and push it too much, just have regular exercise (try swimming aswell - great for toning your muscles back up) and eat healthily you'll soon find that it'll perk you up i promise :) especially when you fit into all your old fave clothes :) we all get days like that tho so your not alone lol! ive just turned 22 and my son is 2 months old sometimes you just look in the mirror and it puts you on a downer but all i do afterwards is look at my boy, see how absoloutly gorgeous he is and that i made him :) so i must've done something right. just have a bit of faith hun, things always seem to come together in the end just dont pressure yourself to much xx