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getting back to being myself

Xandria - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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while i wanted kids i thought i would be a good deal older when i had my first child. now i'm 25 with a 3 month old and i feel like i should be more mature and responsible when the truth is i still want to act like a goofy 20-something. i look at my mini-skirts and halter tops and on one hand i want to throw them away because i'm thinking "i'm somebodies mom, i shouldn't dress like that" on the other hand i feel like "i'm 25 i want to look good" i feel torn in two. it's the same with my weight, i want to look good but i also think, what does it matter i'm married with a kid. any advice?

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Jessica - posted on 10/20/2009

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Be happy you're practically back at your pre-pregnancy weight!! That's awesome! Congrats to you!! My son is 13 months & I'd have to lose 33 lbs to get to my pre-preg weight. I don't want to get to my pre-preg weight b/c I was a bit underweight, but even so I'd like to lose about 15 lbs to be happy. I can't even get my pre-preg clothes over my hips b/c they got so big! lol
Do what makes you comfortable. If it's affordable, go buy an outfit, that's flattering, but not revealing. To get you feeling better, but also proper for a mom to wear! Maybe that will be the boost you need! You could also just go try clothes on, I had fun doing that...not so much now b/c I compare the size I was to the size I am now & get a little bummed.

Xandria - posted on 10/20/2009

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thanks for the thougts. i haven't worn much of anything except for t-shirts and jeans for the past three months and i'm starting to feel frumpy, even during my pregnancy i never gained that much weight now i'm back to my old size mostly and i still don't feel comfortable putting them on yet.

Jessica - posted on 10/20/2009

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There's nothing wrong w/ being a mom & looking good! I'm hoping that I'll be good enough looking when I'm older that I can still be considered "hot"...wow, that makes me sound vain....lol

Sure as a mom maybe you shouldn't wear your mini-skirts all the time, but nothing wrong w/ them for a night out. I'd bet your hubby thinks you look awesome in them & wouldn't want to see you stop wearing them altogether!!

Katrina - posted on 10/20/2009

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Well I had my boys young and it doesn't rele matter what you wear as long as you feel good about yourself if your feeling down sometimes dressing up and going out is the best thing for you and feeling bad about your weight after a baby is normal I felt rele bad when I had my first son but I just put that energy towards loosing and getting back in shape I found the best way was running with your pram! then your doing things with you bubby and trying to get fit again and even when your married you still want to look good! hope all goes well and congratz!!!

Laura - posted on 10/20/2009

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well, first and foremost.. obviously you want to care for your child and make sure they're thriving.. i applaud you that you're confident about your body and whatnot.. i have times where i want to be thinner lol.. ofcourse... i mean as a mother i would want to look respectful b/c whether you have a baby boy/girl you want to portray morals and stuff like this i think its great taht you want to be a young 25 yr old lol. i will be 29 oh Lord in nov, but as long as you feel like a good mother take it from there

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