Does anyone have any kind of life?

Holly - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Cause I don't! My b/f and I have each other and that's it. I stay at home with our son and baby-on-the-way and he works from dusk til dawn. All we really have are the weekends. But we go to the movies and eat out. Together we have about...NO friends. Is this how it is in the grown-up world or is there hope? Any suggestions?

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Crystal - posted on 09/20/2009

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I seem to be among the lucky ones in this subject. my friends are measured in my eyes as people who are willing to spend time with my child, boyfriend and myself. I am blessed with many of them and when I'm not working I'm out shopping with my girlfriends and daughter, or at the park with them, my boyfriend and i get to have nights out and we go to parties every so often. When you have the right friends you can balance a great social and home life.

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Chenoa - posted on 09/22/2009

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sounds like my life in a nut shell. Im trying to find ppl that ave kids coz my mates that dont, i seem to have alot less in common with, they dont understand the full responsibility that u have to ur child i also have another child on the way due very soon, so i say my time will be even less,

Charlie - posted on 09/22/2009

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I personally think life gets that way because people let it .

Its like having a child gives people an excuse to NOT do things and then they complain they dont have a life .

I have made the effort to make sure even though we have kids we still enjoy life , my fiance and i always make time to visit our friends , we don't bore them with non stop kiddo talk , and they appreciate it and reciprocate by coming to visit us .
Although i have a pretty amazing group of friends .
I go and have Coffee with friends , with my child in tow , i go to play sessions with other kids .
If you have someone like a grandmother or someone you trust to leave your child with once a month so you and your partner can have a little free time to yourselves then do it !! it is important you guys have alone time even if it is only once a month .
Adults still need adult conversation even if they do have kids .
You can have a life it just takes a little extra time .
Dont worry Hun , if you wanna chat feel free to PM me :)

Tiffany - posted on 09/21/2009

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Get used to it. Me and my husband are the same way. We are each others bestfriends we do everything together. It gets like that when you have a kid. Especially when everyone wants to party all the time and you cant because you have a baby

Amanda - posted on 09/19/2009

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It depends on what "life" you want to have. Do you want time separate from bf and son or do you want social time including bf and not involving your son. My advice is to find another couple and split a babysitter or do something together and bring the kids.

Jamie - posted on 09/19/2009

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yep.and after several yrs of feeling that way,i got into a home based business. i'm not getting rich,but it gives me a reason and something to talk to ppl about.i haven't made hardly in sales,when i say that,i mean 2,is it,but it's still fun.maybe you can find a hobby.don't except to much of it,but enjoy it whatever it might be.my husband makes blankets.he's great at it.really bites my bottom.i tried to hours to figure it out.he's a real steak in my side some days,lol.try to think of something you like to do,or would like to do,that you would be able to do with kids.i almost forgot what i liked,being i let so much of me go to be a mom.

Esmeralda - posted on 09/19/2009

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Quoting Holly:

That would work, but I live in a VERY small town. Even the nearest fast food or Wal-Mart is a min of 30 mins away. A town with anything worth doing and large enough to have group anythings is 45 mins to an hour away.



i can relate to this! i grew up in a town with 1570 people(yes,you read that right). and the nearest big city was 40min away!

Ashley - posted on 09/18/2009

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it doesnt have to be like that. i still keep in touch with most of my hs friends and i'm just about he only one out of the bunch with children. i try to go over to my friends house atleast once a wk if not then every 2. i'll go spend the afternoon with them while my partner stays home with the boys. we also plan nights every once in awhile. we get a bunch of us together and go out. i find it important to have friends around. it's never to late to meet new friends.

Jessi - posted on 09/18/2009

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I was very muchly in your situation,except I was at home with a 3 yr old,2 yr old and newborn.Then It clicked,I need friends,so I got back in touch with my friends from school.And we are all now in the same mothers group,meeting once a week for a morning chat and play.And I have my closest friend that I head out with sometimes three times a week and we shop together,talk and have lunch.My hubby is away for 2 more months in the army,so me doing this could not have come at a better time.I recommend finding a mothers group or kindy gym in your local area,so that you can get out and meet other women.

Andrea - posted on 09/14/2009

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I'm a single mom but that's pretty much how my life is. I go to work from 5 am to 3 pm, then I go to college from 5 pm to 9 pm, I basically have no time to go out to the movies or have dinner with friends during the week and I barely see my son so on the weekends I try to be with him as much as I can so I stay home.

Kara - posted on 09/14/2009

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i am in a similar boat...but i find that my friends tend not to call because they feel that im to busy to do anything. Try finding friends with kids....they seem to be on the same schedules. Good Luck! hey look at it as a way to have some bonding time with your boyfriend...lol

Ruth - posted on 09/14/2009

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Does the local library have any sort of children's story time? Is there a park with a playground? You may be able to meet other mothers of young children there. We have friends through church (some no kids, some children of varying ages, but all fairly young), and we get together to eat dinner (pot-luck style) and play games on Friday evenings (and sometimes in the middle of the week, too).

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Ok cheer up. It's not got to be like that. I've been there and it can get down right depressing but there are places to go and meat people. Child play groups, church, you've got us here you can talk to. It is amazing where i have found some of my friends. So get out there maybe start a group of your own. There are usually local parenting mags with groups.

Holly - posted on 09/14/2009

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That would work, but I live in a VERY small town. Even the nearest fast food or Wal-Mart is a min of 30 mins away. A town with anything worth doing and large enough to have group anythings is 45 mins to an hour away.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/14/2009

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i moved state from all family and friends in 2005... i think maybe if it was not of the birth of my 2 kids i would be the same. with both my children i joined a parents group/playgroup and have made some great friends... look up on the net form your closest palygroup and go along you may meet some really great people...

Emily - posted on 09/14/2009

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hi ya, im kinda in the same boat but my partner plays sports so is busy 3 days aweek with that and then gym everynight and also working overttime most weeks, u kind of find you and old friends have nothing in comman, once baby is older you may find it easier to make friends as other mums and things are in the same boat, u are so not alone thou!!!

Nicole - posted on 09/14/2009

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Sadly, its like that ...I experienced that right out of high school with no kids even. you get into a serious relationship and it seems like alot of your friends go away...its only because they are leading their own lives...doesn't mean you can't keep in touch. my Best friend from HS is in my circle of friends I try to go do things with her and her soon to be husband which is also an old friend of mine from back in the day. but its not a constant thing more like pregnancy classes we attend and the off chance we decide to hang together. try to find other couples to "date" more like hang with and other moms and their kids and make play dates. Just Having kids makes every ones free time more scarce. But other than Jen...and the once in a blue moon my friend andy... nope not much of a life. Not like it was when you are younger...its a lot different.

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