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Feeling guilty for wanting mommy time

Jennifer - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I really feel guilty for needing Mommy time away from my daughter. I know I need it but feel bad for asking for it. Any ideas how to deal?

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Holly - posted on 01/28/2010

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I am really lucky in the fact that my MIL and her husband (my hubby's step-dad) take our three kids one Friday night a month so my hubby and I can have our date night. It is so nice to have our time off and I am so grateful they do that for us. I did feel guilty the first few times (especially the first few times after our last was born), but my MIL told me to get over it and go have fun - so we do! It's totally something we need every month and I look forward to it now.



Maybe you can see if you have a family member close by or something so you can get in a date night or something with your hubby. It doesn't even have to be overnight, just a little time off is always good! Don't feel guilty about it - enjoy your time! Everyone deserves a break! :)

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2010

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there isnt one and if there is then I have yet to find it. And I have two kids now have been a mom for almost 2 years. I know that sounds discouraging, I hate feelikg like that too. But I also think that its a mothers instinct to feel like that, and its probably normal. There are times when I even feel guilty for going to work and my husband keeps our little ones while Im gone.

But make the time if your stressed then baby is stressed and that will just make you that much more stressed. and that sux. Even if it means just going in the bathroom after shes asleep turning on some music lighting some candles and taking a nice long bubble bath in the dark. Believe me there are times that bubble baths are a moms best friend.

Tina - posted on 01/28/2010

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When your a mom especially a new mom you have to take time for you. Do things just for you taht isnt about the child also. It is so important to stay happy and healthy while being a mommy your child doesnt want or need a unhealthy mommy. So dont feel bad about it and dont let any one make you feel bad about it!

Kari - posted on 01/28/2010

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Don't feel guilty, every mom needs mommy time! I would have my friend babysit my daughter once a month and my sister and I would go out together. My husband was deployed till my daughter was 8 months old so I would always be so excited to go out but I'd still feel bad about going out but once I convinced myself she was ok I had so much fun! You deserve so you time!

Tanya - posted on 01/28/2010

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I felt bad as well. It helped that I had friends and family that went through childbirth as well and understood my need. I put my 16 month down for a nap then take a bubblebath or read a book. Its ok to skip the dishes for a day, do the vacumming tommorow, hold off doing laundry till later.

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