Does anyone have a relationship with your "baby daddy" other "baby mamas"?

Willmarie - posted on 09/16/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My baby's father has me and 2 other baby's mamas which is completely not even relevant... I just want to know if anybody has a relationship with your baby's daddy's other baby mamas? I'm alone in this country and don't have many friends but he never has wanted all of us to meet... And in the back of my mind I would love to be able to relate to them because he's not any of us "man" anymore so there shouldn't be any hard feelings...

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Kiwi - posted on 12/13/2010

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i wish i did! somebody has to get these children together so that they know who their family is! It helps when all parties are mature adults :) I wish my son knew his big brother.

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Carol - posted on 12/22/2010

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I ahve a relationship with my BABY SPERM DONOR'S.. ex GF who, he was raising her kid, but it wasn't his!! We get along great now, i really dont see a problem with it, teh guy has knowcke dup three women and is not with any of them (no offense) are you really gonna take his advice, i say contact them if you want to ... he may share children with them, but you guys have your own minds and lives, so go for coffe introduce the kids:) it might be fun!! he probably has something serious that will make HIM look bad, if he doesn't want you guys talking :)

Dellareese - posted on 12/22/2010

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my daughter's father has two younger boys with another girl. She dont like me because he told her that he still loves me too. well we dont talk, i dont feel the need to have a relationship with her but i would like it if the kids spend time together. anyways im having a hard time dealing with the fact tht we're not together even tho iwe both know we're better as friend then a couple

Amanda - posted on 12/13/2010

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I have to associate with my 2 oldest kids father, and he is married to another girl with 2 kids that aren't his. He doesn't have anymore kids. But other than that I don't have any relationship and don't want one. I have 2 younger children and their father is my ex husband and we talk only about the girls. I don't need to have a relationship with either of them nor do I want to.

Candace - posted on 12/13/2010

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They may or may not want the same thing. I don't see why they wouldn't want all of the children to know each other. It wouldn't hurt to give it a shot. You guys don't have to be friends but you can let the kids meet and form a relationship with each other

Chelsa M - posted on 12/12/2010

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I do have a civil relationship with my son's father for the sake of our son (and his daughter, my son's older half-sister), but I'm not willing to let it get further than that. there's more to the story (let's just say it involves the daughter's mom and how much hatred she has for me because of the circumstances of how our son came to be), but we are still on good terms at the moment.

Nadine - posted on 09/17/2009

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I don't see the problem with you knowing them it would seem like it would make it easier the the kids to have a relationship with each other if the mothers could get along and allow the kids to spend time togther without having to be with the father to do it. Also this would give you someone to talk to about the father to help each other out if he is not doing what he should, but again this may be why he doesnt want you to meet so you guys cant gang up against him. lol Good luck

Willmarie - posted on 09/17/2009

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Yep... I don't want a friend... I just would like my daughter to meet her relatives... But like you guys have said... the world we live in is not the ideal pink nice one and people do have hard feelings even though I don't... :) Thanks ... I will just let time take its course...

Sarah - posted on 09/17/2009

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i say you should meet because you have children you should know the people your kids are around but stay as distant as you can from your exs relationship ive been there done that and the extra stress put on your shoulders is just not worth it at all..

i say if you want to meet new people then join a mums group,daycare group, even a arts and crafts group something like that so that you can find some independance and self worth then you wont worry bout even wanting to be friends with them because you just wont have the time good luck hunny x x

LaNeisia - posted on 09/16/2009

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shouldnt be hard feelings...but unfortunantely that is not the world we live in...your best bet is too keep your distance. Even though he is not with any of you...you dont know how they feel or have felt about him...jealousy can rear its ugly head. He didnt ask you all to meet for a reason and keep it that way....I can understand your need for friendship but just as you wouldnt attempt to have a relationship with your man's exes...the same applies here.

Gricel - posted on 09/16/2009

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Hi, I have a great relationship with my oldest sons step mother we call each other up for almost every thing when it comes down to it its all about the kids and she had nothing to do in our relationship it actually works out alot better because as we all know its not easy dealing with this lazy dads as a woman she understands and helps me out with having him be in my childs life.

Willmarie - posted on 09/16/2009

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So how did you guys get to meet the other mothers? My daughter's father and me get along OK... He doesn't see our daughter often for whatever reason he chooses... And honestly even though I still love him I get sick of his actions... But I'm not from here originally and I have stayed because there are better opportunities in the US ... But it gets lonely when you have a kid and your friends without kids can't really relate to you anymore... And you have no family around... So I think of maybe talking to the other moms because of my situation ... maybe we can relate in some sorts but I don't really know them and he probably will never introduce us. I don't know how to start the conversation.

Jessyca - posted on 09/16/2009

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My son's father and I do not speak and he doesn't see his child (his choice). But I do have relationship with his daughter's mother. It has been interesting to say the least. We get along but I wouldn't consider us friends since we only see each other periodically so that the kids can play together. My only hope is that my son is able to continue a relationship with his half-sister and that seems to be happening so I am happy.

Sarah - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have a good relationship with my daughters father and I am even friends with his girlfriend that he is currently living with ...

Terrie - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have 3 kids my two oldest are from my first marriage. We get along just fine as friends instead of a marriage. My youngest is w/my now husband and everything is going really great. So you are not alone in the world we are here. So don't feel alone.:)

Kristin - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have children with 3 different men and all of them have children with other women too. Also, none of them are with them either. I get along with a couple of the other women but we dont' keep in touch or help each other out. We simply do not live in the same town so there is little help to offer each other. I would also like to point out that I have a great relationship with all 3 "baby daddies" ...lol and our children know that we get along well. As for the other mothers, we have had good times and bad and perhaps there's a particular reason he doesn't want u to be involved with them. Maybe they have a negative outlook about it. or if he's like other men in this world, maybe he does't want to get busted for something...lol...lets hope that's not the case. In any event, u can always take it upon yourself to meet them. U may just meet someone great that you can relate to and can help each other out!! who knows till u try!!

Heather - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have a very good relationship with my son's father. We still take him to do stuff together so that he knows that we get along and the we will always stick together. He has a child with another woman and we actually help each other out watching each others kids when we work or when needed. It was hard to get to that point but we have and wouldn't change it for anything.

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