Ever loose yourself?

Jacquanette - posted on 01/26/2011

I am right there with you! My husband is in the Navy and he was on deployment constantly. It didn't help anything that my life's ambition was to travel and I was the one stuck at home raising a baby by myself, at the time all my family was in Minnesota and we lived in Virginia, while he was out globe trotting. Now he's on shore duty and home like a civilian, so I'm hoping things get a little more family oriented. I used to be outgoing and fun with hobbies galore, now my life revolves around the family and home and trying not to be tired all the time. It's hard making female friends especially other moms. Sure you have kids in common, but what else? And who wants to talk about kids and husbands all the time? Also, a problem I ran into with other mommies was that everything was a competition. What you fed your kid, clothed them in, even how you gave birth! My shyness stems from the fact that I really don't know what TMI is. I am an open book and nothing is taboo to me, but being that most of the women I encounter are military wives and, in most cases, fairly conservative; things like sex, politics, and religion are generally things people don't talk about very openly.
We just relocated to a new duty station, and I know NO ONE! It doesn't help being cooped up in the house because it's cold. My husband's new duty station is very small and no one has kids my daughter's age (which is a new one for me!) I'm thinking, now that I have time in the evening, about taking a cake decorating class at Michael's, or a sewing class somewhere. Just something to further my hobbies and skills that I've kind of neglected since becoming a wife and mommy.
What branch is your hubby in and where are you stationed? I'm not a spammer, so you can send me a PM if you'd like!

Tiffany - posted on 01/26/2011

Yeah I already did the college thing for a long time...probably doesn't help I have a degree that I cannot use at the moment because there is no opportunities here to use it! I know that I need to get myself situated so my kids won't have to deal with all of this but I have no idea where to begin.
Jennifer--my husband isn't deployed yet but we've already been through 4 and with making it a career, I know there will be more to go through. Just a tough time to go through when it happens.

Blessing - posted on 01/26/2011

i feel like that now, i used to be outgoing, easily made friends and always trying things but now its all about my daughter. so i thought i should really get my old self better for her sake, after all happy mommy makes happy baby right. so what i did is i though of something i was interested in and decided to take an online class ( thank god for the internet) just one, not too time consuming usually get into it at night when she is sleeping. one step at a time right.

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2011

Keep posting here, make friends here, maybe someone lives near you. I dont know if you attend but you can join a womens Bible Study and meet women there. my friend (military wife) volunteers for the group that check in on families while dad (or mom) is deployed. check that out,