Feels like my son loves his dad more......

Tamara - posted on 01/23/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Lately it seems that my 14 month old son doesn't want me any more, he cries when Dad goes but not when I go, when Hubby is holding him, he hits my hand away when I go to take him, or buries his head in hubby's shoulder. I am feeling a little rejected by my son, it always seems like when he is with me his not happy.....His dad does work away and is only home for a week out of 3 but over Christmas he has been off and wont be going back to work until end of Feb. Is this normal and is there anything I can do about it?

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Anna - posted on 01/23/2010

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mommy is always best lol. my 7 month old daughter does that. its like she picks people that she wants to be with. sometimes she wants nothing to do with my hubby and sometimes she wants only him...i dont know how to fix it, i just hide my jealousy lol. maybe he just misses your hubby and since he is away alot, maybe he thinks that your hubby is "nicer" bc i bet you are the main disciplinarian. hang in there, he'll be mamas boy once again.

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Sarah - posted on 01/24/2010

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It's completely normal. My husband switches shifts every 4 months and his scheduled days usually change as well. She is home with me all day and we do fine. As soon as she hers his parking break click she runs for the door! I'm nobody until he leaves for work the next day. lol It sucks, but it's normal.

Tamara - posted on 01/23/2010

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Thanks for everyones comments, it helps to know that its normal, and I am happy that father and son have such a great relationship....sometimes get a little jealous though lol :o)

Lydia - posted on 01/23/2010

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You are not unusual in this situation. We say our daughter has a rotation of who she is going to give a complex to that week - there is always at least one person who she doesnt want to be with - and Mummy and Daddy get their fair share of that too. I think all children get an extra something from each person in their life and sometimes that special something is what she needs from me and sometimes it is from someone else. My joy comes from knowing that eventually she always comes back to me :)

Noemi - posted on 01/23/2010

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my five month old can be playing with me but as soon as he sees his dad he ignores me and starts laughing with his father instead of with me, i guess it's cause he's with me all day and only sees his dad at night when he gets home from work

Kendall - posted on 01/23/2010

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my 17 month old is going thru a stage where she is more attached to me then her dad, i only work 3 days a week and her dad 5 so i think she is that way right now due to her spending more time with me. maybe the same with yours, since his dad is gone so much and now is home more than normal, maybe he is just being clingy. good luck

Danielle - posted on 01/23/2010

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Don't worry, it is normal for kids to go through phases of who there "favorite" person is to be with. I have four kids and they all had mommy phases and daddy phases. He is probably clinging on to his daddy, because he doesn't know if he's leaving again. Little ones don't understand what's going on. Don't get upset and take it personal. Enjoy the space you're getting now, a couple months from now you may not be getting any at all. LOL.

Tracy - posted on 01/23/2010

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i agree , i find with my now almost 5 yr old daughter that it can come in waves.

she is such a daddys girl, they climb mountians together, go to the shops, bike riding all the time on occassion she will say to me "YOU arn't allowed to come"and it makes u sad for awhile, my husband has been away for the most part of 2 yrs as he joined the army and had to do alot of training away from home, and i thought oh they are just making up for lost time. but in the end u see that bond that they have and it is the most beauitful thing to watch and see, but them she will go through a stage where it's mum mum mum..... and i know that even though my son is a mummy's boy the day will come that he will prefer dad,

but at the end of the day u are mum and they love u just as much as dad.

Darcy - posted on 01/23/2010

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I completely know what your going through. When my first son was born, he was the same way. I thought that breast feeding him would bring us closer together, but the minute he was full he was done with me and only wanted his daddy. I am also a stay at home mom, and my husband works very long days, so I thought for a while it was just because he misses him. I eventually became jealous of the love between my son and husband, and I began to feel left out or not important enough. It was such a horrible feeling and I felt like an inadequate mother. My son is now 7 and his dad and him have such a strong bond it is actually a very beautiful thing. My son says that when he grows up he wants to be just like his dad! My husband is a very good father and a very good husband, that I know take it as a compliment that my husband and him are so close.

I know it hurts because you feel like your not loved as much, but your raising a little boy to grow up to be a good man and possibly follow the path of your husband and his daddy. Nobody can replace the nurtring of a mother though. When your son gets hurt or needs a band-aid, plus some hugs and kisses, he will always go to his mommy. Don't worry too much about it.....good luck!

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